first month of TTC no.1 anyone care to join?

[katster37]

Hi all. Well, after nearly a year of talking about it, and not really trying NOT to conceive, we are finally taking the plunge and this month will be our first PROPER month of TTC our first child. I am so excited! I realise it will not all be plain sailing, but I feel it is such a huge thing to have even reached this point.
I am on CD1 and have been v closely monitoring my cycles and ovulation patterns (we have been using natural family planning for a while) so am extremely nervous and excited about what is held in store.... Anyone in the same boat that would care to join me?!

Brill news LonghairedChief got my fingers crossed.

I'm feeling a bit more nauseous today but ok about it as beanie obviously held on tight down the stairs! Managed to have a small bowl of cereal for breakfast and have got lots of bland stuff in my lunchbox. Very pleased I only travel 5mins by train.

Work IT are doing my nut in. I'm trying to rise above it but I'm in a bit of a grey mood Getting hailed on while walking to work hasn't helped!

Thanks LongHairedChief, I'm keeping my fingers tightly crossed you have some great news at the end of the week. You're so good waiting until the weekend to test - I sort of wish I had waited as I am very excited but also very nervous it isn't going to stick. Have gone from being an obsessive symptom spotter to a compulsive knicker checker (sorry TMI ). It just seems so unreal!

Purple - how long did it take before you had any symptoms? I felt a little queasy this morning when I ate breakfast but I think I might just be imagining things because of the BFP. Only just 4 weeks today so early days still. I can't believe I'm almost hoping to feel sick (sure I'll regret that at some later date) but I think it might help the news sink in.

Hi idreamofbeanie - I think I probably felt a bit sick too when I initially found out - mine was most likely nerves and excitement . Had a bit of AF like pain quite regularly for weeks 4-5 or so and nausea started slightly yesterday and a bit more so today (I'm now 6+4). Still get the odd AF style cramping.

Would definitely recommend the little and often approach to eating while feeling sick. Felt a bit sick around 11am so had a couple of dry crackers. Boring but certainly did the trick and has meant I'm not feeling sick now I'm eating lunch. Bland food is top of the agenda but currently munching on a Milky Bar!

Hoping that I don't end up feeling awful as I don't want to have to tell work too early. Found out that the stupid sickness policy here is based on number of episodes of sickness rather than days. So it means if I feel rough, I'm better off getting a sicknote for 2 weeks than having a few odd day off

What a successful thread this is proving to be!
Wohoo to Beanie and fingers crossed longhairedchief!!

Also, please stay on here at least for a while, it's so interesting to read your experiences after the BFP! (Seriously, good fodder for the obsession!)

Well, as you know I've not felt too optimistic this month, as the OPKs have drawn blanks and very faint ones. Only yesterday, DH asked if I felt pregnant yet, so once again explained that it doesn't work that way...
Completely unrelated, I'm sure, but I was complaining yesterday that my bra must have shrunk because it was "squeezing" my left boob. As I was undressing, I noticed that the bra had dug into the side so I kind of put my hand on it, and then noticed a small lump. I freaked out a little (well, a lot) and made DH come and feel it. He felt it really clearly as well, and had a bit of a panic. It's about the size of a grape, which is quite large considering my breasts are only a small C.

As I'm sure I've told you before, my boobies don't seem to fluctuate with the time of the month, so this is all new to me... As I've been really ill, I'm kinda thinking that it's a swollen lymph node or something. It's a bit tender, but doesn't hurt.

ANYWAY - this morning I've had some slight spotting. Only a couple of drops of pinkish blood. Too early for AF, as she's due 29/30. Even if that was implantation bleeding (which is unlikely, as I don't seem to have OVd) surely it would be way too early for my boobies to be acting preggers?

Any thoughts? I often get swollen lymph nodes on my throat when I'm ill, so really thinking it's just that. Have any of you ever noticed the same thing happening in your boobs?

And, I suppose finally, please take this as a reminder to check your boobs regularly... I'm usually pretty good, but have actually not checked for a couple of months, so I have no idea how long the lump has been there. If it's not gone in a few days, I'll be going to the doctors.

Broodzilla - I often get small lumps in my breasts around time AF is due and they usually disappear quite quickly. It's probably nothing but it's always best to get these things looked - for your own peace of mind as much as anything. Let us know what happens.

I will definitely be hanging around for a while. I don't think I will feel confident enough to join an ante-natal thread for a few weeks. Half of me is just so happy and the other half won't stop thinking about the high rates of early mc (have a couple of close friends who mc their first pregnancy so I suppose it was bound to be on my mind). What an idiot - give me a slap someone. I feel guilty for not just being totally excited now I have the BFP I wanted so much.

