Emmsys Weebles: the one where we gather in the greenhouse for more tears, laughter and hand-holding

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Come and gather... we have ice cream!

This thread is a very special one as it will contain one very long-awaited birth announcement and hopefully more sleep for our yummy mummies & lots of BFPs!

Get your pom poms out...

I shouldn't have put in about my worries in that last post, I feel bad given that some of you are going through such a lot at the moment. Sorry.

I am just a bit tonight for some reason.

QA - sorry you're feeling tonight. Hope you're tucked up on the couch drinking some wine as I type. Your worries and anxieties and strams of consciousness are just as important as everyone elses so air away OK? I changed my name once too, after my first mc just wanted to start afresh etc. Didn't carry over my profile or photos or anything to begin with. But then I had my 2nd mc and thought what the hell decided to stick with blue and had already found these lovely ladies by then .

mrskate - Happy anniversary, apologies should have posted that yesterday!

neeko - big hug for you lady. Is there no way your DH can reduce his hours or work one day from home at all? Is he out at weekends too? Its hard honey, I know x

mermaid and monkey - tinking of you both as always x

strams = streams

tinking = thinking

Can't even blame my keyboard a la MLS

Hey ladies, am i allowed a totally inappropriate rant about my night out please? What was meant to be a dinner without any kids of course turned out to be the opposite! One of my friends texted a few hours before we were due to go out to say that she would be bringing her ds as her dh was too selfish to not go out and babysit. My friend hardly ever goes out on a saturday night while her dh goes out every weekend. And then because my friend was bringing her ds my other friend decided to bring her dd as well as they're both friends and they same age (5) even though she had some1 to take care of her. They then spent the whole evening running around the place, screaming, and at one point tipping a table over! I now have a headache all i wanted was one night without any kids, as much as i love them all. I know i sound like a right cow and my ranting is totally inappropriate, i'm really sorry. And the icing on the cake was my friend saying to me that i was so skinny when i got married and how come i'm so big now! I know i've put on weight, i've gone up yet another dress size but now i don't feel so fabulous . Posting from phone hence crappy post

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Morning ladies. I just want to apologise for my post last night. I feel very and i wasn't even drunk - i'm muslim, I don't drink! Reading it back this morning makes it sound like i'm complaining about kids and i didn't mean to. I'm really sorry if i've offended anyone

Sabs I'm on your side! You spend every minute of every day looking after your DD you are allowed an evening off every now and again. Its a shame for your friend that her DH is so selfish, maybe you need to go out with a different friend nxt time. As for the comment about you putting on weight - that's just rude!! You've recently had a baby, most people go up about 4 dress sizes! One dress size is perfectly fine, and well worth it to get your DD! I still think you are fabulous!

How the blink could you have offended anyone sabs? sounds awful tbh especially when you throw a selfish man and a couple of dc who clearly needed to be tucked up at home being scared by dr who.
btw your name is cool cos you have 3 S's in it one for each of your names so that is fab

qa I think the importance of this thread is that you shoud never feel you can't post what may feel an irrelevance to others but is a big thing for you. We all understand lovely, I find it much easier to worry about someone else. Deciding on dc is the biggest life changing decision. The saddness does come back and wack you round the head like a wet kipper and sometimes catch you out and we are here whenever you need to vent.

barbie ;

cupcake morning still here? I am itching to start some baby names.

lbm I have been thinking about a breadmaker but worried it will be another thing in the cupboard. Hope you are enjoying your nesting.

neeko thats very hard with the long hours especially at the 6w mark when you feel a bit worn down and over the initial euphoria. I can remember ringing dh up one evening and just putting the phone next to ds so he could hear the banshee and 5 minutes later he was home!

still a bit blank here might have to venture out of my pjs today which is a bit of a scary thought.

gracie morning

Morning Mermaid! Its Sunday, why the rush to lose the pjs? LOL at you ringing your DH to hear the screaming - what a brilliant idea! I did put my screaming DD on the phone to my friend's screaming 5 week old DS the other day, she looked most bemused and stopped crying!

Sabs I'm also with you - I have a 5 yr old and I can't think of anything worse than going out for an evening with him . He was in bed, where he belonged by 8pm, and that was a late night for him.
I'm also a little bit at your friend - of course you put weight on, you've had a baby and when and if you want to lose the weight, you will - it is no one elses business! There my rant over..

