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Emmsys Weebles: the one where we gather in the greenhouse for more tears, laughter and hand-holding

999 replies

cupcakefairy · 04/05/2010 16:29

Come and gather... we have ice cream!

This thread is a very special one as it will contain one very long-awaited birth announcement and hopefully more sleep for our yummy mummies & lots of BFPs!

Get your pom poms out...

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GracieGirl · 07/05/2010 09:54

Hugh Grant maybe?

VJay · 07/05/2010 09:56

Well that's who I voted for , no it's Lib Dem up here.

bluesatinsash · 07/05/2010 09:58

Morning,

Vjay - go on BBC you can type in your area. Been reading all about it whilst expressing . Labour got in again down my way.

QA - love, love, love the flowers!!

eeek! Ben has just woken, better dash, back later x

VJay · 07/05/2010 10:03

Thanks blue I found this website, will try and link it....uk.news.yahoo.com/elections/

VJay · 07/05/2010 10:04

OMG I did my first link and it worked, will try one with writing next

VJay · 07/05/2010 10:25

mls love your wedding dress and you new hover

qa loving the flowers

cupcakefairy · 07/05/2010 10:37

Morning lovelies!
Wow I can't believe it's been a year since MrsKate's wedding! happy anniversary! Lovely to see you popping back in too.

I'm watching the election coverage in my PJs.. it's so addictive! Can't believe we might have to do it all again in a few months

MLS oh my word you look gorgeous in your wedding pics Think we need an updated bump pic from you too!

qa loved the flowers too...beautiful. I love freesias; I had orange freesias in my bouquet

LBM still doing stuff for work?? stop woman!

Vjay I LOVE that Hugh Grant dance, hehe. Always guaranteed to make me smile.
mermaid more massive hugs for you. Less than 3 weeks til your hols

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VJay · 07/05/2010 10:41

moon here's a contribution to your wedding plans, you have to do this here

cupcakefairy · 07/05/2010 11:28

Ha Vjay that is brilliant (and well done on the link ) I just spent ages watching loads of those other wedding dance videos too...I so wish we'd done something like that! (Even though my dh really can't dance!!)

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monkeybumsmum · 07/05/2010 12:56

VJay That's brilliant What a way to start a wedding!

Mermaid Thinking of you constantly and hoping that yesterday went as well as it could and that you are now getting lots of rest. Can't believe it's happened again to you I'm just so sorry for you that it's turned out like this. Sending you lots of love xxx

Cupcake I had freesia's too, they're my dads favourite flowers and I could smell them forever they're so delicious Have you managed to get dressed yet? I tried watching the coverage (am still in PJ's too) but ds wouldn't stop going on about bl**dy Peppa Pig so he's now happy and I'm on here

Haven't felt up to posting much since Tuesday, it was a difficult day. The doctor I saw said that I had a breakdown while I was in hospital (I have lost those days completely, not got a clue what happened) but apparently am dealing with it well. She's given me mild AD's to use at night to help me sleep, but am feeling so heavy and drowsy all the time that am wondering whether to stop taking them. Then I went to get the star and managed somehow to hold it together. Got to the cemetery, delivered the star, and went to go and see where our little one is buried. It was very surreal, but he's in a peaceful place which is some comfort. I'm going to look for one of those brightly coloured windmill things to put on his grave - a few others had them and it looked lovely. Have been very down since then, and tbh all I want to do is go back to where he is. Feel like I'm being pulled in the direction of the cemetery, didn't think I would feel like this...

Anyway, I really hope you're all okay, I haven't managed to read back past the last few posts, so I hope nothing major has happened and I've missed it

4ever how are you feeling? I hope you're okay - not long now...

Love to you all xxx

ps just been on the phone for an hour and a half while this message has been waiting, apologies for probably x posting!

mermaidspurse · 07/05/2010 13:49

monkey you poor love it sounds as though you have been so brave and I can see how your body decided to protect you and close down for a bit. I am glad that although such a terribly hard thing to do that your ds star is placed in such a comforting place. Go with however you feel I am sure you instinctively know what is best for you. The windmill idea sounds lovely.

