Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ more adventures of TTC

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Actually now I feel guilty using up the last post of the thread - hope this will do as a continuation

Hi everyone,

TFLS how pecooliar - the funny CBFM. What could it be. [thoughtful face]
I did find acupuncture really helpful before I had IVF and it worked really well on my symptoms, so I do think it works, although I'm not sure why. There are so many systems in our body it must influence of them.
There are bits of TCM which I find a bit like the stuff about facial characteristics and personality, kind of, if you have a long nose you are mean and that kind of thing.

Gum it's a pain isn't it! I know about being frustrated TTC, I mean we started two or three years ago and have spent a fortune. Having said that I sort of forget how long it has been. It is impossible to maintain that initial level of frustration and unhealthy to maintain the initial level of sadness. Now I feel quite laid-back about it all, but then again we haven't given up yet.
Re the extended feeding, did you do this with your other children? Can you remember what they were like?
I found that as my LO grew bigger he fed less because he was too busy. We did a lot of walking everyday and lots of visiting which helped keep him occupied. However it didn't really drop off until after two and he stopped by himself at three.

Has anyone heard from Fifitot?

Hi all

Feeling a bit tender today and was a bit crampy last night which they warned me about. No sign of the bleeding they promised which is a good thing I guess. I'm on antibiotics as a precautionary measure though. Apparently there was a national change in the fluid they use recently and since then there has been an increase in infection post hycosy so they are dishing the pills out just in case.

Anyway, for those of you that aren't eating... they started off with an internal scan which was ok. Interesting to see my CS scar from the inside and after a bit of a hunt located both ovaries. No signs of endometriosis or fibroids, I had ov'd from the left ovary apparently a few days ago and the right was starting work on the next so all good news. Then they squirted fluid into me and checked the tubes and they were all clear with no blockages. The registrar seemed pleased with what she was seeing but the photos of the session go off to the consultant for him to look at and we see him Xmas week.

So it looks positive but DH a bit down in the dumps as he's assuming the "fault" is on his side .

Gum very impressed at your still bf-ing. I only managed 5 mths and loathed every minute of it, I felt so unwomanly which is really - it's weird how your mind works (or mine anyway)

Spiral that is great news, great to have information and reassurance. Is your cycle settling down now?
Poor old DH, it's not the end of the world if he has a problem though, lots of couples have fertility issues and half the time it's the bloke. Has he given a sample yet?

I found bfing very weird and not very pleasant for ages, but we had such a rocky start that I was determined not to let it all have been in vain. But I didn't find it very 'natural' for ages and ages. I think latterly it was nice and cosy, when DS was over two. He wasn't so demanding and I could also tell him when I didn't really feel like it without feeling guilty.
I think there must be a lot of social conditioning in there, plus a healthy dose of post-pregnancy hormones. I think I was completely weird in general for a couple of years after having DS.

spiral that all sounds very positive. Hope your DH is feeling ok about stuff now. So good to know tubes are clear and ovaries working (that's the main mechanics of it all after all).

Was it Fifi who got the BFP?? I know it was someone who was having one last go - (so to speak). Where is she now??

Not heard from Mabh recently - hope all ok.

Looking forward to my consultant on saturday. My reflexologist says she thinks I need to be in control too much and I should just let it all happen (haha - nice idea) Never realised that I was a control freak before - but think she's right.

Spiral, all sounds really good. I've heard that after that procedure you have a higher chance of getting pregnant. I hope it does the trick for you.
TFLS, thanks for that excellent site, I am sure I can incorporate some of the foods into my diet.Off to the shops today, I fancy some strawberries!
As for the breastfeeding - with my baby before this LO, she had it til she was 2 months shy of her third birthday, but with her I didn't care about being fertile again, as I thought she was our last!My change of heart didn't come round til she was 5.
I can't remember when AF returned, but I was working from when she was 8 months old, so she couldn't have the boob for 7 hours a day, whereas Charlie is always putting his hands down my top or patting my breasts,saying, "Ta. Ta. Ta".I can't really sit down or it's on again, then I feel awful for saying no. I am trying to offer more food and drink in a cup, and I also try to keep moving!
I hope that one day in the near future I will be happily pregnant and all of this will seem funny, and not worth the worry!

So what has happened to many of our group? When I looked back over the old thread, there were many others....where did they go? Are they all happily gestating somewhere else??

