Anyone want to join me in a waiting to conceive thread ? Anyone else really broody but can't TTC yet ?

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Hi everyone! Hubby and I are desperately broody and have been for a few years. We're hoping to TTC later this year, we're having to wait til Hubby finishes his degree as we just can't afford to have a baby whilst he's a student. Am wanting to come off the pill round about May, and hopefully TTC about Nov/Dec. Want to come off the pill a few months early as I've been on it for over 14 yrs, and would like to know what its like to have normal periods!

Be nice to know if anyone else is in a similar situation.

Thanks for welcoming me, sorry to hear you have health problems too bebejones. I'm glad to join a thread with others who can empathise, we can all understand each other! It only took us 2mths to conceive last time, so hopefully not too long this time, but that was over 5yrs ago, I'll just have to wait and see what the consultant says. Have been looking dreamily at gorgeous little baby gros in the shops though, and eyeing up pushchairs!

Ooh can I join, dp and I are going to start TTC in December, our dd is 8 although she is not dps. I am so excited, I never thought this time would come.

This is picking up now! Welcome Morosky!!

I really need to lose weight even though I know I will put it all back on agin when PG! My BMI was highish when I was PG last time which meant I nearly was denied the choice of our lovely midwife unit (ended up in big hospital being induced anyway but was nice to have options), I am hoping it will be lower next time around so I won't have mean midwives referring to me as 'big'! I know I am a bit overweight but that is just mean, especially 2 days after giving birth!!

Keep eying up the Pregnacare but think it might be a bit lot ridiculous to start it yet!!

Thanks, I am also losing weight before TTC, it is hard making yourself wait though, I have to stop myself from leaping on dp.

Heehee, Is dp complaining about this leaping?

Maybe we ought to prod each other into weight loss, or does anyone know of a thread here already that'd be perfect for us? (Seemed to have gained some extra heavy wobby dimples on my body over the two years that weigh an extra two stone,keep telling myself the fat blitz will come, never does)

Thanks all for price checking the Sanatogen!

And many zen hugs to you LittleB, all the best for tommorrow as you must be sick with worry, I really hope it's going to be fantastic news for you.

Okay, after a thread snorkling I'm going to brave the fatties to fabulous thread I just hope that I can now find the energy to start actually doing something.

Onelonelysock - I might join you! Although I was thinking of putting it off til new year (TTC being delayed and all) so at least I can have a guilt free Christmas! I am eating sensibly though, but I do like puddings!!!

Is anyone else dreaming of babies? Can't remember the last night where didn't have a baby dream!

Hi [waves]

Cn i join please? I was previous on a ttc thread but my lovely dh just found out that his job is at risk, so we have had to stop ttc for a while

We are not sure how long we will have to wait but im finding it hard already

Im hoping to lose a bit of weight wilst waiting as well, so at least i feel like im getting prepared

looking forard to talking to you all.

tif

x

not sure why the wave has a link to it????? sorry

Hi
can I join?
I have been married for 16 months but been together with my dh for 11 years since I was 15. Been so broody for so long but finally talked it through and decided to start trying in April. Seems ages away but been on pill for 10 years so want to come off that a few months before to let my body return to normal-anybody got any suggestions on how many months before I should stop pill? Plus for my job I have to have a free holiday every year sailing a yacht (it's a hard life I know!) that is booked for June so also a reason to wait for April as don't want to be to pregnant to fly.
I can't wait to get started not sure how I will wait till April!

Evening all,

Slightly frustrated kawaiiko here. Was having a great time with dh last night when all of a sudden he stopped and said, "We'd better stop, don't you think? Better not risk getting pg this month!"

Foiled

I had to pretend that the 'risk' had slipped my mind...

Bebe, do you mind if I'm really nosy and ask what bmi would be considered 'too high' for a midwife-led unit? I too am wondering whether I should be trying to lose some weight before ttc and this might be the motivation I need

Kawaiiko - For my unit I was told BMI of 35 (pre pregnat, ie what it is at booking in) was the upper limit. For the record I was 31, which I know is high and why I don't want to be that heavy this time. It's to do with 'larger' ladies having more complications (supposedly) , I was in labour for 64 hours, but DD was back to back & no one had worked that out!! Don't know if that's due to my size or her being an awkward little so and so!

