I'm new and would like to hear from others

[lots33]

Hi, i'm new to mumsnet. I don't have children - yet, I am ttc via a fertility clinic. Going to be having IUI plus medication to boost fertility etc. Would be glad to hear from others using clinics/IUI etc as it's all a bit of a minefield.
Thanks !

Scan yesterday, had to have another shot of menopur last night and then i can have ovitrelle first thing tomorrow morning!

Lining was 8mm and largest was 15mm

DH is looking forward to the next few days because i can't use the excuse i've got a headache lol, his new saying is Doctors orders!

Doctor's orders! ha ha - awesome to hear you know for sure what size and that the timing will be right!

I'm so happy for you that you are on track.

had ovitrelle this morning, last one for now (thank god) DH is finding it hard to give them to me because he keeps bruising me!

how are things going with you?

I'm holding my breath, actually. I'm supposed to be at the stage where I'm just building lining and no follicles to prep for next Friday FET. [side note: they did find 8 v. small follies last scan] BUT yesterday I had a lot of EWCM and I never had my period from the downregging part... so I'm scared they are going to find me ovulating today and will cancel the cycle. (I know, it's batty, I'm embarrassed to even say it, actually) I will know for sure either way in a few hours.

I really hate to say this, but these days I'm almost expecting the worst news for self-preservation reasons (the let down isn't as bad if you don't get your hopes up) OK, enough of that - back to ignoring emotions and thoughts and feelings! No sense in worrying.

YAY for shagging wtih intent! Go for it! I'm so glad you made it to the trigger day, now you can start the tww maddness. It's kinda fun to watch from the sidelines... tee hee hee.

Much luck! xx

Not to worry - scan today showed everything is great! Turns out the EWCM is caused by the estrogen they have me on, so they expected it and it's a good thing. Lining was great, etc. etc. etc.

That all sounds really positive, i know how you feel about not getting your hopes up, but it's so hard not too

I am ffically in the TWW and i'm symptom spotting like a mad woman!

It's been a bit mechanical and most certainly unromantic this week, Drs orders hasn't been as much fun as we thought it might have been. There's nothing like having to do something to take the fun out of it!

At least now there will be less pressure on the situation.

So when do you have your next stage????

I am about a week behind you - I have my last scan on Monday morning (and blood draw) then if that goes well, we'll do the transfer on Friday, one week from today.

Symptom spotting eh??? Are you having weird dreams? Has your mind been preoccupied lately? Does it seem like everywhere you go there are blue cars??? I've heard that these all can be symptoms .

Fun sex can return, it's just a downer to have to do it... speaking of fun sex... [evil grin]

Haircut tomorrow, then cleaning cleaning cleaning in prep for mom and aunt arriving on Monday (with our new dog!!!). Something to keep my mind occupied for the next week.

Another blood test and scan today - they've now delayed me at LEAST 3 days due to low estrogen levels... BAH!!!

Symptom spotting like mad but then convincing myself that it's all in my head! I'm going to keep an eye out for blue cars now!!!! lol

it certainly is - although seems that theres a draugt now!!!

How is the new dog? has it settled in yet?

so does that mean you won't have transfer until Monday?

LOL - I knew blue cars were lucky!!!

So do tell - what are you noticing? Is it class A symptoms (soreness, nausea, veiny-ness) or class B (baby clothes flying into your basket, dreams of babies perched on ice cream cones, baby powder has become a good foundation make-up). How many dpo are you now???

Oh, I honestly cannot wait to POAS, of course it would help to do the ET first! Speaking of which - it's official - for Monday! yay!!! Estrogen levels have come up to where they need to be and lining is a bit thicker, so we're all set for ET! Then the countdown begins til POAS, but you FIRST!

Pic of new dog is in my profile now, yes - he's getting there. Right now with the two visitors it's hard to get into a routine, but I'm confident the dog will fit right into things here. He's so happy and such a nice distraction!

I'm noticing bad skin, needing the toilet all the time, painful breasts - all of which can be explained rationally!!!! lol

I am 9days PO so not long to go but if i'm honest i've done three tests already (mad i know because it's way too early) but it's kind of a way to avoid the disappoint if i already kindof know the answer

five more days until either AF or BFP, if AF then 10days and counting till we see the consultant and we find out whether we can go on the waiting list for IVF

That's FAB i bet your soo excited, have you had the drugs that will make them stick???

He is soo gorgeous, i'd love a dog but DH won't budge yet on letting me have one.

sgibbo! I know exactly what you mean about testing early - I have the same thoughts!!! Do you have those thin, cheapie ones that turn positive at only 20 HCG? I bought 20 or so a while back for only $0.80 a piece, they become my best friends during the second week of waiting!

That's a great back up plan to have just in case it's neg this time - you won't have long to wait at all to talk about IVF options. Do you think you will go straight to that? Any idea of issues at all?

I've been on sticking drugs for 3 weeks or so, soooo hopefully that will make the difference this time.

Dogs are fun, and a lot of work - but the fun balances that out. Sorry your DH isn't much of a fan.

