first month of TTC no.1 anyone care to join?

[katster37]

Hi all. Well, after nearly a year of talking about it, and not really trying NOT to conceive, we are finally taking the plunge and this month will be our first PROPER month of TTC our first child. I am so excited! I realise it will not all be plain sailing, but I feel it is such a huge thing to have even reached this point.
I am on CD1 and have been v closely monitoring my cycles and ovulation patterns (we have been using natural family planning for a while) so am extremely nervous and excited about what is held in store.... Anyone in the same boat that would care to join me?!

Welcome, FutureMum!

OMG congratulations, Purple, that is absolutely fantastic!! I am so excited for you!! This is turning into quite a successful thread!

I am on CD21 today, AF usually arrives on CD28 or 29. I don't know why, but am feeling really down about it all at the min, have convinced myself I am not ovulating! GP says regular cycle + heavy-ish AF + OV signs suggests I do, but for some reason I am feeling sad . ThinK i am just impatient!

Broodzilla, congrats on your marriage!! Tell us all about the day!
Red Raspberry Leaf is meant to 'tonify' your uterus, whatever that means?! And help with EWCM. So we'll see.

Friday tomorrow!

Sorry VeryAnnieMary welcome to you too!

WOOOOHOOOOO!
We have a BFP!!!!! Well done Purple!!!! You'll probably not be hanging around on this thread for long, but you know you'll always have honorary membership as the first one to actually MANAGE TC!

Now, let's all hope that this is the luckiest thread ever and we all end up preggers by the end of the month!

Katster I may have to get me some of that tea, my uterus just might need tonifying. No wonder these discussion boards are so popular, can you imagine having these conversations IRL with a straight face?

Umm, and while we're on the subject, I have a question. My AF arrived on time (uninvited, but hey...) but now seems to only last for 3 days. It's been yeeeears since I've had a 'proper' AF (no pills, no injections etc.) but I most certainly remember bleeding for 5 or 6 days at a time. Any ideas about what's going on with my body? Am I just getting old? (I must quickly add that I'm not at all complaining, if AF wants to hang around for 3 days only, that's fine by me, but ummm... am I not supposed to be shedding lovely uterus linings and such?)

Right.

On to more fun things - we jetted off to Vegas and got married just the two of us. Not very romantic, I know, but we have family all over England (and Scandinavia) and it would have been near on impossible to get everyone gathered in one place. So we eloped. And you know what? It was fun. I really recommend it for anyone out there who wants to get hitched but for one reason or another can't be doing with the whole wedding-thing. (Note to ovaries, any beans will now be wedlock, so HURRY UP!)

We're starting the BD rumba tomorrow as I should be OVing over the weekend.

Lots of babydust all around.

Smiles all round - lots of luck to everyone TTC, I'm sure Jan is going to be a good month and I need some BFP company!!

Not yet ready to move to the Pregnancy board as everyone is 40+ weeks and ready to drop (or having all sorts of nasty things plus sharing TMI) - I'm happy in blissful ignorance

Luckily not gone crazy with baby things at all, trying to remember all the things I can/can't eat etc etc, no room in my brain for pushchairs and cutsy clothing. However, in my super organised fashion, I've started a birth plan and contacted a doula. Still so much could go pear-shaped before 12 weeks but trying to chill out and take each day at a time.

Katster37 been thinking of you and hope things are working out with your short luteal phase. Do you think the B6 and Agnus Castus are working?

What a wonderful wedding Broodzilla, eloping sounds brilliant fun and Vegas seems like a blast - you didn't have an Elvis theme did you? Congratulations once again. I must say I didn't feel like a wife either. In fact, DH calling me his wife still sounds a bit weird (and we've been married 7 years).

Hi there, can I join you? I'm also on the 'trying for October' thread but not many of the ladies over there are trying for #1. I came off the pill in November and am now on cd44 (!) I didn't seem to ovulate and got a bfn when I did a test just in case. Grr. Now just sitting it out and waiting for AF to arrive, with a bit of bd'ing just in case there is a surprise ovulation. I've resolved only to do a preg test once every 30 days to avoid turning into a madwoman. Anyone else take ages to get their first AF after the pill?
Also Lady Metroland, I really like your nickname, I just read 'Decline and Fall' and thought it was hilarious.

Welcome eeyore!
I know what you mean about not feeling like a 'wife' - I still always almost laugh when I say my 'husband'! Far too grown up!
Broodzilla, your wedding sounds fantastic!! Did you stay in Vegas long? We have booked a holiday in California this summer (we can change the flights for free so I am hoping to have to do that!) Not that Vegas is in California, but it just reminded me! Hmmm not sure about the 3 day AF. It sounds fine though. My AF's were really really heavy as a teen, then went to maybe 4 days in my early 20s, and the last 3 - 4 months have been 6 day painful extravaganzas! I actually fainted with period pain last month!! So, I'm not sure, but give the red raspberry leaf a whirl, I'm sure a spot of tonifying can't do any harm!!
Wow, purple, you sound v calm and collected!! How did you choose your doula? How exciting, I am so ! Although obvously v happy for you - don't take that the wrong way!
Right - I have massively sore boobs today, but am only 4DPO so there is no way it is a symptom - it is probably the stupid short luteal phase getting shorter Let's hope the B6 and Agnus Castus gets to work soon!

