Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome.

[VivClicquot]

So, I thought I'd take it upon myself to kickstart the new thread. As the title suggests, this is a wonderful home full of the bravest, funniest and most inspirational women on Mumsnet, who are always ready to lend an ear and a virtual glass of wine.

The new thread is kicked off with 3 bfps in 3 days, so here's to more love and luck along the way

xx

four - 3 wet pairs and a brown pair [grimface}, i got to nursery and he said, look mummy i weed in all my pants - I had to explain that wasn't the main objective!! bribary tomorrow, if he comes home in the same trousers he gets a prize!

Hello, sadly I mc on Friday at 8 weeks. It was my first pregnancy. I had a scan with the EPU and they confirmed that the embryo is gone. I have been advised to wait for 1-2 cycles before trying again. The scan picked up a fibroid but it is apparently away from the "business end" of the uterus. I'm going to talk to my doctor about what to do about the fibroid and trying to get pregnant again.

It's nice to know that there are others feeling the same as I do right now.

Hello lovely ladles! (sic)

Sorry not been around much, have been a bit paranoid about logging on at work. Roll on Friday work at home day! Apologies in advance for anyone I've missed, there are so many of us, but just as many on the grads list so that's ok!

Cheepz, Viv special gin cocktails for you both. Cos you're fab. Wiv umbrellas and evryfink.

NBelle just keep an eye on yourself, if you need a break in a little while, take it. Its a hell of a lot to go through and your hormones will be all over the place. Surprise tears / rants / hysteria / good days / bad days all part of the package.

BUnderB you look after yourself too, and take all the time that feels right for you. A supplement might also help you feel stronger, Floradix is really good (Gin is better).

Digi hope its all going ok. Special gin for you too. And yer mum.

GLB imagining you wearing a Red Nose Day nose to mask spot. Vodka I tell you (on spot not down neck!)

Jolls Enjoy the acupuncture. I really do think it makes a difference. Here's hoping it works for you.

WestYorks joining you on the crazy train. Good luck!

Malteser did I imagine it or did you sneak in a BFP?

Urd best wishes to you.

Scotch how's it hanging up there at the top? Elm, LadyBee Hi!

Freezing hang in there. Ocado you likey? Have been toying with the idea since I now have a garden and can't be arsed to spend my precious weekend food shopping.

Moof waves cheerleader pompoms - Give us an S give us a W give us a I. SHAGGING!!! Redhead - good heavens what a fascinating job! Would love to hear more also.

PrettyMrsG glad work got a bit more sorted. Less stress = less comfort food = lindt bunnies breathing huge sigh of relief. Did you start hassling Sheffield about getting on with things?

Allthe8s Fingers crossed for you.

Clare motivate yourself by thinking how fit you'll need to be to swipe baby from outside Fortnums and leg it!

As for me, I am living in fear of imminent Rusty Hag, and feeling pretty low. I've only ever done a pair of pg tests once, (for this last pg/mc). I can't bear the thought of doing one and seeing "You are SOOOO not pregnant you FOOL".

I have an acupuncture appt next Thursday morning so if no RTD by then (which I doubt) I will test just to make sure before needles. I'm back to feeling like it will never happen (3 years no contraception before this). Moved house, had sex once, got pg. This cycle had more sex in a week than in previous 3 months, but I just don't feel like it could possibly happen. Bit like winning the lottery. I am getting twinges, but have no idea if that's how I felt last time as it never occurred to me at the time that I might possibly be duffed. Ho hum

LAF So very sorry. Hope you have lots of support in real life, and there's all of us here.

Cheepz "look mummy i weed in all my pants" that is just THE cutest! What a poppet! Can I hug him? Can I? Promise to give him back.

Bleeding is getting heavier now and I am also having quite bad cramps now, basically this is what i expected at the weekend, I had to take a suppositary (sp?) on Friday to start the process off. I think everything is ok just a bit delayed, still not as bad as it could be I suppose.

Freezing that was good advice from your friend, i like that and i think your right it's just my way of coping just now.

