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Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

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liahgen66 · 22/02/2010 21:46

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

OP posts:
ElmMum · 15/03/2010 18:33

Acronym alert...!

What is cm?

I think I can guess but not 100% sure.

There was another one I didn't know too, but I can nb it now.

I had insomnia last night, which is usually connected to my cycle i.e. I get it a few nights before my period. And I've got a cold sore on the way. I got one the week after BFP, so presume that's hormone related too. But I'm nowhere near a period at the mo (only just finishing mc), so not sure what that means. Prob nothing!

Glad we've all survived mothers day.

Goodluckbear · 15/03/2010 19:17

cm = cervical mucus

When I was in my twenties if you'd have told me I'd know all these acronyms and be checking my cm I'd have laughed in your face, and now I'm in my thirties and obsessed with every little "sign".

I would've probably thought it all a bit gross back then, but I've totally moved passed that, in fact, post mc nothing is too much information....

xxxxxxxxx

Unbuffy · 15/03/2010 19:19

cm = cervical mucus. Different from what it sounds like, (say cm aloud hehehehe) which is male mucus.

I find it hard to tell the difference, as you may have gathered!! swi is continual at the moment. yawn.

Unbuffy · 15/03/2010 19:20

glb crossed posts. Agree - nothing is sacred any more!

ElmMum · 15/03/2010 19:39

I thought it probably was but wanted to make sure! Thanks ladies.

Another question...

How long do you all think you should wait after mc to start TTC? Doc says have a couple of normal periods. Is that what you're all doing or is anyone just going straight for it?

What are the pros and cons, do you think? Apols if this has already been covered.

xxx

clareanna · 15/03/2010 21:11

Unbuffy- found it funny because I'm doing the same at the mo- only just started monitoring and finding the whole thing v confusing! Ah to be innocently ttc again!!

Unbuffy · 15/03/2010 21:25

Elmum - Drs generally seem to say wait a bit to help with dating if you do fall, but from what I've read here and elsewhere there's nothing to stop you trying again straight away. Obv individual cases may vary, but after mc and getting a bfn to check everything's 'clear' i see no reason not to hit the sack and try to do it all again - i know I started before even rtd/af/ arrived! No result yet, but practice makes perfect they say...

hippychick66 · 15/03/2010 21:42

elmmum Some of the ladies on here began trying again as soon as they stopped bleeding after their mc. I know a couple of people who got preg again before getting their next period.

Others decided to wait for a couple of months to get their heads around it all.

Personally, we decided to have one period and then start ttc. That was mainly cos I had to have an EPRC and I wanted to be sure that my body had finished expelling everything it needed to and i had heard that the lining can be a bit thin after the procedure I had.

My Dh was very good - even when I had egg white cm about 19 days after my mc and I said to him shall we just go for it. He said no just incase we get preg but it can't implant properly and you lose it - that would set us back a couple of months physically and emotionally it could destroy you. I thought that was most thoughful of him.

My period is due any day now and we will be trying as soon as I get the right cervical mucus - I'm so in tune with all that these days!

Anyway, it really is a personal decision, good luck for when you are ready to try.

PS. I'm jealous of flippin' Molly from Coronation street cos she got a lovely picture of a baby and mine had no heartbeat and I got no picture . YES YES I know she's not real!!!

I did find the person who was jealous of their cat very funny. Sorry I know it wasn't meant to be funny but it did make me chuckle.

PPS. Will not be teaching my 6 year old the POO joke. He talks about that particualr substance all the freakin' time already and it drives me batty!! Hee Hee.

Moofold · 15/03/2010 21:43

I am also new to the delightful world of CM having paid it no heed conceiving DD or the little one we lost. I get confused by which type I am producing and sometimes it changes about 3 or 4 times a bloomin day! Who on earth decided to call it 'mucus' as well FFS. That should be another candidate for being renamed like SWI and RTD - although I can't think of anything acceptable to call it instead...