I haven't got any experince of ads yet but may be they take a bit of getting used to? Plus lovely lady you must be feeling utterly drained and exhausted and no wonder.
Thinking of you you know .x

well thankfully I have had all this milarky on the tele to keep me occupied and I watched all nite - saddo anorack whos tummy hurt too much to sleep. Hospital was truly lovely and it is good to be home.
Thanks for all the messages it has really helped to know that I am not wading through all this alone.

BuddhaBelly · 07/05/2010 14:55

I wan tto do a mammoth post but I'm at my Mum's and don't have a notebook handy to put everything down so this will be a mini catch up.

Mermaid I am so glad the hospital treated you well, it's such a horrible experience at the best of times so you appreciate just the small things tht make it a litte easier. I've been thinking of you lots and wish I had some fabulous words of wisdom like you have for everyone else but I'm pants at it
Monkey I agree with Mermaid your body and mind needed to shut down for a little while so you could cope and it's still going through the most awful and traumatic time, don't worry about the time you want to spend in the garden with your lo, it is probably all part of the healing process, take it easy on yourself. Love the sound of the garden and can picture all the lovely windmills too, hope you find one you like soon too
Moon I bet as soon as all the stresses have resolved themselves you may find that you want to start planning the wedding again. If not, it doesn't necessarily mean is a bad thing, so many women turn into bridezilla and it's not pretty!

I hope to get a proper catch up soon with a mention for everyone, but i keep saying that and then it never happens Life is good with us, E is getting bigger now weighs 15lb 5, he's found his feet in the last few days and keeps pulling off his socks, little bugger! We've started weaning too but he doesn't seem to know when to stop, wants to eat so much and all the time!
I'm back to work next month so no looking forward to that but still 7 months off can't be sniffed at
Big waves to annie Barbie Blue MLS LBM Sabs 4ever Neeko GG MrsKate cupcake Vjay and everyone else I've not mentioned.

cupcakefairy · 07/05/2010 15:15

monkey I am indeed dressed now still watching good old Dimbleby who seems to have been going since 9pm last nigt- crazy man.
Well done for getting through going to the garden and I'm sure it's so natural to feel that pull towards it. Lovely to hear from you anyway.

mermaid glad you have come out the other side. Glad you were treated well. Now tuck into the ice cream.

buddha lovely to see you too and sounds like E is thriving boo to going back to work!

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CurlyBigPants · 07/05/2010 15:54

Welcome back mermaid I'm glad they were good to you. Now what can we get you to eat? And drink? That naughty jools has loaded up the drinks cabinet get under the duvet and get warm xxx

monkey I'm really proud of you for getting through the last few days. Don't ask too much of yourself my lovely after what you have been through. Keep telling us how you are feeling. We'll look after you hon xxx

big hugs to everyone. Bit tired and emotional for no good reason today but will be back soon for proper catch up

CurlyBigPants · 07/05/2010 17:32

Welcome back mermaid I'm glad they were good to you. Now what can we get you to eat? And drink? That naughty jools has loaded up the drinks cabinet get under the duvet and get warm xxx

monkey I'm really proud of you for getting through the last few days. Don't ask too much of yourself my lovely after what you have been through. Keep telling us how you are feeling. We'll look after you hon xxx

big hugs to everyone. Bit tired and emotional for no good reason today but will be back soon for proper catch up

CurlyBigPants · 07/05/2010 17:33

Oops. iPhone madness. I was just trying to check the weather and posted again

MrsKate · 07/05/2010 18:24

hi girls

i know i cant beleive is been a year this time last year i had Gracie and a few other freinds round my house and i was pooping my pants about getting married . me and dh havent got anything planned but are going to wales next weekend . Jacks fisrt holiday!!

boy what a difference a year makes xxxxxx

VJay · 07/05/2010 18:38

Happy anniversary mrskate, and enjoy your holiday in Wales, and you're right, what a difference a year does make

mermaid glad you're home and able to rest now, and glad the hospital was good to you, it does make a difference.

monkey like mermaid says, go with your instincts, if you feel the need to go and visit your lo then do so, it can't do any harm, and I think it's lovely that you have somewhere to go to. Also liking the windmill, hope you find one soon

buddha well done on E's weight, he's doing so well. Hope you are enjoying the weaning, it sounds like E is

curly I'm tired and emotional too, but mainly due to the tiredness. I had 2 very bad nights with AJay, then last night he slept through, which was a relief but I still obviously have some catching up to do. I think feeling this way is all normal.