Viv I agree that work is a distraction just now, don't think the best thing for me would to be at home as i would just dwell on it and fortunately i feel well enough physically to be in work. At work we are just coming into a quieter time so at least i am not stressed at work. My colleagues are still realtively new so I still get alot of questions etc so I guess in a way I am probably convincing myself i am needed at work....as at least i can get that right, not like this TTC lark!

Cheepz Good luck with the potty training your story made me smile

Cheepz - that story made me laugh out loud - almost like the more pants you give him the more he will wee!! Love it.

Nbelle - you poor thing, don't push yourself too hard to keep being normal- but I salute you being so brave.

Laf - hello, I'm so sorry you are here. I mc our first baby in feb and I can say it has got better - although now I'm obsessed with being preg again, possibly a bit too obsessed but what can you do?! My 2ww is almost over and I can feel the cramps are comi g soon, so will have to swi next month!! Poor dh!!

Hi to everyone else - big hugs- no wine thi k I'm overdoing it, maybe a pot of tea to share instead? X

Cheepz your little one, what a wee soul! He'll be grand tomorrow.

Clare here's hoping your peak has arrived then, might be a nice surprise for you in the morning from the CBFM.

Hello LAF sorry to hear your news, take good care of yourself. Hope you find this useful, I found the company here great support in those early days - still do!

Gi1da my God you are good, how on earth did you remember all those namechecks? Photographic memory?

Thursday's List:

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD61
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD39
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD39
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD35
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD34
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD33
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 2 CD29
Gi1da TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD27
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD24
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD24
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD22
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD22
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD21
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD21
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD20
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD20
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD17
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD16
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD15
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD14
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD11
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD9
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD8
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 3 CD7

BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD ??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1/10. On 3-6 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook BFP 6th April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April

Moof two screens!

Cheepz how refreshing that one of us (you) is doing knicker watch - but not on their own knickers for once! Makes a change

Morning all.

I'm starting at my new store today, doing a late so I'm not in till 11.30.
I've got an hour to waste spare before I must shift and make myself look preetty and presentable.
I don't think that coming on MN is a good idea though
I can see me having to do my face on the train.
I have no shame.

Hi LAF. So sorry to see your news but as you said we can understand what you're going through and this really is a great place for advice and support.

Cheepz oh dear, poor "wee" man.
Bless 'im.
Also made me
(in my inside voice this time)
when I read your post about all the successes on this fred.
Thank you.

GLB I was wondering why my fillings smarted, I am of the opinion that taking the foil off merely slows the whole process down somewhat.
Howz the zit? Have you named it yet?
at digi's suggestion about the little face.

LadyB did you enjoy the pics?
See anything good?

Jolls I have been to H/O and trained a bunch of RM's on the new Make up.
I was this close to meeting Anita as she supposed to have been there but she had a last minute change of schedule.
She still is one of my heros.
Met Chase though.

Off to a top 40 for 3 months to shadow an excellent manager who's been there donkeys years. You would have heard of her.
Looking forward to it

It'll be fine, I'll keep plodding on, and jump through hoops when asked.
I'm going to set fire to the hoops too so they can see how good I am.

Hello everybody peeps to everyone else.
< manic waving >

Right... I'm going to have some brekkie a large coffee and phone Sheffield to demand my baybee.

Have a super day and wish me luck!

Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee xx

Just popping on from work illegally as my email has crashed.

having a surprisingly bad day today. It is exactly 3 months ago that I had my ERPC, so I'm now been not pregnant for as long as i was pregnant IYKWIM. When I realised this milestone was approaching I felt really positive, about the future and embracing my current life and family. But today all i want to do is cry
DH is in a completely different place to me, feels that we can still choose when we have next baby and therefore let's skip this month,so we don't have a new year's eve baby and that it will happen when we want it to. (conceived DS v easily, and last pg in first month of trying) I just don't have that confidence anymore that it will ever be easy, We've been trying since the MC and nothing's happened, a fact which seems to have passed him by. His relaxed approach is really upsetting me. We discussed it last night and I respect his view and thoughts on timing and being relaxed and positive (he was made redundant the week after the MC so there are added stresses around having another one) but sometimes it's soo hard.

