The one where Emmsy's friends say, 'if you're names not down, you're not coming in!'

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hi ladies
lola huge congrats on the excellent scan i am so happy for you
scully great news about the consultant bless your DDs being so excited!! i cant wait for DD to be that excited especially as she told everyone in nursery that mummy was giving her a baby brother the nursery nurse congratuated me on 'our good news' i dont know who was more embarrassed i thought she had noticed my fat belly and got the wrong idea... i need to have a word with DD about that but i havent got the heart cos i know she will be a bit upset
ahh well things are looking up as i went to see the doctor today (iv got ANOTHER kidney infection) and had a good chat about our TTC difficulties and she was lovely (its a new doctor as we moved surgery!) very supportive and she offered to refer me straight away to subfertility clinic as she said theres no point in me wasting time doing tests that they will do anyway she was very happy about my wieghtloss (as am i) and said to keep up the good work she also said that looking at old results of blood tests i may have hormonal imbalance and she would like them to look at PCOS specifically so she has included that in her referral hopefully i will have my appointment through in a few weeks and we can start to sort this mess out
hope everyone is doing well
xx ei xx

Ei that is brilliant news, such a relief for you to have a supportive GP - they are a godsend. Mine is a bit gruff but fantastic in terms of the support he has given me with tests and stuff but it must have been lovely for you to have a good chat to someone that can really help you. Well done on the weight loss as well Is it too rude to ask how much you have lost?

Lola Brilliant Brilliant Brilliant How long have you got to wait for the next one? As far as the party is concerned, my NY resolution is to just do what I want and I have been really relived to look forward to what I've arranged and my grumpy Dad's is to say YES to things and he has had some good nights out this month! So no help there then. With your horrendous work schedule and the ms and tiredness I would relish those nights by the fire.

Cricri Great news about Elise. She seems to be loving the massage and the oesteopath seems to be helping too. Hope you have got your feet up today! Yes I know I know I MUST slow down but it is lovely to do bits and know I'm not at work anymore so can chill out. In fact as soon as I'm finished here I am going to get a cuppa and curl up with my book (and the baby name book - yikes) Have been meaning to ask you which sling you got as I know you've used it loads and wondered what you thought of it.

Scully Again great news about your consultant appt. Lovely that you can be midwife led. So sweet that DD's excited. Does it make it all seem more real now they know? Back to school soon then - is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Sparkly Well done at school - I'll bet you were fab - You're gonna be one of those teachers that kids cry over when they leave your class!

Fruity Scully is right - no skimping button, although smoked salmon sandwiches yum ! I have found my appetite go though the roof the last week. 300 extra calories a day - Pah!

Do much good news in here today, hopefully Piper will be thrilling us with a BFP any day now?!

Mollie Hellllooooooooooo Are you still alive? How are you? Roaring around in your new wheels not doubt - Girl racer alert.

Ei fantastic news, a really positive reaction from the GP! x

Great that you've found a proactive gp Ei, hopefully you'll have some answers soon.
Teehee, it is starting to feel more real now the dd's know, and I am slowly beginning to think that things may go ok with this pregnancy. It's taken such a long time though, I think I have just resisted doing any sort of bonding for fear of something going wrong, protection mechanism I guess. As predicted, dd1 told her class today, although I won't really see any other parents properly until Mon, with me working the next 2 days. That should give the news plenty of time to get around dd2 was telling one of her teachers that she was sick because she is pregnant, little twit The teacher asked me if I was, when I went to pick dd2 up, just to clarify what dd2 had been talking about all day
How is everyone else this week?

Ei I'm so pleased that it all seems to be being sorted now I hope it's not PCOS but if it is, there is a lot you can do. Iirc your charts don't look like typical PCOS charts, maybe like your GP says, just a slight hormonal imbalance?
Scully and teehee there's absolutely no way I'm scrimping Button! In fact my healthy eating only lasted a day I got through an entire large (sharing) bag of salt and vinegar twisty crisps this lunch time - and that was after half a carton of leek and potato soup! I had the most awful tummy ache all efternoon, had to leave the after school play group early, even one of the mums said "ooh, you look like you're about to birth!" I actually felt like I was! Much better now though - that'll teach me for being greedy
Georgie How was your weekend away with DH?
Scully at your DD!

