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30s TTC - After all, we're not nice 'down there' at the BESH of times...

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CUNextTuesday · 06/11/2009 12:11

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ginhag · 09/11/2009 21:37

Oh scorp your poor grandparents. I simply can't/refuse to imagine the heartbreak.

My mum had breast cancer last year,and has been wonderfully looked after. And because it seems a bit prevelant in my family I have talked at length to a genetic counsellor and after she has run her analysis it has been recommended that mum is tested for the gene,then me n sis if she does have it.

Not 'necessary' maybe but if I have the gene I have an 80% chance of getting bc so I want to know as there are things I can do to make sure I'm still around when my boy is responsible for bringing world peace

as I said I am not very good at expressing myself at the moment but you can always reread scorp and cunty's posts instead.

Hawaiian absolutely no ganging up, just that I think we are not really sure how it would be better not to have a health service that is readily available to all.

cunty I knows you wants it

ginhag · 09/11/2009 22:01

Actually scorps post has made me feel quite teary. Can I have a cuddle?

givecarrotsachance · 09/11/2009 22:14

scorps as horrific as your story is, it's still going on in a very large part of the world, and I don't think it should happen in a developed country. I am so terribly sorry for you, your family and your poor,poor Grandparents. I can't possibly imagine how utterly devastating that would have been, and how absolutely ANGRY I would have been.

But, cuntshine, I under no circumstances intended to gang up on you or criticise you. Your system works for you and I hope desperately that it gives you a baybee. [hugs]

And no, I'm not being patriotic supporting the NHS. I don't like TB, GB or NL and by nature I'm more blue than red (HCS read more red than blue ) but I strongly STRONGLY believe that any country should look after its people as best it can with the resources it has. That doesn't make me a socialist, mind .

Scorpette · 09/11/2009 23:18

Cunty, I think we're all far too selfish to do what our Grandparents had to do without complaint. That's why they're allowed to say 'you don't know you're born' about younger generations And we're so lucky that there are great BESH provisions and that children don't die so easily nowadays. Doesn't bear thinking about

I don't think any of us Brits can conceptualise not having free health care but that also means we can't conceptualise why it might seem like an infringement of liberty to someone in another country where it's not an automatic thing. But it does seem weird that somewhere that prides itself on being 'The Land of The Free' is so focussed on ensuring that freedom is only for those who can afford it. Where's all the 'give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses...' in the healthcare debate? Freedom for some is an oxymoron.

Gin, I hope GinMama is okay now. It's so good that they really take the genetic link thing seriously nowadays and provide all these services. I really hope there isn't the gene link in your family [fingers tightly crossed emoticon]

BTW, although had a droid and my hurty boobs went, I still have stilton norks and now keep having to piss like a racehorse every 40 mins (no exaggeration - it's ridiculous). Am I allowed to fantasize it was a 'period when pg' for the rest of the night before I wake up sensible in the morning?

Scorpette · 09/11/2009 23:20

Gin, quick, before anyone else notices

ginhag · 09/11/2009 23:29

Aaw cheers scorp. just checked my phone before going to sleep

oo I sent you a friend request. Had to reregister before I caused a global meltdown and poss the end of the known universe. Have a on profile now. There will be more eventually.

cunty was goons send you friend ting but was worried wasn't you! Can't access the account I initially registered with because I'm a twat. So pleeease find me.

Night night my lovelies.

sorry bout the spiky legs.

ginhag · 09/11/2009 23:32

Have a PIC on profile now.

Scorpette · 09/11/2009 23:45

Ooooh, Gin pix, Gin pix! Am off to bed now - I don't bother shaving or owt like that (am world's least hairy woman and femmynist), so you can snuggle away, my furry beauty

CurlyCasper · 10/11/2009 08:31

morning. still in pain but no doom tide yet.
gin is hot!

iggypiggy · 10/11/2009 09:46

morning BESHes

feel ok today - dunno - was kind of expecting misery, but am actually fine - maybe is just the anticipation what am bad.

iggypiggy · 10/11/2009 09:50

I used to work for the NHS - and both my parents do/did as well... always think of it affectionaly.

But then I am a freak who quite likes hospitals - prob cos when we were really little my dad used to take us in on christmas morning each year to get us out of my mum's way, so hosp = chocolates - we used to dress up in our nurses outfits and take in our toy first aid kits and wander around people's bed pretending to take their pulse...

idealcamel · 10/11/2009 10:11

Morning.

