Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ - the continuing adventures of TTC

[fruitbowl]

Erm hope this will do as a continuation thread. Hello to anyone new to the thread. All welcome... xx

was wondering where you'd got to Kiwi!
Well, ladies, I've been in denial for over a week now but feeling so grotty today that I have to tell someone (haven't even told DP yet). I am pregnant. I've had 3 mc and a chemical pg in the past, hence the denial. If this doesn't stick i am chucking in the towel. You are the very first people I've told - have to tell someone. Maybe our chances of conceiving are higher when we all hang out together. research project, anyone?

wow Haraslou!!! Big Congrats! . Sorry you've been feeling grotty but surely this is a good sign? (I assume you mean with pg symptoms?). Wishing you loads of luck and stickiness xx

Kiwi - that's funny about mixing the threads up! Not that I've ever ever done that of course oh no. A few weeks ago I referred to all the ladies on the clomid thread as "old birds" and then had to dig myself out of that one . The 2ww is craziness itself isn't it? As Rowing says maybe we should just enjoy the delusion while it lasts!

Rowing - hope you're pampering yourself while you recuperate (get them slippers on!)

No news here, just that it's such a yawn doing the deed these days - both me n DH would SO rather have gone to sleep last night! x

Erm btw, it would be nice to do our stats again but I can't really find the last lot. Shall we start the list again? Ok I'll go first and would you all mind adding yours?

Fruitbowl - 41, TTC#2, CD 16

Graduates:
Haraslou

Haraslou, that's wonderful news! Sorry you're feeling off-colour - I'm thinking sticky thoughts for you.

Rowing, hope you're feeling ok.

Fruit, I was witness to your 'old birds' comment - don't think anyone minded. Very sweet of you to try to help me feel less daft, though.

Where's Fifi, Dixi and everyone?

Fruitbowl - 41, TTC#2, CD 16
Kiwikat - 43, TTC#2, CD 22

Graduates:
Haraslou

I'm here. I couldn't find the thread for some reason. Well done Haraslou!

As for stats......ugh.

Fifitot - 45 TTC#2 CD? Lost track this month!

Well done Haraslou - brilliant news!

Rockdoctor - 43 TTC#2 CD19

That's great news Haraslou, I have my fingers crossed for you. Take it easy and no road digging or chopping wood for a couple of months. I know you will miss all that, but it's the price you have to pay.
As Xserial hasn't been on for a little while, I have taken the liberty of making the stats look nice and neat.

Fruitbowl - 41, TTC#2, CD 16
Kiwikat - 43, TTC#2, CD 22
Fifitot - 45 TTC#2 CD? Lost track this month!
Rockdoctor - 43 TTC#2 CD19
Rowingboat - 42 TTC#2 CD18 (I hope as just finished a cycle of IVF)

Graduates:
Haraslou

I know what you mean about losing track Fifi, I wish I had a clue.
I think I may have ovulated in the past couple of days just on ewcm and cramping, but who knows. We did manage a bd, but actually it wasn't really a bd, just normal sex, so that makes a change.
I promised myself I would use OPKs to try to get an idea of where I am in my cycle, but it's too much of a faff and I keep forgetting.
Fruit I was laughing about the old birds, did you get hit on the head with a virtual handbag?
Have still been feeling a bit poo and slightly depressed, not awful, but that kind of lethargy thing, but I've hit the St John's Wort, which usually sorts me out very fast. I expect the old hormones are all over the place at the moment, so just have to grin and bear it.
Everyday is a bit better though, so that's cool.
Oo and I have joined the gym (smug face) did my first morning on Friday, so was completely knackered today, not sore, but urrrrgh, can't reach the remote control...thud!
I was talking about adoption to a friend on Friday and she reckoned her sister is applying to adopt and has been quoted three years. I'm not sure if we would be eligible, but I have always wanted to adopt, whether or not I had my own children. DP isn't quite so enamoured, but we'll see.

Congratulations Haraslou - that is brilliant news - a bucket of baby glue coming your way!

All quiet in the Dixie world - no3 son celebrated his 15th birthday on Thursday. I'm still waiting for the old witch, why can't she simply arrive and get it over with, these days she seems to pop her head in now and again for a week before she arrives proper - whats all that about?? Another age thing I guess

Good for you on the gym Rowing - I'm afraid I am a bit of a couch potato - atleast when I'm not running around after the family - lol.

My stats are:

Dixie64 age 44 ttc no.5

Dixie, running around after a family is pretty exhausting in my opinion.
Do you ever do that thing where you go into the kitchen to get a cup of tea and end up emptying the bins and tidying the surfaces and then half an hour later, wonder why you came into the kitchen?

It has all gone quiet here - is everyone out enjoying the sunshine or are we all just sitting around waiting for AF to show (or not) before we post?

