TTC after a Miscarriage - no 2, let the fun begin!!!!

[Diddle]

Here we go girls, a brand new thread, i was so fed up of paging down over the other 1000 messages.

xena - you're always at Ikea, didn't you go last week??

Lottielou - hello, sorry missed you being on here, we have been to the Bullring shopping, have never been before, its quite good. DH bought me an early birthday pressie so i'm just playing with it now (a PDA).
feel like we've done nothing all day, must get something done tomorrow. Very pleased to hear that you're taking it easy and having a good time.

better go and cook some tea.
hope everyone is okay today.

Haha Diddle I went on Thurs. I always have to go first and find out what they have got and then DH will come pick it up with me. He doesn't like to actually browse there

I'm sure I should know what a PDA is??

Hey Diddle - I love the Bullring, i cud live up there if DP wud let me! I cant believe you had never been until today! It's good that it doesn't feel like you have done anything, means you have had a chilled day! Good for you! When is it your bday? And what on earth is a PDA?

Xena - Glad you know what i mean about just 'being' i love hearing all the old stories they have and particularly makes me laugh wen they put the world to rights. LOL Sounds like you too are having a nice weekend!

Well this will probably be my last post until tomo. Will be up early in the morning to do double the run i did today! Yawn, oh well!

Night Night All, Sweet dreams!
x x x

Hi all,
Sorry have'nt been on. Lots been going on here. How is everyone?
Age-30
Dp-24
Ds1-13
Ds2-1
4 mc's (last one 29th March 05)
And possibly ectopic atm. Will find out Tuesday.

P.s re Humphreys- That is a horrid way to find out. With my last mc, I went to the hosp for my 10 wk scan (should've been 11+2) but the scan revealed that the baby had died 3 wks earlier at 8 wks. We had to opt for the d&c as it had been dead for a while and would'nt mc naturally. We felt the same way about wanting to get out of there a.s.a.p. I remember trying desperately to hide my face when I came out so no one would see me cry (did'nt want to freak out a packed waiting room).
As soon as af comes we'll be back to ttc!

Morning ladies

A PDA is a handheld computer, and my Birthday is 13th July.

Xena - i think you're DH has the right idea about Ikea. Hope you got all you needed.

Hellkat - good to see you on here, and i hope all goes ok on Tuesday for you.

Lottielou - i'm sure you run far too much, you make me feel very unfit, couldn't run as much as you do. Loads to do today as we did so little yesterday.

hellkat - very pleased to hear that you are definitly trying again, i know you have been through so much and it must have been a tough decision.

Morning All!
Hi Hellkat, good to see you! Hope Tues goes well for you!
Diddle - I have to be running a lot as the race for lofe is in less than 2 weeks for me so i need all the practice i can get. Speaking of which am just about to start limbering up for my morning run, was hoping to of been and done it by now but DP was fast asleep.
Hope you all have lovely day, i will be staying at home (well at my gparents) today so will pop in a and out to check on you all!
Keep smiling, can feel some BFP's comming on very soon. x

Hello Hellkat I'm so sorry for what you are going through I'm glad to see you are going to join us on this thread though I miss the Nov thread and sometimes I torture myself in reading the parts when I was still pg. Hopefully we will all be back on the antenatal boards sonn.
Hope the rest of your weekend is restfull.

Diddle was does PDA stand for Personal ???
Can you access mumsnet from it?

Lottielou is the RFL the womens only race? My sister and niece are doing it. I get to look after her 3 DS's (including the monsterous twins )

Morning All!

Xena - PDA is personal digital assistant (I think!). Did try to get on and tell you all last night, but had broadband problems (again ) so wasn't able to post!

Welcome to Hellkat - sounds like you're having a rough time of it atm. Really hope Tues brings some good news for you.

Thanks Tabs I am trying to broaden my knowledge of all things computery

thank you tabs, yes i think it is what you said.
it very good though, yes i can access mumsnet from it. very useful. But only when i'm int he house not when i'm out and about. so won't be sending you messages from the playground

Lottielou - i bet you'd be running even if you weren't doing the race for life. have fun and take it easy.

Xena - i tortue myself with the nov thread too. you're not the only one. glutons for punsihment aren't we.

off to the launderette as our washing machine still isn't plumbed back in yet. not impressed.