Beanie I think you're wise to be slightly cautious although I know it puts a bit of a dampner on things. I'm looking forward to buying some baby items and looking at names but determined not to get carried away too soon. I think that would be even more horrendous.

How's everyone doing?

Feeling more sick today but ate a few Jaffa cakes and I've perked up. Looking a bit chubby in the waist area but trying to stand up straight and hold it in! Looks like I've had one too many pies Prob water retention or a big hint to get to the gym!

Hi guys! AF arrived yesterday so not my month this time. Never mind... keep trying! Sure DH won't mind keeping on BD'ing ha ha

Hey all

Feel a bit of a fraud as I still am not really admitting we are TTC, even to self - though have already weed on a stick. Tell me I'm nuts:

Came off pill on NYE - have BD once since (in defence have been really busy and also trying not to think about ttc). Yesterday finally went to Dr about ear infection, was prescribed antibiotics, got them and read leaflet (yes, am that sad, I am that person that reads leaflets) and it said to talk to DR if preg. Thought to self, am clearly not preg, then laughingly admitted to DH what I was thinking. So he marched me to Superdrug and made me purchase wee stick thingy. Was desperately trying to tell him sotto voce about the TWW (since Superdrug is close to home and people who know us could have been there - ab very not ready for this).

Anyway, got home, drank glass water, then later weed on stick. Single pink line appeared almost immediately. Felt daft. Took antibiotics.

If I'm like this now, what on earth will pregnancy hormones do to my mental state?

Anyway, you lot are the only people I can share things like this with so thanks for letting me ramble!

ps congrats Beanie and other graduates x

LOL VeryAnnieMary I found it tricky thinking about TTC - all a bit odd really. I also managed to get through 4 PG tests in about a week over New Year!! I'm now feeling quite chilled though

Just told our first RL people - quite exciting. Still not telling parents for a couple of weeks but as we live in a different town, this should be fine. Don't plan on telling anyone else until then. Our friends asked me outright so couldn't deny - plus had been asking them loads of baby questions!

Sorry AF arrived longhairedchief - big boo. Although you're probably right about DH though . Good luck for Feb.

Hi all. Another newbie if i may? I've just had AF and stopped taking the pill. I am thinking it will take aaaaaaaages as i went in the pill when i was 15 and am 34 in August. But if it happens sooner i will be very happy .
Congratulations purpleCrazyHorse. And fingers crossed for Idreamofbeanie I've enjoyed reading through this thread, and look forward to hearing from you all.

Hey Kitty! Welcome! Looking forward to tracking your progress!

Hi everyone. Been lurking for a few weeks now. Decided to take the plunge and join the party! Came off pill at the start of Jan. Was on Dianette for 10 years! Still feels a bit mad that I'm TTC. Haven't told anyone else - except DH of course! Feel scared, excited, confused...but optimistic!

Welcome Kitty and Violet. It's so exciting having lots of new people. Good luck everyone.

Any more news idreamofbeanie?

Chuffed that the sickness has gone for now although soon to be back as I'm driving the car later! Only 1wk then DH is back and my car stress reduces. However off out for dinner tonight but wondering if I can eat steak - is pink ok. Hmm... off to search the wonderous google!

Welcome violetbubbles. Good luck I know the feeling!

I am sure i read something about avoiding pink meats...but that might of been TTC not when you have succeded

Welcome kitty and violetbubbles, good luck to you both.

purple - glad to hear you aren't suffering too badly with ms. I don't have any nausea yet but my boobs are quite sore. Also I've been quite tired for the last 2-3 days, not sure if that's a symptom or if it's just the crappy weather making me want to curl up on the sofa at home . I wasn't really planning on going to the doctors for a couple of weeks as I guess they will just tell me to wait until 8-12 weeks for a midwife appointment. When did you see your GP?

Hi to everyone else

Hello ladies - sorry I have been AWOL for a little while. I need to catch up properly on the thread so I know what you've all been up to!
I am not sure what to do at the minute as I finally went to the Dr about how sad and panicky I have been feeling (all to do with work, I think, but everything sets me off) and she has prescribed me beta blockers as my heart is racing with adrenaline the whole time, and citalopram anti-depressants. The prb is, you need to take them for atleast 6 months and you absolutely cannot take when pg, according to her. I told her I wasn't happy with this (I don't really want to take them anyway, but I don't want to put off TTC for what will probably be a year as you can't just stop them suddenly) and she said I needed to get myself sorted before I start having babies . The thing is, I don't think pills are necessarily a way to get sorted, and also, I think I will always be an anxious person. Does anyone have any advice?! I am going to pay privately for CBT as I have heard v good things about this and there is a 6 month wait on the NHS.
DH is away skiing until Thursday night anyway, and I think I will OV next Fri. Help!!
purple how was it telling people in RL?! How exciting! Has the sickness abated?
How is everyone else doing?
Idreamofbeanie, congratulations!! I have just caught up on the last few posts - how exciting! How are you feeling?
And welcome to kitty and violet!