Afternoon ladies

Hope everyone is well as it has been so quiet in here this week - Are you all busy doing exciting things?

Fruity One day of healthy eating is better than none Have you had a go at the wedding invitations yet? I have just been shopping and made sure that this time there is biscuits that I may hide from DP.

Georgie How are your builder/employer battles going?

Scully DD2 sounds hilarious. Bless her. I'm sure the gossip won't take long to spread, you know how little girls love to gossip! Those early weeks are difficult aren't they? I am sure you will bond fine. Although truly I can't really get me head around the fact that a baby is going to be the result of this pg and I'm nearly 30 weeks!

Nothing exciting happening here, just enjoying my lovely maternity leave.

Hello. Remember me?! DH bathing the girls so thought I'd take the opp and get on here to say howdy and catch up with what's been occurin'.

Ei Wow, you've got a great GP. very pleased that you've been referred for tests. if it is a hormone imbalance rather than PCOS, then is it easy to treat? presume more so than PCOS? You've been so strong over the lat year. I'm not sure I could have kept going for as long as you have without losing my sanity. Let's hope this is the start of a good year for you.

Lola Thanks for the text hon. How's the case going? Is the MS getting any better? And how's the bruise? Take it easy lady. But more importantly, GREAT news about the scan. Am very very pleased that it's all going well. Although I know you won't relax til you've had the nuchal done.

Scully DD2 sounds adorable! How's the MS? has it gone now? Is it nice to get back to work for a rest?! I know what you mean about not wanting to bond. I think I've felt that more this pg to be honest. I KNOW I'm pg, I just have to look in the mirror, but I won't believe that it's 'real' til it comes out! Are you getting kicks? This one is quite jumpy and I can feel it a lot. And it's great that your con has said all ok for midwife led birth. Is it going to be in hospital or at home? And, more importantly, has the kayack been taken out on it's maiden voyage?!

Fruity Helthy eating. Pah! Libs and I in Macky D's in Centre Court for lunch today . Just HAD to have one. Libs not complaining either! Me saying in loud voice, 'gosh isn't this a treat' . Like we only go in there once in a blue moon! Am such a snob!! How's it going with DP hon?

TeeHee Glad you're enjoying your mat leave. Hope you've got some nice things planned before your life is taken away!!! Is the dining room looking lovely?

DH and I had lovely w/e away. As he said to a mate, 'the missus and I are going away on a dirty w/e, without the dirty' . Sex ban in place til 37 weeks when stitch taken out. Bit of PG13 action. Sigh.

We got rid of the old builder today. They were marched off site with threats of calling the police if they didn't vacate. It's been a complete shit show. We found out from the building inspector today that the builders have completely fucked up the brickwork and that it will all have to be taken down. So the structure that we did have is unsafe and of such poor quality that it's dangerous. We're witholding £33k that we owe them until this is rectified. New builder starts tomorrow. It's been so stressful and time consuming. Looks like we're back in after the baby born. But on the bright side, old builders gone, new builder in. New chapter. Gav and I very tough now with the new team. No more fuck ups. We're speaking to a solicitor to see whether we can sue structural engineer and the architect for proff incompetence. Along with the builders their bad management has left us £50+k out of pocket and 6 months longer than expected in rental. Never ever hire a building firm called PRS!

Actually feel very positive now as know we don't have to deal with those arseholes anymore.

As D:ream said, 'things can only get better'....

Hope everyone else good. Mibbes Emmsy Cricri - hope little un's behaving themselves. Mollie where are you? Sparkly Are yo sure you're ready for Euro Disney?!?!? BellaHarry Not long til half term!!

georgie great to hear from you! not long 'til 1/2 term indeed!! woohoo! Sounds like you've got the shit undercontrol with the extension work, but what a crappy stressy time!

Georgie it comes to something when you start quoting D:Ream!

