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Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

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Hobnob76 · 28/02/2009 16:55

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

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WorrisomeHeart · 27/03/2009 12:07

Hi Ario, welcome!

Your OH sounds a lot like my DH - he takes a long time to process stuff too, and often I find it easiest to 'plant a thought seed' as it were and let him mull over it!! I've been broody for about 5 years and DH has always said he wanted kids 'at some point', but we've been doing things like buying a flat and getting married so have had other project to take my mind off it! Plus, I really didn't want to rush DH. And then in Nov last year he asked me when I felt we should start trying, which of course has given me license to become baby-crazy! We've decided not to start TTC until July because of a long haul flight at the end of the year that I need to be able to fly on, but I can't wait. You might be surprised when speaking to him - he might have a more definite timeframe in mind than you expect. Plus, def important to be thinking about FA etc now. Anyway, long rambling post - welcome!

HM and CITC - so sorry to hear about your med probs. Try to keep smiling

claireinthecommunity · 28/03/2009 13:12

Thank you WH

HoumousMonster · 30/03/2009 16:09

Welcome Ario,

I'd suspect a lot of couples just to give up the contraception and hope for a baby. However everyone is different, so there isn't a wrong way or a right way. I suspect when you talk to your SO you'll have a much better idea what you both want and feel comfortable with. I know how frustrating it is though when waiting to talk about it.

My news this morning is that my mother is apparently coming over to visit. She lives overseas and so will be in the UK for a several weeks. Luckily she won't be staying with us the whole time, but she makes herself at home while here. This means I need much better hiding places for those baby books and tablets.

I'm leaning towards hiding them in my husband's underpants drawer, but that's assuming she won't try and put the laundry away!

WorrisomeHeart · 30/03/2009 20:07

LOL HM - you need some sort of locked box under the floorboards.. hmm.. may make taking the daily FA difficult though! How about putting your FA into a Vit C bottle or something?

HoumousMonster · 30/03/2009 21:35

A floor safe would make life SO much easier!

As it's not the first time I've been given iron tablets I've told her about those. I'm hoping I can sneakily take the FA at the same time with dinner.

I've already been popping the pills out of the packaging. I usually carry a few medications around with me in a tin, so if I just store them together I might get away with it.

Maybe ;)

WorrisomeHeart · 31/03/2009 19:17

Sounds like that could work!!! Are you finding it hard not to talk to her about it? Only a good friend and my sister know that we are planning to TTC, but I keep thinking I'm going to slip up when talking to the parents and In-laws, and I can imagine that would only be worse if they were staying with us!

HoumousMonster · 31/03/2009 20:22

No, but as she's spent the last four years telling me not to have kids I don't really want the conversation coming up.

She doesn't ever intend to upset me, but she always makes me doubt myself and questions everything. I mean when we started talking about buying our own house...she asked me if I really wanted to give up my drab and dreary council flat because 'what would happen if DH (well then boyfriend) left' me.

The trouble will be when she asks about the DIY we are doing. Since we are planning on a kid, certain projects are getting higher priority...and she'll be asking why.

Tigerbear · 31/03/2009 21:14

Hello all,
I'm quite new here too.
In a similar situation to a few others here - been married just over 2 years, and now feel the time is right to ttc.
Not been trying that hard thought tbh!! I think we thought that it would just happen as soon as we didn't use contraception for the first time - very naive of us I know, as I have heard from so many others on here that it can take years
Quite exciting every month to think oh, perhaps it will be this month! Out of interest, is it true that the week after your period is the most fertile time?
Also, has anyone used I-Period on the I-Phone?

Medee · 01/04/2009 18:10

Hi Tigerbear. 6m to a year is what my GP told me to expect at my age (early 30s).

WorrisomeHeart · 01/04/2009 19:34

Blimey HM, can completely understand why you are keeping the TTC underwraps. Hope her stay isn't too tough for you.

Welcome Tigerbear! Can't say I've heard that about the week after your period - my understanding was that you weren't ovulating then, but I could be wrong! The books all say that for a 28 day cycle, you ov at day 14/15 ish...

My exciting news (well exciting for me anyway!) is that we've decided to bring the TTC forward one month, so will be starting at the end of May. V excited, as it seems closer now - what a loony, it's only 1 month earlier!

Medee · 01/04/2009 21:00

hurrah!

Tigerbear · 02/04/2009 13:04

Hello again,
Oh gosh, 6 months to a year!!
Medee, I think we are around the same age (I will be 32 this year) - what scares me the most is that not so long ago I thought I was too young to have a baby! Funny (or perhaps not so!), that time really does catch up with you, and all of a sudden things start to get more difficult when ttc!
Bought some folic acid and Sanatogen multi-vits yesterday, to make things seem more real!! Silly part about it all is that DH and I aren't doing as much as we could to actually make it happen Every month we think 'perhaps it could be this time that I'm pregnant' - then think, hmmm, we actually have to have sex, not just talk about it!

