TTC whilst breastfeeding support thread - join me to share your ups and downs!

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Hi!
A little about me - I'm pushing 34, have a 10 month old DD that I'm still breastfeeding and really want to conceive no.2 asap!
I am on my second cycle since AF returned and am temp / CM / CP charting using fertility friend and have OPKs!
I ovulated on day 29 of my last cycle, and am on day 21 at the moment.
Have been having fun and games with very fertile signs over the past week, so lots of BD, but no ovulation, poor DH is full of a cold and not feeling very energetic but I keep insisting that he perform until my temps go up

So anyway - hoping that there are others out there in a similar boat who can help to keep me sane and hopefully share some good news in the coming months.

Dita where is your weekend data? Want to stalk your chart . Hope it's your month!

I ovved 6 days after you so will be snapping at your heels! Chart [[http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2fee7f
here]] in case you want a look.

Silkenladder tcoyf is a great read. Am now a charting addict!

Hello everyone! Well, I have tested again and it seems that I am indeed pregnant. 4+1 so early days. I felt nauseous all yesterday buy am ok today. I don't think symptoms kicked in until I was 5+ with DD but she wasn't planned so I am not entirely sure of how soon I felt ill.

We told DHs parents at the weekend. MIL just stared at me and asked if I was joking. I said nope. She continued to stare. Neither of them smile or said congrats. MIL took me to one side and asked if I was happy about it and I told her yes, delighted, we planned it. She said "oh right, how far gone are you?" I told her it was early days and we weren't telling our siblings yet. She then lectured me, said I shouldn't have told anyone this soon because I'm in the miscarriage danger-zone.

Sorry - posting from phone - it doesn't like lengthy posts!

I said "we've only told parents and their who we'd turn to for support if we did lose it so you might as well have the good news first". Returned to the living room - FIL had left and was waiting in the car for MIL. Apparently all he said to DH was "you randy sod". Fucking pair of idiots.

If I do lose it I'll just get "I told you so". God I wish we'd kept it to ourselves. When we told them we were having DD, MIL called DH a stupid little boy for getting me pregnant (I was 30, we'd been together for 4 years, had a house together and were 2 weeks from getting married when we found out).

You'd think we'd learn wouldn't you?

Yes, Dita - I'd like to stalk your chart too!

Hulla WTF? What a mahoosive bitch! I don't think I'd invite them round ever again or want them to be part of the babies life. But I guess that's up to your DH.

Congratulations by the way !!!

She's just sent me an email to say it was a shock because I hadn't told her we were ttc (that's because you're my MOTHER-IN-LAW!!) and that she'll feel happy eventually & she doesn't agree with telling people early.

I actually disliked them before but I am bordering on hatred. DH is crushed, what makes I worse is that he saw his dads reaction when he mistakenly thought his db's wife was pregnant - FIL punched the air & said "yes!". A far cry from how he handled Saturday.

Thanks for the congrats though! I am very excited!

Congratulatons Hulla

We are excited for you.

IME in laws (and familys for that matter!) can be like that. Dammed if you do dammed if you don't. I know my MIL thinks 3 is too much so I hate to think what she will (PMA) think about 4!
I told everyone just about at 4 weeks with DS because to me it made more sense. It makes more sense if you have to keep cancelling apps because you feel like poo and also if I had lost the baby I would have been glad of the support. I also think that miscarriage should be more openly discussed in society people shouldn't have to struggle through in silence :( rant over!

I have kind of resigned myself to the fact that it isn't going to happen to me till DS stops feeding completely and I planned to feed him till he was about 2 so that a while off yet. (he's 16 mths)

I have had limited success with night weaning now getting a 6-8 hour stretch at night and he feeds less in the day than he used to.

Hi Ladies

Hope you don't mind if i come back to join you. I joined a few weeks back and then was awol for a bit and then am back! Firstly, huge congrats Hulla!! Amazing news!! Sorry to hear about your inlaws - they can be a nightmare, right? But don't let them ruin this special time - you have just created a life - what's not to be ecstatic about - and they'll soon behave themselves am sure.

Was wondering if i could ask a question of you ladies. My DD is 1 this month and bfs once in the am and once in the pm. Last month I had one day of bleeding (my first af after pregnancy?) and then think i ovulated as had the ewcm and positive opk. So we did the deed. Anyway, 12-13 dpo, i am getting v light spotting. It's only when i (TMI alert) wipe so not on my ol' panties yet and now i'm getting no sign at all.

I think this is probably a period but when you get your periods back, are they really this random? And if i did ovulate and didn't get pregnant, then surely i would have heavier flow than this? How long did yours get back to normal and is what I am experiencing normal?

So grateful for your thoughts and wishing you all lots of luck too! xx

Hulla - big congratulations :o

Sorry though about your PIL. What they said was really rude and unsupportive, but people do say odd things if they are shocked by unexpected news. Maybe you or your husband said something about waiting to have another child, possibly to throw them off the scent? Also, they may be concerned about your husband or even you seeming tired and are worried about you coping with a second (this theory makes a lot of sense of my MIL's otherwise inexplicable behaviour - she's just looking out for her son).

I would reduce the amount of contact with them until you start feeling less angry. Your immediate family (including that little bean growing inside you) are the most important right now.