Hi Kaster37. I agree pills don't solve the problem, they just numb you temporarily. I was on anti depressants at 21 and they didnt help. I didn't do anything to help myself after coming off them, so last year stareted therapy. My therapist is brilliant. I am not seeing her at the moment, but she helped me hugely. She also did CBT and various other forms, depending on what she felt i needed at the time. I have another friend who had therapy while pregnant and it helped her too! I am here if you want to talk! Where do you live? Kittycatcat

sorry af came longhaired chief

im still waiting for af - came off cerazette and nothing

i havent had a period for 2 years since on cerezette and then for 15yrs before that been on pill so had false periods iykwim

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Hi kittycatcat, thanks for that message. I agree, pills don't solve anything, they just mask it. And i have had difficulties coming off similar things (seroxat) for panic things, and I don't want to put my plans for our family on hold. I am in London and have emailed a couple of CBT people, who also do counselling and the like, so hopefully will hear back tomorrow. What kind of therapy did you have, if you don't mind me asking? It's also good to know that your friend had it while pregnant. Maybe there's hope yet!
How is everyone else?

Katster sorry to hear about the anti-depressants, personally I think I'd go down the therapy route too. Could your GP prescribe something TTC friendly that you could take while also having therapy?

I had a period several years ago when I was very stressed in my job and not coping at all. I know what you mean about the adrenaline, I had it most of the time then, too. Mine was obviously linked to work so I ended up quitting.

Seems odd, but wishing a speedy AF for you blondes Hoping things even out and your body starts doing it's thing quickly.

Things in the Purple camp are going well. The couple I told have kept it discrete and I even managed to drive the car on Friday night for a meal with them and other friends. Driving was fine, parking was fine too - I don't know why I panic about it. Evening was really nice, and decided on a well done steak afterall (no pink bits!). Missed out on the cocktails though so bought a box of Magnum ice creams to cheer me up!

Beanie, we popped into the GP the day after I found out and filled in a form for the midwife. Other than that, just waiting for a call. I'm now 7+2 so hoping to hear soon. Sickness as almost totally gone although I get it a bit when hungry so trying to munch little and often. All in all, only had it for less than a week, hoping it doesn't come back. Have got sore (.)(.) too which are quite painful at night if I roll over

Sorry, seems to have turned into a massive post. Hoping everyone else is well.

Hi purple - glad the sickness isn't too bad and sorry to hear that you also had a stressful time with work. I have started applying for other jobs in different areas too, but I feel I probably need some coping strategies and therapy could wellbe beneficial. BTW I also get totally stressed about driving and parking, especially as DH doesn't drive. We don't have a car at the minute which I don't miss at all.
Well, I think we are going to continue with the TTC business, but hopefully it will be a bit less pressured and just have the attitude of when it happens, it happens. There's no real rush. Although, selfishly, I am sure that if I knew I would be having a year on maternity leave soon, work wouldn't seem so stressful!
Hope everyone else had lovely weekends. DH is skiing and I really miss him!

Hi all. Don't you just love Mondays

Kaster37 here is my gmail address (hope you are allowed to put this on here i haven't signed up to CAT yet) [email protected]
I had Cognitive therapy, but also hypnosis (not as deep as it sounds), and other types i cant recall off the top of my head. My lady is based in Harley St, but i saw her cheaper in Harold Wood near where i was living at the time. I recently got promoted at work and things were difficult. I have a personality clash with my boss and was very unhappy, so i popped back into therapy for 5 sessions, and this really helped too. I can't recommend it enough. Let me know if you want her details. Good luck with it all.
Purple yum to the steak and magnums
Am very excited for you mummy's to be

Thanks for the warm welcomes - it's great having a place like this to come to for hints, tips and advice!

I'm starting to feel quite anxious actually because I've been reading all of these negative stories about Dianette, which was my prescribed pill for 10 years.

We're hoping to conceive within the first six months of trying but the more I read on various chat rooms and advice networks the more I realise this is quite unlikely; because of how long I've been on Dianette...

Anyone else experienced problems after coming off Dianette? Or has anyone been given advice from their GP on the subject...? Any advice or shared experiences would be much appreciated.

On another note - sorry you've been feeling unwell lately Katster37 - sending you positive thoughts!