Trying for a Spring baby

[MandM]

Here it is girls - the all new, trying for a spring baby thread. Hope everyone from the Febraury thread can come on over and join us - plus any newcomers too of course!

And to those that don't make it over - CONGRATULATIONS

Hi Girls, joining in although I shouldn't really as like lovecloud my hubbie is saying wait until xmas to try due to finances!!!!

I have a just 1yr old, and messed up my pill (very forgetful) have had preg symptons and a light (for me) and short last p. Gave in and tested sun but neg. Feel disappointed now as although wasn't planning or trying yet, had convinced myself I could be as was looking forward to it. Due next week so will see if late then, could have been too early!!

If not this time will have to wait till xmas.

Good luck everyone, congrats to all those who are pg xxxxxxx

Dana, am sorry to hear your news - maybe you should do as MandM says and try your local chemist, Ive heard they do an actual free preganacy test as well. Thinking of you and hoping your time away from mn is filled with lots of time consuming things to take your mind off it all.

MandM - may be as Dana says its just too early for you to tell yet? Please keep us updated!

Take care everyone xx

Ohmigod ohmigod, BFP!!!!

Actually tested on Monday but couldn't get to my PC til now. Have just done another test cos totally hasn't sunk in. Flippin heck. Dead excited, nervous, terrified etc. No symptoms apart from weird feeling boobs! Haven't told anyone yet and will probably try and keep it quiet as long as poss as am more worried that something will happen with this second pg'y. Also sis is going thru treatment for PCOS and has been trying for years. Last time (when I had ds) she had an unsuccessful cycle of IVF and I'm in constant dilemma about when to tell her. I know she'll be happy for me but she'll inevitably be a bit sad too. Last time I waited til about 9 weeks and she was upset I'd waited so long but at the time I thought it would be harder to tell her sooner whilst she was in the middle of treatment. Ooh don't know, so for the moment I'll just tell you guys and hope the result sticks and brings a few more BFPs for the string.
Right, off to shovel weetabix in to ds before work now, see you later x

congratulations mrsq, hope i'll be joining u soon.x

MrsQ. Fantastic news!!! Congratulations
Lots of sticky dust your way.....
It's difficult one with your sister, isn't it I would imagine that she would rather know sooner than later, though off course it will be a bit hard on her. But you know her best, and only you can decide when to do it... does she know you were trying for another?

AF finally arrived this morning on day 47!!!
And I am delighted Never thought I would say that, but am just so happy to know what's going on. Now can get on with trying again. Just hope my cycles will get more regular soon.

MandM, any news?

2girls, how's it going with you. Did the bleeding stop again, or was AF early?

Welcome to Jersey

Congrats MRSQ, well done, do u know your due date?

I have a sister who have just found out she and hubbie can't have kids! Have the option of IVF but isn't sure yet. When I get preg (fingers crossed) I'm not sure when I will tell her. The first time I waited because I knew they had been trying for years and no joy, but she seemed to be ok. This time would be different because she knows for definite.

Let me know how it goes, as it may help me as well. Good luck.

mrsQ!!! congratulations!!!
when are you due?
i think we will wait (when eventually pregnant) until about 8 weeks to tell everyone. my SIL is pregnant at the moment and she's the only one who knows we're TTC. DD has to keep quiet for now to her grandparents and that is very hard for a 4 year old! she told me yesterday she wants to use her pocket money to buying a dummy for our new baby. bless her.

MrsQ that is so fantastic! Like you said, it is going to inevitably be a little sad for your sister whenever you tell her, but she will be overjoyed for you all the same. Perhaps you could make her feel extra special by telling her first and making a point of asking her not to tell anyone else until week 'x', so that she knows how important to you she is?

Dana - Congratulations on your AF arriving (god, it sounds so weird to be saying that on this thread!)

Well, as for me, things are a little weird. This is probably a case of 'too much information' so apologies if you're squeamish. This morning I have got very pink streaks of blood in a mucusy type discharge. No great quantity, certainly not anough for a pad or a tampon. Not like my normal AF (or even like last months 1st AF after pill) at all. WTF is going on now?!

MandM, weird... sounds a bit like how some people describe implantation bleed. Maybe your cycle was longer this month and that's why you haven't tested + yet. But then again could be start of AF. Hope the first How are you feeling - any signs of either?

Yes, it's strange to be excited about AF, but have had so many ups and downs over the last couple of weeks, that I am just happy to be given a fresh start.

MrsQ, I like MandM's idea of telling your sis first. Let us know what you decide and how you get on. Congrats again

Dana - I was actually really getting to the stage where I was convinced I was pg. Boobs are tingly and tender on and off and stomach just feels 'odd', sort of bubbly and well...just 'odd'!
I have never had a 'build up' to my AF IYKWIM, it has always been not there one minute, then completely there the next! I'm getting a bit too graphic today - it's going to put people off this thread!
How are you going to try and work out when you are ovualting if your cycle is so long at the moment? It was something I was wondering about the other night, because if AF does come now at 38-40 days, was the BDing we did at CDs12-20 wrongly timed?

Confused, stressed out and fed up of waiting now. I just want to know one way or the other. Dh is going to be really upset if I'm not pg. He was convinced I was and so excited

I totally understand your frustation, it's crap not knowing and time seems to drag. Think it sounds quite promising for you though

My DH was the same - more convinced than me that I was pg. He got me all hyped up.