Ei so glad you're getting the help you so richly deserve Feels good to think you're making some progress doesn't it? Keeping everything crossed for you!

Hello ladies! Nothing much to say. Not that that's a bad thing! No exciting things here Teehee! Cross with DH for being an utterly useless specimen, but nothing major/worth reporting.

Fruity glad to hear you're not taking this healthy eating malarky too seriously Am consuming a RIDICULOUS number of calories each day, so I need you to keep me company!

We have a 'family dinner' at my aunt and uncle's on saturday. Sweet of them to organise it, we NEVER normally do family stuff, in fact this will be the first time ever for a dinner like this There will be 11 of us. Apparently my cousin is planning on getting her wii fit out after dinner for us all to have a go No chance!! They don't know I'm pg (and we're not telling either!) No chance I'll be doing that after dinner, I'll be lucky if I'm still vertical!

Cricri thank you so much for your fb response, very very helpful! Think I will call the doula after the scan at 11weeks (provided all is well) and explain our situation to her, and go from there. Feel like I owe it to this LO to have a bit of faith. Scully & Georgie I totally understand where you are coming from re not getting too attached, but I know I won't feel any less devastated if things go wrong with this pg no matter what I do/don't do/think/feel in the mean time. Does that make sense? I guess it's juts about striking a balance. I actually had a dream a week or so ago that the baby had been born (perfect & beautiful ) and I was having a major stress and panic about the fact that I hadn't bought ANYTHING for it cos I'd been so paranoid... Was a very odd dream, but oddly reassuring somehow. Baby was beautiful and I was learning to bf her then I woke up!

Hello to everyone else, am considering taking the plunge and re-joinging knicker checkers... Think I will... Dinner first!

Lots of love to all xx

Evening all

I'm currently munching on a spicy beanburger smothered in Ketchup so typing with my mouth full

Lola oooh, your dream was about a baby girl? You're having a boy then! I've dreamt both times that I was having a girl. I've since heard that it's common to dream the opposite, can't wait to find out if it's true for you! After yesterday's self inflicted tummy ache I will be much more careful about what I throw down my neck! Don't worry though, still demolishing huge amounts of calories

I'm trying to type this fast cos I think MN's going down tonight - no idea what time.

Georgie ah, D:ream! I once went to a Take That concert where they were the support act! Oh I'm so Rock 'n Roll
Well done on sacking the builders! I can't believe the stress they've caused you
Things with DP are crap. Bored of moaning about him now. Gonna just stay ing

Teehee Not had a go at the invites yet, just can't get motivated - plus need to talk to DP before I have to cancel this wedding all together!

Evening ladies,
Have been lurking but not had chance to post.
Ei Really pleased your GP is referring you for tests, that is good news. Fingers crossed for BFP before then!
Lola Glad to hbe able to help. Sounds like a lovely dream you had. i totally understand where you and Georgie are coming from with the not bonding. I think I started to relax after 20 weeks and the 4D scan helped too but I certainly wasn't reading stories to my bump like others on my AN thread. I felt quite detached and found it difficult to believe I was going to have a baby.I'm not sure if any of that was due to the mc or just the way I am. However, once I had Elise in my arms that changed everything and I had no problems bonding with her then. Try not to worry too much - easier said than done I know.
Georgie I am also shocked at the sh*t you've had to put up with from your builders - what were the council inspectors doing ffs? They checked our building works at every stage - did they not spot any problems right at the beginning? I can't believe you're having to consider suing people for not doing their jobs properly - just more stress you don't need. Really hope the new builder makes up for all this and that everything goes smoothly from now on.
Teehee Glad you're making the most of your maternity leave. If you fancy a day out to Colchester let me know - we could have a mini meet-up before our proper one with everybody
Scully lol at DD2! Hope you're not suffering too much in the heat - it sounds horrendous down there. Total opposite here, we're expecting another cold snap over the weekend!
Hope everybody else is OK - where is Mollie? Hope you're OK. Heard from Sparkly on fb and she's fine, just very busy. Mibbes How are you doing? Hope the bf is going OK now, well done for sticking with it.
Everything is fine here - Elise has had a bit of a cold this week but hasn't been too out of sorts fortunately. I did cancel the appt for her 2nd lot of jabs tomorrow though. There are some new photos of her on my profile and also on fb for those who are on there.

