Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ - the continuing adventures of TTC

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Erm hope this will do as a continuation thread. Hello to anyone new to the thread. All welcome... xx

Great news rowing. Good luck X

Still waiting for AF......but not got any hope as did that test on Friday. Wish the damn thing would turn up so I could relax a bit and get nasty day 1 out of the way. Drown out my period pains with a ton of red wine!

Ate a bread and butter pudding for 2 all to myself over the course of last night! Greedy git that I am. Always get starving before a period though.

Well wondering now............Am definately late as still use the charts and ov sticks - though not the temps.

Really sore and large breasts and lots of AF type pain but no WOD. However before I drift off into the realms of daftness, I keep reminding myself that I did a test on Friday when I was 11DPO and given my usual LP is 11/12 days would have thought something would show up.

Suppose will have to see tomorrow. Was desperate for a big glass of red as well!

Ooo Fifi, waiting with bated breath...

Pah! 3.30am it arrived and I spent the whole weekend desperate for a drink - which I could have had. Typical.

Back to square one.

Hi all
Haven't posted for what seems an age - but I have been lurking and trying to keep up with all the news. Just wanted to wish Rowing all the best for the transfer today - fingers crossed xx Sorry the witch got you fifi - she really is evil!!
love hugs and babydust
xx

Hi, everybody. Haven't posted in a long time. Going through my phases of its worth trying/its not. Have been using the opks and temping etc but the most challenging part has been to squeeze bding at the crucial time. Anyway, nothing new here. This month DH was away for an entire week, obviously ovulation had to fall in the middle of that week, so this month we have been relaxed.
Rowing tons of best wishes for your embryo transfer. I am sure we'll very soon hear the good news from you. Fingers crossed.
I get encouraged by reading posts from all of you feisty ladies so I wish to thank you all.
Good luck to all of us.

Hi ladies, can I join too please?

I've just turned 43 and we've decided to ttc #3. DS's are 9 & 6 so it's been a while since I was preg.

DH is convinced that I will fall preg as easily as i did when i was 33 and 36. I was lucky to fall easily and have healthy pregnancies and relatively easy labours (didn't seem easy at the time but looking back and comparing to others - they were!)

I'm really excited but I can't convince Hubbie that because of my age it could be sooo different this time. Firstly, it might not happen at all. Even if it does, I'm full of tales of birth defects and miscarriages and he is like, "It'll be fine!" Am I right to worry or should I be more like Hubbie????

Hi everyone,
wow, lots of new people: Hippychick and Pat and long lost people: Dixie!!
How nice to hear from you Dixie, what have you been doing?

Pat that is so part of torture, missing partners and husbands. That or having a row at ovulation time and not doing the deed.

Hippy course you can join. I hope you do get pg quickly, it would be great to have a BFP on here. Been a while. I must admit I don't really think about the birth defect issue, but if you do think about everything that could go wrong, you might not bother.

Thank you all for your well wishes, they are very much appreciated. My news is the transfer went well and I now have two embryos in my tummy. They are currently being treated to some home-made veggie curry and have asked to go to the park later. We have named them Toto and Papa.
The transfer was aaaargh, due to very full bladder. You know when you can't stop moving your feet because you really need to run to the loo!
I imagined the nurse and doctor asking if I wanted to see the screen when the transfer was over and me just pinging them out of the way as I sprinted to the ladies.
The whole thing only took about 15 minutes and the staff were lovely and very considerate. I was wearing the most grotty nightshirt ever, which wasn't quite clear until the, extremely bright, hospital lights revealed the stains and greyness.
Of the other 8 embies, one had given up the ghost, two were was very small, 2 cell I think and there was a 4 cell and a 5 cell and another 8 cell (the same as Toto and Papa).
The embryologist came in and said he wouldn't freeze any embryos under 6 cells and that we only had one 8 cell (Foo-foo) which was worth freezing, but that he didn't recommend freezing just 1.
So we felt a bit sad for the other little ones, but he said that if they had achieved 6 cell by the end of the day he would freeze them, but didn't think it would happen.
So the nurse phoned me at 3pm and told me the 4 and 5 cell had made it to 6 cells and were being frozen with their big sister. I'm so happy for Barry and Fluffy
So that's it!
Isn't that great!

rowingboat good luck to all your little ones. love the names. Barry was an odd choice - compared to toto and papa!! I was engaged to a Barry in my youth . I know what you mean about the birth defect thing. Even at my age there's something like a 1 in 50ish chance of problems. I don't need 50 babies - I just want 1 more - so I should be fine!!

I wouldn't worry at 43. That was my age when I had DD. Got pg within a couple of months. I'm 46....it's got difficult in the last few years it's seems. 12 months of ttc and no joy.

Good luck to you hippy. Wish I was 43 again!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks Fifi. I seem to spend my whole time saying to people who are younger than me, "Wish I was 39 again etc" It did me make me to have you say it to me. Thanks for the encouragement and good luck to you too.

Hello . I am 44 and ttc. Am I the oldest here?

Hi Pink, you are not the oldest on here. Are you TTC #1 or do you have DC already?