Right, self indulgent pity rant over. Will go and have a posh coffee to cheer myself up.
Will pop back on later for proper catch up - thank you for letting me download somewhere- saved me from being a sobbing mess at my desk

Ah Clare - shit day. Big hugs for you. Hope the posh coffee is nice and warming in both body and soul. Come back and download some more later?

LAF welcome, sorry to hear about your mc and glad you found this thread, it's been a lifeline. I echo that feeling of it being nice to know that there are lots of ladies like us out there!

Cheepz your little boy is ADORABLE. Did snort tea out of my nose reading that though.

Spot as spread, looks like two spots on nose but I'm pretty sure it's only one. I haven't named it yet as I haven't decided what it looks like yet, plus if it is twins it'll need two names. Almost like a second nose now.

xxxxx

cheepz we're aiming for potty training but DS is a secret pooer who won't own up. He is also proud of ablutions declaring to all and sundry 'i did enormous sick on da carpet!' recently.

laf welcome we're a lovely bunch

prettyvacant good luck for today

my work pal who went for scan following ivf yesterday showed me lovely pics of 11+2 baby. So pleased for her that it worked out but still wondering to myself how hers was all fine when my DS2 died at that exact point.

My boobs are huge and sore like rocks which makes it more likely I did ovulate at day 11 and implant at 18 though I'm hopelessly symptom spotting. Fingers crossed eh? Also feel slightly guilty if pg again that new baby is taking space of DS2l. Though mustn't think like that as I also have DS1 who was there too

RTD bloody got me, am so upset. Thought I was ok but clearly not. Aaarrggghhh just want my baby.

That's it. I'm done. Sorry.

wannabeamum really sorry rtd got you, you will be a mum!

afternoon ladies, not managing to get much done today as we are suposed to be flying to dubling tomorrow but a cloud of volcanic ash has closed all the airports and cancelled all flights ... gahhhhh, now looking for UK spa options in case we can't go - am buggered if i am giving up grown up weekend of r&r although would be shame not to see pals in ireland and get super cheap fab suite from our friend the hotel manager ... means actually doing any work is a low second priority right now!

PV sounds like you are having a busy day and have a load going on at work, good to be busy though, having time when you are in our shoes is abit of a problem I find - better not to have much time to fester! And quite right, get yee on the blower to Sheffield and demand they provide you with your baybeee, like right now

Clarea bug hugs to you today, my DH was also abit of a cholcolate teapot when it came to 'getting it' and was always abit menana menana, next month will be fine, i think they don't get how much you are putting on hold or the emotional investment in the waiting and checking and counting and so on, DH gets it now but only after 9 months and 3 mcs he finally realises my whole life has been on hold waiting to get and stay pregnant and the frustration of it not happening as per the plan. try and get him on some neutral territory - out of the house - and tell him how you feel

GLB I also get big spots with hormones although mostly they lurk and dissipate if I leave them alone, unfortunately I never manage to leave them alone and end up with big scabby spots where I have scrathed and poked and fiddled with them .... leave it!

bunnyb love their little announcements, at the weekend DS announced loudly in our garden that 'dere musenic (music) is toooo loud' about our neighbours noise levels, atwhich point the musenic in question was turned down a little - we have lovely neighbours, but the 'I dun a poo' 'I been sick' 'mine did big pip' type announcements crack me up

wannabe its tough, underneath everything every time she blows its tough, until the day where you can say 'ding dong the witch is dead' thinking of you xx

right champneys have no availability - time to look at pennyhill park!

Thanks bunny and cheepz and to everyone. I know you are right. Might change my name to gonnabeamum - bit less depressing! I have only been trying a little while so I must stop being such a whinger. Although on my walk to Westfield to buy lunch (and wine) today I counted no less that 7 pregnant ladies..

gonnabe are you on the stats list? I looked but couldn't see you there. X

I like bug hugs thanks cheepz!Also sounds like something my ds would be fond of... thanks also to you and glb we are going to derbyshire this weekend to a cottage so should be good. Hopefully we can chat then.

cheepz ragdale? Babington? Bovey? Mandarin oriental ? You will be relaxed this weekend!

