Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ - the continuing adventures of TTC

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Erm hope this will do as a continuation thread. Hello to anyone new to the thread. All welcome... xx

Can't you ask for the fiqures. You need the numbers and then you can research what they actually mean. A vague 'heading towards menopause' isnt' that great is it? We're all bloody heading towards menopause eventually!

Do some internet searching on women with high FSH levels and see what comes up.

Hi, I posted a riny bit on the last thread but didn't get my act together to start TTC till last night!!!! To tell the truth the idea scares the hell out of me , but I REALLY want it too, IFYSWIM.
Age 42 and a half, already got a three year old DS. Wish me luck!
Have bought the BOOTS Clear Blue Fertility Monitor at great expense but haven't taken it out of the box yet.

A tiny bit, not a riny bit.

Hello
I've lost it.
I am crying
sorry can't say more

Oh grownupbabes am so sorry. Big virtual hug.

So unfair isn't it?

Oh, grownup, I'm so sorry to hear that.

More big virtual hugs and look after yourself.

vsxx

Oh Grownup - so so sorry my love . I hope you have the support there you need and are taking care of yourself. Come and chat when you are ready. We're thinking of you xx

Grownup I'm so sorry. It is totally sh*t! I know I can't say much to help, but I just want to tell you I do have an inkling of what you are going through and it just takes time.
Please take care of yourself and take time to grieve and get through this.
Really sorry, huge hug!
Do you have people to support you?
Please use this forum when you are ready, we are all here for you!

Hi Peasoup, welcome to the thread.
VSF sorry to hear the news. I agree with Kiwi can you ask for a print out of the blood results? If you go to a nice GP they should be able to to do while you wait.
FSH can vary quite a bit from what I have read and can be high due to stress or other external factors. Has your consultant discussed taking another test in a month or so?
There is quite a bit on the internet about reducing FSH levels and successful pregnancy, so even if it is consistently high, it isn't the end of the line.
How are you feeling?

Thanks for all the messages everyone. I will get the figures next week when I see the GP - but she just gave me the overview on the phone today (I went in for a final day 21 test - they forgot to test progesterone on the first one (!) - and saw on the nurse's computer screen 'results abnormal', so I phoned the GP for a quick chat, rather than stew in panic for a week!). Next week I also get those progesterone results for the full picture.

Rowing, have done a bit of nosing around already, and Agnus Caustus does sound good Kiwi, But I'll wait until I get the figures and then see - I don't think they are too bad, as the dr was talking about IVF as an option.

Peasoup - welcome!

Grownup so sorry how awful for you and your dh.

xx

Grownup - big hugs - so terribly sorry for you that's so sad. Like the others have said thinking of you and we're here for you when you need us.

Take care x

Oh Grownup, so sad for you.

Hello Everyone,

Disappeared for a while...but I'm back! Have missed you all (not joking... kept wondering how you were all doing!)Have not had more than 3 minutes to look at MN for weeks. We went off for a weeks holiday in Sorrento then ended up on a car ferry that caught fire. We were all fine luckily, including small dd, but lost the car, luggage, laptop, buggy, travel cot, probably, because we don't know yet, they haven't managed to get in to investigate.

However, on to more important things - ttc! Only been able to have a really fast look at the board but wanted to say rowingboat really sorry about what happened. was really gutted to read the news. hope you're ok.

Going to get results this afternoon from tests...things are looking a bit ropey round the old ovaries...will let you know...

tt xx

Grownup so very, very sorry - do hope you have good people around you xx

Busy with exams at the moment - why did a degree seem like a good idea at 44?? Hope everyone is keeping well.

xx

Tetley sorry to here about your crisis so glad you are all okay - things can be replaced. Fingers crossed for the test results.
x

Thank you so much everyone. I have cried so much this last day. I went to work this morning because I absolutely had to, but by lunchtime I had broken down and a colleague sent me home. I spent the entire afternoon completely manically cleaning the house, every inch, and filling it with flowers. I guess it was therapeutic.... but when I went in the room that had suddenly and joyously changed from being "the spare room" to being "the nursery"... oh oh oh....
It's so hard.
I don't know what to do now.
But thank you so much all of you - your kind and generous thoughts really do mean a lot at this time. All my family are down under so I am really alone for that kind of loving support. Thank you.
I'm going to hang around on this thread. I think I'm back on TTC at 40+ (well if I did it once I can do it again? maybe??)

Exactly grownup - a little pma never hurt and could be just what we all need. We all share your journey and your pain - lets hope that spare room will soon be a nursery. Huge virtual hugs coming your way.
xx

Grownup you need time to get to grips with this. It is so hard when you have actually started to plan for the baby.
There have been a few ladies on here who have had more than one MC and then gone on to carry a baby successfully. I hope that possibility helps to sustain you.
You do sound more 'up' though to even be mentioning trying again. I hope you are successful very quickly.
Crying is good too, I didn't cry for a week after the IVF failure and felt so much better after sobbing one night with DP giving me a cuddle.
VSF it's great to hear that you are having the tests, whatever the outcome. Do you think knowing is helpful.
Did your GP do a day 21 test and forget to get the progesterone result? Mine did that as well - I was not impressed, why else would you be having a day 21 test??!!
Tetley, that sounds terrifying, what happened? Were you actually at sea when it went on fire?
Dixie, good luck with your exams, what year are you in?
Rock, how is SAHM life going, still reading the job ads? Can I just say that you are so not a fake mum if you are going to toddlers with one child. In many ways you are quite lucky to be able to have a chat without juggling a baby and a toddler, plus you are getting to spend proper, quality time with your DD.
I often find that the mums struggling with a tiny baby and other children are very grateful of a bit of help from me and my 'big' boy. He is pretty good at entertaining little ones and I make a mean coffee.
My news is that AF arrived, and I'm very pleased to see her. She must be quite relieved.
I thought this cycle was going to last forever, so it's great to be getting back to normal. Good old body!
It's very tricky to decide when a cycle has begun after IVF, so I have taken it from when the bleeding began and it is 29 days, which I think is pretty good going - I have heard of people waiting a lot longer.
We are going for a second and final IVF cycle in August, so I need to be back to normal for that.

Goodness, rather a lot going on with everyone right now. Good to see you back, Tetley. I think about folk on this thread when I'm not on it too - I think a few of us do. Kind of nice, isn't it? That we're all interested in what everyone's going through, and really understand when we're feeling up or down.

Hi Kiwi, I agree, this is a nice thread. We are all lovely! Not too precious, or frenzied just right!

Seeing as how we're all such lovely folk - I'm going to go out on a limb here, and be all brave - would anyone ever want to get together? Or do we feel safer talking about our deepest, darkest secrets wrapped in our anonymity? Just a thought, and I won't be at all offended if no one thinks it's a good idea.

I think it's a nice idea Kiwi but chances are we are scattered around the world.

I like the idea. Are we prepared to expose where we are?
Tentative first step: Oxford area.

I would love to meet up, but I'm in Scotland, so I suspect I would be doing a bit of travelling.
I live in Edinburgh - for some reason that seemed like standing up at an AA meeting.