ElmMum I was told by doc at the hospital to wait 2 -3 months. I asked why and she said that your body has been through extreme upheaval and needs time to recover. She also made out that the ERPC scrapes away so much your womb needs time to heal (not sure if you have had one or not). I thought she was making it up as she went along a bit. I asked if she meant 2-3 months or cycles, explaining that my cycles can be very long - although this one is a record! She said months but when you think about it cycles would have made more sense if what she said was right enough. I reckon there is something in them wanting you to wait for dates but we decided to take the advice which gave some time to heal in the end. I remember initally being totally consumed by the desire to be pregnant so waiting wasn't very easy. You probably just need to do what's best for you. I haven't been convinced by arguments for waiting but was too chicken to try immediately in case it all went wrong again.

Hope everyone that was struggling has recovered from Mother's day yesterday. I didn't enjoy mine either and found the day really hard going - even though I have a DC which makes me feel ungrateful. Its a harsh reminder for us all I think that we should be on our way to being a mother again or for the first time. Lets hope we all have a much better one next year

sparklyrainbow · 15/03/2010 22:33

at cm watch live with Kate Humble!
Elmmum we've started, I've not had RTD yet but we're just seeing what happens really, will start SWgreatI once RTD has reared its head (wish it would hurry up unless I'm pg)

Hi Limelight

Cupcakes I like Lia. Hello to everyone else and thinking of you all

Hope everyone has a better day tomorrow. x

hippychick66 · 15/03/2010 22:53

Lia I had a go at being a doula for 5 minutes this morning! Before you get excited let me explain.

My 6 year old was having trouble getting his poo out. He was hollering and saying how much it hurt. I coached him through it saying, "Push now,no not in your throat in your bottom." Then I followed up with, "That's it, you can do it."

He asked if I could get it out for him and I said, "The only person who can do this is you, come on now push."

Then great joy - a huge look of relief on his face and a plop - sorry TMI!

Anyway, I used all the phrases I've learnt from TV and apart from knowing it was hurting his bum I enjoyed it cos I got to pretend to be a MW.

Gave him loads of grapes tonight so hopefully no labour tomorrow morning.

littlemiss72 · 16/03/2010 08:10

Tuesdays List

Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD56
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD47
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD43
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD43
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD41
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD37
Slimyak TTC #2 UCL 26 cycle 2 CD34
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD32
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD31
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD31
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD27
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD26
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD26
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD23
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD23
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD22
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD20
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD19
Newcastle16 TTC#1 UCL 26-28 cycle1 CD19
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD16
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD16
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD14
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD12
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD11
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD10
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD10
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD10
Limelight TTC2 UCL35 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD9
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD7
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD7
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD7
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD7
Liahgen ttc#6 UCL 26 cycle 1 (post erpc) cd6
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD3

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF
Mummy369 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 CD55 cycle WTF for sure
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Newcastle16
Elmmum
cinnamonswirl TTC#? cycle? UCL 23-30 CD23
Spottysox
HappyGirl1

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010

littlemiss72 · 16/03/2010 08:17

Morning all I hope Monday went past as quickly as possible! No sunshine today however looking a little brighter than the usual grey cloud.

Limbering up for SWI later this week would be lovely to be expecting a Christmas baby but hanging onto reality as it's only just past cycle 1 and first

Bought a book online yesterday recommended by a friend, the Baby Making Bible when it turns up every day I'll post a little snip-it - call it tip of the day if you will. I'm crap at jokes so that will be my daily input.

Think I might have to hide it from DP, he'll think I've lost it completely if I start reading that in bed!

Works busy and all I can think about is TTC, house hunting and weddings.. working with 7 men doesn't help as I have no one to indulge with so to speak.

Have a wonderful Tuesday all x x x

Unbuffy · 16/03/2010 10:10

Littlemiss at image of you in bed swi while reading book - cartoonist's dream! (I am not a cartoonist)

This month seems to be going very very fast and very very slow all at once. Can't beleive i've moved up the list so fast, but the 2ww is d r a g g i n g !

wannabeamum · 16/03/2010 10:21

HI All
Havent been on for a while, so a bit late but hope you all coped OK with Mothers Day, for me until I have a baba in my arms that day is always about my mummy. I woke on Saturday to my free NHS perscriptions card so had to pop that back in the post with a note, bit of a kick in the teeth but not too bad. Is it me or is every bloody c list celebrity pregnant at the moment - saw that Natalie Cassidy is on the front of a magazine this week - irrational but I get really cros - Im even cross that Molly in corrie is preggers!
Im in my 5th week after the MC now and no - convinced myslef I felt sick yesterday... turns out I was hungry.. this trying to get pregnant is turning me into a nut case..