Welcome Eeyore!
With the risk of sounding like a bore... seriously, if you haven't already, give Agnus Castus a whirl. I'm new to TTC (obviously), but as far as sorting AF out, Agnus Castus is fab!
I eyed up the October thread, but am trying to limit myself as I don't want to end up getting addicted to following loads of different ones.

Purple you really are staying level headed and cool about the BFP. Amazing. I can't imagine... Are you getting any symptoms yet? You must tell us all the little things so that we can live vicariously through you!

Katster where in California are you going? If you have any free time at all, try to squeeze in a road-trip, the stretch between LA and San Francisco is amazing. And Napa Valley (although no wine tasting for you, hopefully!!)
We had to get out of Vegas for a bit, all that bling and glitz got to me... I'm a simple girl! We drove out to the Grand Canyon, spent a night in Flagstaff and carried on to Sedona, AZ. GORGEOUS!! (In all honesty, I was probably as excited about the road-trip as I was about the wedding.)

I'm off to research raspberry leafs!

Welcome eeyore - we're a friendly bunch so do stick around. You're certainly in 'first-timer' good company here!!

I came off the pill at the end of October and did AF roughly on time in November although not sure if I OVed as weren't TTC then so played safe. December was a loose thing and by freaky chance got a BFP on Monday. I've heard that it can take a while though and was very surprised we managed it in the first month of trying. You could always pop and see your GP or Family Planning Clinic for some advice.

No symptoms yet, thought I'd gone off chocolate but ate the remaining Christmas Lindt tonight, so obviously not!

Found a doula via www.doula.org.uk/. Not many in South Wales so needed to register my interest ASAP. Suspect DH will be as helpful as a man can be, but really need a female who's been through it and has loads of useful advice. Still early days though so just had an informal e-mail chat expressing my interest!

Thanks girls! That's really helpful advice about Agnus Castus and I will definitely look into it. Purple, great news about the BFP. It must be nice to be able to tell us when you are probably keeping quiet about it in real life.

Morning all,

welcome eeyore - I'm afraid I don't have any advice re the late arrival of AF but I've seen agnus castus mentioned on a couple of threads so I hope that works for you.

Well I'm starting the dreaded 2ww and not feeling very hopeful for some reason. DP and I got in as much BDing as possible over the last few days although he has been working away a bit so we should be in with a good chance. It's just that it all seems to come down to luck in the end and I've never thought of myself as a very lucky person. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean I have really bad luck or bad things happen in my life it's just that I've never so much as won a raffle prize and hate leaving things to chance. Sorry, this probably all sounds very stupid. I think I'm just feeling the effects of a gloomy dark and wet Friday morning !

waves

can i join?

dh and i decided at NY that we are going tcc - take last few pills next week

part of me is omg-what happens if i conceieve straight away and i could have a baby by christmas - other part fears i may not be able to conceieve/will take years

i also havent mentioned to any rw friends as have seen many friends being asked every month if they are pregnant - once they have said they are trying - and it got them down

i never asked, assumed when they were and over 8/12 weeks they would mention it to me

What a fab friend you are Blondeshavemorefun - I recall making sneaky sideways glances at PG friends trying to determine as didn't want to ask We have done exactly the same thing though, as I didn't want parents piling on the pressure - and had the same fears about getting PG or not. MN has been brilliant because I haven't spoken to anyone in RL about it (except DH).

I did want to TTC but wasn't too fussed at the start - DH was more keen. However once I started to get close to AF in Jan, the more excited I became. I'm sure you'll take a BFP in your stride

Thinking of you idreamofbeanie, the waiting is always horrible (and no Christmas/New Year to distract). Big hugs.

weirdly enough,my mum has bever asked,unlike mil

tech as stillon the pill,and have been for 17years,it might take a whilefor AF to arrive, havent had her for 2 years since i changed to a different pill, so who knows

i have saved a fortune in tampax though, the last 24months

Thanks purple I feel much better this evening. I know it's silly to worry at this stage - after all we've only been trying for a cople of months - but I guess when you really want something you can get carried away !

Hi blondes - I was on the pill for 13 years before we decided to ttc at NY and my AF arrived 28 days after I took my last pill. I tried OPK sticks this month and got a positive so hopefully I am ovulating too so you don't always have problems after the pill. Hope your AF arrives soon - how strange to be hoping yours arrives when I am hoping mine doesn't!

guess i want AF to arrive so i know where i am in my cycle - then the countdown begins

Had first proper chat with DH about the BFP. Kinda dropped the bombshell just as we left the house on Monday night heading for dinner with friends. Been in shock most of the week but had a brill chat about all things baby whilst shopping in town (not for baby things, I might add!)