Florin - welcome!! I am having to wait til May/June so I will ride out the waiting with you! Driving me bonkers waiting! No advice on pill I'm afraid. Think mostly people say to wait until you are 'regular'!

Tiffanys - must be awful to be TTC and having to stop. Welcome to the thread!

welcome to Morosky, tiffanys and Florin, lovely to have so many new recruits recently.

Florin I was also on the pill for ten years before coming off recently in preparation for TTC. I wanted to give myself a few months to get used to being without the pill and to let my periods get back to normal, so by the time we start TTC it will be about 6 months since I stopped it. But advice seems to vary on how long you should give it - for some people there's a spike in fertility immediately after coming off the pill, so you could start straight away, but for others it takes a while to get back to normal cycles. As far as I'm aware there's no risk to the pregnancy if you get pg straight away. Hope that helps.

Kawaiiko, sorry to hear you were foiled! I've had similar thoughts about accidents - funnily enough I've found I'm most tempted to forget about contraception around the time I'm ovulating (even when it really was too soon for us to get pg), whether it's a coincidence I don't know!

Glad I have someone else to ride the wait out with bebejones! Trying to keep myself busy with preparation. Tonight sat down with the finances I know everyone says you just manage because you have to but it is a bit scary. Looking into training as a childminder as that should mean I could stay at home but still earn some money! Thanks pidgin about thought on coming off pill I'm thinking of coming off pill in jan.

Brandishes a sparkler

Hello Tiffanys waves back! Terrible to hear about your DH's job, how long are you going to have to wait before you get any kind of confirmation about it?

Hello too to Florin, Another first timer! When looking at those finances, did you also get the shock of your lifetime when you found out how much childcare would cost?

Hope everyone got to enjoy some fireworks!

(I'm so sorry, in so many ways for the silly cats, they just make me snort-laugh.)

I came off the pill in September, bled as usual, then AF came 28 days later, but don't know if I am actually back to being regular yet or that was just luck! No sign that I've ovulated yet though. I needed to get my cycles regular because I'm planning on starting ttc as soon as I will be eligible for my works maternity pay, so don't want to find baby is due earlier!
I'm not sure if we're going to have to put things back though. The plan was to move house before starting trying and yesterday our buyer dropped out Now it might be ages til we move, but I think I'd like to start trying anyway. I suffer with anxiety anyway, so worried being pregnant when moving won't be good for either of us!

Hi

onelonelysock - Dh found out earlier this week about the threat but has to wait about 2 weeks before we know anymore - then another two weeks for it to be confirmed. If everything turns out ok we can start ttc again in about 2 weeks if not it we would have to wait until he finds something else could be up to 12 months

Its been very hard knowing that we have to stop ..... i was / am so excited at the thought of adding to our family!

How long have you got to wait??

smiles to all.

Hi all, tiffanys, with my dd (4.6) we were ttc when my dh was made redundant, so we decided to stop trying only to find I was already pregnant! DH was out of work for a couple of months but then found something else, although he didn't qualify for paternity leave though, we would've waited if it wasn't already too late though.
I was on the pill for 11 yrs, when I came off I had regular 26 day cycles, didn't ttc for the first month, but did from the 2nd, and got pregnant in the third.
Still haven't heard from the hospital. If things are ok, would like to ttc straight away, but don't want to get pregnant jan-April as I want to make sure my maternity leave will cover dd's school summer holidays. The hospital may tell me to wait 6mths anyway, or may do treatment that could cause problems - I'm currently trying to distract myself while I wait for the phone to ring! And I'm off to help with dd's school welly walk in a minute. Thanks for the support, nice to know others are in a similar position and can empathise.

One loney sock- haven't looked too long into childcare to know we can't afford it! My friend pays out so much a year I was shocked when she told me and on that on that basis not worth me working so thought if I got registered as a childminder could look after baby and bring some money in! I keep telling my dh it will all work because it has to but he likes to see solid figures as proof!
Tiffanys- fingers crossed about your dh's job we were in the same situation a while ago but luckily mine kept his. It was a sressful time though hopefully u can be back ttc very soon!

