Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome.

[VivClicquot]

So, I thought I'd take it upon myself to kickstart the new thread. As the title suggests, this is a wonderful home full of the bravest, funniest and most inspirational women on Mumsnet, who are always ready to lend an ear and a virtual glass of wine.

The new thread is kicked off with 3 bfps in 3 days, so here's to more love and luck along the way

xx

Cheepzy ditto wot the Gi1dster said on assets. GOOD LUCK!

Gi1da good stuff on the gloves - teeny tiny risk I'm sure, but better to be safe. Also my hands are suffering so much at the mo, they look like 60year old hands. Terrible. Really must wear gloves. Oh and actually APPLY hand cream. Not just think product bought, on shelf, job done. Ditto eye cream, body scrub, body lotion repeat ad infinitum....

MrsG you have as many dramatics as you want me lovely. That's what we is here for.

Hi to all. Another lovely day on the coast. Reminds me of that line in White Mischief, when Greta Scacchi looks out on the idyllic African landscape, and sighs, "oh god, not another fucking beautiful day..."

staying at the bottom on the list - no idea what that was all about......body obviously thought I needed some more fucking torment and dragged it out for a few days before it kicked in. Anyhooooooo! At least I can go back to normal now and stop manically worrying about lifting the kids, dragging the double buggy in and out the house or even breathing in case it causes a fricking miscarriage! I am dreading being pregnant again (well if I am lucky enough to fall again!!!!), it terrifies me, I think I will have to give up work and sleep for 9 months.

Sorry for self indulge - I will be back later to name check I promise xxxx

Off to look into Magic 8 ball for the answers...............

xxxxxxxxxxxx

magic 8 balls says "who knows".............!!!!!!!

Sorry 8's

Cheepz knock 'em dead!

@ Gi1da re Wascally wabbits.
Pastry wouldn't go amiss?
Mr.G likes Disney Pie.

to everyone and hopes they're having a fucking beautiful day as Jolls poetically put it.

I need to shift as I'm on the late shift again.
Hopefully I'll be back by midnight this time.

Byeeeeeee xx

Bin it give it another shake or dismantle it 8's

Hahahaha loving the Magic 8 Ball

Morning everyone, and a special hi to margie.

3dpo here and I'm beyond bored of the 2ww already.

Work-wise, I fear today could be a busy one as I've come in to find the company I work for is namechecked in amongst the "Nick Clegg is worse than Hitler" press coverage, so the press office phones could be busy. Plus I've got to go to an awards dinner tonight so it's going to be a loooooong day.

Cheepz - I HATE trouser suits, so it wouldn't be a question for me. A skirt all the way...

xxx

ps G1lda - as I scrolled quickly down the page then, I thought your advice to cheepz was: "I'd say get the legs out but keep the beaver covered"

my coffee tastes really really horrid... and I really really need it after DS woke me at 12, 1, 2, 4, 5 and 6am last night.....

quietly excited (about the horrid tasting coffee, not the sleepless night).

Can't tell on the sore boobs front though, sore rib has been overshadowing everything else, and making it pretty tough to get back to sleep each time DS has decided he's awake and scared of the scary monsters in his bedroom. I think it's actually the scary back molars, the magic pink potion has helped a little, but not enough!

(that's a yawn today)

Can you ask the magic 8 ball for me please, allthe8s?? I'm being good and keeping away from the pesky sticks....

Good luck with the interview Cheepz, I'd wear whatever makes you feel more confident.

And good luck with the long day Viv, rather you than me, the way I'm feeling this morning I'll be lucky to stay awake till lunchtime.

Given that the coffee is horrid, I guess it'll have to be chocolate

Definitely agree re. beaver Another vote here for skirt.

Love the fine-dining wascally wabbits.

Welcome Margie - sorry that you're here, but it's a supportive place to be.

Am with you in waiting for the post-mc RTD. Where the hell is it and when am I going to get back to normal? Grrrr!

Sorry for not name checking, but pressed for time today. Will catch up later on.

Have a good day all! xx

Alba magic 8 balls says (no joke here) "You will have to wait"

Okay, I don't think I'm dealing with things very well. So I went out and got very drunk last night and now feel like a total idiot. As well as feeling utterly miserable about life, I am now hungover and miserable. It is 4 weeks today since I started miscarrying- shouldn't I be starting to feel better? I think getting the negative test result on Monday has made it really hit home that I lost the baby. Up till then I'm not sure it had sunk in.
Sorry for being a miserable cow, you all seem so positive and I'm sorry for my self-indulgent ranting, I just needed to get it out.
Hope everyone is ok and enjoying the sunshine.
Lindalinda, sorry for what you you've been through- maybe waiting three months will give you time to decide whether to TTC again or not, rather than try and make a decision now. Although I know that feeling of desperately wanting to be pregnant again, it is so hard, take care of yourself x x

Oh man, Dorcas - this is the place to rant, you rant away and let it all out. And feeling like this after 4 weeks sounds normal I think, I think I felt physically low for about 6 weeks (and emotionally low even longer).

Linda - sounds like you are really going through it, glad you have found this thread, lots of lovely ladies here to support you in whatever decisions you need to make.

I just popped in because I've been lurking for news of PrettyMrsG - so have come to give a big wave, really glad to see you here. Will keep stalking you watching out over next couple of weeks for your results, fingers all crossed here.