Bit of a wobble on the doula front - DH not happy. But once I explained the benefits (and I want to go to a birth centre without epidural options, therefore having anything I want!) he's fine.

Still haven't heard from the MW about a date for my booking appointment and don't want to tell parents until I have a date for a scan. Hmmm... so the waiting goes on!

Hoping we have loads more BFPs in Jan - big smiles all round

thnaks purple and congrats btw

life will never be the same

Hi everyone. Purple how are you feeling? ANy symptoms yet?
Blondes have you got AF yet? Mine turned up last night, and I didn't take it very well I actually went to bed crying. It was 3 days early which means even if the egg was fertilised, there is no way it could have had time to implant. All the pills I am popping to lengthen my luteal phase seem to be a total waste of time . Maybe it takes a while to get into your system...
Well, I hope you ladies are having good weeks. Mine is not too good so far... Sorry, I am being utterly miserable and annoying!!

katstar - not yet but am still on last few days of pill

dont know why i want to finish packet, but i do

does that make me insane{grin]

Hi all,

this thread had been a bit quiet recently.

katster - sorry to hear that you are feeling so blue . Don't feel bad for coming on here to offload, that's what we are all here for. Can you chat to your GP about how long any of these pills/treatments should take? Have you tried posting the problem as a specific thread anywhere on mumsnet? I'm sure someone on here must have had the same problem.

I am on day 21 so another week to wait before I know whether we have been lucky this month. I am feeling totally obsessed and the fact that we are really quiet at work this week isn't helping. It's my birthday this weekend so hopefully that will keep me busy and distracted. I really wanted to be one of those people who are just relaxed and don't think about it too much but that's clearly just not me .

Hi all,

Seems like we're all feeling a bit down... must be the time of year. I for one don't mind people popping in here to have a moan/rant/get it off their chest. That's what it's for!

Blondes I think it's good that you're finishing the pack, sure I remember reading that it's easier on your body. (same as when you start the pill, it's better if you start it on CD1.)

Katster - big, virtual cup of (decaf) tea coming your way!!
I hope you feel better soon, it's rotten isn't it to have AF AND feel sad! As if one or the other isn't bad enough.

Beanie, yup, me too. I really thought that I'm one of those chilled out people. But I've just ordered some more OPKs (I'm going through them like nobody's business)... and some Pre-seed. I'll let you all know when it arrives and has been... ehm... road tested... if it's any good.

Now I'm going to be hitting the cookie jar.

Sorry for your AF Katster, really sad for you and hope something crops up this week to bring a smile back

Fingers crossed for you Beanie and Broodzilla.

Still feeling no different to usual, had some more cramping (AF style but apparently that's my uterus expanding). Only expanding I'm doing around the waist is due to lack of gym and too much chocolate!

Big hugs to everyone

Broodzilla thanks for the tea!!

And purple thanks for the wishes. I think I need to snap myself out of it! I just have to learn some patience and realise that it is worth waiting for and it will happen when it's meant to happen, if that makes sense! Glad you are not having too many symptoms that are making you feel ill. Have you told anyone your news in real life, other than DH of course?

I am busy applying for jobs at the min. I am a teacher but feeling quite despondent at the minute and looking into a change. Any tips?!

Happy Thursday to you all x

Thanks Katster. Remember, we're here for little rants too I know how I felt in Jan and I would have been pretty down myself so I think it's totally reasonable to have a wobble. Love your attitude though and you're right that it'll happen when it happens. Big smiles and I'd share the choc in my desk if I could

Only MN and DH know and ideally don't want to tell family until after 12wks but don't think this is likely. Mums are going to tell everyone and it would be awful to tell them I'd miscarried. DH left for Uganda this morning and we're happy for me to tell a friend if I'm suffering with morning sickness while he's away. No massive symptoms yet though, slightly sore breasts and they're slightly larger I think (or wishful thinking). Still a little cramping and had a tiny spot of nausea this morning. I'm 6wks tomorrow so entering symptom territory.

How's everyone?

Wow, your DH is going to Uganda, purple? How long for? That sounds v exciting! Hopefully MN will be helpful to you too if you're feeling lonely or if symptoms kick in. People do say 6 weeks is about the time, don't they?
Well, I am feeling quite excited, as DH phoned from work to say my parcel has arrived - which contains: 1 x thermometer for charting, 6 x graphs to plot temps on (!), 50 ov sticks and 20 10miu pregnancy tests!! I am hoping not to need 20 pg tests, but you never know!! That does make me sound like I am setting up my own clinic or something doesn't it...

blondeshavemorefun how many pills have you got left to use up? Bet you are eager to get started!