Mamafoof - it sounds like you are in a similar situation to me. I had a day or so of spotting in September, but since then nothing. Have had patches of ewcm, but no period. Having read a few chapters of TCOYF I am now an expert on this subject (ha ha) so will give you my thoughts for what they're worth.

A positive opk might not mean you have ovulated, just that the level of whatever hormone it is reached the threshold required for the test. BFing or other factors can cause ovulation to be delayed. Or you may have ovulated, but not have much of whichever hormone causes the uterine lining to thicken, so you may have a light period because of not having much to expel, as it were (I may have made that bit up). Or, not wanting to get your hopes up, an implantation bleed? Have you tested?

thanks silkenladder. Yes - all very good theories - am pretty sure it's just my body trying to get back to normal again which is so frustrating! Was quite excited to see some ewcm and get a positive opk but know that there are a huge number of factors which can also disrupt ovulation and periods getting back to normal.

Being the obsessive that I am - I have wondered whether it could be implantation bleeding. Today I have no blood whatsoever but still have cramps - but am too scared to test as I can't stand those bfns!! I probably will though just to end the misery. I would actually love to have a straightforward normal period - just so I know where I stand!

So do you chart to check whether you have ovulated?

ps - what is TCOYF?

Mamafof could well be an implantation bleed. Hope so!

TCOYF = Taking Charge of Your Ferility by Toni Weshler which is THE charting bible.

great, thanks LadyGoneGaga - will look that up!

thanks for the hope but I am not so hopeful....will be good to know either way though and onwards and upwards and all that!

Mamafoof - would also love to have a straightforward normal period :)

I plan to start charting temps from tomorrow, having found a thermometer in the bathroom cupboard that looks as though it might serve the purpose. A question to those experienced charters: do you chart in celsius or fahrenheit? My thermometer is celsius only, but has tenths of a deg - is analogue.

Hello ladies,

Just finished a quick update on how some of you are doing! Perhaps I have been long forgotten on this thread, but nevermind that..

So far my pregnancy has been rather uneventful. I am about fourteen weeks pregnant now, and am feeling fine. According to my DS (who turned 2 last week) my supply has dwindled or the milk has started to taste funny; he still occasionally asks for it, but after two or three tiny slurps he gives up.

( I took vitamin B6 en cut back feeds/ cut some feeds short prior to getting pregnant, and if remember correctly, took three cycles to return back to 'normal period')

Congratulations to the new pregnancies and good luck to all of you!

Just a quickie as I am in a bloody motorway services Costa Coffee drinking a massively overpriced hot chocolate and need to leave in a few minutes to pick up DD from pre-school, but have just updated my chart, though I can't remember how to share it so if you really want to stalk me then you might have to scroll back a bit.

Many thanks for the offer of TCOYF Hulla and I might well get back to you on that, but erm got a very faint BFP on an internet cheapie this morning so really really hoping that it's a sticky one and we won't need it :) So sorry that you got such shitty shitty treatment by your in-laws

Good luck LadyGG - I will be keeping an eye on you when I manage to get online!

Oooh, Dita. Vey excited for you - when are you gonna POAS?!

Hi again. And congratulations to Hulla, Primagravida (though aren't you going to change your name?!), Dita and others

Just thought I'd let you all know am pregnant... about 10 weeks. But I've not told work yet, so please keep it quiet!

wow - such a lot of good news!! Congrats Dita, Breastmilk and Primagravida!!

Do hope my cycles return to normal soon. Promised myself I wouldn't get wound up by TTC - but hey, I'm a woman and a control freak - it was inevitable!! :-)

Hope your pregnancies all go well xx

hello all! - I still lurk regularly (well I did start the thread ), and just wanted to say congratulations all round!
Dita am keeping everything crossed for you and will eagerly await news of your next (really strong) BFP.

I'm just into the third trimester now and will have a new bubba in just over 12 weeks (providing he sticks to the schedule!). Still BF DD every day, although I don't think there has been much there for weeks and weeks and it is generally quite painful, but as long as she wants to keep going I'm happy to go along with it. I expect my colostrum will be through very soon, so she'll be in for a shock and I'll be in for some nasty nappies!

Anyway, congratulations again to all the BFPs and good luck to everyone else.

Dita!!!!!!!!

Great news, no in fact it's blooming marvellous news! Am so pleased for you.

Orchid
xxxx

Yay Latte What a great few weeks for this thread :) and SBF can't believe you're in the third trimester already.

Thanks all for your well wishes (Orchid ). I'm not getting too excited as I'm still only 12DPO and I've had at least one if not two chemical pregnancies so far but erm this morning wasn't actually the first time I've POAS this month and the lines are getting a little more convincing (this morning was the first time I could confidently call it a BFP rather than the ramblings of a madwoman ), which does make me feel a little bit hopeful. It's bittersweet though as we've had bad family news today. Anyway.

Better head off into the ether again (I'm at my mum's this time, while DD is napping, and my inbox is groaning). Waves to you all.

Sorry about your bad news Dita but so excited about your good news!! Hope the rest of us have some good news to report soon also!
Take it easy and look after your precious bfps x

Oh dita!!!! Fantastic news!!! I am keeping everything crossed for you.

Short post as am reading in car on way home from mums (picked up dd). I couldn't not post.

more lovely good news yay! Sticky vibes ladies...
Lets hope this is the start of a new trend!