Big love and waves to all!!

x

Pollyanna · 16/03/2010 11:42

Hello all, I've not been on here for a while either - was quite ill and had to miss a couple of days swi which was annoying.

I also have a book which is on prominent display in our bedroom (and I wonder why dh says I'm getting obsessed...) - the Toni Weschler one and as a result am becoming initiated into the world of CM and temping. My OPKs seem to show ovulation every day which is annoying (but Toni Weschler says that can be the case for older people grr), and my temp seems to stay determinedly low which is also annoying. I can't bring myself to think about CM just yet...

But one question ladies... Toni Weschler says that you should swi every day during fertile times, but alot of people on here say every other day - which is right? (I'm not sure I have the energy to SWI every day))

spottysox · 16/03/2010 11:54

Afternoon ladies, my bbt took a drop today so looks like something might happen for me soon If I start to mc naturally before Thursday do you think I still have to go and be scanned will they still offer an erpc if it's started on it's own? Is it better to mc naturally can you ttc sooner. Can you ttc straight away with both.I'm feeling old and like time is ticking by and I'm waiting, waiting and bl*dy more waiting. I hope you don't mind me asking questions that have probably been asked a million times before but when I search so much comes up and it makes me sadder (is that a word) so many losses.
Update on my hussypussy cat. She's had her kittens but we can't find where. She's coming in for food and then dissapears outside nowhere to be seen. I WANT KITTENS

spottysox · 16/03/2010 11:57

Tuesdays List

Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD56
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD47
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD43
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD43
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD41
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD37
Slimyak TTC #2 UCL 26 cycle 2 CD34
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD32
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD31
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD31
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD27
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD26
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD26
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD23
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD23
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD22
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD20
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD19
Newcastle16 TTC#1 UCL 26-28 cycle1 CD19
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD16
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD16
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD14
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD12
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD11
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD10
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD10
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD10
Limelight TTC2 UCL35 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD9
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD7
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD7
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD7
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD7
Liahgen ttc#6 UCL 26 cycle 1 (post erpc) cd6
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD3

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF
Mummy369 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 CD55 cycle WTF for sure
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Newcastle16
Elmmu
cinnamonswirl TTC#? cycle? UCL 23-30 CD23
Spottysox waiting for MC scan 18/3
HappyGirl1

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010

Gi1da · 16/03/2010 13:22

Hi Sox, I'd just worry about you right now rather than the next TTC plan. If you start to mc naturally then they will probably scan you afterwards to make sure everything is clear, and may also do a couple of blood tests to make sure your hormones are settling back. My bleeding began on the Saturday night, then the natural MC was on Sunday afternoon. I didn't have time to wait for an ERPC as it all happened really quick (and over a weekend, which is not great with the NHS).

Re ttc, just see how you feel, I think it seems to be ok to just go for it if you feel up to it straight away, the docs will tell you to wait a cycle so they can get dates easier (paperwork!) but you might want to give yourself a little time to recover, I know it seems like time is passing but you might feel like giving yourself a break - mentally and physically, to get your mojo back! I wanted to get pg straight away but fate stepped in with a snotty (v unsexy) cold this month, probably a good thing as I am feeling a lot stronger now than I was a fortnight ago when I think I ov.

Hope you are ok.

And LOL at Hussy cat!

AlbaDeTamble · 16/03/2010 13:24

hello all... nice to know it's not just me who's busy obsessing doing my research on TTC... I have a Zita West book, and tons of googling...

Pollyanna, every other day should be enough according to most sources, some say everyday better at fertile time, but that's provided that your DH has a reasonably high sperm count (they can get a little depleted if too much action too often every other day supposed to be better to get them at peak potency!). Who knows just try as much as you're comfortable with and all should work out fine, if not this month, then next or the one after. That's what I'm telling myself, and occasionally, just occasionally, I believe it

Oh, and I also read not enough isn't great either, the little swimmers get a bit stale if you don't make room for new ones every few days... this from the Zita West book -- she says you need to make sure to have enough swoi at non-fertile times for this reason, and also to remember that it is fun, not just duty...

