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TTC whilst breastfeeding support thread - join me to share your ups and downs!

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smallblackflowers · 11/01/2010 21:23

Hi!
A little about me - I'm pushing 34, have a 10 month old DD that I'm still breastfeeding and really want to conceive no.2 asap!
I am on my second cycle since AF returned and am temp / CM / CP charting using fertility friend and have OPKs!
I ovulated on day 29 of my last cycle, and am on day 21 at the moment.
Have been having fun and games with very fertile signs over the past week, so lots of BD, but no ovulation, poor DH is full of a cold and not feeling very energetic but I keep insisting that he perform until my temps go up

So anyway - hoping that there are others out there in a similar boat who can help to keep me sane and hopefully share some good news in the coming months.

OP posts:
LadyGoneGaga · 07/12/2010 08:18

Congratulations Xmas Grin. An August baby then?

Hulla · 07/12/2010 09:47

Congratulations Kate!! That's fantastic! Another summer baby Smile

How are you feeling?

Mamafoof · 07/12/2010 09:51

LOK!!!! Wahooooo!! Grin Grin

So happy for you!! And thanks for the early post Wink So do you have any tips for us?? Do let us know! And hope you'll stick around on this thread to let us know how you are doing!

Hi Hulla - been thinking of you. How did your scan go? You feeling ok? xx

Mamafoof · 07/12/2010 09:58

Sorry LadyGoneGaga - I missed your post. Sorry you are feeling rubbish - but I agree that it's def a good sign and try not to be too tense this week (easier said I know) but each and every pregnancy is completely different. Hope the next 13 days whizz past for you.

Not to sure to wait for one or two AFs before we try again. If we wait for one AF, and assuming my body goes back to normal so all speculative at the moment, I will be on hols when ov occurs and then have a hen weekend the weekend after so not sure if that's a good time. But then when is? Not sure I'll be able to wait for two AFs though and starting to feel a bit more optimistic about everything (subject to some down and frustrating moments).

xx

Hulla · 07/12/2010 10:37

Scan confirmed the mmc mama I'm booked for erpc tomorrow. I'll be glad to stop having to think about it, well, to out it behind me at least.

Mamafoof · 07/12/2010 10:41

So sorry Hulla. I hope that you're being looked after and that you are being extra kind to yourself. Yes, once it's over - you can look to the future. ((((hugs))))

LadyGoneGaga · 07/12/2010 11:12

Hugs Hulla. Will be thinking of you.

Mamafoof I wouldn't wait if I were you. Would be lovely time to conceive on holiday. And the baby won't get any alcohol if you do conceive as it won't be tapped into the blood supply yet! But totally up to you.

Mamafoof · 07/12/2010 12:02

Thanks LadyGoneGaga - like you're thinking. I guess I keep thinking I may as well try if I'm ready? Let's see - haven't even got my first AF yet - hope things go back to normal soon.

MandaHugNKiss · 07/12/2010 17:13

LOK Yay for the good news! Like I said, a line's a line! Many congrats to you.

Hulla and Mama So sorry about your losses. I don't wanna try and make this All About Me but this last month at 9DPO I started spotting and felt pregnant. But by 11DPO those feeling vanished and at 12DPO I had the faintest of faint lines on both a FRER and IC but so ridiculously faint they weren't there to a 'rational' person (although my 15yo daughter confirmed she could see it). 13/14 dpo tests utterly negative. I came on 'on time'. So, a chemical, I guess. And I can't seem to get it out of my head (albeit it's only been a few days). I guess what I am really saying is I hope you're kind to yourselves and are at peace soon. Mama I don'tthink I would wait - but we're all different. I read that many women are extra fertile the month following a mc as yourbody is already 'in the zone' as it were. Either way I'm rooting for you when you do go ahead!

DitaVonCheese · 07/12/2010 23:09

Oh dear, do I talk about poo too much? Blush It's the way I was brought up (my dad is a GP with a specialism in gastroenterology) Blush

Hello all, sorry for disappearing Blush I am well-ish, had a stomach bug/food poisoning over the weekend so spent most of Sunday in bed feeling terrible and now really worried that DD is going to get it if it was a bug (nothing worse than being woken up by someone puking on you) - she's okay so far so grateful yet again that we're still bfing.

Hulla, so sorry that your mmc was confirmed yesterday. I was thinking of you and hoping for a miracle. Hope you and Mama are both okay, or as okay as can be expected. Lots of love to both of you.

