Mid 30s TCC Gin Palace

[SkaterGrrrrl]

Welcome everyone from the old 'Mid 30s and TTC for the first time' thread. And welcome newbies too. Don't mind the poster in the corner dipping pregnancy test sticks into her glass of gin.

I knitted them! smug face

trig Fine really, it's just that today was a big day because I'm letting the horse go. I'd turned the phone off because I was snigger "working from home" so picked it up on voicemail. I suppose I didn't realise how interconnected it all was... she just wanted to know whether I wanted to use the hospital maternity unit/outside midwives/another hospital. Tbf she was just checking up on me - you know, me being a foreigner and not knowing the rules, what to do and when type thing. But yes, it was another reminder of my WD40 uterus.

How are you doing anyway? Have you spoken to the doc again about your still positive test? I'm wondering if you'll need a D&C? It doesn't seem to be clearing out of your system.

The nurse midwife only works on Mondays and Tuesdays (helpfully) so I'm going to phone her on Monday for some advice. Not bleeding anymore and no pain so I'd be surprised if there was anything still there. I'll do another test over the weekend, as there might be the faintest trace being picked up. Will seethe if I need to have a D&C - can't even clear myself out properly . Still, at least the chances of being updiffed this month are slim and, as luck would have it, AF will pay me a visit whilst I'm taking a well earned holiday in Cyprus at the beginning of August. bitchbollocks.

Oh you should've said you were going on holiday - for me, nothing brings on my period quicker than the prospect of a long flight and airport/plane toilets!

Good God, people. I joined a gin palace, not Radio Four. And I have no sneaky hobbies to 'fess up; I kill plants, I haven't knitted since I was twelve...I do spend a lot of time on the internet and I watch an awful lot of tv and I read. And now I see why I never fill in the 'hobbies' section of my CV, dagnabbit.

ski Yucky day you had, lady. I hope the weekend is filled with gin and A game to make up for it.

lol at womens institute apparently the new version is really 'hip'.

really girls. what happened in here?

idealcamel i'm with you all the way with killing plants, tv and internet.

how does anyone find the time to do anything else?

i do have grey hairs to deal with though and have started spending a tenner on shampoo rather than 2 quid 50.

does that make me a grown up?

[hopeful]

Hello Aerie, not sure that we've met, I've only been here for a couple of weeks. I'm not even TTC yet (because of the ANGST), so am a bit of an interloper. Sorry to hear about the job mate .

Camel, what's wrong with Radio 4?!? I graduated straight from R1 to R4 when I turned 30, and it's bloody brilliant

Hey Lyra. I loves me a bit of Radio 4 for the news, Women's Hour and for the evening comedy - but have you ever spent the day (like, a weekday) listening to it? You and Yours? The Archers? It's like being trapped in middle-class hell.

Feel like I drank all the gin last night. Which is weird, because I had NO BOOZE. Is it possible to have a reverse hangover? Or do I have pig flu? (hmm, hypochondriac much...?)

Ha! Who are we trying to kid with our young lifestyles? We're all fucking fogies. I love a bit of R4 and download podcasts all the time.

Even OH at his tender age of 23 (go ahead girls, giggle) has started complaining that the "words make no sense" when he hears pop songs. That's the start of a slippery slope right? He was also very offended by the jaunty angle a teenager was wearing his hat at.

I've gone crackers, I think I'm pg again. I'm 4DPO and I've got all the symptoms I had last month at this stage... I realise the BD word is banned, so maybe someone can throw some child metorites at me?

How about chucking blastocysts at you? Medical without the cutesy? O just utterly gross?

These two weeks make us all crazy...

Or not O

Oh ski I hope so!!! Yippee!

This is my radio schedule:

Today programme on alarm clock
R6 for breakfast
Would love to listen to womens' hour but at work... same for afternoon play
R6 and XFM (Adam and Joe) on Sat
Archers omnibus on Sun am

Old fogey, moi?

I hate comfy shoes, and I am a crap knitter, but i do have a proliferation of home grown produce in the garden. I grow a mean lavender bed. I also sew me own curtains.

Party on

I feel much better about my middle-aged-ness now. In my defense (I hope), I am going to see Oasis tonight. On the other hand, perhaps that is also a sign of middle age.

Just dropping in to the palace to report that I'm still alive,just fucking miserable.

Having a bit of a bad patch with (d???hmm)p and small is cutting his molars so I'm not getting any sleep.

Don't really feel this is the place to post my woes as it's all a bunch of missed and missed again miscarriage,exhausting parenthood,distant partners type stuff which is entirely inappropriate for a ttc soirée.

So am going to sit n watch scrubs reruns and sink a bottle of wine.

Normal service will be resumed as soon as possible.

Sorry for 'all about me'-ness of that post.

Manly backslaps all round.

pudding awww, don't worry - we all have me, me, me days and feel sorry for ourselves.

I had a MAJOR wobbly/me-me-me moment yesterday afternoon. I will now explain why as you all start slagging me off and saying "that woman doesn't deserve to be a mother". I spent most of the afternoon counting on my fingers whether it would be possible to ski this season if I am pg this month. I could "possibly" get a few days in November in Norway... but I don't have much holiday left for this year (I mean ANY - I'd have to pull a sickie).

Baby would be due end of march so that rules pretty much everything out. By the time I'm back on my feet it would be end of April and I HATE spring conditions - anyway, wtf is left at the end of April?

In June/July it starts up in the southern hemisphere - but what sort of a monster puts an 8 week old baby on a flight to Auckland?

