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[romilly]

i am very honoured to start the april first thread (thanks george ) for the TTC for the cautious girls! (and not forgetting the blondes, dramaqueen )...and anyone else who like to join us.

please start with quick stats so we know where you're at, thanks

rom 38 yrs old
ttc no. 1
cycle 3 (after m/c end. dec 04)
CD9
uses temps/persona

Hey Ladies.
Can i join please? I have been on TTC thread 22 but it is a little quiet so thought i's join you loevly ladies, this certainly sounds a fun thread.
I'm 22, DP 28. Decided to TTC not long ago, fell pg within first 2 weeks of trying but then mc shortly after . It hasn't been all that long now but am o.k. Get very teary whenever my 2 pg friends at work talk about their bumps and went to DP's brothers wedding at the weekend where 2 of his cousins are pg! Happy for them but very upsetting seeing them. Has made me and DP want to start trying ASAP. Am praying that all will be well next time.
Wishing all us the best of luck x x x

hi all
i dont know i pop out for a morning to find tons going on....welcome to all new people this thread is the best!!!!!!!!

Well had my gp appointment and am 5+3wks so am due 16th dec.Ironic as thats when we found out beanie had no heartbeat last year.

Dr has made me midwife appointment in 3weeks and has sent letter to ask for early scan.

So i suppose its time for me to move on from this thread Will be keeping an eye on u all though and helping rom wiht any backlogged orders.
Munz..hope ur dh is home and ur grabbing him as we speak good luck hun

Rom have you tested yet hun????????? Tons of baby dust to you...

Bella hope ur reflexology works for u hun and i see you allll on antenatal threads soon.

George hope your spring cleaning is a sign for u hun...fingers crossed

Wendy lets hope this is your month ...let it allll go hun...lol

How soft am I getitng all upset now....u ladies are fab

Anyone who wants to keep in touch then feel free to cat me

The best of luck to you Nemo. Wishing you the happiest, healthiest pregnancy there is! x

awwwwww nemo - that is such a cute touching message. i think i really am gonna need your help with this backlog of orders. i am swamped!!!!

welcome frizbe, debbsy and lottielou - great to have you on our buzzy busy thread

back later to talk to you all

Just doing a Monday am check in ooops pm now as it is
Am on day 6 of Af, have charted on ff for first time and like the feeling of being in control a little. fertile days logged as 27/4 onwards so will keep dh busy from there on in.
Have hpt in advance and a opk to sort out so will be very busy this month.
Good luck for everyone

Rom - come back and tell us how you are feeling as you are testing tomorrow aren't you??
Nemo - yes very mixed emotions about people graduating from here....sooooo very happy for you and DQ but going to miss you on our thread...
Also having nightmares of being the only one left on here when you all get a BFP and I don't.....sorry sharp slap on back of hand for that comment.....positive vibes only allowed from me!!

Ok ladies, could do with some opinions / advice please. Story is ...
I have been in my current job for 3 years. Last year (after 2 years) the company sold to a larger organisation. This has meant that over the last job my role has become less and less and I am not being stretched at all. When I found out I was pg last Nov it was at a great time as I was planning to go on maternity leave and then leave the company.
Now I have told them how unhappy I am and that my role is becoming very redundant so after talking another role was being put forward.
Now I have just read the job description and it looks really dull and a bit of a step back although would keep me very occupied.
Now dilemma at the moment is that as I am TTC I am hoping to not be here that long, however can I plan my work life on that presumption? So do I take the new role thinking that it is only for 6 months etc or take look for another job in case I don't get pregnant and risk p**sing off another employer if do manage to get a BFP and of course miss out on maternity pay (which I can't really afford to do)
MMMM - not sure what to do as people say don't put your life on hold whilst TTC but should I change jobs which is what I would do with no hesitation if I wasn't ttc?
Sorry for ramble....all advice, thoughts would be great....

Bella am i correct in thinking the law states you have to have maternity benefits no matter how long you have worked there????