Wave to LadyGG - good luck for your scan. Understand you being nervous this week, sending you lots of love and luck.

And yay yay yay Kate Grin So happy for you x

LifeOfKate · 08/12/2010 12:09

Thanks all :o

LadyGG - yes, August, I have just posted on the August thread in Antenatal, nice to see you there :) Thought it would be a bit weird for others if I waved to you though, so I'll do my waving here :o Good luck for your scan, it's so nervewracking, I really hate this initial waiting part, it's very stressful.

Hulla - So so sorry about the confirmation from the scan :( Hope your ILs/mother aren't causing you too much stress. Take care of yourself xx

Mamafoof - I think in your position I would try anyway, I don't think I would be able to get past the 'what if this is my month?' feelings, IYSWIM. No tips, I'm afraid, other than have a holiday in Norway without your DH just before ovulation (seriously, this is exactly what happened with DS and now this pregnancy) Confused Shock.

Dita - hope everything's going well apart from the stomach bug :)

Good luck everyone :)

pookamoo · 08/12/2010 14:14

Congrats LOK!

I am suoposed to be ovulating in the next couple of days, so fingers crossed! We would find out at Christmas, so it could be a great present!

hulla Hope you're ok. x

Mamafoof · 08/12/2010 14:36

Thanks Manda. I am going to wait for my first af and then try. Did think about trying before af but think I have missed my OV date now so no point trying and getting an unnecessary bfn. Sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancies. A loss is still a loss no matter when it occurred so it is very difficult. Just hoping I get my AF soon!!

Sorry to hear you were unwell Dita. Am sure the magic of breastfeeding will hopefully keep your virus away from your DD - fingers crossed she stays well and you get well soon too!

Thanks LOK - hmmm, have always wanted to go to Norway........! Actually, we have a holiday booked in Jan and I may be ovulating then, all going well so will have some fun there instead!

Good luck pookamoo!!

silkenladder · 08/12/2010 15:42

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't posted in the last few days, have been lurking one-handed on phone at mealtimes.

Congratulations, LOK Grin Hope next summer isn't too hot for you (and Dita and LadyGG of course)!

Hulla sorry to hear that your bad news was confirmed. Hope the ERPC went smoothly and that you are being looked after by family and friends.

Manda sorry to hear about your cp. Hope you have better luck next month. I assume you're not still bfing your 15yo, so are you trying for #3? Or do you have even more?

Dita Your references to constipation struck a chord with me as it was the first symptom I had when pregnant with DD, before I even knew. I wasn't trying to imply you were obsessed by poo Blush

Can hear PIL bringing DD up the stairs, so will post and run...

MandaHugNKiss · 08/12/2010 18:16

You're in my thoughts today hulla.

Good luck catching that egg pooka!

B;urgh on you having a bug Dita but yay DD doesn't have it too! One of the numerous bf benefits...

But benefits or no, you're correct in thinking I'm not still bf'ing my 15yo DD, silken! I've heard of extended bf'ing, but that's surely a decade too far?!

To answer your question, this will be DC4. DD and DS1 (12yo) are from my marriage which ended over four years ago. DS2 (9 months in three days... where IS the time flying to?) is my 'new' relationship, just over two years together although known each other well for around 13 years.

Realised that if the agnus castus doesn't kick in straight away and bring my O forward this month then I can expect to O either 24th or 25th. Neither are prime days, really, partcularly as we are spending christmas in New York and will have DP's 13yo daughter wth us (my elder two will be with their dad this year). We have a suite, so some alone time may be possible, but not really ideal.

So COME ON agnus castus! DO YOUR STUFF! Because around friday the 17th suits me MUCH better, thanks. Smile

Sheesh, just five days into official ttc and I've lost it already.

Hulla · 08/12/2010 19:57

Quickie update as I am overwhelmed by ms. Went in for erpc today. Theatre was busy all day and one of the gynaes had called in sick so by 4.30pm they started talking about putting me on a drip for dehydration. Then it was "it might be early hours of tomorrow before we can operate".

As desperate as I am to have this op I can't leave DD overnight, we cosleep, she still feeds, she wouldn't understand and would be quite distressed.