Well, it's my first week as a SAHM - well, first week since my maternity leave ended last year. Have to say its going well so far but I'm spending too much time lurking on MN and doing that thing where you wander into the kitchen, or any other room in the house, and then wonder why - thanks Rowing. Went back to the local mums and toddlers group this morning and found out that one of the mums is PG with no.3, glad to say I just felt really pleased for her and fortunately she's someone who knew about my mc so it didn't have to lurk in the background unsaid. She also mentioned another local mum who's had her first at 46 apparently, and it was a homebirth.

So... How is everyone this month? Can't say I have high expectations as we got our timing completely wrong. Think I'm going to have a chat with DH about going to the GP and seeing if we can't do a few checks and get a bit of help.

I am due in next couple of days. Feel like crap so assuming AF on her way.

I wonder if anyone experiences this... Sorry if tmi.

After I OV I get very yellow cm (just a bit). Apparently the progesterone makes it yellow. I noticed my cm was white today. Do you think it means the progesterone has dropped and AF on her way?

Evening all. Hope you're all doing well.

Hi everyone. How you all diddlin?

Rowing understandable you're out of sorts but big brownie points for going the gym if you carry on, you'll soon be able to reach for the remote control with ease . Have just sent off for an info pack on adoption myself! Keep y'all posted - 3 years though?

Rock that's so nice you were able to be glad for your pg friend. Someone on my college course is pg and it is a constant source of conv, I feel jealous but not that I want to kill her which is an improvement Good luck with talking to DH about getting checked out. Will he be ok about it? I know some men find it hard...

Fifi don't get me started on the rainbow colours of CM!! Dunno if the white signals AF on it's way but I get horrid bright yellow after OV - I've been to doc so many times to test for infection but it's just hormonal - NICE innit???

By the way feel free to change CD if wrong:

Fruitbowl - 41, TTC#2, CD 20
Fifitot - 45 TTC#2 CD? Lost track this month!
Rowingboat - 42 TTC#2 CD21 (I hope as just finished a cycle of IVF)
Rockdoctor - 43 TTC#2 CD22
Kiwikat - 43, TTC#2, CD 26

Graduates:
Haraslou

thanks everyone. i'm still lurking, but will move onto the '4 weeks and bricking it thread' I reckon. Told DP and the doc today. so now it suddenly seems alot more real. Wishing you all the best of British and alot more besides..
Rowing - have you seen that 'difference between men and women' thingy about what a woman does after she gets up and says 'I'm of to bed then' ? puts 2 loads of washing on, makes the lunchboxes up, feeds cat, etc,etc. So true...
Rock, enjoy your new life as a SAHM. I thought we had our timing all wrong last month, so much so that I had called this a month off - just goes to show how much control we have over our bods

Hi. I've just read part of this thread and wonder whether you'll let me join. You might want to ask me to piss off when you hear that I already have 5 kids and would love another when I see some of you are trying for a second.

I'm 42 and I have a 9 month old son.He was born when I was 3 months off my 42nd birthday, conceived just after turning 41. My Dh had a vasectomy 8 years beforehand and a reversal 7 months before we conceived.I did acupuncture, he took chinese herbs and I took red clover leaf to help with the lack of fertile mucus.

I have enjoyed having this new baby so much, I'd love him to have a sibling close in age, however I'm still breastfeeding and haven't had a period, so don't know quite how to go about it.Don't want to wean him, and last 4 times didn't get a period for about 18 months, but who knows what will happen,as I'm much older this time.

Anyway, I really hope you'll all get your babies, and I am glad there are other women
my age ttc.

Hi everyone, it is a bit quiet isn't, with all the dry weather! I keep expecting a deluge because the weather forecasts have been predicting it, but so far nothing.
We are off for a week's holiday tomorrow, just the West coast of Scotland, so have our fingers crossed for at least one day of sunshine.
Haraslou, that thread sounds hilarious. I used to do that, but recently I have been drinking chamomile tea at night and when I say I'm off to bed, its all I can do to drag myself there. Roll on holiday.
That Hungary thing I don't count as a holiday - too much running around, that's no good!
Rock that sounds lovely, wandering around. Great that you have got straight into going to a group and have met another lovely mum. I bet your DD is thrilled to be hanging out with you.
Fruit, how far along are you with the adoption thing? Our nearest agency has an introductory meeting, but expects both partners to come, which could be a bit tricky since it is in the afternoon.
Kiwi how's tricks?
Angifi welcome to the thread. I remember being very broody straight after I had DS, I think it's quite common, from what I have read. Do you have big age gaps between your other children?
Well, went to the gym again last night [smug face] on the rowing machines (of course I like those with my name) and bikes. I went down to the nautilus weights room, but it was a bit too full of sweaty blokes and the tummy crunch machine had a queue. Decided to go back when the room was slightly less 'ripe'. [bleuch face]
I forgot how the machines got all sticky and warm when people [meaning blokes really] had been using them before you.
Really must think about packing for tomorrow... wanders into bedroom...wanders out...

