TTC after a Miscarriage - A Fresh New Start

[Diddle]

Here we go, another new thread for us to fill with our highs and lows.

Lets start off with a good dusting of babydust, think all the rest we had has washed off in the rain

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Have decided to flog af on Ebay! Surely someone would have her? Wonder how much I'd get

morning hk - BFN again, but still no AF 4th day late now. not testing until Thursday at least, honest

Aww sorry hun! Wonder where she is? So strange that you're so late.

not sure where she has got to, wish she'd hurry up or i'd get a positive result. Keep rushing to the loo just to check. very annoying. something will happen soon, one way or the other.

I hope so for your sake. god must be sooo frustrating!

yep, fed up of seeing those "not pregnant"'s keep popping up on the screen, bit depressing, giving up now. If AF hasn't come in the next few days then i'll test again. very weird for me to be this late.
maybe she's delayed, she took a whiel to come to you didn't she?

I'm really impressed you're giving up smoking, it won't be easy, but will be good that you can both support one another. well done

Awww thankyou hun.
It's going to be alot easier both of us doing it at the same time.
Mine took ages to come but this was the first one since the mc, with all that mucking around with more d&c's etc, it really messed it up.

Morning, you two are up early, aren't you?

Diddle - you must be going crazy with the wait to see. As you say, you'll find out one way or the other soon. My line is REALLY faint still - maybe you could restrict fluid intake night before and test first thing to see if it picks anything up? Or maybe you're such an expert tester you've tried that already. Seems so unlike you to be this late, I'm still holding out hope!

HK - can't believe AF's back already. Nightmare - I had similar second month after my m/c - started, stopped and started again 2 weeks later. As you say it just screws thing up a bit doesn't it. Hope it settles down soon and doesn't last too long this time.

Have a good day, I'm sitting here at work today feeling hard done by because my parents have taken the grandchildren to the seaside. Didn't invite me!

Thanks Mad!
How inconsiderate! . How they have a lovely day! yep annoying this af lark! I'll be so glad when it sorts itself out but think it's just the endo that's got worse so after this next pg (positive thinking!) I'm going to ask for more laser surgery to see if they can get rid of all of it or at least some.

Grrr - got delayed at work last night, and by the time I did get to go home, AF had decided to invite herself to the party.

Dh had bought me roses (first time he's ever done that) and cooked dinner, but with AF trying to make a threesome of it of course that scuppered anything else. And it looks like I've burned my boats for this month too, by getting upset about AF, and failing yet again, leading to dh kicking me out so I slept downstairs in a chair.

After years (literally) of this ttc lark I know only too well that if I let the disappointment get the better of me he'll get all resentful of me showing any emotion and ensure no bd'ing at the appropriate time for the next cycle too. Somehow he seems to think that ensuring there's no hope is better than another disappointment.

HK I have endo too, fortunately it's never really affected me much and I had laparoscopy before conceiving dd so don't know whether it would have caused conception problems had it still been there. I was really lucky to have medical cover when I was diagnosed as I just went in and they did diagnosis and laser removal at same time. Friend now going through same on NHS (and her's is really bad, has had pain and heavy afs for years and ttc problems) has had laparoscopy for diagnosis but they wouldn't do treatment in same op. How inefficient is that?

Despite the rumour that pg fixes it, mine has got worse since dd's arrival.

It's one of those conditions that you can't help thinking, if it wasn't just women that got it, the treatment would be so much better .

Congrats to Madrush and good luck to the rest of us!
Got AF on June 6th so have just started bding.Have no idea of my cycle really as was on the pill and got pregnant right away last time before the m/c so I'm assuming a 28 day cycle and will just bd a bit before and after those dates...
Am at work but terribly preoccupied with this getting pregnant malarkey.
LOL at mil's. Mine is actually mostly very nice tho she did tell me yesterday that she's having an op to cure her stress incontinence.....

Lunarsea, posts crossed. So sorry about AF and DH. My DH finds the emotional/obsessive side of it all hard to bear too - I think they just don't want to see us getting so worked up and upset.

Maybe you can buy him roses tonight and start seduction routine for 2 weeks time?

Really for you, hope you can repair the situation in time for next month.

Lunarsea,
Hope you have a better day today.