So back tomorrow at 7am. Feel miserable. Will post less selfishly when I'm home again x

DitaVonCheese · 08/12/2010 22:58

Hulla :( I think you can be as selfish as you want right now. Hope tomorrow goes okay x

LifeOfKate · 09/12/2010 08:44

There is no such thing as selfish posting here, Hulla. You definitely did the right thing for your DD. Thinking of you today, take care xxx

pookamoo · 09/12/2010 09:19

Oh Hulla, poor you Sad

I think you definitely did the right thing for your DD, so not selfish at all!

This is one of the (many) reasons that TTC is so hard while bfing - as well as the things our bodies are doing, we still have another LO to look out for!

Mamafoof · 09/12/2010 11:20

oh Hulla - thinking of you today honey. Hope you are being well looked after and you have all the support you need. It's ok to feel whatever you're feeling - take your time and hope you feel better soon. lots and lots of ((((((hugs)))))). Sad

MandaHugNKiss · 09/12/2010 11:44

hulla unmumsnetty hugs for you. Absolutely the right decision. Crap that the nhs wobbles now and then resulting in your more difficulties for you but hopefully it will go ahead today. I was hospitalised a few times when pregnant with both DS and DS2 - I wasn't breastfeeding DD when in hospital for DS but I do worry about DS2 if it comes to it this time (look at me assuming I'm going to fall pregnant whilst still feeding him... uh, nothing wrong with pma, right?!). And don't worry about 'selfish' posting. What is a support thread for if not to support you when things are rough?! It can't be flowers and sweetness all the time, so you just vent and get it all out.

As for me, some cheap ebay opk's I ordered arrived today. I've never used an opk before but there are 15 so even if I screw it up it shouldn't matter too much. Annnd, doubly exhausted as DS2 is FULL of cold, now coughing too, and when I woke today my throat was sore so I think he's kindly shared his germs my way. What a sweetheart!

Hope everyone else is ok.

QueenFee · 09/12/2010 13:11

Hello all.
Sorry I haven't been posting, this thread will no longer load up on my phone it's so long and that's when I do all my mning when feeding DS!

Hulla, so sorry for your loss. Give yourself time and don't worry about selfish posts it helps to get it off your chest.

LOK congrats! Grin

I was really hoping for another August baby but I guess that is not going to happen now Sad

Welcome Manda :)

Feeling a bit rubbish about it all tbh as it's nearly christmas and that will be the anniversary of me ttc. DS is feeding more than ever especially at night. I really didn't want to have to wean him to get AF to return but it's looking increasingly more likely that he will have to be completely weaned before I start ovulating again.
I think I may start with Angus thingymagiggy and see if that helps. We have started night weaning too but he really doesn't like going to sllep without a boob in his mouth Grin and i'm a big softy!

Heres hoping for a change of luck as DH has just been made redundant again for the 3rd time this year.

Hulla · 10/12/2010 10:01

Quick post (again - sorry). Erpc went well I think. Very little pain or bleeding. I woke up very upset but I think I expected that.

I was in theatre for 9.15 and home by 2.30pm after asking to leave (the dh visiting the woman opposite wouldn't shut up whilst I was trying to sleep, he kept taking calls, dragging his chair across the bloody floor and reading stupid newspaper articles to his disinterested wife).

Developed pins and needles in my legs when I got home which passed but then at 10pm I got them in my calves, and my left arm. Called the ward who arsely told me to go back. They put me in one of those crappy visitor rooms with the fake plants and uncomfy seats until midnight.

Junior doctor eventually turned up and said they probably squashed some nerves when moving me in my sleep on theatre, told me to go to GP if it goes on longer than 3 weeks and if it gets worse go to A&E because it's not a gynae problem. I did ask if I should go to A&E when I called but they said no, I'd only be sent to them anyway.

So today I have pins and needles in my hands and feet, wondering what to do.

Back to erpc, I was quite emotional afterwards. The nurse told me they take the remains to the crematorium near when we live and have a baby garden that we can visit anytime. I found that upsetting and comforting at the same time. There was not foetal pole at the2nd scan so I suppose I had no baby as such but it's comforting to have somewhere that the baby that would have been will be remembered.

DH seems to be passed the caring stage now, like I should be up and over it. He's quite thoughtless at times. So we're all my mums where she's looking after me.

Sorry - not that quick! Hope you're all doing well xx

Hulla · 10/12/2010 10:03

Sorry for crap grammar & spelling!

LadyGoneGaga · 10/12/2010 11:06

I'm glad you got through it, Hulla. Hope the pins and needles will ease soon as is not what you need. Hopefully your Mum is taking care of you - blokes can be a bit rubbish where this stuff is concerned.

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