TTC whilst breastfeeding support thread - join me to share your ups and downs!

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Hi!
A little about me - I'm pushing 34, have a 10 month old DD that I'm still breastfeeding and really want to conceive no.2 asap!
I am on my second cycle since AF returned and am temp / CM / CP charting using fertility friend and have OPKs!
I ovulated on day 29 of my last cycle, and am on day 21 at the moment.
Have been having fun and games with very fertile signs over the past week, so lots of BD, but no ovulation, poor DH is full of a cold and not feeling very energetic but I keep insisting that he perform until my temps go up

So anyway - hoping that there are others out there in a similar boat who can help to keep me sane and hopefully share some good news in the coming months.

I'm fine thanks. Have a private scan booked but not til two weeks on Monday. Had a dream I started bleeding last night so clearly still very anxious. Just have to hope it is a sticky one this time. Have to say the pregnancies feel completely different (feel much worse this time and more like when was pg with DS) so am bit more hopeful now.

Hope you're ok in the snow.

Oh Hulla you are having a bad time of it at the moment. Sending you big hugs.

Kate my implantation bleed lasted six days and was exactly like the start of my period, only it never came on properly. Don't give up hope if it persists for a few days.

Mama I'm on CD14 and have very very light spotting. Am wondering whether it could be an ovulation bleed, or whether I've just scratched myself with all the rummaging for CF and CP (sorry tmi ) Hopefully I'll have a massive temp spike tomorrow and will know for sure. Not very likely that I'll be able to persuade DH to do any SWI-ing though. He's exhausted from working too hard and from DD going through a patch of night waking. In any case, DD is due to start nursery at the end of August and I don't really want that to coincide too closely with the arrival of a sibling.

LadyGG I am still keeping everything crossed for you. Sounds like things are going well.

Hulla that sucks - I wish people knew how important it is to acknowledge what has happened - although I suppose it's still all subject to the scan so perhaps they are waiting for the outcome of that? Even so, it's a very difficult time and you need support. Well you always have us - anytime .

Hi LadyGoneGaga - loved hearing that your pregnancies feel different and that all is going well- really have everything crossed for you too!

Hi silkenladder - lol! not tmi at all (although not sure what "CP" is? ) So do you think you will try this month or wait for the new year by which time your due date would fall after nursery in august for your dd?

Felt sad again this afternoon after reading about how happy Holly Willoughby is to be preggers again. Happy for her obviously but is a painful reminder that I'm not anymore. Also, the week I Mc'd, 4 of my friends announced they were pregnant! oh well, will be our turn soon one day i hope xx

Hulla You really do need to give yourselves time, as the others have said.

Two announcements... now another two in the last couple of days! What is it with everyone?!!! I am smiling and saying "congratulations" and although I am really happy for them, at the same time....

Hi all

Sorry your inlaws are being crap, Hulla :( If you hadn't had the reaction you had before and they just hadn't responded, I would say that they just don't know what to say, but this reaction does make me angry... you'd told them early as you thought you could count on their support being your DH's parents whatever the outcome of the pregnancy, can't believe they won't give you both the support you need, regardless of their feelings Sorry if this has come up before, but do your own parents know? The IL's reaction is not normal at all, I wouldn't think twice about telling my parents/ILs before I had a scan as I would absolutely know they would be there for us whatver happened. Honestly, I just want to shake some people :(

Silkenladder, along with Mamafoof, I don't know what CP or CF are

Also, it's astonishing that you all know so many people who are announcing pregnancies all over the place... I don't think I know enough people of childbearing age to hear that many announcements I'm worried now that I don't have enough friends I have been spared the hearing of announcements, thankfully, the only one this year which hurt a little was my SIL's announcement as it came right around the time that we did want to start to TTC but couldn't due to my birth injury issues :( Was hard to hear about a pregnancy when we didn't even have the option of trying :(

I know the mood has turned a little sombre, and some of you might not want to hear this, but I'm aware that I've not updated on the possible implantation bleed. Well, I have had no more bleeding (if you can call it that, just a bit pink when I wiped) and it was pretty much identical to when I was pregnant with DS, so I think I'm going to be surprised if I don't get a BFP when I test... Told DH this morning that it was a possibility and I think he is keen for me to test. I know I was going to wait to test until next Wednesday, but I'm suddenly suffering a complete lack of willpower! Do you think tomorrow is too soon? I would either be 17DPO or 13DPO depending on when I ovulated. Eeek, I don't know what to do!
Oh, one more issue, we are still snowed in, and I looked at the tests I already had, they go out of date this month Do you think they'd be ok? Would it be worth getting some newer ones to double check (in either eventuality) once we can (eventually!) get out to a shop?

Kate I got a positive at 9dpo which I know is v early but I'd probably do it now and if it's negative, test again in a couple of days.