Hi all,

I am glad to hear your experieneces. florin ....im really glad your dh kept his job! Its such a stressfull time!

Dh and i agreed to stop trying but got to carried away ifswim, however we have sat down since then and decided we defo have to stop for now - its just very hard!

I was made redundant when i was off on maternity leave with my dd, although I dont remeber it being quite this stressfull!

On the positive side i am using this time to get my body in better shape, managed to lose 8.5 lb in the last 2 weeks so very pleased with that

Who is due to start trying soon?

Welcome to all the newcomers!

Kawaiiko we're also adament that we don't want a summer baby too. We're going to TTC in Dec, but I've already worked out my OV dates and worked out that if we were lucky enough to conceive 1st time we'd then have a baby with a late August due date. So we're going to got for it at the end of Dec/beginning of Jan. Ideally I'd love to have the summer hols off, paid for (I work in a school) and start mat leave shortly after.

I've done the estimating the due date thing too, DH would die of worry if he knew!

Florin Hi and welcome, I stopped taking the pill in June with a view to starting TTC in Dec, after 15 yrs on it my periods returned to a 30/31 day cycle straightaway, I was amazed as I can't remember how regular they were before taking the pill. Its each to their own really about coming off it, I just wanted to get it out of my system really well before TTC.

Also a teacher so we are also going to start trying at the end of december.

I think I have decided to come off the pill at the beginning of Jan. Really have no memory of what my periods were like. I have been with my husband since I was 15 so started on the pill when I was 16. Only started my period 18 months before being on the pill! Been on it 10 years now so good to get it out of my system! Going to tell my parents tomorrow night of our plans as if I am going to train as a childminder they will ask what is going on anyway and can't really keep a whole career change from them. Not going to tell them when we are going to start ttc just going to say preparing for the future getting everything setup and it will be a while don't want them looking for a sign I am pregnant everytime I see them!
Tiffanys glad you are using the waiting time positively. You have done amazingly well with losing weight. I am doing that too (but not lost much yet ). Plus putting more effort into the gym and cutting down a lot on alcohol. Hope you find out about the job soon the waiting is the worst. In the end with mine his job was safe but everyone got a 5% paycut but that was a lot better than losing his job.

Thank you bebe, I think mine is about 27 (a bit higher? I don't really want to know... Always found it really hard to lose weight - except the time I stopped eating, but that's not a place I want to go again - and find it a really emotive issue. Perhaps if I know I'm doing it for a real reason (for health, not to conform/be more "attractive" etc, ugh) I could do it sensibly...perhaps

I have an office job so the choice to wait is more due to not wanting a summer baby, but I have been feeling guilty about the fact that next Autumn would be the time I would apply for promotion - something I doubt they'll give me if I'm just about to bugger off for a year!

I feel torn between my dh and family's desire to see me do well (plus the temptation of a bigger salary!) and the fact that I really, really want a baby

Anyone else a bit torn between ttc and getting that job/house/holiday/whatever?

Hugs to you Kawaiiko, your post made me realise I was being self centred and stupid. My plan to buff myself before TTC was really focused on getting a skinny low fat bod rather than a healthy baby farm bod. So my brand new health regime need already needs to be ditched and re-reviewed.
(Though at the same time I can't help being more than a teensy bit jealous of Tiffanys fantastic achievement!)
And it's just my view, but I'd say ignore your guilt monster about your job, it sounds like you're ready to go with the family and that your DH is in agreement!

On the sacrifice front - I would love to change jobs back to the area that I worked in for 15 years, but I got made redundant a year ago and commitments meant I had to take the first job I saw. So now I work in a vile job I despise. However it's also maternity friendly, reasonably well paid, and very flexible. So really I've already sacrificed enjoyable work for massive flexibility and ongoing income after baby.

I am very envious of all of you teachers, it might just be my imagination, but it seems like in the long run it'd be a perfect job to have whilst raising a family.

Florin, let us know how your parents took the news! How are you going about getting into childcare?

LittleB, Any news yet from the hospital?