Gin is definitely hot. Which is making me think of hot toddys. Mmmm, warming, comforting boozy goodness.

Casper - no tide! Hmmmm... implantation?

I am feeling quiet today. Will probably be lurking though, so please go ahead and entertain me with stories.

idealcamel · 10/11/2009 10:13

igster - glad you're doing ok. Stiff upper lip, old chap.

Scorpette · 10/11/2009 10:55

Aw, Iggy, that sounds like an ace Xmas - what cool parents Thinking of you today, my lovely Piggsy.

Also thinking about Cuntshine and her ice ice babies. I hope that crazy straw blew them all in perfectly

longwee · 10/11/2009 10:56

I'm baaaaaack. What do you mean you didn't notice I'd gone? And what do you mean none of you are diffed yet? Well since I'm sure you were about to ask I had a lovely time thanks, except, um, our car got rammed by a hippo. We were asleep in the tent at the time so nowt else hurt fortunately. They do come and stomp around the camp at night but generally don't do anything except munch grass - but this one took exception to our car for some reason...

Good to see ginny, vaggy & cheggers back - is this the reunion thread or sommat? Sorry bout the babyfail cossy and best of luck to HCS. And a headbutt to anyone I missed...

PollyPoo · 10/11/2009 10:59

Yes I agree - Gin is hot! (Don't worry Kim, I still lusts ya most )

Iggy glad you are feeling ok today - I think you are right, sometimes the anticipation is worse than the reality. I hope the day continues to get better for you.

Casp fingers crossed for you, hope the droid stays away.

I need to get off my arse and take Boo swimming (one of the 'mummy' things I am not so keen on, espesh when its cold and rainy... yuck), so I will catch you hags later.

Oh yeah before I go - well done Cuntshine on the 3 defrosted baybees in your belly!

longwee · 10/11/2009 11:05

I remember this being asked before but not sure if we got a definitive answer - for those of you who have a bit of brown a few days before period starts proper, which day is CD1, is it brown day or red tide day? I got brown on Thursday but then nowt till Sunday (obviously just long enough for me to think 'ooh, tis not a period, maybe there's still a chance I'm.... ) Tis actually a good few days difference, does anyone know which is which....?

HawaiianCuntShine · 10/11/2009 11:05

WOW! - you BESHies have gotten off on the healthcare tangent - and here I thought I was coming to give you an update on freezer-beezers... ok, as you wish:

Contrary to belief - insurance companies don't run treatment, they are just part of the equation. I have no love affair with them, but I don't think they are out to inflict suffering. Treatment is left between my doctors and myself. Insurance companies are allowed to make decisions on what they will and won't cover (within applicable laws). I believe NHS does the same thing with denying service based on age, weight or in rationing (wait lines) based on funds available.

Under Obamacare I won't be allowed to switch jobs without going to the govt option. If my current company decides to go to the govt option, I won't have any choice in keeping my selected plan. (that's in the bill, not in the rhetoric) As it is now, my company offers three choices and so does my hubby's.

scorp for the record - we paid for our ice-ice babies ourselves or whenever we want treatments that aren't covered. (have to admit that the assumption did get me fired up - independent spirit and all - but you are completely right about my love of liberty. I love having the freedom to do what I want with every aspect of my life, and liberty from oppressive taxes is part of that. The Land of the Free is about being granted the freedom to succeed for everyone no matter your class, background or financial status- but we are reliant on ourselves, not the government to make us successful or to take care of us.)

Also contrary to belief, just because someone/some company makes a profit from something doesn't make them evil. In fact, profit motivates companies to develop new equipment, new techniques and treatment, and new drugs. If we don't do that - where will Canada get all of their cheap drugs???

Excellence in doctors: what motivates someone to go through the rigor of med school and the enormous financial burden? We should reward those that are the best and brightest with financial as well as altruistic rewards. If the US government was able to inspire excellence the US postal service, unemployment office, Veterans Administration would be prime examples of excellence... not so much. I cannot trust congress with healthcare if they cannot even fix Medicare which will be bankrupt in just a decade. And it is shameful that Congress have ignored the majority of Americans on this issue, and the largest petition against a bill ever submitted. Medicare SERVICE is good because it is private doctors, who accept both regular and medicare patients.

