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f*ck, f*ck, f*ck .....

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Disenchanted3 · 09/06/2009 13:09

I posted about feeling ill a few weeks ago, everyone told me to test, I put it off, i went on hols, bought some ebay tests, they came at about 11,

I did one...

Please tell me its not +

I never missed a bloody pill since DD was born, NOT ONE.

i CAN'T STOP CRYING ...

photo here

DH said he could see a diff colour after a few seconds so I left it till 5 mins and that.

OP posts:
liahgen · 09/06/2009 18:24

dis. If you suffer from PGP, (once known as spd) then see a chiropractor sooner rather than later, I'm sure you know that physio doesn't do very much.

You'll be ok, come on here and moan about your hips. Hopefully i'll be just behind you and my hips suffer something shocking. We can winge together.

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Disenchanted3 · 09/06/2009 18:25

lol thank you,

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SusieDerkins · 09/06/2009 18:29

I thought the failure rate was down to it being taken incorrectly. Shows what I know.

Good luck dis.

Northernlurker · 09/06/2009 18:35

Oh dear - guess the pill isn't an ideal contraceptive for you. Get the digital one and then see what you see.

I know it's not what you wanted but you and your dh will find a way to cope if it's positive. Everybody does - and it would be nice for your youngest dd to have somebody to play with. There are lots of plueses as well as the scary 'aaaaaaaargh' stuff.

How did your dh react?

ray81 · 09/06/2009 18:35

i think it is a positive to be honest 2 lines is always a positive. if you want to be sure all you can do is do another test first thing in the morning then you will def know.

Can i just say that although this wasnt planned for you there are alot of women on here that have been trying to have a baby for yrs and have had Miscarriages and IVF without success and would give anything to be in your position so we can try to give advise to you but the fact is alot of us are very jealous of your position. I just wanted to put that out there as it can be very hard when someone says "i cant believe this shit" and its all you want.
I'm not be horrid or anything but you may get more advise and responses if you were to refrain from these sorts of comments.

littlelamb · 09/06/2009 18:37

That's not helpful at all ray81. I understand why you might feel that way but fgs have some compassion

Unicornvomit · 09/06/2009 18:39

i don;t think women should have to censor their feelings about a possible unplanned pregnancy to spare those who are not able to get pregnant. should we not post birth stories either?

part of conception/pregnancy are unplanned pregnancies.

i can see why it is upsetting or galling, but MN has to be open to support every woman, whatever her dilemma regarding pregnancy

LilRedWG · 09/06/2009 18:40

ray81 - I understand your position, believe me I do. It wasn't a cakewalk to have DD - but SPD is crippling and I have been advised by physio not to have any more children due to this.

The OP has not started this thread to gloat, she has started it for support, so please do not have a go at her.

Northernlurker · 09/06/2009 18:41

Ray - sorry I don't think that's very helpful! It's surely quite plain from the frank title of the thread that the op isn't turning cartwheels and I know that's bloody unfair when a positive test would mean so much for some people. Speaking as someone who once looked at a HPT that I did not want to be positive can I tell you that both sides of the fence are pretty crap actually. Perhaps the best thing to do is to offer advice where we can and keep our personal feelings away from the op's situation? Her feelings are her feelings and it's expecting a lot of someone is such distress to post thinking of the feelings of posters who she doesn't expect to read this - iyswim.

Tidey · 09/06/2009 18:42

I think maybe the problem is that the Conception is topic is more commmonly used by people who are trying to conceive. No-one's trying to upset anyone else, the OP just wanted advice and opinions on the pic of her test. Well said Unicornvomit.

ray81 · 09/06/2009 18:48

i'm not having a go i do understand how she feels i have been on both ends i have a DD who was unplanned when i was on the pill and at the time i had some people who were trying to get pg around me, i was very upset about being pg and spoke to those people. i didnt find out til yrs later that i upset them ALOT and i realy wished they had said something to me and id known just how badly my words affected them at the time. i would have been more sensitive thats all with what i said.
I have been trying for 5 yrs and have just had my 4th miscarriage so i would give anything for an unplanned pg.

