Mid 30s TCC Gin Palace

[SkaterGrrrrl]

Welcome everyone from the old 'Mid 30s and TTC for the first time' thread. And welcome newbies too. Don't mind the poster in the corner dipping pregnancy test sticks into her glass of gin.

Cheers Laurie, happy birthday you big lush! I love Scotland, v jealous.

Sounding hopeful on the updiffedness you lot; I have a bit of catching up to do as I haven't yet ovd yet - shiny new temping chart tells me not, and I'm disturbingly aware of my mucus . Bonking like mad though AND have been shoving pillow 'neath my buns on a daily basis AND knocking back the grapefruit juice AND making sure I get some satisfaction so I'm setting myself up for another babyfail getting hopeful.

Ski I too have the same skiing dilemma but have decided to book a last minute long weekend in Jan so I'm not ruling out the possibility.

Babydust everyone!

ski you just feed the baby to make sure it's swallowing. Sorted.

Well I was totally suprised to find that I started my period yesterday. My temps were all over the place this month, so not sure I ov'd and had no indication that period was imminent, no spots, no bloating, no insane winges about how little housework he does. Just bleeding. Weird. 36 day cycle, so less than last time too.

Pleased.

Nocoffee Duck!

Happy birthday Laurie. Mmmm. Whisky. Hope it was the good stuff. In Inverness once, my posh bird best friend claimed, totally seriously, that the good single malt was cheaper north of the border. As if Scotland was a duty-free country. Honestly.

Cosmosis Hassle-free period sounds good. Well done you.

All of my "symptoms" seem to have disappeared, which suggests that I had some kind of flu, rather than some kind of pregnancy. I hate, hate, hate, hate, hate the two-week wait.

Ok am going to try and return to the palace...am missing it. Still a grumpy bitch tho.

Umm ski hate to be the one that mentions this but never mind putting the baby on the plane,there is actually a reasonable chance that you won't actually feel like skiing when the critter is that small...

By which I don't mean you never will again,but it's not a bad idea not to expect too much of yourself for a bit-it was still a bit of a triumph when small was that age if we were both actually dressed by the end of the day (am serious mate)

on the plus side I have taken a 14 mo long haul,it was fairly horrible but fucking worth it!

And in sept we are taking small sailing for a week in Greece.which is properly insane.I also went sailing when about 6 months pg so he's been before...

Ps umm cheers everyone for being nice about me being down

Oh and nocoffee it's recycling day tomorrow so I have a lot of empty bottles to fling at yer babydusty head! evil

Happy Birthday LaurieLou! Scotland sounds lovely.

ideal, be strong and repeat after me: "I will not POAS. I will not POAS."

Cosmo, glad you are pleased about AF's arrival.

pudding, glad you are feeling a bit better. You never need to apologise for talking about this stuff....

Where is everybody today? (I know I tried to post earlier and had probs.) Hope everyone is having a good Monday morning!

Thanks Sarah. am just conscious that whinging about life n relationship after having a kid is a bit..ummm... Un-TTC-y if ya know worri mean. As is missed miscarriage.

I would go n pester another thread but have never felt so at home anywhere on mn. So you lovely lushes are stuck with me....

And sorry laurielou the me me me thing got in the way of saying happy birthday! I shall have a pint of wine in your honour.

And back to
me me me...BOD precisely 1 week today.and think I may be ov'ing at w'end...dunno tho as am still not back to normal...dp's mum here at weekend tho. And our bed is so noisy we may as well go and have sex at the foot of her bed in the spare room.so yeah,of fucking course I will be ov'ing at w'end.and not having sex.

pint of wine. brilliant

my bloke said he used to quite often have a pint of wine when he was living alone in batchelor pad.

saved him getting up to fill the glass

that boy make me so proud

oh and happy 37th laurielou. glad you got to celebrate it in style. i'll be spending my 37th getting me follicles measured or counted or some such life.

first sober birthday for ... ooh not writing that number of years down

anyway - hope lack of posting isn't coz everyone is glum.

i'm working too hard at mo - but am with you all in spirit

x

Just a quickie to say Happy birthday laurielush, and cosmo for a bit of drama (for me, not for you of COURSE) why don't ya POAS. Ya never know....a bleed without a ranty few days leading up to it may not be what you think.

ski have to say i agree with nolongerchunky but was afraid to say it. My sis (she of three kids and all knowledge) has mountaineering friends who are due a baby soon and really want to keep up the climbing trips. She said what they don't realise is that for the first while they just won't want to.
You will ski again though missus, so get that knitting needle out of yer fango.

And helloooo everyone else.

So grumpy now I posted something horribly snooty on a AIBU thread...somebody gag and bind me....!

Oh yeah ideal what a right pain in the hole. And Canada was just an idle dream trip - nothing booked or nuffin.

Morning lushes.

Thanks for the birthday wishes - if I don't stop to think about it I don't feel a day over BOD!!!