I think I know CF and CP - cervical fluid and cervical position. It's a guess though.

MIL has text me this afternoon asking if I want to go and stay (they're in the Midlands) and followed it up with "it's better you miscarry now than later and you can try again". I suppose she's trying.

My parents know Kate. You know what my mum said as I left the scan room? I said something like "oh god, I've got to call dh at work, he's going to be gutted" she said, in not very gentle tones, "you know, you're not the only two who will be upset by this- this was my grandchild and your brothers and sister will be v upset & will be devastated". I kind of laughed and said "yes, I know mum but right now I'm more worried about dh having to deal with this in the office". My mum is spectacular about making everything about her.

The day I had dd my mum came to hospital and told me how disappointed she was in more for not allowing her at the birth. Still, she keeps calling to see how I am so it's not all bad.

Pooka my bf had a mc and said be prepared for all your friends to announce pregnancies now - sure enough, it seems like everyone on my fb is pg now!

Ms kicked in again so I'm off to eat/nap. Hope you're all doing well today x

Kate - I am literally so excited for you! If I were you, I would do as Hulla says and test now and you can always retest later if needs be. But a positive should show up at 13dpo....good luck chuck!!

Hulla - it does sound like MIL is trying although probably not the most sensitive thing to say but to be honest, it is hard to know what to say....as I am not even sure I know what I want to hear from people.....as long as some form of acknowledgement is there. As I mentioned above, 4 friends announced their pregnancies in the same week that I Mc'd - it was a bit too much to take. Starting to get impatient now - would like to start ttcing again I think but just waiting for the first AF to get out the way.....

Hope you all have a lovely weekend. We are off to a wedding tomorrow so will need to wear snow boots and then take them off when we get there![mile] xx

not mile!

Ps - Hulla - hope you feel better soon and enjoy your nap!

Yes, CF is cervical fluid and CP cervical position. I guess I'm the only obsessed charter left on here at the moment. Not that it's really helping, at the moment I'm just being convinced that there's no point shagging at all! I'm still spotting today and I don't think it is ovulation or an injury tbh. Any ideas anyone? Probably just somehow related to hormones.

Hulla I've been thinking about mc and I can't see any reason not to tell family and close friends about an early pregnancy if you would tell them about a mc anyway. I can see that telling people you don't see much could cause problems if you then have to make an effort to tell them about a mc, but even then it's only making things worse for you and not for them.

I haven't experienced a mc myself, so cannot know what you and Mamafoof are going through. I must admit though that it hadn't occurred to me until reading LadyGG's recent post that it would mean a big hormone upheaval - I'd always assumed it was just the massive disappointment that had to be overcome. I hope you can get through it relatively quickly.

LOK Despite being a fellow late-tester, I would go for it. As Hulla said, don't give up hope and test again in a few days if negative. I would have thought that best before dates are just the earliest at which the tests could start to become unreliable and they'll probably be fine for several more months.

I'm also in the no friends boat it seems. Most of my ante-natal group were already on #2 though. One has just announced pregnancy with #3, that made me a bit

Hulla - so sorry about the reaction from your mum too :( Hope you are feeling the support from us here. Take Care of yourself and your DH xx

Mamafoof - Have fun at the wedding, where is (was?!) it? We are completely snowed in, and I'm seriously fed up of it now! Also a little bit worried about still being snowed in on DS's 1st birthday next Thursday

Silkenladder - Ah, I'm not a charter (I'm not the most organised person in the world and they scare the hell out of me!), but those abbreviations make sense now :) I would go with hormones as a reason for the spotting, they are responsible for a lot of things, good and bad!

Thanks all for your advice about HPTs, I did think that about expiry dates, so will use the ones I've got. Think I'll do it tomorrow morning when I get up. Partly because I believe that HPTs are more likely to work in the morning due to HCG being higher in morning (please tell me if I'm wrong, I'm not sure if this is a myth or not!) and partly because that's what I did with DS and whilst I'm not especially superstitious, it still feels more 'right' to do it the way I did when I had a happy result Will be back tomorrow to update... getting scared now!

Ooh, can't wait to hear LOK. First pee of day should be more concentrated and therefore contain more hcg, is probably advisable when testing early. I poas in the evening with dd, but was further gone.

Bet you don't sleep well though

It's 5am, are you up peeing yet?

Oh my goodness Hulla, hope you're ok, up posting at 5am!

Funnily enough, I was up peeing at just about 5am, DS woke up at 3.30am and then took an hour and a half to go back to sleep I think he knew I was desperate for a pee and needed to test!