Do you know what cricri, Elise looks just like she did in her 3d scan pic - amazing!

and absolutely gorgeous of course!

Can't stand this new MN. Does anyone know how to get the old one back?

It will take some getting used to, I didn't realise they were changing it.
Can't believe so many people have stuffed up your renovations Georgie, I'd beyond furious Does your solicitor think you have a good case? And yes, the kayak has been used, not for a few weeks, but the first week we bought it we had it out 4 days in a row. dh has been working or away ever since, hopefuly in a couple of weeks time we'll get back up the coast again.
D:ream and Take That, Fruity you are hard core Spicy beanburger sounds delicious
My team at work went out for lunch today to a local golf course, blt sandwich and chips for $6, a bargain and delicious. This place is about a 3min drive from my house as well, I could be going back there for more meals I think
I'm thinking I'll get more attached as I feel the baby move more & I get bigger, but I'm like you Cricri, won't be reading bump stories Bit tired after sorting out the dd's for bed without adding another child to the bedtime story routine just yet

Yuk - this new MN is horrible. Have been in a grump all morning and this has just topped it off - will post properly when in a better frame of mind.

Why did the powers that be at MN not heed the old saying "if it aint broke don't fix it"?! Can't stand this new layout - I keep having to scroll along the page to read posts as they no longer fit on the screen which is most annoying!
Hope everybody is OK apart from that

Hmmmm. Not sure whether I like this format. Might take a bit of getting used to.

Also, how can you see everyone's pics now as they've taken icon off the right hand side of your post?

Morning ladies

I usually click on the persons name to get their profile and photos which still seems to work. I have noticed a guide to the changes which I might have a look. Keep telling myself "Change is good" but frankly I have enough change going on at the moment.

Georgie Your building nightmare just sounds awful, you must be totally sick of it. Mind you hopefully with new builders you can start to see some progress and feel a little more positive about one day getting back home. How are you coping with being pg with all this stress? I hope you are staying as chilled as possible.

Fruity Sorry that things not improving with DP, have you managed to have a chat with him yet? Or have you just resorted to violence! Maybe when the baby is here it will dawn on him that his life is different to when you first met. Won't make any comments about how good my DP is being at the moment as last time I did we had the most enormous row (serves me right for being so smug!) How is the healthy eating going? Have just discovered that Monster Munch have reintroduced the old size with original Monsters on the pack - mmmm Roast beef flavour - very nice.

Cricri I was only thinking the other day that I should take a little trip on the train to see you and you lovely Elise - must start planning some stuff otherwise this time will fly by in a blur of chores and TV! I will prob FB you to see when you're free.

Scully Not sure about the reading thing either - I think Sticky hears quite enough of my voice anyway! Plenty of reading to be done when s/he arrives! You are sounding really positive though which is great and I think helps you bond even without doing it consciously iyswim.

Really must get out of bed and get on with stuff. Dining room is looking fab - new colour for wood is much better and after 3 years of half yellow walls, a naff dado rail and pocks all over the walls from previous picture hanging it is great to have smooth white clean walls! We should get it finished with weekend so will then be able to tackle baby's room (Oooh that sounds a bit scary!)

Lola What was the final decision on the party? How's your week been?

Hello to all the lurkers - come on, treat yourself to a little post - it would be great to hear how you are and what is happening with you all.

Morning

Georgie I still have the icons on the right hand side of people's names. Maybe when I changed back to "Classic" it actually did something It just doesn't look that "classic" to me.

