Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

[liahgen66]

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

did one this morning viv a very definate BFN, stupid bloody technology.

The baby doesn't start sharing your bloodstream until week 6, so until then the wine isn't going to impact on development. Drink away, but stay off the litres of vodka.

Muser - thanks for that info..that has put my mind at rest.. and made me feel better about the MC. I know it wasnt my fault - but at the same time you still find yourself wondering..

Yeah, I can echo that - I'd drunk quite a bit before I realised I was pregnant, and my GP said it wasn't anything to worry about - she actually also said the evidence that it causes problems is only really there when people are binge drinking (I'm sure she said something like 8 units a day - I'd be frickin dead if I ever drank that much in a day).

I'm obviously not suggesting drinking during pregnancy - would always follow the medical advice not to do this! - just saying that don't worry if you've accidently been drinking in the first few weeks.

(GLB quietly slips away hoping she doesn't sound like an irresponsible loon suggesting people drink during pregnancy).

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I don't feel like I've been normal for so long, I can't remember what it was like to get PMT. My last AF I seemed to get bad cramps for over a week before it arrived, but that was my first AF post ERPC.

I'm sure that before I ever got pregnant I only used to get cramps in the day immediately before AF arrived. But now I feel achey and it's still six days away. I feel like I'm being punished!!

Or it could be all the sit ups I was doing yesterday. Ah.

Don't think I was ever aware of every twinge and niggle as I am now. Pregnancy and miscarriage have turned me into an obsessive.

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Oh tra la la ... dumpty dumpty dum ... Hmmm hmmm harummph ...

Oh for god sake what is all this frigging waiting about? There I was happily just trundling along, then thought hmm my period is late... From that moment it's been nothing but anxiously willing time to pass. Firstly for each week milestone and wanting to get further along so it would be safe. Then it goes tits up now I just want my goddamn period so I can start all over again. Aaarrrghhhh!!

Can I run around the thread for a while kicking things? Till I slump over one of the tables weeping and start necking gin from the bottle. Oh Christ, and cover that up Waiter!

How are you supposed to stay sane?

Hi Gilda I felt the same, it seems like a long wait until the 1st period. Though looking back is doesn't seem as long since the MMC.

You just have one more week to go. How have you been physically?

slimyak and viv - have SO been there. It's madness isn't it....

hello/welcome newcastle and pumpkin and mummy369 and who have I missed - blimey it's busy on here...

Tarra for now tetley but see you soon and don't be a stranger...

liah sorry about BFN - arsicles.

TMI alert..... Had probably one of my least fave days on the planet. WAS planning to visit baby lambs on a friend's farm. INSTEAD started at 4am with some ominous cramping which I tried to ignore, and did until 6... Then had 5 hours of frightening blood loss. HORRIFIC. I rotated from loo to shower to bath. Unpleasant in the extreme. Not sure it's all over either. Hats off to the au naturale brigade but give me surgery every time... .

Oh and Gi1da? Sanity and TTC? Mutually exclusive....

Hello to all - Just to say despite the Nurofen Plus my vino is DEFINITELY not virtual ce soir la.... neither is the gruyere..... x

Hmmm. Apart from the bout of good ol' fashioned shake n bake 'flu, a cough which feels like trying to expel a badger from my throat and a wisdom tooth flirting with the idea of rearranging my jaw, I'm on top of the world. Although there may have been some clues there as to why there's not been much SWI going on! Guess my immune system took some time off after the mc, so doors were open to all sorts of crap! Am slowly on the mend now, and hopefully will cease whining soon.

Hmmm wonder if this is early PMT?

Sorry, how very rude of me. Bunnybaby, how you doin?

Jollster I'm so sorry to hear about your day -- I can relate but only a little, had a few hours of au naturel the morning I was booked in for surgery. As much as I was upset I was also desperate for them to knock me out and get it all over with. If it carries on, get yourself to A&E, they can't ignore you with heavy blood loss. The consultant told me, before they wheeled me off to theatre, that with a MMC at 11 weeks, the cramping and blood loss can go on for up to two weeks . I think it's really dreadful that they make people wait for this to happen, when it's a 10 minute surgery and you're only in hospital a few hours.

