Mid 30s TCC Gin Palace

[SkaterGrrrrl]

Welcome everyone from the old 'Mid 30s and TTC for the first time' thread. And welcome newbies too. Don't mind the poster in the corner dipping pregnancy test sticks into her glass of gin.

Don't panic just yet. It's not at all unusual to have that sort of bleeding early on. If it goes red then see if you can get in for an early scan to rule out it being ectopic, which is what they worry about with early bleeds.

Other than that stay relaxed, I know it's easy to stress out. When I miscarried (the first time) it was red and turning the toilet water bright red for a couple of weeks so unless its sustained red bleeding it may not be anything to fret about.

xxx

Oh ski thats awful. What trig said sounds very encouraging though. have everything crossed for you.

laurie that's shit for you too. I started temping mid-cycle the first time though, so day 2 is fine.

cheggers congrats on the A grade Aids results

And cosmo are you still fiddling around in the hairy pie missus?

Nocoffee - maybe go to GPs for a test? I'm going on Tues for confirmation (or not).

Thank you trig. Well the bleeding got worse - to the point where tampons are needed and there were some clots. I know you can still read about cases where everything is fine and it's just "one of those things" or it's a twin. Nonetheless I'm not positive and am gutted because we wanted this so badly.

The doctor just told me to take it easy all weekend which is really hard for me. If my bum spends more than 4 minutes on the sofa my head will fall off.

fingers crossed for you Ski. Hope your weekend improves and things work out.

Oh ski I'm sorry. Do as GP says & try to rest, preferably without your head falling off! I have everything crossed for you.

Well, my weekend away was cancelled at last minute due to hotel overbooking. Rubbish!

So a lazy afternoon watching the Lions & Wimbledon. The Thorntons chocs would go down a treat, if we haven't virtually inhaled them last night, we ate so quickly!

Hope everyone is having a pleasant weekend, x

Welcome RunLyra!

Sorry you're not pg (YET) Laurie but just think....First Class tickets to Thailand - awesome!

'Our dog talks in a thick posh Brummie accent'. Ha! Pleb. My cat purrs in fluent French.

PMSL at MrSkihorse shaking girl wee all over himself in bed... in some places they charge you extra for that!

'More importantly, what are your nipples telling you?'

Nipples say Ignorance is the night of the mind, but a night without moon and star. Or was that Confucius?

(((((Trig)))) Sending lots of good vibes over the ether to you.

I am also not careerist, cheggers, I like my job but it's not high flying. I leave at 5.30 on the dot and never have to think about work in my own time. I am in awe of people (like my sister) who are very ambitious, work long hours and earn a lot, but I definitely work to live. I just want to pay my mortgage, go to bed with a clean conscience (which I do as I work for a charity) and have enough money to buy books, wine and holidays.

PS Just caught up on whole thread and crossing fingers for you Skihorse

Me too ski me too I'm going through exactly the same thing. Try not to use tampons though. It's shit to use towels but it's best because you can monitor what's going on better and they don't interfere with the opening of the cervix.

Try to put your feet up and do deep breathing. There really is nothing you can do but wait and see. It's not always bad news but you have to look after your body and spend as much time off your feet as you can. Sending you the biggest punches on the shoulder for luck xxx

Also what i meant to say about tampons is that often the bleeding isn't constant so you run the risk of drying out your peeper and giving yourself an infection

hey trig Thanks for the punch - awesome stuff!

Well the bleeding has almost dried to a trickle so I don't know what the heck is going on anymore.

Sounds tough. Hang in there.

As has mine. I did my (digi) HPT on Wed and got a 'Pregnant 1-2 weeks'. Then I announced I had started bleeding and had passed a couple of small clotty things. Then I tested again yesterday (Fri) primarily because I won't be having my mc confirmed by a scan this time so I wanted it to tell me i wasn't pg any more so I could move on. Anyway, instead it said 'Pregnant 2-3 weeks'.

Now that doesn't convince me I'm afraid for all the reasons you could prob imagine re hormone levels going up even though mc in progress. However, my bleeding all but stopped yesterday afternoon so I was confuddled. Started again for a couple of hours this morning whilst I was on the move, but similarly has stopped again now. It's a fucking IRK when you don't know what's happening. I'm drinking lots of wine in the hope that I will convince God/Satan/Mother Nature/Tired Old Reproductive System that I cock a snook to it and pretend I never wanted a baby anyway so it will leave me intact

In other words, I'm behaving like I'm not pregnant in some sort of win-win situation lol

ski - Yeah I think Easterhouse trumps Springburn! I had some bleeding yesterday, don't know what's going on but I POAS and it was +ve so I'm trying to hope for the best. Doesn't seem to have been any more in the last 24 hours, so will just have to wait and see. Have you POAS to check??

trig - don't give up hope until the stick says no chance!

nocoffee - fingers crossed for you

laurielou - bummer however you do now get the chance to make lovely geeky charts (or if you don't wish to I know a geekylass who does )

Ladies - I was thinking about my bleeding starting friday afternoon, do you suppose it's the LAW that it has to start friday afternoon? I was thinking more likely to start bank holiday weekends too.

trigger I really don't know what's going on. I'm bleeding sure, but I have not passed the type of clots that I would pass during a normal period by shedding the uterine lining. And I'm sure this would be way thicker given there was something in there.