Gum I am at home during the day as well, so didn't have the big break, but did go back to work in the evenings when DS was around 12 months so he didn't have a feed in the evening, but all day was still on.
I definitely found being at home, he would ask for feeds all the time, but being out he wouldn't remember.

Hi everyone, been offline due to horrible cold/flu generously shared by DS. Should be BDing now but havent felt the remotest urge and now it looks like DH is coming down with same, might be easier to forget this cycle and climb aboard the next one. Still feeling Cr*p and hoping you are all feeling perky!
DS 'helped' with decorating the xmas tree, funny how all the baubles ended up in one spot and he certainly lacks the 'less is more' philosophy of design...
Festive mince pies to all!

Woodelf it's horrible isn't it! Everyone I know has something wrong with them, or is just recovering.
Still didn't put up any decorations after all the talk. You are very good getting it all done despite the sickness.
Aren't children good, they always pass on their delightful bugs and lurgy.
Thanks for the mince pie, mind if I just eat the pastry? [not liking mince face]
Don't know I mentioned, but have an update on the old frozen embryo transfer news.
AF arrived on Sunday night and I calculated was next due on December 27th.
The doc I saw had asked me to phone after the next AF, but I thought it seemed rather an unfortunate time of year to start any treatment with holidays and that kind of thing. I phoned the hossy to check and they were a bit hmmm, not sure, might work, might not. However, the nurse said play it by ear, if it doesn't work out for this month then they can start treatment after January AF, which would be the 24thish.
TBH I have been so unhealthy this month I kind of would prefer to wait. It's not just being ill is it, it stops you doing other healthy things, like taking exercise and sometime cooking healthy food, due to lack of interest/energy.

Hey Rowing! Have a festive cupcake on me - no mince of any description in sight. I don't really like them either, but always seem to eat one or two out of politness only. You're probably best to go with your gut feeling about your treatment in January - amazing to think those little embryos are frozen in time and like sleeping beauties waiting to be reawakened into life![grins at how amazing nature/science is!]

Good news spiral.

Nothing much to report here. No results yet (for LH/FSH bloods or my singing exam!). On a positive note,am about to have some apple crumble and custard. Yum.

rowing, that seems pretty sensible. Taking the time to concentrate on such an important thing rather than being distracted by illness def a good idea.

Evening all, have been having a holiday from MN, as I'm a little tired of thinking about ttc 24/7. REALLY thought this last cycle was the one to do it, tingly breasts, the whole shebang, thought I'd come back on here shouting "guess what!" but nup. Back on the rollercoaster. My stupid dh is still drinking, because he chooses not to believe that alcohol impacts negatively on sperm - despite the nurse at the clinic telling him he should drink no more than a couple of wines A WEEK. I can't believe he's putting a bit wine ahead of our most cherished dream. It's making me question the relationship, to tell you the truth. Or is that just depression and despair talking? Hmmm ...

Sounds like everyone else has things going on as well. Sorry to hear it.

Hi all,
Woodelf thanks for the cupcake [puts mince pie down politely then rudely elbows it into the bin]
How are you all now, any improvement?

ILGH enjoy the crumble.

Kiwi aaa, you are fed-up! How much does your DH drink exactly? Has he had the old swimmers checked out yet? If not he will be in for a nervous time if you do IVF because they will definitely test. [chortles knowingly]

Not much to report, still quietly falling to bits, but trying to get more rest. I was averaging 5 hours a night with all the waking, but now I'm getting earlier nights and resting during the day in a bid to get better.
Might go back to the doctors on Monday for a chat.
I'm watching the worst film of all time about a pack of killer sharks they pop their munching mouths out of the water and shout 'we're hungry'. Just ridiculous.

Rowingboat sits down alone and cuts a piece of yule log. Munch!

hi all, im 40 (just) ttc my 4th now, my AF is due tomorrow, and the signs are pointing she is on her way, so no luck this month, fingers crossed for next, every one i know seems really shocked i want another baby at my age, but i dont feel a day over 39 lol xxx

kiwi sorry to hear your stressed out about DH drinking. If it's any help my DH drank beer when we were trying to conceive both our DS's and we got preg really quickly. He's still drinking beer now that we are ttc #3 but he has cut down and he drinks low alchohol stuff - but it is still beer. I know we have to try to be healthy but we have to live too. He's probably not putting wine ahead of your dream just thinking that it can't really make that much difference. Hope it sorts itself out between you.