Teehee I'm slowly getting used to the new format, a bit weird though.
No chat with DP yet, he keeps working late. Said he's working this weekend too. Good news is he's been critically acclaimed in his work (a film called "The Moon") and will hopefully be put on a big project in July. He's been having big meetings with some Americans who are, quite frankly, taking the piss. He worked until about 12.30/1am last night clearing up someone else's mess. He doesn't even get paid overtime, even when he works the weekend, just gets holiday in lieu which is pretty useless.
He then promised me he wouldn't go out drinking afterwards, but surprise surprise, he rolled in at 4am then sat up watching "The Departed" until about 6am. Hes still in bed now and the bedroom stinks of stale alcohol. I keep telling DS to go and jump on him but he hasn't yet, probably can't bare the smell.

I'm not going to go on about DP's ways much longer cos I'm really boring myself, let alone you lot, but just a quick question: Do you think it's unreasonable to ask him to not go out drinking for one whole week?
(It's normally once/twice per week) Just want him to start saving some money. How often do your DP/DH's go out?

Hey Fruity sounds like DP is working hard but shame he hasn't spent what free time he does have with you and DS. My DP is not much of a going out person. He goes to football and tends to go to put before hand so that's every other week and probably goes out with his sister every other week but is usually home by about 10. End of term he always has a big session straight after work and I don't expect to see him as he gets home about - well I don't really know what time as I am asleep but he always smells of kebab and booze! He does drink quite a bit at home (bit too much for my liking but I'd rather that than out all the time) but he will be giving that up for lent soon so will be really boring.
Honestly I do think once or twice a week is a bit excessive but I guess it depends how much your DP is spending. I remember ages ago you said he thought you spent too much on food shopping which I now think is dead cheeky if he is gadding about town!

Weird new mn indeed!!! My kitten ate some curry yesterday and has just done the worst smelling poo ever!!! We are sat in the living room recoiling at the stench wafting in from the kitchen!!!! My God it is rank!!!

Hello to all!

Bella Poor kitten!! I remember when some of DH's friends fed Nemo bombay mix when he was a puppy... We were living on a boat at the time and the next day the poor little mite was dragging his bottom down the wet pontoon trying to cool it down! Horrible boys. (I wasn't there when they fed it to him btw!) Thankfully there were no long term ill effects! Hope your kitten, but more to the point you and your DH, have recovered! Are you fully public now? At school and everything? How's the bump coming along?

Fruity once or twice a week sounds like a lot to me too. In the last 3 weeks DH has been out 3 times and that felt like a lot to me. In fairness it's unusual for him to be out that much. 2 mid week trips to the pub for "boys' beers" and one night away staying with a university friend in london. He's REALLY busy at work and I know from experience that sometimes he needs to get out and get very drunk to unwind - just the way he is, although I don't really like it. Having said that, he wasn't really that drunk after either of the boys' beers trips and because it was only to the pubs in the village he was home by midnight both times. Tbh he's getting a bit old for the 4am touch now He'll be 38 in April and he says he just can't handle it like he used to - fingers crossed this will happen to your DP very soon as well! I don't think you are being at all unreasonable to ask him to cut down. Maybe go for cutting down first rather than stopping? Though tbh I think you'd be well within your right atm to ask him to cut it out altogether, but I suspect that wouldn't go down very well! Good luck! Keep us posted.

Teehee still waiting for those bump and dining room pics?!?!?!?

Mollie & Sparkly don't make me come out there to find you ladies!! Don't you love us any more I might start a new thread "Has anyone seen Mollie or Sparkly?" Don't think I won't do it!! Seriously though, PLEASE come back? Pretty please? It just isn't the same without you both...

CriCri reading to bump?? Seriously?!? Can't see that happening any time soon ever! Am not worried about bonding yet, but give me time!!

Current anxiety is about the state of my skin. Can you even bear to listen to me go on...? With both of my previous pg's my skin improved initially but then deteriorated quite badly. I've always thought that this happened as the hormone levels fell and was therefore a sign that things weren't progressing as they should. I've therefore also thought that in a successful pg my skin would be fine. But this time, you've guessed it, it's dreadful.... So I'm worrying about what that means and about the stuff I'm using on it harming the baby (even though I checked it out last time) The sane part of my head says there's no point worrying about something I can do nothing about - maybe it's a bad sign, maybe it's not, but there's nothing I can do about it either way, and worrying about it isn't going to help. The less sane side is a bit more panicky.... I know some women have bad skin in pregnancy, but I just thought based on past experience that that wasn't how it would be for me.
Sorry for the whinge. The weirdest things can freak you out after mc can't they... Am having a facial on thursday - can't wait! So hopefully that will help with the symptoms if not the causes...