And a big wave to everyone else!! Cheepz - show us your legs!!

gils was not blessed in the norkage department so would not be much of a selling point so pins a go go for me - just snuck out and bought killer new dress suit from next - which is really reasonable for work stuff! and have my outfit ready, agree with % of body showing at any one time - apparently once you are in late 30s its should always be 2 thirds covered, one third out ... took this approach at christmas party with long sleeve, high neck uber short dress which was abit of a show stopper, nice to feel glamerous on the outside when you have bags of stuff going on on the inside...

magic8 sorry bout that babe, its like snakes and ladders

alba off coffee would be a sure fire 'hot' symptom on 2ww for me so can imagine thats pretty exciting

viv wot no symptom spotting - are you not spotty, tired, thirsty, craving with tingly boobs and wierd cm? i am on day 22 post erpc and on 2ww for RTD - i reckon it will be 35 days post erpc - shall we run a sweepstake?

linda welcome, sounds like you are at a hard place in a hard time, we all understand as we are all at various stages of recovery / acceptance / progress in terms of the whole ttc and miscarriage business, seems like you have a bunch of worries - share and lets see if we can help you work through them, problem shared and all that

dorcas if this was your first miscarriage which I recall it was I think I wallowed for 3 months before I got past the being desprate to be preg again asap, then I was just panicking about not getting preg again, by second mc 7 cycles later i was just relieved to have got pregnant again,and now after third i just feel like why do i have to be one of the 1% of women who has 3 in a row, but at the same time I am more confident I will get pregnant again and have another baby eventually but perhaps now with more acceptance i might have more mc's first!

hang in there

lovely day in the sun

I wonder if Liahgen and Urd are quietly keeping some good news to themselves?

And anyone else near the top of the list for that matter??

And Pollyanna, have you made it home yet?

Dorcas, sorry you're going through it, it does take time, you have to try to be kind to yourself if you can

Cheepz -- don't go getting me even more excited... good for you on the new suit retail therapy!

Thursday's list

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD68
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD46
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD46 ~ MIA?
Margie32 TTC#1 UCL? cycle Wtf CD45
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD42
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD34
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD29
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD29
Redheadgal TTC#1 UCL 28-30 cycle WTF CD29
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD28
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD28
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD27
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD24
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD23
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD22
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD21
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD18
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD16
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD15
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 3 CD14
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD11
Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL28 Cycle 2 CD8
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 3 CD8
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD4
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 2 CD3

BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD??
lucy snowe TTC#2 UCL 40+?? cycle 2 CD ??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 Month 3 of 3 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook BFP 6th April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010

Did someone say symptom spotting? Well, since you asked I've had a few twinges and oodles amounts of cm. Oh, and I'm a bit windy but that's probably down to the chips and curry sauce I had for tea last night, rather than anything exciting....

And count me in for the sweepstake doll - I reckon it will be on 32 days...

Welcome linda - sorry you're here but I'm glad you've found us.

And dorcas, please don't beat yourself up honey. When a family member or friend dies, nobody tells you after four weeks that you 'should be better by now', so don't put any pressure on yourself to be anywhere near back to the way you were before. Take all the time you need and just remember that everything you're feeling is completely and utterly normal. Sending you love. xxx

Oh and alba - I'm keeping my eye on you

Just wanted to echo what others have said dorcas, there is no magic time when everything will feel better again. Think about hills. When you walk to the top of a hill, there's normally a down bit on the other side. So you walk downhill. And then you walk up a hill again. And sometimes they're big hills, sometimes they're very small. Sometimes there's a nice long flat bit where you can just admire the views. But you keep walking along, because if you just stopped you'd never get anywhere.

I'll stop with the awful metaphors now.

If it makes you all feel better, I have just done the most spectacular overshare with a director in my office who (until five minutes ago) knew nothing of everything DH and I have been through over the last 9 months.

It's her little girl's birthday next week and we were chatting about the birthday party etc, and she asked me that age-old question of, "Do you think you'll have kids" to which I blurted out, "Yeah, I hope so. To be honest we haven't had much luck on that front so far"

She looked mortified. So then I felt like I had to recover the situation by telling her everything (like that would make her feel better??!) and now she's sloped off and is probably wishing she'd never asked in the first place, and I'm sat here like a lemon wondering why I couldn't just nod and smile.

lindalinda welcome, and so sorry you've had to find yourself here on this thread. I agree with the 3 month break idea. Give yourself time to recover (physically and mentally). You might find after a month that you're ready to go again, but if right now you feel you don't have to think about it for 12 weeks that will help take any immediate pressure off.

allthe8s sorry you're back to the bottom of the list. And it's a fucker that in some ways its a relief that at least you won't be worrying about miscarrying.

cheepz hope you kept your beaver covered

jolls have you finished polishing the garden statues? surely you're onto the water feature now?

LOL at another fucking beautiful day. And I'm stuck indoors working. Have just had the official chat about doing 4 days a week. Will miss having those full weeks off with DS, but it's for the greater good. More work, more stability, more opportunity to save for a nice long ML with DC#2.

I'm having symptoms and I'm not even ovulating : Feeling a bit sick (prob from eating a cornetto followed by four biscuits); Bit of back cramp (most likely from sitting cross-legged at my desk); Twingey boobs (too soon to be going back into my pre-DS bras).

viv I did the exact same thing the other day, except it wasn't even prompted. I think it's good to talk about it.

PS I think hopefully is on a new cycle as she popped into our post-natal thread. Perhaps remove her from list and she can re-add when she's ready to come back to the thread?

Yeah, I agree - I just hope I didn't make her feel uncomfortable. She then told me she'd had an mmc a few years ago, so it was a kind of overshare five mins from both of us, but even so - it's not the kind of info she'd have volunteered were it not for me and my big mouth!