HoumousMonster · 02/04/2009 13:55

How exciting WH! I'd be thrilled to be a month closer! We'd already decided we'd stop being careful in July, but really start trying in August. But now I find I'm counting the months to July instead! I keep telling myself a April baby wouldn't be so bad!

And Tigerbear I know what you mean. Part of my plan for the next few months is to work on the whole sex thing. (The chronic pain and fatigue haven't really helped there) I'm 31 and hoping everything will work quickly.

I've started recording my temperature with the hopes of knowing when I ovulate. If I can't manage sex all the time at least I can try and make sure they are well timed.

Although it doesn't sound like it, I think it's important to stay relaxed and not stress about it. (Hense I'm trying to get it all out now ) I think I might take a few days off before TTC, unplug from the internet, read some books, and try to unwind.

WorrisomeHeart · 02/04/2009 19:02

Thanks gals, I'm really excited.. worked out today that if we catch first time (so unlikely I know) we'll be finding out on or around Fathers Day, altogether now ahhhhhhh..

HM - great idea about the pre-TTC holiday. I think it's got to help being relaxed, and I can imagine how stressed we are all going to be once we stop talking about it and start trying!!

Tigerbear - know exactly what you mean about buying Folic Acid and it making it feel more real. I like the fact that taking the FA means although we're not TTC yet, I'm still doing something proactive. DH is on the male version with zinc too.

Hope you've all had a good week!

Tigerbear · 02/04/2009 23:23

OK everyone, I think the REAL reason we aren't having any sex is because I'm on MN until late every night!!!! I'm going to have to wean myself off it!!

WorrisomeHeart · 03/04/2009 20:17

Lol TB, you might have a point there!!

Have a good weekend all!!

raindroprhyme · 05/04/2009 20:25

Hi all, [waves]

We have finally taken the plunge and decided to try for another baby!

So we are going to start TTC in August as i start a new job next week and it is a 12 month contract and start college in Sept on a 9 month long course.
So this is the perfect thread for me.

i had my mirena coil out last week and have my first period for 3 years as we speak so i hope everything settles down really quickly.

i have 2 DS's already of 8yrs and 4yrs.

desperately broody even tho a ton of stuff on at the mo.

Glad to have found you all.

RR.

Medee · 08/04/2009 20:24

... still waiting to TTC...

Medee · 11/04/2009 10:49

I found out yesterday that our HR manager is proposing enhanced maternity etc pay - fingers crossed our MD signs it off before I need it!

WorrisomeHeart · 11/04/2009 13:12

Oooh Medee - will keep fingers crossed! How 'enhanced' will it get, do you know yet?

We're still waiting to TTC too - but only one and half more cycles to go!! Am really excited, but a bit apprehensive too!!

HoumousMonster · 11/04/2009 14:50

I've even started to dream you all are getting pregnant now!

I clearly remember opening the thread to find someone announcing their good news. Since I can't see such a post I must have been in a really vivid dream!

I've been distracted the last few weekends as we try to reinsulate the loft. (Which also will give use space to store things if we need to clear out for a nursery).

We've got three cycles to go. I seem to be doing better now I've decided which vitimins to take and I don't have anymore doctors appointments. I just need to keep working my diet and start exercising.

WorrisomeHeart · 11/04/2009 19:27

Hey HM, I was wondering how you were getting on! Really glad to hear you're getting on better. You don't happen to remember which of us it was with the pFB? That's something to run a sweepstake on!!

Went to a party at a friend's place yesterday and for most of it DH and I were the only ones without a DC or obviously pregnant. I was starting to feel rather under-accessorised!!!

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Hobnob76 · 14/04/2009 11:15

Hi everyone! I've now got 3 more packs of pills to go! Then we'll be using the old wellies until my cycle settles! Hope to start TTC about Nov time. Weird to think that this time next year I could be pregnant!

WorrisomeHeart, I so know what you mean about feeling underaccessorised!

Everywhere I look I seem to see pregnant ladies or babies! Is it just me or does everyone else notice this too ?

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HoumousMonster · 14/04/2009 18:04

I thought it was worse for the pregnant ladies a few months ago, but I've noticed it's apparently now baby season in all the shops!

Worryingly though I'm not broody, the last few days I've been thinking I might want two kids rather than just the one. (nothing like jumping the gun is there!)

This is a really bad idea, as we are actually hoping I can't have a second. In the strange way the world works, there is slim chance that having a child could almost reset my health, meaning I wouldn't be in pain and tired all the time. If this works though I'd never dare have another baby as it could bring the condition back with a vengence.

So unless I have twins I'm probably just frustrating myself.

WorrisomeHeart · 14/04/2009 18:38

Maybe it's something to do with it being spring.. new lambs, ducklings, babies!! Or I suppose it could have something to do with our extremely sensitive baby-radars!!

It's funny, but as I get closer to this actually starting, I'm getting really nervous. Anyone else finding this?

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