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Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul, vol 2

987 replies

thefatladyscreams · 21/09/2009 16:35

Hardly the most original title but I didn't want to loose anyone (well that's my excuse for the lack of originality!)

OP posts:
boodleboot · 29/12/2009 08:20

mrsR....its strange seeing you so quiet. lots of love. thanks for doing the list tho....

well CD 20 for me, either 8 or 10 days to AF due...i have taken my temps this morning and yesterday morning and they are 37.1 and 37.0 so have put them into FF but didn't remember to do any others this month. will keep doing from now til end of month tho so should see big dip in that temp if AF is imminent. Next month i will temp properly if no BFP this one. i can't pinpoint when i ovulated this month as had pains at around day 12 but also at around day 15....don't really have a scooby whats going on iside my body this month but thats ok....FF confuses me slightly as because i wasn't temping this month or using OPK's it doesn't register if i have ovulated or not therefore i am not in the post-luteal phase according to it...

off to work for me now....not looking forward to it but on the plus side DH is decorating my sons room and the house is UTTER HAVOC....why so much mess is needed to decorate i have NO IDEA....best i leave before he gets the blow torch out....

Sam - i have a very definite feeling that i had conceived when i did with the PG that sadly ended in EP....i knew a week before i knew IYSWIM. FX for you.

LeeWT · 29/12/2009 09:28

mrsR are you ok? Pls dont feel down :-(

cakes good woman!!!!! congrats!!!

hi to everyone else xxx

SamanthaB123 · 29/12/2009 09:54

Thanks [boodle]. It's funny isn't it? I just feel like this is it. Of course saying that kind of thing here probably dooms me How are you feeling this month - are you optimisitic?

I know and understand about temperature changes but interestingly mine never seems to change much even when I have ovulated. I keep monitoring though. Perhaps I have a dodgy temperature taking technique!!! I might have to look into this .

The waiting is fearsome isn't it? I'm still in the middle of the month and I just want to know even now!

boodleboot · 29/12/2009 10:15

i have no real idea what i am doing temping to be honest....it won't stop me testing early or anything, just another 'action' to put in towards conceiving i guess....i feel quite optimistic as that is my natural position but feel quite realistic that it may take me a while with only the one tube. I am due jan 6th so reckon i could test NYE maybe as my first ridiculously early test and then keep going from then til AF arrives....ha. when can you test sam? lee hun, whats the score with you now? actively trying??

CakeandFineWine · 29/12/2009 10:20

hello ladies,
Just popping in, I'm a bit scared to leave you all
Did a clear blue this morning and its def a BFP! so decided to uethe duedat calculator and its the 5/6th Sept, fingers crossed!

I'll still send you all postive thoughts and lurking for a long while yet!

Cheepz · 29/12/2009 12:16

cake top job

mrsr| sometimes everything is just abit [bicuit] and there is nowt anyone can do, thanks for keeping list on track though

boodle temping, noting stuff down, all thats tuff is good to do if its helping psychologically from month to month

meita thinking of you petal, hope all going well still. [hug]

leeWT nice to see you lurking about, I am still looking like a larder

sam123 think you have to try and trust your insticts - although boodle and I have both been burnt on that front recently

... as for me, CBFM showed peak yesterday and again today, I am taking antihistamines at the mo as alergic to cat at mums so not sure thats going to help, but dh and I managed a sneaky quick one last night while my folks were having dinner with friends downstairs and ds asleep next door - wierd trying to bd at parents house but we are out for dinner tonight so maybe I will jump dh in car!! takes me back a few years!

fingers crossed, although could do with a month to lose christmas pounds before get pregnant and had written off this cycle as have not been taking vitamins and have been drinking loads of booze and coffee!!! ah well we will see

at least I seem to be past the desparate to be pregnant stage now which lasted a good 4 cycles post mc, now its almost like I am just trying, not so much trying post mc, don't know if that makes sense...

love to all

SamanthaB123 · 29/12/2009 15:50

Hi all,

[Boodle] I'm not due for ages, it's only day 14 now. Last month I didn't test until my due date and I had a number of faint positives as a well as a digital positive. The faintness was because I was about to miscarry and eventually it turned negative. Because of this I feel loath to test early because I don't feel that I can trust a faint positive again. If I do conceive this month it will only have happened very recently, if not be happening as I sit here typing...it's ages before I can test really. I'm due around the 13th January, I really should hold out until then...watch this space, I'll be testing on the 9th!!!

[Cheepz] Now that your not worrying about ttc all the time, you'll almost certainly be pregnant. Prior to this time, both my daughters were conceived in a very ad hoc fashion. I had little awareness of my cycle or when I was ovulating and conceived straight away both times. I've learned all kinds of things since mc'ing!

