Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

[Hobnob76]

Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

working hard? - me too as you can see....

Forgot to say, I think the reason some docs suggest testing for rubella is cos not everyone responds the same way to vaccines so although if you've had MMR you're vvv likely to be immune it's not definite. I think if they discover you're not once you're pg you then can't have the jab till after the baby's born and so would have to be v careful to avoid catching rubella while pg. But I'm no medic, so if your doc says it's fine you should be OK.

I can't get dh to even think about planning a summer holiday yet (and it'd be really useful for me organising time off work) so whether or not I'll be pg isn't yet an issue. We are going skiing in Jan though, and he was starting to be concerned about whether I'd be able to drink. Interesting one as we're going with friends and if I don't touch a drop for the whole week rumours will almost certainly go flying. Any ideas how to get round that one? (I'm firmly in the don't want anyone to know till I've got scan pics to show them camp)

Evening all! Having a grotty time as DD is ill with some virus & being a right grump bless her, is exhausting! I hate it when she is poorly.

Ocarina - Maybe you could tell them you are on a New Year's detox, and off the booze? Or maybe on antibiotics, think I used that one!

I had Rubella vaccine twice (one single vaccine when I was 10 & then MMR about 2 years later) would have been v surprised if I wasn't immune! (For the record, I was!) Was also STI free, no great surprise, but is always nice to be able to say you don't have syphilis!

DH is still 'not sure' about another baby, but is looking forward to all the 'trying' part of TTC!

Ocarina, can you pretend to drink? What's your usual beverage of choice? If you're a & coke type of girl then it should be easy to pretend to have a few. Or you could tell them you're taking antibiotics...everyone knows your not supposed to drink when taking those.

Gawd, I'm so broody at the moment it's ridiculous. Loads of baby photos floating round at work cos all the office babies have now arrived. I keep looking at the and feeling torn between 'Awwwwwww...' and 'mine will be cuter!' .

My dh is Japanese so going especially gooey over asian babies. Yum, yum, yum.

Hmmm, antibiotics one's a good idea, hadn't thought about that. Not sure they'd believe detox, they know me too well! It'll be wine over dinner so can't really pretend to drink, but can certainly limit what I drink (especially as dh tends to be the one filling glasses). In most other circumstances I'll be able to be the driver so won't be an issue.

I am exactly the same re: future events. Have been making work plans for 2011 recently, and thinking to myself, hmm, hopefully I won't have to worry about that because I'll still be on maternity leave... It's going to bite me on the bottom if I end up agreeing to do loads of things on the basis I won't be there, and then end up doing the extra work and being pissed off about not being pg!

antibiotics sounds like a good excuse - you could also say you've vowed to give up booze for the month as a new year's resolution? (I actually did that once and I think my mum was convinced I was pregnant the whole time ... until I hit the bottle again in Feb).

I had my appointment with the doc today about ttc. Got my form to have my blood test and she just said about avoiding alcohol while ttc and if I think I am pregnant all the obvious foods. Oh and how as I thought it is good to give up pill then have a few months break before ttc and also to start taking folic acid. Dh came with me as he had an appointment too about his knees and he needs a blood test too. That will be a fun trip together on Monday for both of us to have blood tests!I really don't mind them but dh has a fear of needles so if trying to get out of itll have to drag him there. I keep thinking when we are doing that hopefully I will be pregnant. also inlaws have asked us on a holiday May 2011. I was thinking by then hopefully we will have a baby! Wish I could use antibiotic excuse but father in law is a doctor and says there are only 2 antibiotics you can't actually drink with and they are usually always given in hospital so if I was on them he would want to know exactly why! and everyone else knows that both dh and I always drink on antibiotics so will have to think of more inventive excuses. Driving will definitely be a good one!

Ugh to needles - I'm quite fond of my blood and would rather have it in my veins than in someone else's syringe. Hope your dragging of dh is successful!

I keep thinking if I'm that distracted by all of this now, how much worse am I going to be once actually ttc?! Reading some of the ttc threads and day counting and symptom checking I might need to keep well away or I'll never get any work done! But then it's so good to have people to chat to about all this other than dh (who I can't see wanting to hear about all the ttc signs and symptoms all the time!)

I could try the 'given up alcohol for January thing'. Not sure anyone'd be convinced though - I don't drink enough to warrant giving it up really! In most situations people probably wouldn't notice me not drinking, but away for a week where I always do.... Oh well, I guess if they start speculating it's not the end of the world, it's not like I ever speculate about anyone else or anything!

Hi,

New to the website, but chuffed I've found these chat boards, haven't been able to talk to anyone about ttc and really excited! Also ttc in Jan. Been so broody for years now, it's been killing me having to wait, especially when there seems to be babies everywhere!

I've been to the docs but no one mentionned screening etc, should I be asking my doctor for a ttc appointment?

Clueless!

Wasn't sure whether to come off the pill and ttc straight away (as I heard fertility is higher when you first come off the pill) or to get it out of my system for a few months (I've been on it 13 years).

Any thoughts?

