Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ more adventures of TTC

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Actually now I feel guilty using up the last post of the thread - hope this will do as a continuation

Thanks totallyfloaty - just what I needed to hear

Italiangreyhound Interesting stuff about your choice of clinic as we will be moving to the Midlands shortly. Ignoramus here doesn't know what CMV positive/negative is - can you enlighten me?

Had been thinking of expanding my analogy to make it like a trip to Ikea, given that DH's/DP's are never that keen to go on a trip there unless there's something major in it for them, you often see couples in there arguing about why they are there or what to get, and you have to follow the tortuous route through to the tills otherwise you can end up lost and backtracking (although there are the lucky few who are able to bypass most of the stages and get exactly what they were after).

TFLS I hope you don't need to be bemused for too much longer and all becomes clear.

Totally welcome to our happy band

Summer I totally understand your adoption sentiments, I feel the same way and I was equally surprised that it was even an option.

Hi all, dropping in really quickly to say hello. Only ever have time to read the posts at the moment. Have a big work deadline so trying to be good. Nice to see all the new faces, the threads so busy!

TFLS thinking of you, know how horrible the waiting is.

kiwi happy birthday a bit late! bottle of wine icon

Love all the speculation on the names. All i can say is that brown overalls and a flat cap could only enhance my appearance at the moment. Feeling frumpy in january kind of way.

Gah! Is all I have to say. BFN. And I said I wouldn't test. Please hit me over the head with a blunt instrument. Ta.

As you were.

TFLS How is it going? I know I'm not supposed to but I'm totally over the moon for you, don't worry about some bleeding that can be normal - like I said eat pineapple, especially the bit in the middle, since I'm still very sore from op I have my fingers, toes, arms and legs crossed for you - no one deserves it more. YEAH!

Happy Birthday Kiwi

sprial we always end up going backwards, against the flow in IKea - always makes it harder but then I love to be a Maverick. No one has actually mentioned adoption to us and I'm sure I'd say something stupid in the interviews which would scupper the whole thing.

Tetley I love the brown overalls and flat cap they are so comforting and familiar and practical - how does anyone walk on 4" heels and why to me they are the same as the burkah both giving too much power to men. - Off I go again!

Totally I completed an ITEC reflexology course but didn't take the exam, I can see why you got RSI in the thumb especially. The thing is it's not so easy to do on yourself.

Greyhound We are still in the early discussions about going abroad. DH has until recently been very like an ostrich, though I think he is coming round to it. He's so much better at research than me. The thing I can't quite get my head around is that my consultant has given me clomid - which I can't start for another month at least but refuses to entertain harvesting my eggs + freezing them. He said that abroad was the best option - maybe because his clinic doesn't treat my age range, or the waiting would make it so much longer for us. We are very late to the party so to speak.

Summer, I don't know how true it is, but I think these clinics have age cut-offs because they don't want the stats to look bad. I know that sounds all "conspiracy theory", but it wouldn't surprise me because it seems the fertility business is all about money - a lot of it.It doesn't make sense that he won't consider harvesting your eggs.It seems to me there are plenty of women who still have perfectly good eggs at an older age, and they can check them out with ultrasound.
I was reading Toni Weschler's book last night and she mentioned that clomid can cause the fertile mucus to dry up and can cause a shorter luteal phase. But it does work for many women, so I guess if you are aware of side-effects it is worth going for it.
TFLS: I hope you have more good news for us soon.If it isn't red bleeding, then I'm sure all is well. In my first pregnancy, I didn't find out til 7 weeks as I wasn't ttc and had a bleed, which I was sure was AF,at the usual time.Turns out it was an implantation bleed. I honestly didn't believe the doc - thought I had glandular fever! I wouldn't believe it til I had a blood test to prove it.I was devastated at the time,I never imagined I'd be desperately ttc later in my life!
ILGH- it is still early days, so don't give up just yet!
According to FF I'm 9 dpo.Although temps are above coverline, I feel thay just aren't high enough(especially compared to pre baby temps and charts), so won't be surprised if nothing comes of it...I'm sure AF and ovulating will return in good time!

Is anyone taking DHEA? I've heard some good things about it, particularly in terms of helping poor responding ovaries produce more follicles in any IVF cycle.