Diddle one of my friends has a little computer and a mobile like mine that has a blue bit and he was showing me his emails while we were out.

sorry havent been on for a while, have had another mumsnetter, Mummytosteven, staying, so been really busy!, actually though, feel a bit low....someone i know, who is deeply depressed and struggling to cope with her children, who is in an unhappy relationship is preg again..i know it was deliberate i thinbk she thinks that a new baby will take all her probs away...i cant help feeliong angry with her and , is this normal?? i dont want to feel like this,, but i cant bring myself to ring her..im such a bad friend..trouble is ive bent over backwards to help her and her situation is very complex, i told her some months ago before i lost eve that another baby was a bad idea, shes always saying how miserable and isolated she is, she doesnt drive and relies on on her dp for everything,.god i must snap out of it, i sound really spiteful, trouble is the relationship is technically dead in the water, its not fair to bring another child into that, god everyone will flame me now, feel so , would have felt like thisregardless of my own situation anyway...rant over!

Xena - you can also get a blackberry, which a cross between a PDA and a phone. It's very good for receiving e-mails (they automatically arrive, whereas with a lot of phone/PDAs you have to actually go online to retrieve them), but is a little bulky for holding to your ear like a phone. Of course if you use a hands free kit then that doesn't really matter.

I think the O2 XDAII also looks quite good as a combination phone/PDA, but the O2 signal isn't as good in our area, as we really are in the middle of nowhere!

Hi Spacecadet. I don't think that anyone will flame you for feeling like this. I strongly believe that the reason for bringing a child into the world should be that you are in a loving relationship and want to celebrate that, not that you are in a bad relationship and think that a baby will 'fix' it.

Although she may find it hard to understand, it probably is best that you don't ring her whilst you feel unable to be supportive. She will obviously need people around her who will support her unconditionally, and you quite understandably don't feel able to do that at the moment.

It's also quite natural to be jealous of anyone who's pregnant, whether they are you're friend or not, but especially hard when you know that you are in a better position to raise a child than the mother to be, and want a child far more and for the right reasons.

Hugs to you.

Thanks Tabs will be a techy before you know it.

Spacecadet I'm sure I know who you are talking about and I feel very cross at her as well. (If i am correct in who I think it is) What the hell is she playing at?? If she and her DC haven't gone through enough Why would you want to put another child into that situation

Tabs advise is good I find it very hard to support people unconditionally which is a big flaw in my character. I can understand when people make wrong descisions its just when they do it time and time again going against people who care for thems advice IYKWIM. One of my sisters is like this and I find her v difficult especially as she goes against her DH's wishes as well.

tabs and xena thankyou, ive supported this person through a lot but give her , her due shewasgreat when i lost my baby, but i dont feel i can ring her with the old congrats.

Morning ladies

Very busy on here today.

HellKat-thank you for your comforting words at such a difficult time. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday. Why do you suspect something is wrong and eptopic in particular? Fingers and toes crossed that you don't have to go through it all again.

Lottielou- are you mad doing all this running? I am currently having a chocolate overload and I don't normally eat chocolate. Have also realised that I can hit the wine and sherry bottles again. I will give it another week and then it is back on the Weight Watchers diet. I am eating more now than when I was pregnant.

Does anyone know how soon after a MC should you get your proper AF (not that I'm desperate to try again or anything!).

Well, the ironing is calling so must go.

Love and hugs to everyone x

Thanks all for your support! Greatly appreciated.
Humphreys- Just got out of hosp on Wednesday after having to have 2nd d&c (had retained products which became infected). Also had numerous positive pg tests which could've been due to the retainment or ectopic (would'nt have been a healthy, normal pg due to infection and pain etc). Had to have another hormone test on Friday and took a pg test which was still postive so something's showing pg hormones (also still in pain) Hence have to wait until Tuesday when blood results come back.
Xena,Diddle- I know exactly what you mean about the Nov thread. I go back because I miss some of the girls but so hard not to imagine what we'd be like at that stage.
Space- Your feelings are totally understandable! Never agreed that a baby "fixes" problems. If there's probs there then a baby will only magnify them.

im afraid i do lurk on the aug thread and torture myself with what might have been.

Then we're definitely normal