So, onto the test. The result was... inconclusive :( At first there was no line at all and then after about a minute there was a very very faint one. Totally different to when I took a test with DS and the line was instant and very strong. I'd really like to think that I'm testing too early and that if I test on Wednesday like I planned I might get a more conclusive result. I have had a small amount of spotting this morning though, so now I'm not so sure this one is going to stick :(

I really really want to test and test but only have one left and we're still snowed in, don't know when we can get out yet so don't want to waste it :(

I could really use a support thread as after NTNP for a few months we've decided to go ahead and TTC now... I'm still BF'ing my almost 9 month old on demand (which seems to be mostly through the night...).

I know I'm O'ing as I restarted charting last month. Happening around CD21/22 so I'm gonna give agnus castus a try this month (CD1 today) as I was taking it when I fell pregnant with DS2 when it bought my O forward from CD21 to CD13.

Any other info you'd like? Or shall I just bog off?

lol at Hulla posting at 5am

Sorry that your test wasn't conclusive, Kate A line is a line is a line, as they say, but only you can know whether the spotting is heavy enough to make you give up hope. Do you feel pregnant otherwise?

You could mail-order some pregnancy tests, or are you so snowed in that the post won't reach you? Then you could use the one you have maybe on Monday, if you are pregnant with a sticky one, then the hcg level should go up every day, so you should get a somewhat more definite result then.

Welcome, MandaHugNKill Nice to have another charter on here. I've only just started charting and I don't think I'm ov-ing yet, but with the disturbed nights and having nothing to compare to, I don't know what's normal for me yet.

Welcome to our lovely little thread, Manda :) I can't help you out with charting, I'm afraid, I'm too much of a wuss disorganised to chart, but we're all a really supportive bunch :)

Quick update, feeling a little more optomistic, spotting may have been piles although still getting a bit of pink discharge, so not entirely sure I've not really got any pregnancy symptoms, but I didn't feel any difference until 6-7 weeks last time, so not really expecting anything just yet.
We haven't had post in a week, so hadn't considered mail order, although DH has managed to get the car out, so I can get him to pick me some up this week now :) Am going to really try and hold out til Tuesday to test in the hopes I'll get a more substantial answer :)

fingers crossed LOK!

Hi Manda... I'm not sure I understand all the charting business, but I hope it will work out for you.

Another pg announcement today from yet another couple we know! Wow everyone is at it!!!

Cautious congratulations, Kate! Spotting is classic time for an implantation bleed. Fingers crossed for you! The HCG should double every 48 hours - what test did you use?

Thanks for the welcome.

Kate you know that a line is a line? I reckon congrats are in order! But I'll hold off until you get a blaring more conclusive line tomorrow...(although if you would like to cave today, that'll be just dandy!)

Just realised I'm still sporting my halloween moniker. I'll namechange back so my next post will be my usual username of mandahugnkiss

Just marking my spot.

Thanks pookamoo and LadyGG.

LadyGG - I used a boots own-brand test that goes out of date this month, so am aware that it might not be the most reliable! DH has managed to get to work today, so is going to Tesco on his way home and I'm going to ask him to get me another pregnancy test in case I have another ambiguous result from the second boots test. He is a bit of a cheapskate though, so I know he will get the cheapest he can find, bless him! His reasoning is that it doesn't really matter, if I am pregnant, it will become apparent soon enough Got to love men's reasoning :o
I've not had anymore spotting or pink discharge, even if I ovulated late (on the second bout of EWCM), AF would have been due yesterday, so am feeling a little bit more hopeful all the time :) I am currently on CD33, which is either 19DPO or 15DPO . Will test again tomorrow morning.

Ooo, x-posts with Manda, usual name much better, a little less scary

You're a bad influence, trying to persuade me to test again today, but I'm not giving in! Will report back tomorrow :)

ooooh LOK - getting v excited for you! test nice and early tomorrow please and an early post from you too

welcome to pooka and Manda - it's a lovely thread - very supportive ladies here!

how are you going LadyGoneGaga? Thinking of you and hope all is going well! All the best for your scan too.

all's well here. Think I may be ovulating as have cramps and ewcm and it seems about the right time bit will be waiting for at least the first af after mc.....hope it arrives on time!

So, where is Kate then, hmmm?

I'm ok Mamafoof - feeling quite rubbish at the moment with nausea and tiredness and a cold but this is a good thing I hope. Am 6+5 now and started bleeding at 7+0 last time so a little bit tense this week. Scan in 13 days. Hope you're feeling ok? Good that your body seems to be trying to get back to normal. Expect a bit of a weird luteal phase - mine was only 7 days after the mc. And then got back to normal after that. Are you trying or waiting until you get AF? Or longer?

Back again, nice and early in line with Mamafoof's instructions

Tested at 5.30am with both the test I already had and one of the new tests () and both were positive :o I'm a bit reassured that the boots test came up stronger and quicker than the one I did on Saturday, I'm guessing I had just tested a little early, so probably the second ovulation date is the most accurate.

Thank you all so much for your support, this is such a lovely little thread :)