TFLS How frustrating for you, a BFP but doubts all at the same time. Keep us posted - really hope it's a sticker.

I went for my booking in with midwife yesterday. She was really nice and she said her mum had her last baby at 43 - so she's totally on my side.

Free nuchal scan in a couple of weeks.

TFLS I couldn't believe my BFP when I first got it cos of all the doubts re: cyst etc. But it was true and I really hope yours is too. If it is all ok - then the fat lady is really gonna scream isn't she!

Sorry hopeful don't know what DHEA is???

gum My reflexologist did a special course in fertility - I don't know if she helped in the end but I like to think she did. I told her she was my secret weapon .

Well it's official. The Clearblue Digital showed 2-3 weeks this morning. Still getting over the shock as I had written off this cycle (drank alcohol, caffiene, taken ibroprufen etc - trying not to worry about that now) and didn't even think I could be pregnant. Maybe that old saying "a watched pot never boils" is true as my only two BFPs have come when I was least focussed on it... Anyway, no spotting so starting to let myself hope a little bit but I'm painfully aware of the risks of m/c as well. Day by day.

Summersky - thanks, hope the pains are fading soon - please don't hold that crossed position too long . What's the thing with pineapple?

ILGH - sorry about the BFN. I was gutted at my first BFN post m/c. Kind of reinforced everything for me - don't know why but it hit me disproportionately hard.

Gum - isn't it always the way! Your story did make me laugh.

Hippy - know what you mean. The digi is lined up alongside the three cheapies I did yesterday. I told my acupuncturist last night - but in a kind of "I got a positive on a cheapie test but I'm not sure I'm pregnant yet". She just smiled and tried to gently point out that the chance of a false positive was pretty low. Interestingly she said I had a slippery pulse last week. It is a sign of pregnancy in TCM but also of phlegm - and I had a chest infection! So should be doubly slippery!

Have a good weekend everyone.

Yay, well done TFLS I got 2-3 weeks with my first clear blue conception, of course then I had to do it again the next week to ensure it had gone up to 3+ weeks.(paranoia!)

Just sit tight and try to enjoy (I know that's not easy).

All the best to you all.

Congrats TFLS. Really pleased for you. Thanks for the sympathy. Saw a friend with her gorgeous new baby boy in the supermarket today and burst into tears when she hugged me . Ah well, maybe next time. Hope I'll see you and hippy on the over 40 pg board she started.

Who did you work for when you were in HR btw? Am curious just in case we've ever met in RL (aaarrggghh!).

ILGH hate to think of you crying - sending hugs ((((( )))))) That's meant to look like arms hugging.

Would love to see you over on the other thread really soon.

Hi all,
just popping in, but WOW! TFLS you are such a great girl, I'm so happy for you.
Can't even believe people get pg at all, it seems so far away, but then you go and do it just like that!
I am sending lots and lots of sticky vibes to you and and teeny fat baby screams.
Do you think it is worth taking baby aspirin if you have had mcs? Just wondering as I was thinking about it before the FET, but hmmm!
Just ignore me and try to keep on top of that 'slippery pulse'.
Think AF is due soon, getting a bit paranoid about things. [looks around suspiciously, through slitted eyes].
In the middle of Ebaying a load of junk better get back to it...
Waves to all!!!!

Fantastic news, TFLS - should we change your name to The Fat Lady is Pregnant?

Sorry ILGH - I'm sending hugs too.

Hope everyone else is having a relaxing weekend. x

Way hey!! Hurrah! SO pleased for you TFLS You've really made my weekend. Loads and loads of sticky vibes to you and hoping you can have a few big smiley hugging the thought to yourself moments alongside the inevitable moments of worry.

tt xxx

....sorry just read that back and it sounded a bit negative. I just meant i know what you mean about the doubts that you get post-mc. But every BFP is a wonderful new beginning. Many many congrats

TFLS well done, amazing.

ILGH so sorry to hear about bursting into tears .

I have done that a fair but (crying) over last couple of weeks.

Almost in tears at keep fit class last week just 'cos I couldn't do it properly. But normally mean hubby bought me £65 trainers (yes, I know that is not a lot but it is to me!) and so I will have to keep going to keep fit!

