um... I just think there is no harm in 'unofficially trying' i.e no charting, or opk, cm etc, just doing 'the deed' when we want to, not worrying about 'the right time'
This took the pressure off us, as were just carried on 'doing it' but unprotected to see what happened.
This is what I did both times before, and get preg really quickly. I think I might just being lucky, but it meant I didnt think about what day it was and stress, and just kept myself really busy, until I realised that i was late for my af, and then tested and got bfp.
We also bd quite often i.e 4-5 times every week, and I have no idea when I ovulate, which was a stab in the dark, but it meant that if I hadnt concieved that month, I knew that I must have missed my window, and thought that inevitably I would catch it in the end, so didnt get miserable about doing everything right, but still not getting preg. Obviously it was very hard miscarriaging, but I am getting tests for it now, but just trying to remain up beat about it. Most of the experts say that if you bd quite a few times a week, rather than at specific times, then you will concieve and you wont stress as much, and stressing can prevent you from concieving, it seems that being relaxed aids in concieving. The 2nd time I got a bfp, I hadnt bd anywhere near the middle of the month, so thought that there was no way that I would get BFP, but I did, so its just one of those things.
How long, and how old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
xx