Went to the family dinner last night, no idea if they all guessed or not. Just said I was driving and sat looking a bit fat They didn't want us there til 8pm which meant we didn't eat til 9.15, and didn't finish til almost midnight! It nearly killed me. I didn't think I was going to manage any of the main course but I had a little bit, pushed the rest of it around my plate and ended up feeding most of it to my sister's bf (not literally, that would be gross) who was sitting next to me. DH was on my other side and even he didn't notice I wasn't really eating, so hopefully no one else will have either. I managed to force down some pudding though We didn't get home til about 1am and I felt so dreadful when I woke up this morning I can't tell you... Made me realise I have done the right thing in refusing the invitation to the black tie party next weekend. Late nights just do me in atm. Am feeling very guilty though as I only replied yesterday and they asked for replies by 20th Jan... Not sure what to do/whether to do anything to make up for the late response... any suggestions??

Wow. What a rambling load of old nonsense. Sorry You may not have to listen to me for a couple of days now though, due to the horrendous weather forecast for the next few days I've decided to stay in Brighton for a bit. Meant to be meeting up with a girl I lived with for 3 years at uni tomorrow night so that should be good - although she's not the most reliable person in the world, so I may be on here taking advantage of the hotel's wi fi instead!

Love to all, really need to go and shower now...

I saw the chilly weather forecast on the bbc website today, hope it's not too bad for you over there
Good decision about the blacktie event Lola, I know I could only cope with that in the last week or so and I'll be 17wks tomorrow. Week 6 to week 15 were a write-off I wouldn't worry about being late with the rsvp, they will understand soon enough, why you were undecided.
9.53pm and dd2 is squirming around on my bed behind me, not asleep Little bugger fell asleep at just after 6pm and then woke up around 8.30pm and has been very restless since. She will be moved back to her bed, asleep or not, very soon!
My dh also isn't one to go out that often Fruity. Before we had children we were both out often, someimes together, sometimes not. But in the last 7yrs, it's slowed down a lot. Lack of money, time, energy, motivation, to name a few reasons
But it works well because we are both supportive of the other one going out when the occasion arises, because it isn't very often.
We do have a drink most nights at home though, well I used to & we do a lot of socialising with friends at home now as well, just easier and cheaper with small children.
If we were short of money though, I wouldn't be happy with weekly outings. I remember it was so easy to spend £50 without even trying, that adds up over a month Here you can spend $100 without trying hard, and we just don't have that spare cash right now, with me only working part time and the extra curricular things dd1 does and dd2 will start doing, plus school and daycare fees.
10pm here now, time for bed for me, even if someone else isn't asleep yet......
Enjoy the rest of your weekend

hi ladies
hope you are all ok
lola my skin was god awful when i was preg with DD so it isnt really indicative of a bad preg/MC mine as fine and she is a bouncing beautiful girl try and relax (hard as i know it is! you will be fine use our age old mantra PMA!! think healthy!!
hello to everyone else
i had a phone call from my friendly neighbourhood subfertility unit telling me that my appointment is booked for 330 on thursday 5th march less than 6 weeks from now how blardy fast and efficient i am finding my healthcare system sice i treansferred to this new gp surgery!! i also still have this stupid kidney infection but again my new gp have been above and beyond marvellous!! i rang on friday to ask if i could maybe try a different antibiotic and they said my test results were in already and could i pick my new prescription up as the doc wanted to put me on a new one!! i was gobsmacked as my last gp didnt even send off for tests half the time and refused to reissue antibiotics without the results of a test the soft cow hadnt even ordered![ggrrr] anyway enough of my rambling
hope everyone is having a nice sunday
xx ei xx