I do hope you're well stocked up on the nurofen and co-codamol combo. Thinking of you and hoping it doesn't get any worse.

Shit Jollster. Hope the worst is done. I went through that and it's a fucking bloodbath. Have you got someone at home looking after you? Keep warm and oh I don't know, just take it really easy. X

thanks Gi1da and Alba - DP was home today, though he did say twice "do you think I'll need to be here all day" . And he's "got" to go in tomorrow... So me and the wonderboy will be fine. Have 5 cats who are always very useful in a crisis .

Bloodbath? You're not wrong. OMFG. Am now watching Katie Price for total dayfuckery...

Jollster that's shit, I can't believe you have to go through that because of poor health care. I never realised how lucky I was at the time to be given options and to be able to decide myself. Look after yourself.

Hello to new faces and chin up to those with the bfns. Keep hope until AF arrives.

I think I might actually be ovulating -- at day 44 or whatever it is. AT LAST! Second line on opk still not as dark as the top one but not a kick in the arse off it and has been so for last 3 days. Also getting that stich like pain in abdomen so here I go (Ihope)......

Hippy - I reckon as long as the 2nd line is nearly there that will do. I used these OPKs before but can't mind if I ever got a line as dark as the first.

Malteser, well done on getting through work. You're made of strong stuff.

Jollster lol at cats in a crisis...

Can I has lap now? Now? NOW?

Hi Jollster hope you're feeling better. I had a lot of blood loss, hope it has eased off now. As others say take yourself down to A&E if too much.

I also have battered immune system, so glad to know it's not just me coughing, vomiting and feeling really tired (not all at same time mind you).

Off to Centerparcs tomorrow for a long weekend which will be nice. Have told DH he can take DS down all slides as don't want lots of chlorinated water shoved 'in there' at my most fertile time .

Although have to say last two days tummy bug has really helped my diet effort and I'm heading below 13 stone now, thanks goodness, though I am nearly 6 foot.

Girls sorry for the late message but DH and I are so confused as to what to do.. Do we start trying again next week? I MC last week so in theory will ovulate some time from mid nxt wk but who knows when. Just dont know if thats risky to try before first period or if its ok as Ive read we are at our most fertile after MC. So so scared.

Eeek! Have just read the posts regarding bloodbaths which is just what my post is about... I went in for my 12 wk scan on Monday to learn that there was no heartbeat. Seems we lost the baby at 8 weeks. I was given the option of surgery the following day but decided to sit it out and made a booking for Monday of next week for the EPRC. There's a bit of family history regarding general anaesthetics so I wanted to avoid it if possible.

Psychologically, I feel okay about the m/c. I am really lucky to have two lovely dcs already and we feel quite philosophical about the fact that this embryo just wasn't going to make the grade. I've had my tears and I certainly have a sense of loss and disappointment but I'm not wrestling with challenging emotions at this point. I hope that doesn't sound heartless - I'm an absolute softy and I recognise the emotional agony that many women go through following a m/c.

My question is: What should I expect physically? I had a "show" a few hours ago which was a bit streaky and I'm now cramping a little bit and have achy legs. I'm also feeling a bit sick. I suppose I'm just really scared of the unknown. I'm expecting rivers of blood, unbelievable pain and enormous globules of matter. If that is the case, how do you recommend I deal with it? - do I just sit on the loo for hours on end? (dh has set up the laptop in the bathroom so that I can watch endless dvds to take my mind off it) - or is it better to bulk out my knickers with maternity pads and take to my bed? Would you recommend I take any supplements (vits or iron)? How long might I need to take off work?

Any gentle advice would be really appreciated. Many thanks.