Sorry to continue the grumpy thread but humpf. Boyf has now gone away on his charidee cycling thing until the end of the week, & I'm pretty sure I'm OV'ing (surely you don't need gussett details). Sod it. On the plus side I can watch cr*p girly TV & take over the bed by sleeping like a starfish for a few nights.

Off to peruse the AIBU thread - I like it that other people are also sulky at times.

Toodle-lou!!

Happy Birthday laurie. Can I interest you in a tankard of G&T?

pudding As if you're going to ov this weekend given your impending BOD. I bet every time you bend over you hear a sort of crackling... like walking of dry leaves in autumn.

As for skiing... I want to be able to continue asap - but I wouldn't book anything until at least 2 weeks after. I ski with "bettys" and one of them was skiing 3 days after a c-section! faints I just don't know. I had major surgery 4 years ago and drove home from the hospital the next day... but you just don't know how you'll feel. I've never had a head come out of my fango before.

Laurielou have you considered a drunken lunch date with an ex?

ski I'll have a tankard of G&T if you've got one going spare (as if!). We in the Cosmo household managed to RUN OUT OF GIN last night

I had to mainline the wine to get over the trauma, as I'm sure you can imagine.

Anyhow, good news from me is that my company have agreed to paying me off instead of me working my notice so at least I get some cash to live on incase I don't get another job. And the other kind of good news is that my finger is still firmly in the pie from the other week, so I may end up v ok indeed.

ski... Course I know everyone is different n you may segue into the while thing rather better than me n dp (that would not be hard)

I think my point is that both me and dp realised,after we had got thru the first 3 months or so,that if we had just been prepared to put our lives on 'hold' rather than trying to carry on as normal we would have found things so much easier. The thing was we were so scared of that whole 'life as you know it is over' thing and so used to our 'suit yerself' set up that we tried to live like we had before...and for us,with a very..ummm.. baby that didn't sleep a lot and that cluster fed for hours every evening, normal life was out of the question.

We are both pretty sure that if we could go back in time we'd gladly put everything on hold for the first few months rather than fighting it,with the knowledge that it really does get better/easier.

But then I would have said the first couple of months (at least) are basically about survival.am obviously not as hard as your mate!I had an (emergency) c section and it fucking hurt.I was up and about quickly but was really not feeling good.

I know fuck all tho,only how it was for me.

Ps ski ideal and everyone else that's poss upduffed...

Fingers crossed!

I had sex last night (hoo fuckin rah!!) which I believe increases chances of getting pregnant?am not sure actually when due to ov as cycles weird,and BOD looming,but hey...

Sorry have to wrestle small

That's better. I assume yesterday's silence was because you were all sleeping off the effects of a weekend of binge drinking and flirting with inappropriate men.

Cheers for words of advice, Sarah. Am determined to hold out on the POAS front until the beginning of next week.

Laurie If you bonked before he left on his cycling trip, you're still in with a chance this month.

Pudding There's always the floor? Not suggesting that such gymnastics are the greatest idea, and carpet burn is painful, but we must all make sacrifices...

VAG I was proud that I was managing the day after!

Still am actually.ski obviously hangs out with Amazonian superheroes

pudding one of them went in to labour the day she was skiing... she refused to get in the ambulance because she was having such a lovely day.

I do think sex helps, it's something the fertility clinic advised us to do...

The whole skiing thing IS normality - i.e., I hand over $62 dollars and a baby and come back 6 hours later. How brilliant is that?

Skiing 3 days after a c-section!!! The woman is clearly insane.

Lets drink to her insanity .

ideal yeah we shagged before the cycle ride . Well, it was my birthday!!!

Stupid question re ov tests...

Decided to do one to work out what's going on with my body...

It says that it's neg if test line lighter than control one,is that still the case if just a weeny bit lighter?

Am such a dumbass

pudding, I don't know as I use a digital fertility predictor, but I think there is a website (something like www.peeonastick.com or similar) that has people trying to interpret these things. You might also check out the manufacturer's website...they can be quite good with information (at least Clear Blue is).

Oh my god oh my god I've been reading horror stories on the childbirth forum all afternoon I feel sick but I can't look away. VAG, definitely don't go over there, you would faint again and may not come round this time.

Even the supposedly "beautiful, natural, positive" experiences sound horrendous. Everyone is covered in poo, and blood, and goo. People are ripping and tearing all over the shop. The word fistula has been mentioned on more than one occasion.

It's been said before, but I am certain that if men had to do this it would all have been sorted out by now.

I am NOT going to TTC. My fandango may well be out of bounds entirely. Forever.

ski the only alteration to any plans I have for snowboarding will be the on-handness of a nanny service. Honestly, the whole business of snow sporting will tighten up that tum nicely.

Been absent for a while - DP and I appear to have bought a fuck-off house over the weekend . So.... can't afford a baby!!!