I certainly do have those ones, although i only have one left so need to get some more. They have certainly saved me a fortune in tests, the others are sooo expensive!!!

i would like to know if there are any issues but because we only get one shot on the NHS i'd rather try everything else before we go straight to it

so transfer today???? how did it all go????

I completely understand wanting to try everything before going for ONE ivf. We were essentially in the same boat, so it was really important for us to try for some to freeze. (FET isn't cheap, but a lot less expensive than unfunded IVF!) I explained this carefully to the doc, because I figure it was better for us all to be on the same page, even if it wasn't possible. From being on MN, I also knew it wasn't very likely to get to the freezer stage - but my doc was always very hopeful about that.

I think the docs can tell by how we react to certain drugs what will probably be the outcome, but I know they don't have a crystal ball either.

It's very early yet - still a few hours before transfer... not so patiently waiting! I'll get back on when I'm all done. Now I'm just keeping my fingers crossed and my prayers that all three survive the thaw!

Your DOC sounds wonderful, if only they were like her over here!

So how did transfer go???? Did they thaw????

Only 2 days and counting but have a feeling that it will be BFN.

if i'm honest i'm more focused on the meeting with the consultant

The transfer went well, I think. All three survived the thaw, which is great! They even played a little video of the actual depositing over and over again and they left DH and I in the room to watch it and be close to one another while the embies were "settling in". It was very romantic, in a strange way - there we were watching our three maybe-babies being deposited in one little white speck!

How is your waiting/testing going??? Sometimes being distracted and focused on other things (like your consultant visit) can help - or so I hear!

I'll be gone for 3 days to travel a bit, be back on Monday-ish! (DH will be at home working and taking care of the new dog.)

Hope you get the POS this time, but even if you don't there's hope right around the corner. December 1st is very close!!! (Fingers and toes crossed for you!)
xxx

That's brilliant news, wow so you could actually have triplets????? It's nice to actually go through the whole thing together especially when one of you have to go through more then the other (if i've said that correctly)

waiting impatiently i've tested twice both BFN yet DPO 17 and still nothing no sign of AF yet do not feel any different to be BFP. You know me when i'm on meds i'm regular as clock work!!!

I'm trying not to get my hopes up but it's hard not to especially when my cloest friend told me today that when she got BFP with her DS who is 1 sunday she had a whole month with BFN and a good friend of DH who had a DD last Friday (goregous little thing) had BFN for two months befor BFP would show on any test

Still looking forward to Monday however, tried to call the FC nurse today and left a message but she hasn't returned my call yet!

Can't wait to hear your news in 2wks time!!!! i'd be so excited if we got BFP's at the same timexxxxxx

Just one more week, for me, to stick it out! I'm holding my breath for you!!!

Must turn in to bed, just back from my trip... more later!

xx

Hey, BFN for me, CD18 after ovitrelle, finally spoke to the FC nurse this morning she was extremely surprised to hear that it was CD18 before AF got me.

She said that it could have been a miscarriage because it should have been exactly 14days after ovitrelle.

We have our appointment with the consultant this aternoon to discuss IVF, our hospital do not offer IUI because it only has the same chances as OV stimulation.

How are you getting on???? any symptom spotting???

Will keep you updated this afternoon

S xxx

So I guess you weren't on any progesterone or estrogen meds then? That usually holds off the dreaded-one. That's shit - I'm so sorry to hear! How are you taking it? Looking forward now to the appt with the specialist and IVF talk?

I was so hoping you'd be able to avoid all of that. It's not that bad, at all - just a lot of mental gymnastics and shots.

I'm doing ok- starting to feel a bit frantic if this turns out negative, I'm bracing myself for the worst - but HOPING for the best! It's a tough balance, to say the least. Will officially have blood test on Friday, but will probably test at home on Thursday - I can't bear to wait for them to call on Friday afternoon with the news, without having a clue at the outcome.

I hope you and your DH are handling this ok - you still have a lot to look forward to! You will win your baby, yet!!!

PS - any testing for non-sticking factors such as mine??? It might be worth it, esp since they think you may have had an early mc.

Not on any progesterone or estrogen meds, taking it Ok, i kinda knew/felt it anyway

Had our appt, we are going on the list potentially April next year, could be sooner could be longer depending on funding.

how are you? are you still going to test tomorrow??? I can't believe it's been two weeks already!!!!

i think that we have to discuss the non sticking factors when we go for the IVF, so keeping my fingers crossed it happens before then

sgibbo - seems to be a no for me this time, will confirm tomorrow.

xx

It's official - game over. I don't know what we're going to do next.

I'm so sorry to hear that, did they say why it didn't work this time?

Can you try again?

xxxxx

I don't know, the docs always want us to have a "few days" to get over it after a negative result before they will do the debriefing on what happened.

I'm guessing they will be really suprised (again) that it didn't work... we could try again as we have 3 frozen embies left, but if the chances are the same or worse - what's the point?

Guess we'll just have to wait and see. It might be time to move back to adoption for us. We started there in January, then the class was so scary that we went into AC.

I really don't know now. I just hate giving up, and failure. I can't imagine never having a child.