[Cakeandfinewine] Your news is so exciting. Reading that you have your BFP has kept me going. It's so good to hear success stories. Look after yourself and really enjoy every minute. There's a whole person growing in your tummy, what a fabulous thing!

[MrsR] You have gone very quiet, are you ok? Your messages have kept me going over the last few weeks since I found you all here. It's not the same without you. SB

zayja · 29/12/2009 20:26

Sorry, I stepped out for the holidays but am back. AF got me last Mon. so am now on day 9. Congrats cake, great news. Hope all of your Christmases were great. Last of the family left today so am now relaxing with DH on the couch about to watch TV and nap...

Tuesday's list updated for me:

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 3 CD27
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD24
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD21
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 12 CD21
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD20
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 4 CD20
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD17
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD13
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD11
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD9
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 9 CD9
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD5
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD3
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 3 CD60
trixel TTC#3 UCL28-35 cycle 7 CD60

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December

tigerbear · 29/12/2009 20:54

Hello all, hope everyone had a nice Christmas!
Well, I really thought things might happen this month - stupidly did a First Response test last week BFN of course! Then convinced myself I had implantation bleed, as started bleeding 9 days ago, a week before period due. It was the same light flow for 2 days, stopped for 2, then started again. Today I had the first day of 'proper' period - very heavy and bad cramps! Aggghh! For some reason I was convinced it was going to be THE month! Hey ho.

SamanthaB123 · 30/12/2009 09:48

Wednesday's List:

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 3 CD28
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD25
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD22
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 12 CD22
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD21
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 4 CD21
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD18
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD15
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD14
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD12
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD10
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 9 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD6
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD3
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 3 CD61
trixel TTC#3 UCL28-35 cycle 7 CD61

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December

SamanthaB123 · 30/12/2009 09:56

Hi Everyone,

Feeling a bit flat suddenly...it sort of hit me that I am getting towards the end of my window for conception and that I might not be pregnant this month. While I thought I was ok about mc'ing, perhaps I might not be. I made myself feel ok about it because I could go ahead and try again. All I did though was to potentially delay the sadness which is just masked at the moment.

I was so optimistic, where did it all go?

VivClicquot · 30/12/2009 10:51

Morning ladies

A fleeting visit from me before we head to the Lakes for New Year.

Am on Day 25 and have been having incredibly vivid dreams about taking tests and them coming up positive. Also had a few twinges on Boxing Day which my imagination is hoping was implantation, but was probably just imagination! So still resisting the urge to do a First Response - although may buckle tomorrow as a way to close off the year.

Am over the moon for you, cakes - we seem to be having a run of good news on this thread what with you and Meita, so fingers crossed it continues.

Anyway, hope you all have a lovely day tomorrow. Can't wait to see the back of 2009, so see you in a much brighter 2010.

xx

tigger15 · 30/12/2009 18:55

Thanks for the message boodle.

Just to liven the thread up a bit how about an AIBU?

The day after my ERPC sitting at home feeling sorry for myself I called a good friend of mine who I don't get to speak to often because she lives in another country and the time difference means the evenings don't work out for us. She has an abusive ex-dh with whom she had children and a new very nice dh with whom she was expecting another child. We had kept in close contact through most of her troubles and she would often turn to me for advice and I'd do what I could in terms of finding lawyers and just being a general sounding board.

Anyway the conversation that day started with me telling her my sister had got engaged we talked about that as she knew her well and then she asked me why I sounded down so I told her. Her response was oh. Then she started talking about how difficult it was being pg. As you can imagine this really went down well so I ended the call and decided to just wait and see.

So 6 months later I receive an email from her saying she didn't know my sister got engaged (hello?) and was there anything big happening in my life.

So how do I respond?

  1. Ignore the message.
  2. Inform her that I did tell her my sister got engaged and leave it at that.
3.???

I just don't know what to do. It's partly I feel like all I am is a portable agony aunt with no feelings of my own as opposed to a friend (which I always thought was a 2 way avenue). Also I really didn't tell many people about my mc (outside of my family 3 others and 1 was a close friend who confronted me with a huge bump and has just had the baby today) so I guess it's hurt feelings as in I trusted someone enough to reveal something personal and they can't even remember it.

What do you all think?

louisesh · 30/12/2009 21:51

Hi all.TIGGER your friend sounds very selfish think as you get older you come to realise who your true friends are...I ve lost a few along the way[particularly as you experience MCs , i ve found] i ve just come to the end of my tether with selfish people and cut them dead out of my life as think its hard enough without people like that draining you.....I personally would e mail back informing her i d told her all this already and how you feel[but thats just me!]

