Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ - the continuing adventures of TTC

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Erm hope this will do as a continuation thread. Hello to anyone new to the thread. All welcome... xx

Grownups wow! Finger's crossed

Fifi I was wondering the same thing! Guess I should have posted rather than just thinking no new posts for a while [goes off to slap own wrist]

That is fantastic grownups!

Crikey it IS quiet isn't it? I've been away to see four lads called Gary, Jason, Howard and Mark sing a few songs.

Grown-up well done on sticking with de herb. It's obviously paid off! I just loved the bit where you said, it's really only chocolate that does the trick - my downfall completely but I don't have the excuse of the herbs, I'm just coating my tongue in the stuff on a regular basis coz I'm a pig!!

Day 27 for me. Acupunc. tomorrow (sorry not hardcore enough for herbs). No doubt I'll get the WOD myself in a few days. Hey ho and on we go...

Hope you other ladies dandy xx

Hi all,
it was all a bit deserted wasn't it, not much happening.

Grownup that's great news, I'm glad to hear you feel good, that has to be positive. What is it you are actually having to drink? Is it anything you have heard of before?

How is the acupuncture Fruit? Does it make you feel relaxed and lovely?

Spiral how are you getting on? Can you just remind me of how you got on with your blood tests and things. I remember you saying you were going, but then a blank.

VSF I just wanted to say that I very seldom manage to temp, it would drive me mad. Are you still having a bit of time off?

Fifi and Pat I haven't tried the clearblue OPK, it is probably really good and very expensive. Have you tried Ebay cheapies?

I tell you what, I have PMS city this month. It's been a week of disorganisation and stuff going wrong and then almost crying because I can't cope with it going wrong. Ridiculous! Oh well better phone the hossy then...

Aaargh, just phoned and have an appointment on Tuesday at 10.
I asked about bringing along the details of the last treatment and the nurse didn't seem very keen and asked if I were self-funded.
Grr!
We have to pay on Tuesday, but I'm not paying if they don't want to look at my last medication. I would consider that worrying.
This is PMS woman speaking though.

Hi Rowing! Not that I'm an expert or anything but I think it makes complete common bleedin obvious sense to consider what form your previous treatment too. You are not just PMSy! If you feel too hormonal to be stroppy with them, tell em they'll have to deal with me Good luck.

I wasted a whole morning arriving an hour ahead of schedule for my acupunc., fannied about in town to fill the time which was pleasant until I then realised half an hour later that I had arrived a whole day late. I am such a blinkin IDIOT! This is the 2nd time with this poor lady, I have failed to write down the appointment time properly. I felt like crying coz I'm such an imbecile. What the feck is wrong with me??

To top it all (TMI alert) I have the most ghastly gassy stomach at the moment. It's so bad, I think I'll have to sleep in seperate room from DH, can't force the noxious fumes on him! Must be some bug. Please don't tell me I'll have to wear a gas mask for ever.

DDs 1st sports day cheered me up tho! She fell over and came last in her first race ever but managed to keep the egg on the spoon!

How's everyone else?

Aaaaw Fruit! It's like we are living the same life. I also had that tummy thing, it is OK now, but lasted two days and it was horrible and bloaty.
How frustrating to get the dates wrong. Poo! Kicks dog! [dogs bites rowingboat]. I totally sympathise, that's the kind of thing I was doing. It will pass, just go easy on yourself, you're allowed to make mistakes.
I might take you along to the appointment next week, as long as you don't turn up the following week by accident. No just kidding.
Hope our brains make a full recovery overnight.
Those sports days are hysterical aren't they! And good on your DD for keeping the egg on the spoon - did you switch the school one for a glued egg/spoon you made at home?
Did they do that dressing up race with big hats and handbags?

Hi Rowing. Had 3 normal length cycles in a row now. the first time my cycle has been anything approaching normal since DDs arrival in Dec 07. (Just seeing it written down makes it seem like a lifetime ago!)

Apparently all my bloods were very healthy but like a fool I forgot to write it all down at the time. So hopefully when we get to the fertility clinic on the 28th they will go over it all and I can scribble some notes.

Now the clinic appointment is getting close I'm beginning to wonder about it. I know we'd both want another DC and DH has spoken about finding the money somehow if we need to, I do wonder what the impact on us will be if it's down to a problem on his side rather than mine. Somehow if it's down to my age I feel we can accept it and move on.

Although DH (a mere child himself at 35) was told years ago that it was unlikely he could have children due to an bike accident in his teens, I still worry whether if they say it's down to him how that will make him feel. I would never blame him but I would hate for it to affect him badly and wonder whether it's almost better not to know why it's not happening.

Sorry that was rather longer and more heartfelt than I had intended.

PS: Can I join the gassy stomach club? I'm just glad DH is away tonight and won't be subjected to it

Spiral that's great news about the cycles reverting to normal.
I think most of us have been rather protective over our blokes when it comes to testing their 'manhood'. You can't help but feel for them.
I was fairly certain that it was me because I had had abdominal surgery and had been told I had lots of internal scarring and adhesions. I'm sure the result of a misspent youth.
I transferred the money from my savings account for the payment on Tuesday and I'm really feeling it today. Just the thought of losing all that money from my savings and our current account is so scary. I'm trying to be very positive, but can't help thinking what if this doesn't work, the cost of more treatment??? Faints!
Adoption is starting to look more appealing now, at least we could just start saving.

I am away for a few days now ladies so take care of yourselves.

I read an article yesterday about secondary infertility and the guy writing it ended with 'where there is sperm and eggs - there is hope'

So that is my new mantra. I will be back on the ttc bandwagon next weekend as OV approaches so see you then xxxx

Hello ladies, can I join please?

Second day on MN, so new to all this stuff... have read most of this thread, and you guys seem so close and supportive - just what is needed when TTC in 40s.