So basically I spent the whole afternoon feeling really fucking miserable because I won't get to go skiing this winter.

pudding Although we're clearly a bunch of sarcastic & cynical BESHs, that surely means we're just more entitled to memememememe moments?

ski The thought of careering at 3 gazillion miles an hour down something very, very high terrifies the bejaysus out of me. Having said that, feel free to be miserable about the constraints that pregnancy will place on life - they clearly suck. I'm pretty sure you could put an 8 week old baby on a plane; they're still mostly sleeping at that point. Sleeping and howling. It won't make the baby that unhappy. It might make your fellow passengers want to kill you, though.

Um...can I just ask people? Am going crazy with might-be-virus, might-be-pregnancy symptoms. Woken up night before last with crazy nausea (it can't be in my head if it actually woke me up, right?). Nausea through yesterday which went away when I ate. Nausea and retching this morning which went away when I ate. My head aches, I'm spotty and I have uncomfortable lower back pain. But I'm about 7dpo, probably. It's just in my head, no?

Pudding, I hope you are feeling better. I totally sympathise and say, if you need a me day, take it. (Reference earlier discussion about flopping on the floor and throwing a tantrum: maybe you need to try it!!!!)

Idealcamel, I am 7dpo too and having similar symptoms (or at least spotting them).... I think it is totally normal to be a bit obsessive about this stuff. I have promised myself that I will not POAS until next Sunday (AF due), unless of course AF arrives.... We can support each other in the ignore all "symptoms" test....

skihorse, it is completely acceptable to take an 8-week-old on a long flight. Apparently, it is the best time to do it! (Think about people who adopt babies abroad or the expats who are living here and fly home to the antipodes to show off their poop factories bundles of joy to their families....) If you think Auckland is too far away, have you considered Argentina? Is that a shorter flight? Pregnancy/childbirth will change our lives (hopefully for the better), but it is reasonable to preserve the things that are really important to you!

So I went to see Oasis last night and decided I am definitely middle aged. The clincher was when the louts at the back started throwing full cups of beer/water/urine from the tops of the seats and I started getting hit. My thoughts were not "Ah, isn't it nice to see exuberant youth." Instead I thought, "I am going to write a letter to Wembley Stadium about this. And I am going to copy the newspapers." If that ain't middle aged, I don't know what is.... (In my defense, I was told by a health and safety steward "It's to be expected. I can't watch everything, you know." Why, I ask, can't they then hire more staff...!) Sorry. Done with my little rant.

Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday!

ideal - have you been hitting the tequila again? Coz if not, it sounds like you is up-diffed sistah.

nolongerchunky moan away, I don't mind
I am psycho with this pregnancy and drove DP out of the house yesterday with my hysterical rantings. He ended up on Beachy Head (suicide spot) and a wandering chaplain asked him if he was going to jump (he was only out for a fecking walk, albeit in the dark and rain!).

ski YANBU. I feel VERY resentful as I came to the slow realisation that I probably need to give Canada a miss as I don't really want to be out in the wilds and pregnant in case of complications. Also may be too wrecked to hike/canoe (slept for 4 hours on the sofa yesterday). Grrrrrr.
Any more symptoms you? How fab if you were up-diff!

PS I love R4 too and download podcasts including Women's hour.

Hate the Archers though.

Also love Stuart and Maconie though on R2 so does that bring my mental age down from 70s to 40s?

Sarah its not for nothing they call Oasis and their ilk yob-rock

Sarah I hadn't realised that about the flying, I thought the problem was in that the baby's ears would get blocked and of course you can explain to a toddler that they need to swallow. I will have to look in to this - but you may have given me a wee glimpse of hope!

Auckland could be broken up of course with a night or two in the far East. Argentina's skiing isn't so great, I'd prefer Chile. But the flights to Chile are pretty ghastly and I'm actually ahem shit scared of the drive from Santiago to the resorts. It's all possible though.

I've also been invited skiing with my girls in Vermont in december and I will be 5.5 months. gently weeps#

We've decided to have a long weekend in NYC in the autumn if I am now pg.

Symptom wise - I'm sat here in my knickers and a vest top because the sweat is pissing off me (it's overcast and rainy). I've been having weird dreams.

idealcamel I lost my breakfast and lunch on about 7/8DPO...

donttry LOL@Beachyhead - and that is a real pita about Canada.

Thanks, people! Sarah - I'm due to start bleeding on the Monday, so maybe we can stop one another from reaching for the early test kits? Have felt like I might be updiffed every cycle for the last six months, so think that the symptoms could be psychosomatic. Or possibly just psycho.

Ski Out of interest, I googled the babies-on-a-plane question (like snakes on a plane, with more screaming) and looks like you can take them flying from birth. You just need to ensure they're swallowing at take-off.

don'ttry Think I missed the Canada thing - what were you supposed to be doing?

Evening lushes! Well, I've returned from my week in Scotland "celebrating" my 37th birthday. Ovaries are not shrivelling though, they are pickled in their current state due to large intake of whiskey.

So back to reality of work & TTC tomorrow - boo, hiss. This week could possibly be ovulation week - whilst DP cycles from North to South Wales on some charidee bike ride mallarkey. Nice timing.

Been temping the last month - no surge yet. But possible chosen the worst month as lots of drinking for various birthdays.

Have to book in for blood tests next week to see if I've OV'd, & DP is surprisingly up for booking in for his "downstairs MOT" as he's called it.

Anyway, think that's my catch up in a nutshell. Before the healthy eating & detox begins think I'll just have a wee dram.......