Take care x

AF got me today...knew it would and have no feelings either way as [like i ve said earlier] no point me getting pg with the chromosonal problem and the fact that i 'll probably miscarry again.

Happy new year VIV fingers crossed.I too think thank god its the end of 2009 but given up hoping for a better next year as hoped for the same over the last 3 years and unfortunately for me and my family they ve all been crap for a variety of reasons.

Arh SAM hugs to you .It can take ages to recover from a MC..My first physically took 6 weeks then i went off sick from work for 3 months leading up to my due date and had counselling as couldn t cope at that stage.The 2nd MC i was only off for a week and hadn t even looked at the due date [although thats not happened yet] so..... you take as much time a s you want/need and be good to yourself.

Oh for the LIST i m on cycle 25!!!!

Well, did my 2 day week at work,shame every week isn t like that!!!! Off to parents tomorrow in Worcestershire for much food,alcohol and exchanging of xmas presents YEH......

HAPPY NEW YEAR ALL X

CakeandFineWine · 30/12/2009 21:53

Still lurking

tigger bloody well tell her how you feel, she probably didn't know how to handle it so I guess you have to make the 1st step! At least its easier in an email!?
And no YANBU

tigger15 · 30/12/2009 22:35

Thanks for the affirmation. I think it was probably a combination of her not knowing what to say and the usual self-absorption a lot of people get when pg.

I guess I just feel like I give and she takes and at the moment I want someone who will support me in return as I feel fragile so much of the time.

Louise thanks a lot for your message I really hope this year is the one for you (and everyone else of course).

hohohojollster · 31/12/2009 05:51

Thursday's List:

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 3 CD29
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD26
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD23
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 12 CD23
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD22
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 4 CD21
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD19
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD16
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD15
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD13
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD11
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 9 CD11
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 25 CD7
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD4
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 3 CD61
trixel TTC#3 UCL28-35 cycle 7 CD61

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December

hohohojollster · 31/12/2009 06:03

have been lurking a lot... and welling up, heart sighing, laughing and nodding vigorously (sp?) at appropriate points.

Have MASSIVE twin envy, apples. Reading about your scan made me well up and some.

Worried about MrsR. Hope you are ok.

sam TOTALLY know what you mean, and can empathise with how you are feeling.

tigger, no YANBU. IME many struggle with how to deal with "difficult" news... partic if they are lucky enough not to have suffered any significant losses themselves. It's like when you HAVE had a significant grief, you gain entry to a club that means you understand more quickly and have more confidence to trust your reactions and responses to others when it happens to them IYSWIM.

SO sad to read about the recurrent issues others have had.

Am not very confident this cycle... not enough activity at the right time. Plan to tackle TTC with gusto (whoever she is) in 2010. BUT am becoming resigned to the fact that at nearly 42 DS may be my only cherub. And what a joy he has brought to me, I must always remember that.

Wishing you all very happy new years... MN has been very important to me in my grief since my MMC in August (even if I haven't always felt able to post, reading has been a lifeline) . Thank you all. x

SamanthaB123 · 31/12/2009 07:56

Morning ,

I feel a bit better today...I think that I have done pretty much all I could to be pg this month ! If it was meant to be then that will be just fab, but if not, well so be it. I do feel optimistic that I have conceived but I know that I could convince myself of practically anything given time!

A couple of questions though. I have been taking my temp in my mouth in the mornings, but it never particularly changes - it is usually 36.2 and sometimes 36.3. I'm pretty sure that I have ovulated this month, and this has happened in the past, so is it possible that my temperature doesn't particularly rise at ovulation?

I was also wondering, last month when I conceived I definately felt 'different' in my lower abdomen. It's difficult to describe but I felt bloated and my tummy was not painful, but tender. I had discomfort really low down towards my pelvis almost straight away on either side that I could only vaguely describe as what I remember 'stretching' pains to be in my first pregnancy 12 year ago. I have all of these feelings again this month - but don't usually have them in my regular cycle. Anyone else experience anything similar? Obviously the temptation is to read much to much into this, which I am trying not to do .

Good luck to everyone who is testing, I do want to say, thank you...getting through mc has been so much easier because of you all. I needed to know that it wasn't just me and that it was my fault in any way. You are all fab!

Happy New Year! SB

louisesh · 31/12/2009 10:05

Hi ALL

HOHOHOJOLLSTER On todays list my entry should cd2,cycle 25!!!!AF got me yesterday....