I am 40 (just) so feeling quite youthful now ... TTC#2.
Have DD age 3 - was told 13 years ago that I would never conceive, so she is my little miracle. Would like her to have a sibling though.

First month of trying....

Welcome. We are friendly and desperate (mostly). Into everything from clomid to chinese medicine. Nothing too daft to try in the effort to TTC over 40. Good luck!

Thank you for your welcome grownupbabes - I have learned a lot about assisted fertility from reading this thread...It sounds very challenging.

I am not desperate (yet) as I already have one child, and I am soooo grateful for her.

I was an absolute nutter when I was pregnant with her (had mc 14 years ago, then mega infection causing 'infertility')

At the moment I am thinking 'what will be will be' - may change after a while.

Miracles happen - it did for me, so I might as well be cheeky and hope for another.

Off to BD - my husband is very happy about TTC as he gets a lot more than usual!

Byee!

Hi gals.

Rowing - thanks for the empathy. If you like I can come and pass some noxious gas at your doctors appt - stink some good sense into em . Actually eggy whiffs thankfully gone now - phew!! Thanks for asking. Oh sorry, you didn't, did you?! I was considering adopting but having read the blurb it seems we'd have to go for an older child and I'm concerned about the effect of any challenging behaviour on DD. Tricky one...

Spiral - sorry you got the guffs too! It does pass! How considerate you are of your DHs feelings, he's lucky to have you. I'm sure you'll figure out the best way forward...

Fifi "where there is sperm and eggs, there is hope" - brill. Should that be our next new thread title?

Welcome KaffyWaffy. I like your positive attitude. Fingers crossed for you, you get miracle #2! (see Fifitot's quote)!

Please strike me off the list

Have come up against a mean bunch on MN, and do not want to be a part of it.

All the best

Who was mean to kaffy?

No, please do not get embroiled in it all. I would hate to spoil a lovely thread.

Sorry to have caused trouble,

I will look in every now and then to see how you are all doing,

Kaffy

Sorry you had that experience Kaffy - we still love you! It's such a shame you feel you can't stay. I know many of us have had really significant support from other mums on here at difficult times. I hope you come back and say hi when you feel like it. Take care x

Kaffy I hope you come back on. MN is a bit different from a lot of forums, and can be a bit intimidating.
I'm not keen when a thread become heated quite quickly and then everyone jumps in to defend/attack one or other person, I just tend to exit those threads. It's just not my cup of tea.
However, there are some great people on here and you do get excellent (and apalling) advice and top support from loads of people.
You are safe on this thread, we don't bicker (apart from when Fruit and I hit each other with our handbags, but it never ends in tears ).

Fruit, glad to hear your tum is feeling a bit more settled and less balloon-like.
I'm a bit confused about adoption. As far as I know, adoption agencies prefer you to take a younger child and there should be two years between your youngest child and the adopted child. I think this is because of the risk to you own children.
A friend's sister is going through the process at the moment and she has been told they would only place a child at least 21 years younger than the parents - so that means I could adopt a 21 year old. Hmm! Not sure about that.
Envisions Nick Cotton type youth appearing at door 'Allo Ma!'

Hi Rowing (hits caringly over head with handbag). Love that image of opening the door to Nick Cotton "Allo Maaaaa!" Hahahahahaha! It caused my one and only annual laugh out loud incident! I got the impression they prefer you to take older children as they are more difficult to place? And therefore the process is a bit quicker? Maybe it differs between agencies. I'm not sure about it now tbh. Will think on...

How's everyone else?

Expecting my WOD any second now...

xx

I'm back...

Bit battered and bruised, but I am ok.

Thanks for caring....

I will take on board your wise advice Rowingboat, and many thanks to Spiralqueen .

A question, Oh wise ones...

Is having really (really) naughty sex dreams a sign of early pregnancy???

Oooh Kaffy No idea though so not much help!

I'm suffering with puffy sore eyes (hayfever kicked in again). In that eternal dilemna of should I take something or should I not given that I am in theory ov-ing at the moment.

Can't help but think I was taking medication when I needed it, drinking and eating what I liked when I got pg before and that didn't have any effect on DD. All the time I've been careful while ttc and suffered as a result and I'm still no nearer having DC2. but then again if I did get pg and something was wrong I'd never forgive myself.

Ow! [Smiles at Fruit benignly whilst being hit with handbag.]
Sorry about the LOL Fruit, I hope you weren't on a train or at a funeral or anywhere inappropriate.

Kaffy, I don't think that is a pg symptom, certainly not in my experience. It would be rather an interesting symptom and preferable to morning sickness though.

Spiral, can you take a half a tablet [pretends to be an ageing mobster speaking]?
Ooo, ooo! There's that thingy you stick up your nose, could you try that? [tries to be helpful]

Got my appointment at 10, lovely trans-vaginal scan and hoooge payment to hossy. Not my best morning.

Rowing good idea although tablet is the one a day variety and really diddly [dons magnifying glass and wanders off to try out Rowing's theory, tongue sticking out of the side of her mouth]

Not a great day for you then - hope it goes ok

Spiral did you manage the micro-surgery required to half the teeny pill?
Well I'm back and it was alright. I would love to have my blood pressure taken when I wasn't feeling extremely anxious, to see what it really is. The last time before this was before I had a smear and I was mentally writing my will in my head.
So I've got to start taking the pill today and continue until the end of the month, then injecting stuff until the 6th of August, when I go for a scan, then start the heavy duty hormone stuff. The nurse reckons we should be on for egg collection mid-August.
OMG - here we go again. Hold on tight! [hair blows out behind head, terrified expression]
I still haven't taken the first pill yet, better sort that out.
So tired today.
Does anyone get a post-gym tiredness the following day????