Looking forward to sharing in lots of people's good news sometime early next year x

welcome bluetit! Nice to have another newbie. Quite a few people on here are going to be TTC in Jan, so we can all go quietly crazy together.

Re: the appointment, some people advise you get checked for rubella immunity before TTC, you can also have other blood tests that check for things like folate levels. I guess having a chat with your GP before TTC also gives you a chance to discuss anything particular to you, like family history, health issues etc. But tonnes of people start trying without going to the doctor first and I shouldn't think it makes much difference really. I saw my GP a couple of months ago and it made thinking about TTC seem more real, somehow.

Re: the pill, different people seem to do different things - I came off it a few months ago because I wanted to get to know my cycle a bit before TTC. If you've been on it for 13 years, it could take a couple of months for your periods to sort themselves out, or they could go back to normal straight away - in which case it wouldn't matter if you got pregnant when you'd just stopped taking it, as far as I'm aware.

The other thing is to start taking folic acid now, most people seem to recommend starting that a couple of months before you begin to try.

Have you tried any pregnancy/ conception books yet? I'm reading 'What to Expect...' at the moment, it's very informative, if a bit daunting!

Hello everyone!
There's a few people at work getting swine flu, and like lots of people I'm not sure how I feel about having the vaccine while pregnant. I can't find any online advice about getting it before ttc, so called the doctor. I fibbed slightly, saying I was already ttc, but gp checked I hadn't missed a period yet ( as didn't want to advise it very early on) and said I can have it!

Just thought I'd let you guys know, as I don't mind having it now, but don't know what I'd do if pregnant, and thought some of you might want to do the same!

jennimoo, that's really interesting - so basically the doc has said you can have the jab on the basis that you are trying to get pg? I didn't realise that was possible.

V interesting indeed jennimoo - hadn't even thought of that as a possibility. Given my hatred of needles I don't really want to think about it, but getting it now rather than once pg sounds really sensible if it's an option. (Talking of needles, Florin did you both get your blood tests done OK?)

Welcome Bluetit and hooray for the waiting coming to an end - it's so maddening watching everyone else get pregnant first when it's what you really want and for whatever reasons you know it's the right thing to wait.

I'm going for the coming off the pill and ttc straight away, mostly because I'm now so impatient to get on with it and as far as I can tell you're not going to have any probs if you do conceive straight away (apart from possibly working out dates accurately). If things take a while to get back to normal, well, I'll just have more months of impatience ahead of me! I've not been on the pill nearly as long, although I'm not sure that makes any difference.

Pidgin, do you recommend 'What to Expect...'? I want to get reading (in secret!) but am not sure what to go for, and am paranoid about being spotted in bookshops looking at that section!

Hi Ocarina, I sympathise re: hanging round the pregnancy section in the bookshop - although it is right by the sex section, you could always pretend to be looking at the Kama Sutra if you get caught.

'What to Expect' is pretty good - it's rather American in style and feels as though it's been 'translated' for the UK market, but it's very detailed and accessible. I have a veritable library of pregnancy books ... I would also recommend the MN one which is a good read. I enjoyed 'Becoming a Mother' by Kate Mosse, which has a section on deciding to TTC too. I get them on Amazon and read them secretly on the train and in bed...

Thanks, order currently winging its way across the internet. That should take care of bedtime reading for a while

Have added lots of books I didn't have the 1st time to my amazon wishlist...just hoping DH gets the very large hint!

We are all full of grotty cold here, really hoping it is gone soon. Due to have my swine flu injection next Monday & they won't let me have it if I'm ill! So glad I can have it before I'm PG!

Do you think asking DH for some OPK's for Xmas is a step too far?!

I got loads of pregnancy etc books out of the library on Saturday... ahh, bedtime reading!

x

So jealous of everybody with books think my dh would think it's a step to far and get a bit scared! Went out for dinner with some friends last night who are 18 weeks pregnant-so jealous but was so nice to talk babies all evening! :-)

Hello all, just looking at how long it's been since i last posted has made me realise how incredibly busy the last couple of weeks have been! Spent last weekend at my mum and dad's, and while we were happy to share that we are planning to ttc in the New Year, I didn't want them to catch me reading mumsnet...yet!

I know I've said previously that we have agreed to start trying in December but yesterday it became apparent that I've really been hoping we could just get, ahem, carried away this month. I've been having some mysterious health problems (iritis, anyone?) and was prescribed steroids on Thursday. No ttc on those, unfortunately! So, even though we weren't planning on ttc, I still feel disappointed

If anyone is thinking about 'alternative' pgs/births, I enjoyed the Hypnobirthing book, and also Home Birth: A Practical Guide by Nicky Wesson.

I know, I know, getting waaaaaaay ahead of myself In another fit of optimism, I have tentatively joined the September bus...

How is everyone else this weekend?

LADIES... HELP?!?!?!

First of all hi and thank goodness for this forum like a few others, I think this is probably the most suitable site for me, lol. I am new to MN, but have been wanting tc for soooo long. Have been with DP for over 2 years and I am DESPERATE to start ttc and have had 'issues' with him in the past in regards to the order in which we do things ie. marriage/babies/housing. We have lived together for the majority of the time we have been together, and are now moving abroad.