QA I was all set to reply to your post lat night to reassure you that your thoughts are quite normal, when I managed to tip a whole cup of raspberry leaf tea over the computer. This followed me tipping half cooked custard over the working surface earlier -I currently have the coordination of an 6 month old ( which is probably being rude to 6 month olds). Anyway, back to you - what you don't know is that my mc was an unplanned pregnancy and we thought long and hard about wether we wanted another child. We'd just got ourselves set on the idea of no 3 when I lost it. Obviously, then I wanted to be pregnant again immediatly which didn't happen and by the time I did get pregnant 6 months later, I was starting to think again that maybe 2 was enough... Having said that I couldn't be happier to be at nearly 38 weeks now and I can't wait to meet BabyBelle but I do think that doubts are completly normal!

cupcake my ds arrived when my dh was stripping the dining room and the babys rooms was full of the furniture etc. DH sspent his paternity leave painting! I certainly remember DS having a really quiet day 2 days before he arrived. Babybelle is a bit quiet today - I'm about to take the older 2 swimming and so that should wake her up and kill me off for the day!

mermaid Our breadmaker lives on the side so I have no excuse not to use. I've also got all the ingredients close to hand. If you are going to get one, get the panasonic - it is much more forgiving than the others ( my old one I had to be so precise with measures otherwise I got un or over risen loaves)
I do have other kitchen gadgets that live in my cupboards and grow old and dusty - this isn't one of them!
Hope you are feeling a bit better physically today - I'm with Gracie, sundays are meant for PJ's

gracie Isn't it "nice" how much more of the day you see when you become a mum! Just wait untill the clocks change - when everyone else gets an extra hour in bed, you'll just be up and about an hour earlier!!

hello! i put a . to book mark the thread cos ive been away so long i lost you all!

We have been sleeping!!!!! babybarbie has finally realised sleep isnt just for the weak and that sleeping is a nice thing to do, she has even got herself into a sort of routine! happy days Still the odd fight here and there but much better in general

monkey and mermaid once again you have both been in my thoughts over the weekend, im glad you are both still posting, would hate to lose either of you...i hope we somehow help you through the crappy times. mermaid stay in your pj's thats what sundays are for! I have also not spoken on the phone to dh so he can hear Devon...the scream says it all! he also came home as fast as he could...gg try it! ha ha

curly i got your emails, your dd is sooooooo gorgeous! bless her in her little hat on the bench! also thanks for your other emails. I will try to email you back soon. Hoping you feel better soon, its normal to have a few bad days, gosh ive had enough of them over the past few weeks!

sabs im for you! Bloody friends, you are lovely as you are and by no means fat! you are amazing and i wish i could bake, facebook and do baby classes all at the same time like you do love the name change too.
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cupcake lbm 4ever any babies yet????

q&a I love your super long posts, its like you have been with us forever...like mermaid said post anything here, nothing is too small to worry about, we have all been there, had the good days and then the not so good days, the beauty of this thread is that we are here EVERY day

buddha good to have you back buddy! i never seem to catch you on fb any more will try harder to catch up with you soon. E is very cute btw

neeko what long hours dh works, bravo for still posting as well as looking after 2 lo's being a wife, mummy, worker etc etc...im suprised you got and any energy at all to post!

Gotta run..baby awake...

panasonic I had heard that was a good make, will go and have a look.
lbm reading back through your trials and tribulations has made me all teary, it's so lovely to think of you all ready to go

she seems happy enough to play with her hands for the time being

Hello lbm i have a bread maker too, great arent they? Ive not had the time to use it recently and the bread in dubai is all fresh and no crap in it so really dont need to use it so much now a days but dh does love to make the sundried tomato bread.
Maybe its a sign that baby will come today since she is so quiet!

memaid i meant that i had also let dh hear baby cry on the phone!

great that you have all had a bit of kip barbie yum at sundried tomato bread.

ok still in pjs

Morning

I've been reading one of my books, and I'm focusing on positive thoughts, not negative ones, it is good

barbie hooray to D sleeping, it makes sooooo much difference

QA rant away honey, that's what we're here for, I do it a lot and then feel loads better, it's good medicene on here

sabs on your behalf, I would have been peed off if I had a night out and kids turned up too, gracie was spot on, you spend all day with DD, one night off is a must, as for going up a size, I'm about 2 sizes too big, but I've got Ajay, I know which I prefer

neeko my dh is working far too many hours at the moment too, last week when I was getting low I was thinking it was because he didn't want to be at home with me, nuts I know!!!!! But it is hard, especially when they come home too tired to take over. He's off Wednesday and Thursday this week and I'm going to hide his phone

mermaid are you out of those PJ's, I'm only just out of mine, DS1 got straight into his bumblebee outfit without getting a wash or cleaning his teeth, and Ajay is asleep still in his pj's, I'm a fab mum me

DS1 wants on the computer now, so will try and get back later.

QA meant to say I spotted that bridezilla thread after I'd posted my link, I've just been on and she did the dance, just waiting to see it on youtube now

Hi girls
Still a v active baby here! We're hopefully going to see the MLU at the hospital this afternoon as we still haven't had a tour!