Please don't tell me you really slept in a chair last night lunasea! You're allowed to get upset when af comes. I've learnt not to talk too much about any of it cause I think dh thinks I'm a bit obsessed, but I think chair sleeping is a bit harsh, you give that dh of yours a stiff talking to!

strike1 - I did. (Not quite as bad as it sounds as we have a very comfortable recliner chair which it's easy to fall asleep in even when you don't want to!) I think we need a crying emoticon....[cry]

And a sympathy emoticon! I agree with madrush, see if you can't smooth things over and begin next months seduction routine now! I'm running out of ideas cause i think dh thinks I've been oving since last week, so, with his limited knowledge of the female reproductive system, he now thinks I might be a bit of a freak, as I said last night might be the night...or maybe wednesday....or the weekend....but it could have been last week.....!!!

lunarsea - i am in total , how horrible that you spent the night in a chair, even if it was a posh comfy one.
Surely Dh can see how upsetting this is. Have you tried explaining to him just how you feel? and forcing him to talk about how he feels too. Its worth a try. I hope he comes back from work with his tail between his legs tonight.
You poor thing. have a good cry, let it all out, it always makes me feel better.
thinking of you.
p.s. sorry about af, it is gutting isn't it, especially when you've got your hopes up. Our times will come, our bodies obviously aren't quite ready to grow anything just yet, and it is will be much better when they are ready, and WILL hold onto them for 9 months

madrush - had not thought about limiting my drink before bedtime, good plan will try it.

spub - have fun bd, its the best bit

Am having fun so far!
Can't decide whether to bd tonight or not or to wait and bd in morning and at night on
Weds (as I think that's O day... must keep checking the CM!!!)
My dd is watching Finding Nemo a lot at the moment and dh and I have also adopted Dory's little song, "Just keep swimming" but for different reasons!
Spent some time on Sat with a friend who is finally about to have her 2nd baby after countless m/c's, ectopics and IVF over the past 5 years. Made me so proud of her. Sometimes we just have to keep on going even when it's not easy and she has made me feel that there is always a chance.
Hope all of the testers get what they want and all of the bd'ers get what they need!!!

I'm with you Spub. I think I oved yesterday so bding went as planned last night, but I don't know if we should have another try tonight or wait till wednesday! Tough choices

Sorry that you have no joy either way with af diddle. And yours won't go Hellkat! Good luck with the smoking thing btw. I gave up last year, although I was just a social smoker, I think it made it harder to break the association. My Dad used to be a very heavy smoker and said, just stopping is the only way. Half way through one is best! He says it's not the physical addiction but the mental one is the hardest thing, so change some of the things that you do while you smoke. Coffee, drink, pubs, gardens. Do different things. Good luck with it and feel free to vent any frustrations on us!

Strike,
I know and I just want to get pregnant whereas DH (god love him) also wants another baby and doesn't really care what it is as long as it gets to us safely and is ok however he has mentioned something about us being more likely to have a ds if we only bd at ovulation rather than go for the "scattergun" (ooer) approach....

Hiya all.
Strike- Thankyou for the encouragement too! (thinking about renaming this thread "Kat's support network"). Good idea about stopping half way through aswell!
Mad- You'd be surprised how common endo is!
I've had it from day one and my longest af to date was 18 mths! I've did suffer with fertility problems but for some reason, with dp, it takes a matter of weeks before I become pg . Mine got worse too after ds2(had first af withing 2 wks of having him) and it's getting progressively worse.
Lunarsea- Oh my god!What a horrid night! Hun I'm so sorry! Think you deserve some serious grovelling from him or at least lots of bding when af's gone .
How's everyone else today?
Having a pants day so far i must admit. Went to the dr's to get a breast lump checked (been there for 2 mths and I was hoping it would go but got bigger instead). He said it looked "Significant" and got onto the breast clinic straightaway. They've got me an appt for Monday morning! Quick or what? Not looking forward to it though because it looks like I'll have a needle biopsy. I did make him laugh though when i said "I pick my weeks to give up smoking eh?". Typical is'nt it? Swear someone "upstairs" has decided, right she's going to give up, lets make it as hard as poss .
God I've typed an essay!
Here's to everyone enjoying a nice, sunny, cooler day.

Lunarsea - sounds like your DH needs a good heart to heart with you (either that or a kick up the @rse ).

Hellkat - hope all is well with the lump - scary times.

Just popping on quickly to let you know that I had my 12 week scan today (at 11+5), and all is fine .

thats great tabs, looking good for you, lets hope we'll all be joining you soon.

Hellkat - fingers crossed for your lump. I had one a few years ago and i was soooo worried but it was just tissue, could be nothing.

xxx