We are not even engaged (frustrating, but its not everything, I want a family with him at any point regardless of wedlock, lol) but its really starting to get me down. I am so broody. 6 of my close friends and family members have either had baby (no.1 or 2) this year, or are pg. I feel so alone on this, as I feel judged by those around me anytime I mention pg, as we (DPand I) have such a nice lifestyle now and it makes me look ungrateful

He DOES definately want dc but wants to wait until we have had more 'together time' (bollocks!) Any advice or persuasive moves would be GREATLY appreciated. ;)

Good luck to you all in ttc, I class myself as TTCA (alone ;) but with support if it happens, lol )

WAMwannabe xx

Hello WAMwannabe and welcome to MN. Sorry to hear your DP is taking a bit of convincing on the TTC front! I think men often take longer to get used to the idea of having a baby, and definitely don't usually get as excited about it as women ... funnily enough there was an article about how much time couples need/ get together before they have kids in the Grauniad this week. Link here
hope that works!

kawaiiko sorry to hear about the iritis and that your TTC might be delayed. Thanks for the tips about the birthing books, I'm also really interested in the idea of hypnobirthing etc. It said in 'What to Expect...' that the hypnotism approach is often more successful for women who are easily suggestible, have a rich imagination and a long concentration span - apparently these things make you a good subject for hypnotism! Even if the whole hypnobirth thing was a bit much, I like the idea of using breathing to deal with the pain, although I have a feeling I might need more than breathing! (low pain threshold)

I was in a closing-down Borders yesterday and v tempted to stock up further on baby books, especially one called 'Get Pregnant fast', which I like the sound of - but in fact when I looked at the contents it was mostly obvious stuff, nutrition, exercise, avoiding nasty chemicals etc... It's interesting that there's a market for getting pregnant quickly though.

I think today or tomorrow is going to be the first day of the last cycle before I start TTC! I think I have a short luteal phase so am thinking about taking agnus castus/ B6 to try and lengthen it - anyone heard anything about that?

Hope everyone's having a good weekend xx

Hello WAMwannabe, welcome to the thread I'd like to offer a little sympathy for your situation as it sounds like a lot like the conversations me and dh have had. We married 10 months after we met and at first both agreed that we wanted to clock up a decent period of time as a twosome before adding a dc to the mix ;)

But of course it only took me, like 5 minutes to become hideously broody! So way back in 2007 we settled on 2010 as a good time to start ttc - far enough in the future for him to relax and near enough that I didn't go mad waiting. Cue nervous looks from him when I pointed out a couple of months ago that it was nearly tine to start trying!

Just want to second what Pidgin said - lots of men find it takes time to get used to the idea. For me, a broooooooody woman, it's like a physical sensation - I want a baby! We did have a bit of a row about it recently, after which he concluded, "You'll just have to accept that I'm a stereotypical guy and will be petrified until it happens - and then I'll be fine." He's not often that insightful!

Oh, and I proposed to him. Worked for me!

Pidgin, I have quite a short luteal phase too but wasn't aware of ways to lengthen it...interesting. I started B6 recently, may look into agnus castus too. Assuming it's safe to take while ttc?

i haven't been in here for ages.......we have brought our decision forward a little bit and so last week i stopped taking my pill. I don't think i'm going to wait to TTC as last time i never settled into a cycle (nearly 4 months with nothing happening). I was using Agnus Castus when i fell pregnant with ds, and i just stopped taking it as soon as i found out i was pregnant.
I just can't face all the waiting around for my body to fall into a routine, though i haven't been on the pill so long this time (2 years, before was 12 years)

hi queenrollo - congratulations on starting TTC, very exciting! Pop back and let us know how you get on... I think we are going to need a thread for graduates from this thread!

kawaiiko I think the advice on agnus castus is just as queenrollo says - you stop taking it when you find out you're pg - you could also just stop after ovulation, but apparently it helps to have a couple of full months on it to notice the effects. I'm keeping my fingers crossed it will lengthen my lp a bit - at the moment it's 10/11 days which is fine, but I tend to get 2/3 days of spotting beforehand, which I think might make a difference. Dose is 1600mg a day, I think. Does B6 seem to make a difference?

Hi all, I'm a serial lurker, but first time poster. I'm so broody it's ridiculous. I've got a 3 year old already and would like nothing more than to give her a sibling. But I'm worried how she'll react to a new addition, I wonder how I'll cope with the pregnancy, I wonder how I'll cope with a newborn and a little one, I'm doing my best to loose some weight but it's slow going. Sigh, wish someone could just make up my mind for me! ;-) Hope to get some unbiased views from you all!

Hello!
I started last-but-one AF on Saturday, which is quite exciting! It would be good in some ways to put back our ttc, as our moving house all fell through and so we're back to the beginning of that process again I'm quite worried about the effect of moving stress on being pregnant, as I suffer from anxiety and depression. However my job is a contract that ends Oct 2011, so wouldbe good for career to be back with a few months left to go to get another job.
So beginning of January it is then!