I guess activities just helps me to keep my mind off the waiting game.

STILL waiting for news of our donor and getting fed up waiting. So I think I totally know how you feel ILGH. Saw a friend with a baby and thought she had popped one out before realising it was another friends baby I had already got to know (yes, they do all look a bit similar). Anyway, had a hold of baby and felt OK. It is weird getting upset in front of other people, amanged to do it as I was picking my kid up for a party, with only minutes to go before I had to be somewhere (make that I should have been there half an hour ago!) and I'm crying on my friend's shoulder! Anyway ILGH I guess what I am saying is it is totally normal and sometimes hormonal and so I am thinking of you!

one of the ladies on the 40+ preg thread just had a MMC at about 9 weeks. I feel so awful for her and also now really paranoid.

I know I have no history of this but it just seems to happen so much on this darn website.

I wish we could feel the babies moving as soon as they were conceived then we wouldn't have to keep wondering, "Are you ok in ther?"

Sorry, just feeling very vulnerable because of the bad news I read.

Someone say somehting cheerful - oh yeah I know 3 cheers for the fat lady!!!!

You'll be fine, Hippy. Try not to think too much about it, it will just stress you out. Think loving, chocolatey thoughts. x

Thanks kiwi.

I just read that 1% of pregs end in missed-miscarriage and I also read that 80% of all miscarriages happen within the first 8 weeks (I'm 9 tomorrow!). So I am feeling a bit better.

Sorry to anyone whose experienced these things recently and is thinking, "Shut up, Hippy. You don't know what you're on about!"

Hippy, sorry you're worried. It's normal, especially after other people's bad news. But you know that. You'll be fine. And you and the fat lady are flying our flag!

Anyway, off to download Total Wipeout on iplayer to cheer myself up. Boys love it.

Tetley - you didn't sound negative at all. You were spot on - it is a real mix of emotions.

Italiangreyhound - lovely DH for buying you the trainers

Hippychick - completely understand how you feel. I can't quite let myself believe in this pregnancy - I think it's a protection method having m/c last year. But the reality is that it's outside our control - so I'm trying to focus on letting go of the worry. You are right - the stats get better each day so roll on 12 weeks!

Does anyone know - when they talk about the 12 week mark are they measuring it from LMP?

Kiwi - funnily enough I was thinking of TheFatLadyisuptheDuff but I don't want to tempt fate!

rowing - tempted to try the baby aspirin but read a recent thread on here where they warned that Lesley Regan was advising against it unless you had had your blood tested. Booked in to see my doctor and will ask her.

Also worried as due to have dental treatment on the next two mondays (filling and implant) - worried whether I should go ahead or try to put it back to the second trimester? Am going to check with the doctor - but does anyone have any views? Thanks.

TFLS I think you should speak to doc and dentist about what they think is best re treatment. I think you can have an apron around you to make it less damaging for X-rays but if you can postpone it may be the dentist will think that is best. For today this 'shocked face' can be a person at the dentist face!

Hippy don't worry I am sure it will all be fine. You sound like a very fertile, hippy-mummy. [grins]

Hey BIG FAT CONGRATULATIONS to TFLS!!!! [bgrin} (Been dying to use that one with th hat and hair!). Enjoy every magical moment of it. I'm thrilled for you!!

Re the dentist, I would ring up in advance and ask the dentist. I had some dentistry work done when I was pregnant but I can't remember at what stage - 2nd or 3rd trimester, I think.

Re the 12 week mark, my understanding is that it is taken from the start of your last period.

Hippy for what its worth, I really, truly believe you will have no problem with this pregnancy. Whilst its easy to say not to worry and a lot harder to do, I think the odds are well and truly in your favour. You've basically conceived immediately after giving your body the chance to settle down post-IUS (what does Toni say in her book - allow 3-4 months before trying?). I think you've probably got the fertility/body of a much younger woman (didn't you say your husband says you look much younger too?). I agree with Italian - I'm sure you'll be fine.

Rowing thank you for your kind comment. DD will be 5 in March.

Kiwi thank you for birthday message. I had a lovely day and I hope you did too.