Xserial where are you? we need a new roll.

Hi Rowing. No, possibly/probably going to ttc No 4.

Greetings from Nottingham, where we are on a family visit. I've snuck on here to find out how you're all doing.

Rowing, great news re Toto, Papa, and Barry et al on ice. Really hope you've got some good news to share about all that really soon.

Fifi, sorry about the WOD. And typical about not finding out until the end of the bank holiday - all that wasted wine sampling time!

Nice to see you back, Dixie.

AF is due today/tomorrow, but there's not much hope as those familiar cramps have been tweaking away and this morning I had the sign that you just can't argue with - the dropped temp the day before the WOD arrives. Oh well - let's hope this next ride on the roller coaster gets us where we want to go.

Hope you all had a good long weekend.

Hi Everyone, back after battling with a particularly nasty visit from AF last Monday onwards, I'm getting back into my pre MC pattern of crampy heavy month followed by light but killer migraine month. Now feeling much better and trying to be positive:

• am back on def 27 day cycle which has to help
• can drink on Friday night at the Ball

- will try not to be too envious at the baby shower I'm organising on Sat for my neighbour - have lost 4lbs due to not eating last week - plus of course I have a spell on me......... anyway enough about me me me Rowing - everything crossed for the tiny ones great names If I get some time this evening I'll do a roll call

I think I am the oldest aren't I?

Ddilema - a roll call could be good. BTW if that spell works.....well I want one too!!!!!

Thanks for the greetings its lovely to be remembered :0

This summer has been so busy among other things no1 son graduated with a first :, I passed my 3rd year and should have spent some of the summer preparing my dissertaion ... but didn't but I have decorated 3 bedrooms and managed a two week holiday in Cornwall and no2 son passed 11 GCSE's - doesn't sound like much so I really don't know where the time has gone ........... isn't that another sign of advancing age Have been bd'ing the whole time but no luck for me trying not to focus on it too much - but I'm currently on cd12.

Rowing I'm praying for little Toto and Papa and hoping they stick fast - an extra bucket of babyglue coming your way!! When do you test?

love hugs and babydust to all
xx

Rowing, great news about your little ones! Looking forward to more good news from you soon.
It is great to see so many 40+ ladies on here.
I am still spending far too much time thinking about having another, but no sign whatsoever of ovulation.I am hoping that having 50 opks might help, but not the way my LO is breastfeeding lately.Crikey, it's all he wants to do.Looks like I am going to have to be more proactive about less feeding....It's just so much easier to give in when he taps my boob saying"ta,ta,ta".

Good luck to all.

Hi all, quick question (yes I really should know this at 43!!!). I am having trouble deciding what is day 1 at the moment. For the last two months I've had cramps and spotting followed about 3 days later by proper bleeding. So is day 1 the cramps etc or should I count from the day of the proper bleed? I'm testing for ovulation at the moment and waiting for the smiley face on the stick but I could be testing too early. DH says we should just go for it loads at the moment - very scientific!!

I would start the roll call for you but I am far too much of a novice. But I do promise to add my stats once I know how it's done. Hi Pink - glad you found us - it's good here isn't it. It's so nice to hang out with people who remember the 80's

Proper bleeding is day 1 I think. I used to temp and the Fertility Friend charts didn't count the spotting as a new cycle and waited until I recorded bleeding.

First day of proper bleeding is counted as day 1. OPKs may help but I am not very impressed by them. I read somewhere that the problem with them is that sex can become too targeted. I believe that temping is the only way to know that you ovulated (although a bit too late already by then) but exact prediction of ovulation is a little dicey even with sophisticated home tests. I feel the best approach may be bding every other day from the day bleeding stops until a couple of days after temp peaks. Sperm can survive upto 5 days while poor ovum lasts only 24 hrs so every other day can ensure some ready sperm waiting for the ovum. Also, I have read that the sperm has to be in the female genital tract for about 10 hours before the ovulation in order to get ready to penetrate the ovum, a process called capacitation which supposedly can take place only while the sperm is in the vagina/uterus and this process takes about 10 hrs.

Rollcall? Right you are, then. Ladies, form an orderly queue ...

Kiwikat cd1, 1 x ds, ttc#2, 43

Kiwikat cd1, 1 x ds, ttc#2, 43
pat42 cd26, 1 x dd, ttc#2, 42

Spiral cd10, 1 x DD (20mths), ttc #2, 46+7mths!

Hi to old friends and welcome to the newbies. Hoping end is in sight with this dratted cold.

Angi not done anything about cycle length it has just happened naturally. Interesting about the herbs though - is that the kind of thing you can get at a health food shop? Expensive?

Rowing LOL at the names Barry is a classic. So pleased for you, it's great to hear some positive news. Loads of sticky babydust coming your way.

Hippy and Pat - the consultant we saw at the fertility clinic in July said that she strongly advised against charting and testing as it doesn't help and can be counter productive. Just bd-ing every other day through as much of your cycle as possible was the most effective method. Easier said than done sometimes, but
infinitely preferable to ironing - in my book anyway