I am REALLY confused. My nips are looking milk ducty and about 30 minutes ago I felt that fluttering that I'd been feeling which makes me believe something is still there. It's very much a piss or get off the pot thing going on.

Geeky I was planning on POAS later or the morning figuring that if it has given up the ghost friday pm then hormones should be on the wane. He informs me his grandpa is from the Gorbals so our baby will be a proud bearer of Buckfast. beam His grandpa's an alcoholic and his grandma's very judgemental and catholic!

Awww, you girls. Ski and Trig, I'm sincerely hoping all is A-OK; I'm pretty sure there's a reason for the thread entitled '4 weeks and bricking it'...

Wildfig my nips are screaming blue fucking murder at me, thank god DH is nowhere near them as I think any form of contact (except bra) would send me over the edge. They are definitely a different colour, sort of more pink at the business end and darker in a patchy way. Still no period, have woken up nauseaous 2 days in a row, haven't POAS yet, will do so later... unless this is some form of hitherto unknown pre-menstrual torture.

donttry I'm booking drs appt tomorrow if things haven't changed. Waiting to hear all about yours tomorrow lady, don't hold back.

PS - all this talk of mucking around with hairy pie is making me feel sicker

Yay SKI, glad to hear it! Bit of a cross post there. BTW, what does milk ducty mean?

I mean I'm getting bumps around the base which I believe is where the milk comes from. 35 and ignorant as to the ways of human reproduction

Ahhh, I seeee [looks up milk ducts in dictionary, feels way out of depth...]

Feckit. Trig and Ski it is sounding way more promising. I'm really hoping for you.

I read that you should keep the jammy rags for the doctors so they can gauge what happened. Eeeewwwwww. Still - one indignity notch down from mws fishing your shite out of birthing pools with a colander I s'pose

nocoffeee I'm intrigued by your happenings. My appointment is Tuesday.

Skater I work to live too. Moved to the public sector years ago. Was bullied by a mickey man (Cork lingo for small man syndrome) and the bitch from hell last year but took a dive for 4 months (stress leave) and now have a hilarious lovely boss, lovely Northern clients in the main and a nice interesting job. Phew...

Haven't told anyone re BFP as DP's older sister is having fertility probs. She would probably feel the pressure if she knew I was up da duff, and it is also a cruel irony as me and DP always said we didn't want any kids, whereas she is maternity central.

She has been told to try for a couple of months and then try IVF. Want to give her a little pressure free time...but the secret is killing me..

Am I doing the right thing, or would she hate us pussy footing around her?

No symptoms...

Nothing helpful whatsoever to add - have never been even slightly pregnant - but if you think of all those women who give birth in British Rail loos (shows age) because they had nine "periods", it can't be all that uncommon...?

Really really sorry it's so upsetting and stressful for you, ski and trig. Hope the doctors sort you all out asap next week & sending fierce positive thoughts.

nocoffee the nipple doctor, he say DUFF.

• NOT STICKY BEANS, can we put that on the forbidden AF/BD/babydust-to-all, etc list, please?

I am 100% behind the sticky bean vein. I prefer a good punch in the shoulder.

POAS and positive... which tbh is just fucking with my head more - I've been bleeding for 48 hours now which I would've thought would've led to a negative. Meh.

Let me tell you something ski - you will know if you have miscarried, I promise you. It looks and feels different to any other type of bleeding

So on that basis, put your feet up and pour yourself a wine spritzer (a sort of 'I'm pregnant but trying to imagine I'm not' drink). I've just had goats cheese and yesterday I had pate and half a bottle of wine so yah-boo-sux to the pregnancy fascists. How do you feel about that?!

Hmmm, was practically sick in a fancy Cotswolds "I've got too much money, I'm going to open a Cath Kidston outlet" shop today. Can't work out if it's pregnancy or floral bunting related.

The Veto List
Babydust
Sticky beans

Any more?

yummy mummy - could never aspire.

The Veto List
Babydust
Babydance
Sticky Beans
TMI

trigger I have been out and bought a packet of pads, for the first time since 1987. But I'm not soaking through them in hours - I really don't know what the fuck is going on. I'm just back from the cinema because I couldn't see a difference between sitting on my arse on the sofa and sitting on my arse at the cinema. We saw The Proposal which I enjoyed. And cried. And then cried with laughter because at the end a girl fell down about 6 steps and went very loudly "bump bump bump bump bump bump". I didn't mean to laugh - but my OH was lol'ing and slapping his thighs and I accidentally laughed too.

ski ski ski

Who the fuck of us knows what the fuck is going on? The whole point of this thread is that none of knows what the fucking fuckety fuck the fuck is going on. Were any of us to know what the fuck is going on we would be in one of the smug self-congratulatory threads using words like babydance and sticky beans and wearing Cath Kidston pinnies. Now settle down and accept you still won't know what the fuck is going on 21 years from now when your lodger leaves University and stops being financially dependent on you.