Gotta go Ajay is crying, he had half his milk then went to sleep, he must've realised there's still more milk to have, back in a bit.

BlueMoon1981 · 07/05/2010 20:07

omg vjay that clip was hilarious, i just love men who know they cant dance but throw their all into it and pretend they are gods gift, truly classic

mermaid glad you are home and that the hospital treated you well, you have been one brave lady and i wish i could reach in and take away all your pain. anything you need just ring the bell and one of us will tend to your every need (except i dont do anything with feet, so no foot massage ok!)

same for monkey you have been very brave too and would also like to take your pain away. its lovely to hear you felt some peace with your lo and his star, i think it sounds beautiful and i would love a place to go to sit and remember. regarding the body shutdown bit, i think i did something similar, unbeknown to me until a few months later, as i started remembering stuff and was very upset, i had obviously blocked out some of the traumatic bits and had to deal with it all later on. hope the ADs help you a little, go with whatever makes things easier to start with and dont worry too much about the future, deal with one day at a time for now.

wow mrskate a whole year, time flies. congratulations

waves to everyone else and happy weekend

SabsFabulous · 07/05/2010 20:29

Evening ladies, recognise me? I wanted to get rid of the 1981 from my name but couldnt just keep it as sabs. What do you think?

Will be back soon with an update but wanted to send hugs to mermaid and monkey and also happy anniversary to mrskate

Hope everyone has a good weekend. I'm going out for dinner tomorrow with some friends and leaving S with DH. Havent been out on a saturday night for AGES so looking forward to it

bluesatinsash · 07/05/2010 20:38

Hi sabsfabulous - loving the new name, feel like tossing my hair back when I say it . Have a fabulous night out tomorrow x

Just a quickie from me as my red wine is waiting for me downstairs

mermaid - so glad it all went OK and Davey Dimbelby kept you occupied. Lots of tlc from us to you xx

monkey - your visit to your lo's grave sounded very poignant and love the idea of a sea of windmills keeping the air all fresh and clean for them . Being drawn back can only be a good thing as it means you get peace and comfort from being there. Your time in hospital must have been beyond painful and in a way its a good thing you can't remember it all. BTW loved your fb photos of your Dad and DS - just lovely.

Moon had a at you 'not doing feet' Managed to track down some grecian dresses but the blurb did say they suit small chested ladies . They would hide any growing bump though...

Happy Friday everyone, here's to some sleep x

Neeko · 08/05/2010 09:19

Hi all Still lurking here. Think we've hit the 6 week growth spurt and finding my determination to bf waning a little. The feeding's going fine, but very difficult to fit everything else in especially as DH is still working a 60 hour week and shows no sign of stopping. Ah well...

Huge hugs to Mermaid and Monkey. You're both doing so well though I know it doesn't feel like that.

Vjay thanks for that link. Really made me smile which was just what I wanted needed.

Buddah lovely to hear from you. Glad all is going well.

Any sign of the new graduates???

Love to all

littlebellsmum · 08/05/2010 10:52

No signs of a graduate here, Neeko. Every morning when I get up, I get a bit paranoid as both times before waters have gone within an hour of getting up. But been up a while now and nothing doing. Shes also still pretty active and so, think she's pretty comfy!

Hope you get some rest this weekend...