LAF so sorry for your loss, hope we can support you through this time

wannabe - argh what a nightmare, poor you. Sending you a big hug

prettyg how did you first day at big school go? Hope it went well ? What news from the baybee givers in Sheffield?

moo still high, no peak- arggh

have just been given a bag of peanut m&ms by work colleague- these are not in keeping with new healthy lifestyle so am putting them out for all to share

Ta darrrr... new positive name..

Bunny Im not on the list, as i dont really understand it?! I MC in Feb, had my first RTD about 5 weeks after that and now have begun the second RTD today- I dont have any Tiddlywinks yet.

Had the longest day at work ever today.... cant wait for home time when its sausages, mash, peas and wine for dinner YUM YUM. Diet and exercise starts Monday!!

Love to all

clareanna I had a massive freakout when I'd hit three months after my last MC. Think I was worried that we'd missed the 3 months of 'super-fertility' myth and that i'd never get pg again EVER. Obviously I got that wrong. You can't really overplan these things. Say you do get a NYE due date, the baby might have other ideas about coming early (DS was 3 weeks early) or late.

LAF So sorry for your miscarriage, you've come to right place. I've only been here since Monday and it's already been a source of comfort.

wannabe sorry bout RTD. I find CD1 the worst, but by CD5 it's a new cycle and there's a lot to look forward to.

cheepz Don't know whereabouts you are but Bailiffs Court has a lovely spa. I would so love a spa weekend right now, that would just do the trick. Or maybe a Hotel Du Vin weekend. Food, booze and then a bit more booze and food.

DH is currently stuck in Italy waiting to find out how delayed his flight back tomorrow morning is going to be. We're supposed to be going to a shot-gun wedding tomorrow. The bride is 14 weeks pregnant and the invites were telephoned out 4 weeks ago. Was really looking forward to telling her that we'd be on maternity leave together. Oh well. Hope I don't burst into tears too many times tomorrow, still haven't cried yet.

Toying with the idea of doing the super-healthy thing in order to minimise risks of another mc. Was eating/drinking as normal till I got my BFP as I didn't want to spend all the time living as if I was pretending to be pregnant. But now am wondering if the caffeine/booze I had in the 2ww might not have helped. Is everyone else doing this?

Right am really fucked off

Just called the EPDU to get the results from yesterday's blood test. And they're closed. They were supposed to call me. Not only do I have to have a fucking miscarriage but I have to chase my own miserable results to confirm it. I just wanted to book a GP appointment off the back of those results.

Right, GP appt booked anyway. Sorry for swearing.

Ooh Clareanna, whereabouts are you going? I'm a bornandbred Derbyshire lass, you know - albeit one that's now in exile up the A6 in Manchester.

Gonnabe - LOVING the positive thinking. Based on what you've just said, your stats are along the lines of:

Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL?? Cycle 2 CD1

I'm not sure what your usual cycle length is, hence the question marks x

Digitalgirl - I'm trying to eat as healthily as I can but am not totally abstaining from alcohol or caffeine. To be fair, I'm not a big coffee drinker (one ponceymochachocoskinnyventibullshitlatte a day!) so the occasional glass of sauv blanc is my only vice.

Plus I know it sounds reckless and I'll probably get flamed to hell, but given the average embryo doesn't emplant until D7-10, with BFPs coming around D14, there's only a 4-7 day window in which what you eat/drink would have an effect on the baby - and unless you're drinking booze or red bull all day every day, the effect of one glass of wine or one cup of coffee would be small I'm sure.

(Note: I only dabble in medicine )

Digitalgirl - swear away. If it makes you feel any better, I had to phone and chase my EPU for the results of the genetic testing on my placental tissue after my second loss. The fucking fuckers had only fucking lost the sample, so no test was done. Fuckers.