So it's all a case of a happy medium...

I am so confused this month -- OPK sticks all still stubbornly negative, so maybe no chance for me... but will keep on trying in case it's a bad batch and they're just wrong.

Spottysox, it's so horrible waiting for ERPC or things to happen naturally for me it all started full-on the morning I was booked for surgery. A lot of pain and a lot of blood (sorry if tmi, but I know most of us found it helpful knowing what to expect) and the consultant said absolutely to go ahead with the op as that can continue for some time. I was 11 weeks not sure how far along you were, I imagine at different stages it's a different story, so this may not be helpful. The miscarriage association says either way there's really no difference, though it seems from anecdotal evidence of posts on here, it's often quicker to get started again after ERPC than natural, but really depends what you feel most comfortable with and that's different for everyone. I wanted to start again as soon as possible, tried, but then shortly afterwards realised it was all too much too soon and better to wait for one first. Be kind to yourself, it's a really horrible emotional rollercoaster to go through. And we all relate to your wanting a baby NOW -- it feels like it's all I think about.

Unbuffy the image of that cartoon has made me chuckle... that could so well be most of us!!

liahgen I'll have all the chocolate ones please! Can't believe no-one else took them! Yummy -- but can I have a few of the calories please... still a bit on the light side (I know, I'm odd, am I the only one here who lost weight whilst pg...?)

northlondonchoclover, RunForTheHills, yogamat, sunburntats, NoShouting, Slimyak, Gi1da, Tigerbear and Allthe8s all at the top of the list and CD past UCL... need some BFPs to inspire us all... anyone?

waves to everyone else

Unbuffy · 16/03/2010 13:40

I lost weight while I was pg too, Alba. Was very very sick for the whoooole time, and could eat very very little. Then after erpc (nearly 24 hours nil by mouth - eeek! And with my blood suger!) my stomach could barely cope with anything at all having shrunk to a teeny tiny size!

BUT I've made up for it comfort eating in the last couple of months and have felt low and pathetic so not so much exercise as usual (pathetic and weak emoticon ) so I'm on the low-cal as well. Although they never taste as good - have a chocolate brownie full of butter and sugar and 85% Green&Blacks
mmmmmmmmm

Gi1da · 16/03/2010 13:48

They seek him here, they seek him there, that damned elusive red tide! No news here and no point poas I'm afraid, no pre-period symptoms either... I'm stuck in limbo land!

Has first post mc acupuncture session today (have been going for about a year), which was great and I feel much more positive. It's a beautiful spring day, and I WILL be healthily pregnant again very soon. Wishing positive vibes to you all!

And PS - I think my OH would have a fit if he saw me sat in bed reading about CM!! Hmmm still thinking about how to get Hippy's "really bringing home the importance of good quality slippery CM" sentence into a conversation.

Tightie whities was easy, I was presenting on organic cotton so I had a final slide of sexy chaps in pants and finished on my call to action: Keep toxins out of your tightie-whities, keep pesticides out of your pants - choose organic! Got a laugh anyway.

Gi1da · 16/03/2010 13:51

Hmm I still need to shift a few pounds, after pg, mc, comfort. I'm kidding myself it will all magically fall off after the first RTD? I'm right yes? Correct answer is "Yes you are. Absolutely".

[hmmm]

AlbaDeTamble · 16/03/2010 14:15

mmmm 85% green and blacks choc brownie, just what I needed! Thanks unbuffy -- as for the permanent exhaustion, I have found iron supplements helped a lot. And of course red wine is a good iron source too...

Gi1da, you're absolutely right -- we'll all get back to normal when our hormones get back to normal

Looking forward to hearing how you use the CM quote...

Unbuffy · 16/03/2010 14:26

Would love to take iron supplements, but they have, erm, unfortunate side effects and me piles are playing up (lurvely spot of tmi there). I've been eating piles of spinach instead - just call me Popeye the Sailor Man!

No rude comments about seamen neccessary, ladies.

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