Re: "uncaring" Americans - I believe in giving more directly, giving to people I know that are in trouble and need a hand, not in the govt taxing me and then deciding who to give my money to - based on their choices of eligibilty. For two years before last we gave over 10k a year to someone in need that was actively working to get on their feet - not being a bum. I take charity very close to heart, but I dislike govt being involved in that as well because I like to CHOOSE where it goes, not be told.

This whole idea that compassion must be given in the form of national healthcare is ridiculous to me. First of all - free care is given on demand at any emergency room for the uninsured. Second, if someone is elderly or disabled and unable to work they can qualify for medicare (unfortunately the financial end of this program is fundamentally flawed). Thirdly, there are non-profit healthcare groups, and coops that are formed by bands of people who cannot get healthcare through traditional means who cover doctor ordered treatments.

"brutal and inhumane"? - pfft

The number of uninsured is overinflated by certain measures because people between jobs usually take the risk because they are generally healthy. Lest you think there aren't changes that I would like to see, I've always thought it was ridiculous that healthcare be tied to my job. If I could change one thing, it would be to make health insurance more like car/home insurance where I can buy it on the open market, firms can compete for my business (across state lines would even increase the choice and quality) and then I could keep that policy for as long as I wanted it, whether I was leaving a job or not. That's an emphasis on personal responsibilty, thinking ahead, planning for a rainy day.

Results: We have excellent healthcare - some of the best in the world. Survival rates in the US are excellent for cancer and other life threatening illnesses (apples to apples comparisons) - it's truly exceptional. Healthcare might be free in Cuba, but the level of care is stuck decades behind in old equipment, meds, lines, and training of doctors.

Costs - yes, healthcare costs have risen - but so have costs in every other industry. By comparison, they are within range for other markers. What other service or good would we feel entitled to? We NEED food and shelter also, but we're not depending on the govt to provide those for the whole country - only for those in desperate need, same as our current healthcare.

I wouldn't expect you to understand, especially since you are judging from the outside and you are very accustomed to gov provided healthcare. I believe in a safety net for those who are not truly able to care for themselves, and there are improvements in our system to be made, but I do not believe in a nanny state. I don't want to be grateful to, or dependent on government, I want to thank the doctors, nurses and the strength and will of the patient. In my view, govt should have a very limited role in my life, and I want to take care of myself and my family. When you feel sorry and expect little from people, you get little.

Prager said it most simply: The bigger the government, the smaller the citizens.

And that's all I've got to say about that. I'll check back to see if I have a boot mark on my ass from the palace. I will surely understand, because I knew coming in here that most of you fall in the range of socialists but I was drawn in by your dark wit and fetching eyes.

GO get DIFFED you twats!

HawaiianCuntShine · 10/11/2009 11:10

Oh yeah, and all three made the thaw and they are put back in tumtum!!!

TTF and I watched a short loop of scan film over and over again where the crazy straw spat them out in just the perfect spot - a tiny little white dot! We could actually see them!!!

iggypiggy · 10/11/2009 11:13

weewee am pretty sure red tide day is CD1

cuntshine how long did it take you to write that I is biased - my dad is a DR and my mum is a nurse.

ginhag · 10/11/2009 11:13

Aw, cheers lushes. It's a pretty crappy photo which prob helps.

frig know what you mean. It just feels a bit weird in the end doesn't it? Still got that bottle of tequila for ya tho.

Hawaiian how are you today? Really hope all went well. Sending warm fuzzy beshie vibes.

Still another 40 mins on train til lunnon town and I really think I'm gonna throw up. Could just be the 2 mahoosively strong cups of coffee I had tho.

Can someone give me the key to the other place pleeease? And I'm still not friends with cunty

scorp you are lucky,tis prob bit easier to be all femmynisty bout shaving if you have no body hair! Sadly I started shaving my legs at 11 (strange bit of my life) and so if they are not shaved now they are super spiky. Which is yeeeeeuch.

Ok I'm convinced I can smell everyone on the train. 2woofl is runnning away with my brain... (oooo a poem)

iggypiggy · 10/11/2009 11:14

scropey fanks BESH have a nipple twist by way of thanks

ginhag · 10/11/2009 11:15

Ps 'ello weewee. keep missing posts.

Oh god am gonna be sick on an old lady...

longwee · 10/11/2009 11:17
iggypiggy · 10/11/2009 11:28

haglet I'll take some shots of tequila at luch time I reckon

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