Maitri, sorry to hear you're in this boat. Just to give you an idea of what might happen.
I moved around quite a bit when it was all happening, loo to sofa and back repeatedly with some pacing. Hurt less when moving. Worst bit was intense and lasted about an hour I think, though all a bit of a blur now. Most of that in bathroom. Yuk. Flush often, don't look was my policy. Mc lasted several hours (then period like for a week). It is horrid, but you get through it. Recommend having some blankets to huddle in, and can take to bathroom. Top banana if you have painkillers, I stupidly didn't even have aspirin in the house, or sanitary pads - doh! Also had sent DH away cos I thought mc had already happened, had been bleeding since the previous evening, then spent a few hours at a&e next morning. Total ignorance on my part, thanks for that NHS! Having company about is good to make sure you are ok, hand hold, make tea etc.

It's shite, but it will be over soon enough and then you can move on. Sending you a big un-mnnet hug. (())

Ps took a week off work which was an absolute nec just to have time to think, rest etc. Also allows time for follow up blood tests to monitor hormone levels at hospital. Recommend Iron / vitamin supplement, I didn't and promptly got a bloody cold. Just be really kind to yourself and take it easy. And it's an emotional roller coaster too so be kind to yourself. And come here often as it really helps for support. Best of luck. Sorry brain a bit scrambled, way past my bed time and head not on straight. Hope info helps and is not scary.

Maitri so sorry you find yourself going through this. My MC was much earlier, but I think some unpleasant cramps are par for the course. How bad they are depends entirely on your personal circumstances, but please don't hesitate to take decent painkillers (there are some you can combine like, I think, ibuprofen and paracetamol). There's no point enduring anything unnecessarily.

Theoretically AF is due tomorrow. I am manfully resisting testing (mainly because we're incredibly poor and trying to save money to move house in a month), but I have NO symptoms whatsoever, and I had symptoms for both my other pregnancies by this stage, so i doubt it's going to be BFP for me this month somehow.

Morning all, jollster hope your ok hunni, sounds like you've had rough time. Thought the cats comment was awesome

Hi to the newbies, sorry you have found yourself here. newcastle you do what you think is right, I was lucky and stopped bleeding pretty quickly and was back to swi about 9/10 days after. More to feel close than ttc really.

That said still no AF so far today I have seen from other posts you can wait a while so I'm hanging out.

FRIDAY at last, have to say I certainly looking forward to the weekend.

Love to all xxx

Jollster and Maitri, thinking of you both and hope you had restful nights.

Positive thoughts to those at the top of the list. I hope your advice to MrsR is right for you too Viv! LittleMiss, fingers crossed. I think we had our ERPCs on the same day and my first AF nearly over now. I think there's a good chance you're pg not late . moofold, great news on opks! Liah, still fx for you despite bfns...

thanks littlemiss and bunnybaby. Maitri it may be all over by now for you. Hope it is. Am going to take some Spatone (iron supp) myself to get back on track. Actually the worst bit for me was not knowing whether it was going to get worse... fear of unknown I guess. Am due to EPU today anyway to repeat my bloods (their cock-up) so will see if they can scan me. Despite much "loss" yesterday, I'm not convinced it's over. Whilst I didn't analyse every single emission I thought I'd be more aware of expelling a nine week size?

Morning everyone. Any BFPs for the weekend? x

Christ Jollster, sounds as though you had a right day of it. Sending you lots of love today.

And hi Maitri - I'm afraid I can't offer any advice as with my mmc, I opted for the ERPC. However, as you can see, there are lots of lovely ladies here who can help. Hope you and your DH are doing okay.

As for me - slight smudge of blood this morning so think AF will show on time tomorrow. And there me was wondering whether my lack of spotting was a good sign.

To be honest, rather than being sad, I'm frankly fucking furious about it (how DARE I not be pregnant!), which has mothballed into me having imaginary conversations in my head about what I'll say next time my SIL asks me if I have 'any news'.

Not the best start to the weekend...