Hope you have a lovely holiday, Rowing, and more than one day of sunshine.

AF due tomorrow, and pretty sure the witch will sweep in on her broom as she always does. Am trying to focus on being able to get started on the second round of clomid rather tha not being pregnant.

Haraslou, I was thinking about that 'difference between men and women' story just this weekend and musing 'how true' ...

How's everyone else? Anyone heard from Nanbred?

Have a great trip Rowing. Urggh, yeah that blokey stale sweaty stench. Enough to put you off. Oh. I forgot. I'm too lazy to go anyway. Good for you for making the effort. I haven't even got the info pack for adoption yet so v,v early days! I did read somewhere you'll need to wait a specific amount of time after stopping fertility treatment - adding on even MORE of a wait for us mature types

WElcome Angifi - of course you can join! Not sure if I can come up with an idea of how to conceive without having AF tho

Hi everyone else. I'm off to a friends 40th party next week where everyone will no doubt be getting scootered. I'm actually hoping not be pg this month so I can bluddy well join in for a change!

By the way, I went clothes shopping for said party today. Who thinks shopping in Miss Selfridge & Top Shop is a "mutton" thing to do? Honest answers! I don't mind I'm just chuffed with some nice funky stuff I got Where do you all shop? We are v limited living in the middle of nowhere...

Flying visit to site but have appointment at fertility clinic on 28th July. Earliest I could get in as they insist on seeing both me and DH for first appointment and DH's employers won't give anyone time off for medical appointments unless they have an official appointment card/letter with their name on. We can't do that as it's me that's referred not both of us so we've got to wait until the first day of our holiday to do it.....

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagh! AF here right on 28 days the evil witch!

Not sure if going to bother this month then. Friend gone into labour today with her 2nd. Boo hoo! Spent my lunch hour in Mamas and Papas buying her a pressy - felt very sorry for myself.

Good luck spiral with clinic. Do you mind reminding me of your age? Just cos I may consider that just to get closure but if I am too old may not bother, don't want to be laughed out of there! is it a private clinic?

Sorry about AF Fifi. Bloody grrrrGrRRR! Poor you in mamas & Papas too

Glad you got appointment sorted Spiral. Sounds a pain to wait though. (You've prob thought of this but..) I had a letter saying my DH had to come to, would his employers not accept that if you had one?

Anyone watchign Big Brother? xx

Aaargh no, not big bro! I saw the start of the last one, but kind of drifted off because I thought the people were a bit maaah! [not sheep maah, but that kind of take it or leave it maaah]
Is it up to much so far??
I shop at our local shopping place because it's a kind of out of town place, so I can nip round when ds is at nursery. Not much choice there either so I end up in New Look or Gap or BHS - hurredly adds but that's more for DS.
I would totally shop at Top Shop if we had one, I think I would be about a size 18 there though. I seem to recall the sizing was not generous. Or maybe I wasn't so fat innit!
Fifi, poo to AF, take a month off and drink like a fish, that will kick your ovaries into touch!
Kiwi, I knew you should have just gone for four babies. Missed a trick there! Mind you, still hasn't arrived, never know.....
I haven't seen anything from Nanbred either, have you searched for her?
Spiral that's a pain about the wait, but great news that you will get some answers. Of course you will probably be pg by the time the appointment arrives.
We arrived here at the cabin at around 7pm and it is so beautiful I almost cried and had to hide my face from DP in case he thought I was a big wet lump.

Oh Fifi, bummer. I didn't go to book group tonight, ostensibly because I was too tired, but if I'm honest, it's also because three of them are pregnant, and two of them are bringing very young babies, and I just couldn't be bothered being perky and cheerful all bloody night. Makes me sound pathetic and small-minded, doesn't it.

Hope all goes well with the clinic visit, Spiral. Shame your dh's company has such draconian rules.

Glad the cabin looks nice, Rowing.

Yes, I should have gone for it, but as you say, AF not here yet, on cd 29, so let's continue the monthly self-delusion that little Bartholomew is on his way.

Hello everyone
You might remember me, grownupbabes. I went off to wallow in a despairing pit of despair sometime around mother's day (March) and havent been seen since.

Until today... because....I return to let you know... oh my god....

it's happened!!!!!

B F P

BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP

So to all of you dear ladies, first of all, sorry for giving up and going off... but I am the official bearer of hope to you all.
I am now FORTY SIX and PREGNANT - BY NATURAL CONCEPTION. Oh yes, it can happen!!!!! It really can!!!!!!!

What is the secret of my success, you ask? It seems the answer is to stop thinking about it. This is the first month I stopped counting, taking pills, compulsory BDing and all the rest, and decided to get on with my life. Perhaps the old saying is true... a watched pot never boils.

Keep your fingers x for me. I'll keep you posted.

Wow Grownupbabes! Congrats! Hope springs eternal! x