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TTC after a Miscarriage - no 2, let the fun begin!!!!

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Diddle · 25/05/2005 10:15

Here we go girls, a brand new thread, i was so fed up of paging down over the other 1000 messages.

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Lottielou · 31/05/2005 12:40

Xena - Dont apologise for being angry. You have every right to do so. But if you dont express that anger and hurt then there cud be a drift made with you that will take longer to put right if its not sorted now. x

wishingchair · 31/05/2005 13:19

Hi everyone - can I join you? Here are my stats:

wishingchair

age - 30
dh - 35
living in - Surrey
children - dd 2.5 years
m/c - discovered missed m/c on 14 Feb 05 just before 20 wk scan (baby was 16 wks-ish), m/c next day

Just got to the point when we feel ready to try again so I'm making the tentative move onto this board! Got af at the mo then its all systems go (kind of). Going to try to stay cool and relaxed and just see what happens.

Hope we all have some good news soon!

Xena - very upsetting, agree with lottielou to try and break the ice if poss. I got really upset when one of my closest friends hadn't got in touch with me. I called her in the end and found she was so worried about me and cared such a lot but thought I'd want some space. That wasn't true and I'd have kissed her if she'd turned up on my doorstep but she thought she was doing the right thing.

xxx

Diddle · 31/05/2005 14:00

HELLO!!!!
here i am.

Xena so sorry to hear how insensitive your family have been, i have a sister who is much the same, doesn't talk about it and in the beginning she asked a few questions but sent more time talking about herself and her friends that are pregnant which really upset me.
I would try and break the ice. If i say i'm feeling rubbish or down about it, she doesn't aknowledge what i've said at all, and when i told her about my rose trees, in memory of my babies and my wristband, she made no comment at all. I haven't said anything to her as this is the sort of person she is, she's wrapped up in herself and i didn't really expect much more from her, but it is very hurtful.

Lottielou - Hello, i've been to the Sealife centre, did you forget?? glad you had a good weekend, ours was ok, could have been better.
Plenty of BD though, not sure if it has been at the right time and i'm convinced that i will get a BFN this month, but we will see, not long to go before we can test. Then the stress will really begin.

Maddyd - i think you should visit the docs too, but from what i've heard it is completely normal for your AF to take a while, so don't worry about it. Love the jokes by the way, you're on form today.

Wishing chair - big welcome to you, we're a great group very chatty and everyone is really supportive, glad to have you here.
how are you feeling???

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Lottielou · 31/05/2005 14:02

Wishingchair - Welcome to the thread hun. Sorry to hear about your loss I'm sure you'll find great support here.
Any questions, fun, serious, ranting go ahead.
This is a very loopy thread at times, i'm sure we'll maek you smiel and help you through this tough time we've all had
Big Hugs to you x

Lottielou · 31/05/2005 14:04

Diddle - oh pants i forgot you went there! Did you have a good time? Bet the kids loved it.
Why cud ur weekend of been better? Doesn't sound too positive!
I've missed ya

Diddle · 31/05/2005 14:09

not sure what the kids thought, i think they liked it, all apart from one he wanted to go home and play. but i thought it was ok, was busy when we came out, they were queueing down the street. Good job we went early.
DH was a bit of an arse over the weekend and made no effort to enjoy himself, which just annoyed me and ended up ruining my weekend. But we've had a major talk and you know what men are like they bottle things up and then explode rather than talking about their thoughts. Well DH was bottling up until the w/end, then exploded mainly about the babies and being so down because of it. we're ok now and he seems to be alright. not sure what to do with him, he's very worrying

missed to you matey Hows your day going, are you feeling ok today?

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Lottielou · 31/05/2005 14:24

Diddle - Men hey! What are they like! I'm sure he'll sort his head out!
I'm feeling o.k thanks hun apart from feeling we haven't BD enough at all over the weekend and i will not be expecting a BFP at all. I think our timings were all completely wrong, of course i blamed DP for it (as you do) and that as you can imagine went down like a ton of bricks! So not getting my hopes up one bit. Dont even want to test when it comes to it! Dont think i will need to.
Apart from that i'm feeling o.k!

Diddle · 31/05/2005 14:25

sounds like you're not really ok. dare i ask when you bd'd.

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Lottielou · 31/05/2005 15:09

friday and sunday

Diddle · 31/05/2005 15:29

well i was much the same only thursday and sunday. thats ok, your DP swimmers can last inside you for upto 72 hours so plenty of time for them to find that egg, and you know it only takes one. stay positive. we might be lucky. I think you're doing what i am and not letting yourself get your hopes up. not a bad thing.
If its meant to happen then it will.

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Lottielou · 31/05/2005 15:47

Yeah i guess ur right. I will still have that BFN tho. I wud put money on it!

Xena · 31/05/2005 15:54

It will happen when you are least expecting it DD1 was concieved when we had only done 'it' once defo I know cause DH was away for the rest of the time.

Diddle · 31/05/2005 16:28

i'm convinced i will get a BFN too, but we really don't know. if i'm away when you test you must text me, i can't guarantee the hotel will have internet access. and i'll text you.

xena you're right it will happen when we leats expect it. i just hope its soon.

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Tabs · 31/05/2005 16:46

Hello ladies - just popping in to say hi .

Have been having a busy day, so haven't had much time to post.

Hi to wishingchair - I'm very sorry for your loss, and wish you much luck in ttc again.

There's lots of sad faces on your posts today - I hope that these soon turn to .

Diddle and Lottie - sounds like you've BD'ed enough to me. When I got pg last year we only BDed on day of +ve OPK and 2 days later, as DH was only home for the weekend, and that worked, so no writing the month off just yet!

Diddle · 31/05/2005 16:55

thanks tabs good positive words will go a long way with me. my is defintly becoming a .

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Xena · 31/05/2005 16:57

I know Diddle I hate waiting, the more months the pass the bigger the age gap gets between the eldest and youngest.
Hi wishing chair sorry about your m/c

Xena · 31/05/2005 16:58

sorry Diddle the I know was to your earlier post

Diddle · 31/05/2005 17:06

thanks xena, how are you today? are you working??

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Xena · 31/05/2005 17:11

No, no children (other than my own) all this week which is lovely. I OK still annoyed at my sister but at the end of the day I don't really like her that much.

Xena · 31/05/2005 17:22

Gosh just reread mymessage and it sounds abit harsh but the thing is its true I wouldn't have picked her as a sister IYKWIM.
Thats kind of why I want a big family so that my DC's have siblings to choose from cause they are never all going to get on.

Diddle · 31/05/2005 17:58

good point xena, i understand, you can't choose your family can you.

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Diddle · 01/06/2005 08:08

morning!! hope everyones ok.
maddyd have you tested again today?? any bfp's?

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Xena · 01/06/2005 08:18

Morning Diddle

Tabs · 01/06/2005 08:32

Morning everyone

Diddle · 01/06/2005 08:35

how you feeling xena?? a little more chilled? is it getting any easier, or do you still feel quite mad at the world. I think i'm past feeling like that all the tie, it just comes and goes now.

Tabs - Hows it going?? are you ok?

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