MLS Breadmaker of course - I'm mad but not that mad! Bought a loaf this morning and DS said " Why didn't you just make bread Mummy" I did answer politely!

cupcakefairy · 08/05/2010 15:42

Hi LBM I'm still here too! 3 of our NCT babies born yesterday so only me & one other girl left...so far we have 6 boys & only 1 girl so dh now reckons we're gonna have a girl!

Does the baby tend to stop moving when it's about to make an entrance then? Mine is still battering my insides to pieces so I'm probably destined to be pregnant forever! Dh keeps rubbing my tummy and saying 'oh please just come out!!'
He has decided today is a good time to paint the lounge & bedroom so I'll probably go into labour while all the furniture is out of place & walls half-done

sabs LOVE the name, nice choice see you were much more creative than us! Enjoy your night out.

neeko bless you with little milk monster draining you even more! Don't know how you girls do it with such hard-working hubbies Hang in there, but don't beat yourself up if you decide to bf less.

Hi blue McSteamy is now in my life more competition in the world of yummy men off the tele!

Hope everyone's having lovely weekends. I'm finally reading my post-partum NFP book to find out what the heck my cycles will be up to...all v confusing

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QuestionsAgain · 08/05/2010 18:55

Hello everyone!

Ah, got half way though writing a post and lost it Will try again.

Well, it looks like the big panters are getting all ready for their big days with pedicures, hair styling and bikini waxes. cupcake 4ever and lbm , you have all got the right idea cupcake My DS moved right up until labour started, I think so anyway.

moon glad you like the flowers. I know what you mean about just wanting to get on and marry your Df and I hope that things are put on hold for too long.

mrsKate hope your Ds was ok with his jabs, I think it is more upsetting for the mums than for the babies, well it used to be for me anyway Happy Anniversary too!

jools glad you brought the alcohol, I am still wondering what a chocolate martini is, but think I would like it

barbie yep, definitely no more maxi dresses for you. in fact i think you should check thorough all your outfits to make sure there are no more that are likely to result in a 'wardrobe malfunction' Though you are in good company with janet jackson and Judy finnegan

vjay have seen that clip before, it is great! Have you seen the thread on MN about the poor MNer whose Mother is getting married and has got the family doing a thriller dance

blue politics and expressing at the same time, that's multi tasking for you. Hope you enjoyed yur wine last night, I am intending to do the same tonight.

curly Nobody needs a reason to be tired and emotional, but if you do need one, then a small baby is a good enough reason. Hope you are feeling a bit brighter today

gracie how organised are you sending cards a week early I used to be so good with things like that, but recently have been rubbish and nearly missed a few. Loved you link too, a bit of light relief after the last few days of political doom and gloom.

monkey I can understand why you are feeling drawn back to the star, I suppose it is like a focal point for all the grief you are feeling. I agree with mermaid that your body was trying to protect you by shutting down while you were in hospital, its no wonder really is it with what you have been through. Just keep talking and be gentle with yourself.

mermaid I hope your tummy is a little less sore today. I hope physically things settle down quickly for you, so that you at least can concentrate on the emotional side. Like monkey, be gentle with yourself.

buddha Your Ds is gorgeous, you do realise now he can pull of his socks you will never be able to find a pair again. I used to lose so many pairs of socks.

sabs love the name, have a good night tonight

neeko you are doing so well with everything that you are balancing at the moment, no wonder you feel the BF is difficult to fit in. Sometimes it seems that all you do is feed. It is especially hard with your DH working such long hours. Hopefully things will settle for a while after this growth spurt.

Nearly forgot, MLS asked why I had changed my name. I do change fairly regularly to stop my entire past history being searchable (privacy freak) but also my name was Qanswered after I got my BFP as I had spent a long time thinking about whether to try for another baby as I wasn't sure about having 2 DC. We were happy with 1 and we didn't think we were going to have anymore, anyway after a lot of discussion and mind changing we decided to go for it, got pregnant, but then as you know had the MC. I was so pleased when I got the BFP and was devastated that I had the MC, so I am surprised that I am going through the exact same process as before and am now trying to decide about ttc again. I seem to think about nothing else but this at the moment