Bella, Well if i were you i would'nt let TTC rule my life (easier said than done i know) I think you should take the plunge and start looking for a new job, just think, it's better to keep yourself occupied in a job you are happy with as it will help take your mind of TTC and keep your stress levels down for you while you're TTC.
Be happy in your job and enjoy it while TTC, it will make you feel much more at ease. If you choose to go back after then you know you will have an enjoyable job to go back to. If you choose not to go back then you will spend your pregnancy in a job that you enjoy!
I hope that helps
Being happy and stress-free will help you heaps whilst TTC.
x

sorry bella - had no time today my work is a nightmare too at the moment.

i understand your dilemma - v. hard one when your thoughts are not entirely on the job anyway! if you can face it, i would be inclined to give it another couple of months maybe.... feel optimistic for you. but in the meantime keep a sneaky eye open on any potential new jobs.

ok everyone - enough talk of the "L" word - i spied it cropping up a few times earlier! we operate on orders and bd'ing here, not pot-luck, right?!

promise back in a while....

welcome lottielou, i know how you're feeling i'm 24, and have just m/c my 2nd 2 weeks ago. Looking forward to trying again, but we are waiting for one AF before trying again. We didn't wait with the first m/c at the end of Jan this year and caught straight away. I think my body needs more time to recover this time.
I hope that you and your DP are dealing with it okay, and i'm here if you need a chat.
How long ago was it?

hey Diddle. Sorry to hear of your mc.
It was a couple weeks ago too. I had just been to me DR and was given my due date of 4th Dec then couple days it was taken from me. You just cant describe the feeling can you. but as you said, looking forward to trying again
DP is finding it quite hard to deal with but i'm trying to stay positive.
DR said we could start trying again straight away but am unsure as a couple of others on here have said to leave it for one AF. Which do you think? i'm ready to start again as desperately want to be PG again, but only want to do the right thing.
Same for you if u need to chat, i'm here huni x

Lottielou - am inclined to agree with diddle, good idea to wait for AF then try again. but there's no rules, whatever feels right for you.

piffle - glad your with FF too. george and i chart with them, and george has taught me a great fun new trick on how to change your O dates on the chart if you don't like them!!!

you have probably noticed i've been skirting around the issue of testing - am on 13dpo today - and havent yet pee'd on a stick

cant bring myself too yet, may break by tonight!

wendy - symptoms?? hmmmmmmmmmmm.....

Romilly: I am hoping that when you gather the courage to test that it is a nice dark BFP.

Thanks ladies, am inclined to side with Rom on the old job front...mmm...
Rom - OMG.....so close to testing.....suspense is killing me.....never mind you!! If you can hold off I would test in the morning as hormone will be more concentrated then and result will be more reliable.

think you may be right Romily, i suppose it would be better me waiting, after all i dont want to upset any chance i may (WILL) have next time!

btw Rom, fingers x'd for you x x x

Sorry meant to add - thanks for correcting me on the whole "L" thang.......yes its just a matter of time and effort!

Oh sorry I meant to say congrats to Nemo earlier, I hope she checks back on this! and also good luck to Rom{{Hugs}}

lottielou - I would advise waiting, but only because of what happened to me, i know lots of people who after their first when on to conceive straight away and have healthy babies now. I just want to make sure my body ahs a chance to recover, as who knows whats going on inside. I can't help but wonder if we had waited, if it would have all gone to plan the 2nd time.
I wanted to be pregnant straight away too, and do now, but we are making a conscious effort to use protection and not get caught until one AF, have just come back from the hospital after having a pregnancy test just to make sure that all remains are gone and that they are happy that i have had a compete m/c. which they are. and they recommend waiting until 2 AF's, but i can't wait that long.
I want a period now, so i can start trying in a couple of weeks. Plus i think maybe having one will give my body a chance to flush out and stray bits that may be left behind.
So after all that rambling, i would try and wait if i were you. might not be long, and if we both get caught around the same time we will be able to start to due in feb thread together. Thats positive thinking.
I'm sure all our waiting along with everyone elses on here will be worth it in the end.

Nobody will be able to say the right thing to you. i'm sure you had lots of, "you're young enough to keep trying for years" which is exactly what we don't want to do.
Keep smiling, and stay positive.
My DH buried his head in work the first time and when he did sit down and watch tv and have a chance to think he just cried, we both did. your dp will come round. Men are funny things, they deal with most things by avoiding them. Just support each other and stay strong.

thankyou everyone - bella agree, will prob. hang on 'til tomorrow. ff says wait til next day, lol!

hi there cadmum!

ff would say that! It is not a crazed woman TTC!!!!

hi again cadmum!

munz has gone quiet - bet she hits the six-time target, LOL - with ease ) no having to resort to messy tactics like chocs on pillows or hurtling bars of dairy milk (george ) for them!

well i get mr. rom back in an hour. and what am i doing...baking, no.....spring cleaning, no..... lighting candles and strategically placing chocs, nooooo!... i'm on here, of course

DQ - we are missing all your drama-ramas - how are you????????

Rom - how are you doing? Managing to stay away from the test drawer?