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

hohohojollster · 31/12/2009 10:12

Thursday's List: corrected for Tigger and Louisesh.... it was a VERY early start with DS... think the others are correct..

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL? cycle 1 CD26
Sunburnt TTC#2 UCL28 cycle WTF CD23
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 12 CD23
boodleboot TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD22
Jollster TTC#2 UCL26-28 cycle 4 CD21
Cheepz TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 5 CD19
samanthab123 TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD16
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 9 CD15
sarahlou8 TTC#3 UCL27 cycle 1 CD13
TFLS TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD11
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-27 cycle 9 CD11
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL31 cycle 7 CD7
MrsRigby TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD4
Louisesh TTC#1 UCL33 cycle 25 CD2
effilump TTC#5 UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
lulabell79 TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
keevamum TTC#3 UCL? cycle? CD?

WTTC
LeeWT
Justbeenforapromenade
Fingerscrossedlegsopen

MIA (stopped at CD60)
em22 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 3 CD61
trixel TTC#3 UCL28-35 cycle 7 CD61

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
Hoops997
Stressy BFP 22nd August
becky78 BFP 4th September
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September
Chamois BFP 7th October
Apples BFP 9th November - TWINS
Meita BFP 10th December
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December

SamanthaB123 · 31/12/2009 10:39

The more I find out about conception, the more of a miracle it is that I have two children. I knew nothing at all prior to this experience. Suddenly I find myself at 36 wondering how on earth I have lived so long without properly understanding. I may, ahem, have looked like a bit of an eejit with some of my previous posts. I have been reacting entirely based on the way that my body feels, (which I thought was perfectly sufficient), however, I now realise that most of my posts may well go against recognised medical science. Ahem and again.

It seems that you cannot ovulate if your temperature does not rise. All that ewcm over the last few days may mean my temperature is about to rise because I have recently ovulated, or it may just mean that I have dodgy abundant mucas. Lovely.

Last month when I conceived, I spied some abundant ewcm, had a good stab at bd'ing and bingo! I was probably quite lucky... In my favour however, this month, while utterly ignorant of what was going on, there has been much bd'ing, some of it probably at a pertinent time. If I do conceive luck or God (depending on your beliefs) will certainly have played a part.

I rather wish I hadn't started reading so much. I had happily convinced myself that I wasn't obsessed with having a baby, but, perhaps in hindsight, that is not strictly true. I do seem to spend an awful lot of time mulling the whole thing over. This has caused me to research and read which takes us back to the start of this paragraph..!

I began this process with the rather naive assumption that because we wanted to have a baby, we would. I get 10/10 for optimism (which I still believe plays a fine role in conceiving) but probably 10/10 for arrogance too (sorry if I offended anyone along the way) . I think that I will be approaching the whole thing with a little more humility in the future. If nothing else I have learned a little about conception and a lot about myself.

Happy New Year girls, 2010 is going to be our year !

barrenbrook · 31/12/2009 11:10

Hi Girls,

My goodness, there has been a HUGE flurry of activity on here, I have some serious catching up to do! Again! Welcome to all the newbies, sorry you are here but as lots of the ladies have probably already said you've found the right place to find your way through the tough bits and share it all out with the rest of us.

Apples & Cake A big whoop whoop from me!!! and wowser Apples, Twins! Super exciting! Congrats, I am super jealous happy for you both!!!

How is everyone else? MrsR how you doing, hope you are a little less stressed? Meita Are you and the bean well?

I?ve fallen off the radar a little recently, been having a bit of a wobble as this time last year I was pg and it was mid Jan I m/c so because of the time of year it?s all coming back to me. Not that I like to dwell on it as it?s all done and dusted but sometimes the frustration gets to you, as you all know! I?ve not used my CBFM thingy this month, we?ve just been having sex every two to three days instead.

Right I'm off to try and catch up with everyone's news.

Hope you all had a wonderful Christmas, here?s to a babytastic 2010 for all of us!!!

tetleytea · 31/12/2009 11:12

Hi everyone, just dropping in very quickly to say Happy New Year (and decade!) to you all, and wishing us all lots of beautiful babies

tt x

barrenbrook · 31/12/2009 11:16

Oh and SamanthaB123 I wouldn't worry about feeling naive about the whole cycles thing, I didn't (and still don't) have much of a clue about it all! I find the whole thing so damn confusing! You are not alone and most certainly not arrogant!!!

Sometimes I wish I didn't know about my cycles at all! I managed to fall pg after having my coil removed and having sex about 4 or 5 times in two months (our shifts clashed!), seriously, how does that happen!!!