I was also thinking about the ovulation thing today. I basically have no idea when I will be ov, as my next cycle could be any number of days long. Would also be waste of money to try ov tests until my cycle is more regular. So my solution is....BDing every or every other night from about CD12 and until I either get a BFP or AF arrives

Think you should be pretty well covered with your CD12-20 BDing this month

So based on your theory, our dhs are in a win:win situation!

Glad you were around this afternoon, I feel a bit better and more positive about this now. Still nipping to the loo every five minutes to check what's going on!

Yes, am thinking that DH probably won't object to this new plan of attack

Glad you are feeling a bit better. On one hand TTC-threads on MN can make you slightly more obsessed than you would have been otherwise, but it is also great for support when you are low and it's nice to chat to others who are going through the same things.
Am off to a meeting and then home, so speak to you tommorow - hopefully still minus AF

'morning girls.
How's everybody today?

I had totally forgotten how much worse my period is when not on the pill. Am in so much pain, I actually feel sick. Feels like someone is trying to rip out my insides (definately TMI!! ) Hope it doesn't last too long.

MandM, did the "bleeding" stop

hi dana, i really sympathize. i had my first pill free period earlier this month. it was about as bad as when i had just given birth.
i said the other day i was about to ovulation and i would be getting ovulation pains. but guess what... they never came. grrr. i've had them every month since i was 12 and when ttc i don't get them!

Morning

AF is here for definite. She messed around all day but finally reared her ugly head for real late last night.

I thought I was going to be absolutely devastated, and I was disappointed but there's nothing I can do about it, it'll happen eventually. I think with it happening first month, without even thinking too much about it with dd, I was hoping not to have to go through all this. I suppose I shouldn't moan too much though, we've only been trying for 2 months and there are couples out there who have been going through this for much much longer.

Anyway, onwards and upwards for another month

BTW, I worked out last night (when I was trying to cheer myself up) that if I get pg this month, based on having a c-section dead on 38 weeks, my due date would be dd's birthday!

You're right about the pains without the pill as well - I feel like *!@# this morning!

Oh MandM, so sorry to hear that I really thought there was a good chance for you. Hope you are not feeling too bad. As you say 2 months is nothing, just feels like a long time, when you want it so much.

Well at least this way we can go through the different stages of the next month together. You know how colleagues and groups of (female) friends end up having their periods at the same time. Maybe it is the same for MNers Just need to get the rest of the girls here on track

That's a good thought - synchronised MN cycles!

I've already promised myself (and dh!) that I'm not going to go through the whole "testing and worrying every other day from CD28" scenario becasue my cycle is obviously so unpredictable at the moment. August 31st was exactly six weeks from yesterday, so if there is no AF by then I will go to the GP and get a blood test.

Hi, don't know if this is any good, but is anyone monitoring their temp? I did this last time and found out we where working to the wrong dates, my ovulation and cycle didn't match up. When we tried the day my temp started climbing I got preg 1st try!

May not happen this time. By the way don't think I am preg this time as sickness stopped. Oh well have to wait till xmas after all (*** finances).

sorry if you already do/know all this, good luck.

Jersey - I've never tried anything like that. Was hoping not to have to, but consider giving it a try if this next month doesn't work.

What do you actually have to do? Times, frequency, normal temps etc. Is it a normally thermometer that you use or something special?

You can get them from Boots its just a themometer to put under your tongue first thing in the morning before you get up. It beeps when finished and you record the temp on the chart provided.

Your supposed to do it for a couple of months to see what is going on with your cycle. The day it goes up (by a few degrees!) your egg is released. I was working on day 14 as per my doc and this was too late as I ovulated on day 11/12.

It says you can take it to the docs if you have probs conceiving as it can tell them if you are not ovulating, etc..

i suppose you don't need to use a specific one just record your temp, although if you get up a lot in the night that can affect your temp. and it tells you what to watch out for!

Hope this helps!

That sounds good! Even sounds simple enough to be MandM proof!

Not sure dh would be too keen on getting 'clinical' as he calls it, but he wouldn't actually have to know would he?!

I'm going to give the 'going with the flow' plan another month, but will definitely invest in a thermometer and chart next month if there's still no luck!

Thank you for the info BTW

can anyone help, I'm on the Femulen pill, when I remember (which is due to the am I/amd I not this month). If I have to wait till Xmas to properly try ***! does anyone know if you are fertile straight away?

When I came off mercelon (spelling!) it took 4 months with 1 doing the temp. thing>

Also if I am this month!!!! Does it hurt the baby that as it isn't planned I haven't been on folic acid?

Any ideas please!

Jersey - I don't know the right answers from a medical point of view, but as far as I know if you get pregnant whilst still on the pill there is no actual risk to the baby,although you should stop taking it as soon as you suspect/find out of course.

You are fertile as soon as you come off the pill, but as I am discovering this time around, it can take a few months for your cycle to settle down.

With dd, I came off the pill, 4 weeks later did a pg test and hey presto, job done!

Also, I didn't take folic acid at all with my last pregnancy and luckily dd didn't suffer because of it, but I would definitely say, if you are ttc or think you are pg, start taking it straight away, up until wk 12. It's not going to do you any harm either way, and it is better to be safe than sorry.

HTH

Thanks MandM