Ill go now sorry if i upset anyone i didnt mean to and i hope you get the result you want dis.

LilRedWG · 09/06/2009 18:50

Ray - I'm sorry about your MCs, they are so bloody unfair. Good luck with the future. Take care.

littlelamb · 09/06/2009 18:54

Trust me, when I found out I was pg with dd the last thing on my mind was, oh well, some people would love to be in my shoes . The dilemma an unplanned pg brings is about far more than the pg itself. Because I'm betting that while you say you'd give anything, you wouldn't want to be in her position
Dis

MiniMarmite · 09/06/2009 19:01

Dis - not sure which pill you are on but does the leaflet say that the pill itself can make you have a positive pregnancy test result?

Unicornvomit · 09/06/2009 19:05

ray81, i am sorry for your miscarriages. it must be a very difficutl time , and very upsetting, so i totally understand your reaction

also , perhaps conception not hte best topic BUT, in a panic, you are not neccesarily going to be thinking about other peoples sensitivites etc

can see both sides, but DIs needs support as much as someone who has had a miscarriage i think

bump09 · 09/06/2009 19:11

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nicolamumof3 · 09/06/2009 19:14

dis just sending you hugs, horrible situation to be in i know from experience. im on msn if you need to chat hun xxx

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Disenchanted3 · 09/06/2009 19:14

sorry ray, didn't mean to upset you but i can't help that this is not a good thing for me. I cant tell my family so need to say 'shit' somewhere.

and its conception, i didn't think where else to post.
its not a 'tryimg to concieve' section, its conception. (maybe mumsnet should have an unexpected pregnancy one?)

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5inthebed · 09/06/2009 19:29

Looks positive to me Dis. Have you told DH?

Definitely go get a digital one tomorrow, and if you can, stop taking the pill until you retest.

DeepGoat · 09/06/2009 19:30

dis - tis teh right topic to post on. i have been ttc for a zillion years and i am still capable of empathising with you.

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Disenchanted3 · 09/06/2009 19:47

thankyou goat

didnt mean to upset anyone.

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ray81 · 09/06/2009 19:53

dis you didnt upset me honest as i said in my last post i have been in your position and spent 6 months of my pg in tears so i realy do get how you feel and how hopeless it all seems. i never meant it to sound like i was having ago,i hate upsetting people and perhaps i could have worded it better. i just know that there are others on the conception thread that will take it to heart alittle and was trying to get that across but just ignore what i said. i dont want this to turn into a debate thread, like others have said its for you to get advise.

perhaps you should do another test as you now seem to have had one of each. i would say a digital would be best and its in plain english at least then you will know. i realy do hope you get the result you want just as i hope that people who are ttc get the result they want too. i know you cannot help that this is bad for you i realy wish it wasnt as it is a horrid position to be in.

Paolosgirl · 09/06/2009 19:54

We had fertility treatment for DC1, fell pregnant naturally with DC2, then I had a m/c and was devastated, gave up trying and a few years later when we definitely weren't trying I discovered I was pregnant with DC3. At every stage there was a whole raft of different emotions, ranging from the terrified, to the delighted, to the devastated, to the shocked.

I think what I'm trying to say (badly) is that we all experience different things at different times, and need support and advice regardless. You're quite right to post on MN, and I hope that you get the answer you want. Good luck.

Northernlurker · 09/06/2009 19:56

Disenchanted - come on now - imo no need for you to be fretting about upsetting people. This thread is about you and your situation, please don't add a burden of unjustified guilt to all your other feelings atm.

Ray - the same applies to you! I guess you got rather a lot of very firm opinions all in a lump there and this must be a very raw topic for you. I read your post and felt quite protective of the op hence my post - apologies for assuming you hadn't been on the other side of the fence as well. That was rather crap of me.

ray81 · 09/06/2009 20:09

nothernlurker, yes firm opinions it was and i realy realy didnt mean to upset anyone or make dis feel bad in anyway, hense have spent the last hr in tears as feel so bad i realy wish i hadnt said anything at all now. if there was a way i could delete it believe me i would.

as i said i hope dis gets the result she wants and forgets i said anything at all.