My consultant moved appointment from saturday to monday night so i am still waiting to talk to him about my short LP. I have my list of questions ready. I just feel like if i can get a decent length luteal phase I will be in with a shot.

chocolate log to all of you. xxx

just thought id say I was wrong . AF didnt come. got a BFP today,:0 still in shock only been trying 8 weeks, docs told me it would take ages at my age, it soooo nice to proove them worng!!!!!!

Candy - big congratulations! What lovely news.Enjoy your pregnancy. Did you do anything in particular this time(apart from the obvious!)? I'm always interested to see if there's any little tidbit of information relating to ttc.

Kiwi, are you feeling any better?
What about you Rowing?Is all the illness gone? Just when I started feeling better, I now have a new cold, which is giving me an awful sore throat every night. Honestly - I've had enough and would like everyone in this household to be healthy for a while!

ILGH - any results yet? How about your singing exam?

Woodelf, has the illness left your abode yet?

As for Christmas, for some reason this year, I am not really "into" it...not sure why. Suppose I'll have to start thinking about presents soon. Not to mention food (All of DH's family coming here - 15 for lunch!), and a tree. I buy a new tree every year then plant it out in the garden.Last year it was a lovely flowering pear.It looks lovely in the garden now. It isn't very traditional, I know, but far more practical, and it always looks pretty. This year I might get a red flowering gum...have to go and look today.

I think part of the reason for being a bit detached about Christmas is that I really thought I'd be pregnant by Chrissie, and obviously that isn't going to happen.Unless I ovulate this week and catch the first egg, and I don't expect that will be the case.

My attempts at BF my LO less aren't going all that well.Doesn't help that he's also had a cold and sucks for comfort.And like Rowing said, weaning might not even do the trick...patience...wish I had some.

Congrats Candy! A lovely BFP just when you thought it wouldn't happen....

Thanks Gum and Rowing - mrs flu has finally left the building. I realised it was flu after DH got it and then got over it within 48hrs - turns out he's had the flu jab whereas I hadn't... So I'm loving feeling vaguely human again and hoping to get a bit of BD in before the window of opportunity is shut. DS been madly tantruming and making me question the wisdom of having another but realise feeling ill was the biggest influence at the time. Naughty step is working at last - he may live to be 4 after all...
Love the sound of Yule Log - so much more appropriate for the time of year - and I assume it involves CHOCOLATE Woodelf caught dribbling into her keyboard...

thanks gumblossom and woodelf, the only thing i was doing is trying the shettles method for a girl, dont really care what it is, but after 3 boys we thought we would give it a go. but as long as its healthy we will be happy the only thing is i am soooo narky, always snapping and in such a bad mood, never had that with the others, my DS dont know what hit them . hope this passes soon !xxxx

Aww Candy! I seem to remember from my pg that for the first few months at the time when it would have been time of the month I was still hormonal - and not in a good way! Maybe thats all it is at the moment - what a great xmas prezzie though!

yeah just have to try and bite my tounge wodelf, i can almost feel the hormoans wizzing rouund my system, not good at all

Congratulations Candy. We're trying for a girl after three boys too. Can and ask if you kept the method up to this point or did you just say "sod it" and go past Day 11/12? I don't know if I've got the patience for the girl method as it's supposed to take longer than for a boy - good on you for just two tries.

I PASSED my Grade 5 singing btw. Just found out today - got a "high pass" - i.e. missed that merit by a mark or two. Boo! Still really pleased though.

"Can I be nosey" I meant to say. I'm just 40 too. I am taking you on as a lucky mascot .

Congrats ILGH! Grade 5 sounds awfully hard? I've done Hypnotherapy for people doing Piano exams that probably have the same nerve wracking anxiety about them - well done you - grab some chocolate Yule log and feast!

Congrats candycupcake - excellent news and so lovely when you can prove the doctors wrong

Also congrats to ILGH - I'm completely tone deaf so very envious at your musical abilities!

Love the tree idea gum.

Worried by your taste in films rowing - but it did make me laugh.

Kiwi - sorry it wasn't your month. Always more of a downer when you've had reason to hope. I keep reminding myself that it only takes one to stick... [TFLS hands over well worn mantra to kiwi]

Glad you're back in the land of the living woodelf. Hope you're not too washed out.

spiral results sound promising so far. Hope the appointment goes well.

Got a Peak on the monitor today (had 7 days of High readings) so will be glad when we can have a rest . Two edged sword this knowledge as I hate to think I might miss a chance! Thank god for quickies!