Vay I love that image of your DSs in bumblebee outfit & PJs sounds like a fab Sunday morning to me!

qa sorry you are feeling and confused. I love that LBM can relate to your experience; this thread is just fab there is always someone who understands exactly what you're going through

barbie I grinned loads at you getting more sleep- yaaaay Devon!

sabs another person v at your ruined night out you so deserved to just chill. I really hope you can do it again (properly!) soon! As for the weight comments- more you are definitely fabulous.

LBM lol at your dh spending last pat leave painting mine has finished it now, it was only 2 walls so now back to just waiting!

Hi mermaid give me your best girls' names! We are struggling big time & just keep going round in circles when we try to discuss it.

neeko stick in with the breastfeeding. It is far more flexible than bottle feeding in the long run. With your DH not being around you are just going to increase your workload if you intorduce formula. Please don't be seduced with the thought that formula means longer between feeds. It doesn't.
Do the minimum you need around the house. Rest when you can around ferrying DD1. It is early days yet and it will all get easier

Just logged on and saw message from mears You always pop up when I'm at my lowest point Don't want to give up on the feeding, honestly, especially as I managed so long with DD1. Just really struggling to get H into a routine. We've been trying to give her expressed milk to give me a break but she's not keen on the bottle so formula's probably not an option anyway. There's always tomorrow...
Right, off to catch up on the thread while DH pounds the streets with the pram to make H sleep and space out the feeds.

Caught up but too tired to post now I'll be back before the marking marathon starts on Wednesday (and, yes I have given myself targets!) T?hanks for all your lovely messages. Ilove this thread.

did i say that Devon is sleeping better now? scrap that, she has gone back to being a tiny terror!
Every hour last night...oh hum...

neeko i totally understand re giving up feeding, i did think about it just to get more in a routine. However we decided on the one formula feed at 11pm which dh will do to give me a chance to sleep, but like h she is refusing the bottle again now so im having to do it all. Im just going with the mn phase of 'this too shall pass' and trying to work to my own phase of 'dont sweat the small stuff' and hoping like you that tomorrow will be a better day
Have you tried another type of bottle/teat..might be H doesnt like the teat?

cupcake how was the tour...did it freak you out???

Barie waves to evertone else but must dash to take Devon for a walk before 8am when its just too hot...hoping she wil fall asleep en route to the shops....

Expressing can put pressure on an already stressed mum! Introducing formula introduces the 'feeding from a bottle stress' too. In some ways, just accepting that frequent feeds are the normal and just doing it without overthinking it can help relieve the stress in a funny kind of way. Trying a dummy may help? I used a dummy to give me space to make dinner for my other children. No,2 and no. 4 found their thumbs which was bliss (I certainly didn't stress about that I can tell you). No.3 kept his dummy till I threw it away at age 8 months. Have you tried that since milk supply is well established? It does all get better - honestly

Hey ladies, im still here! Super active bubs also! Not been sleeping myself, v uncomfortable & exhausted.. Managed to get hair done tho & nice weekend chillin with Dh, finally see avatar, fab film! Off to last ante natal class later today, on newborn care! ....Neeko & Barbie sorry to hear of the feeding stresses, am gettin a bit worried about it myself now! Welcome Mears! .....Big waves to Cupcake & LBM my preg buddies! I got my wax booked for thurs too, cant wait! How was mat ward tour? They cancelled all tours cos of swine flu but classes are same floor so got to sneak a peak after all, also had those check ups in the delivery suite so we see there too! ....Sabs felt ur u deserve a grown ups night out, ur such a dedicated mummy with all ur classes & activities, & what a rude comment as well! ..... QA love ur posts & agree its like u been with us forever! .....Moon hope ur hangin in there sweetie.. Mermaid been thinkin of u loads & hope ur taking it easy & the rollercoaster is not hitting too terribly? Big hug for a brave lady.. Another big hug for a brave lady Monkey... Big waves to Vjay, Blue, Curly and Gracie and everyone else i may have missed! We have our last scan tomorrow & consultant on thurs, but will try & keep up with whats happenin on here, will be lurking! Obviously ill let ya kno if any news! X x x x x

Hi. Completely refreshed Neeko here as H slept from 11pm until 6am! then fed and had to be wakened at 9.45 for a feed. Know it's likely to be a one-off and all the walking in the sea air probably helped (Mermaid will approve ) but was exactly what I needed to be able to cope again.

Barbie the baby whisperer says to look for the teat that most resembles your nipple so that should make interesting shopping.

Mears H won't take a dummy and I have to express as have a marker's meeting on Wed so will be away 6 hours. She'll have to take the bottle then or go hungry.

Sabs I'd have been angry too. Hope you're feeling better.

QA you are the queen of posting. TTC messes with even the sanest of heads, TTC after MC is the pits but you are strong enough for it all.

Just realised it's nursery time so must dash. Just quickly though to make you smile. DD1 has 3 cuddly dalmations and had a stress this morning about how she could feed them when she only has two nipples!!