TTC and Waiting to TTC? The ever addictable wagon awaits.....

[LaTourEiffel]

Over here ladies, and a big Wagon welcome to any newbies!

I'll post the list in a minute too....

Hi LaTour,

sorry you are feeling down but it's great that you are getting some help now rather than waiting. Not sure hugs are allowed on the wagon but I'm sneaking you a little one anyway .

I'm also feeling a bit all over the place - although we have decided to ttc in the new year (and are both exciting) DP is also feeling very nervous and I'm worried he may change his mind last minute. I can understand - his parents are miserable people and have tended to tell the kids it's their fault although that's clearly not true. They make me so !!! DP is worried he might be crap like them and make his own kids miserable or just not bond with them. At the same time it is so frustrating for me. I know he is nothing like his parents and will be a fantastic Dad. I just need to convince him!

Whinge over - just have to keep my fingers crossed that I can help him feel more confident and that xmas with his awful parents won't put him off.

Oh - congratulations LBOT

Just spotted your news on the other thread. That's fantastic!

Hi La Tour Thanks so much. I hadn't posted over here because I still don't believe it! And I know it can be kind of obnoxious when someone doesn't post consistently on a thread and just comes on to announce their BFP. But yes, we're very excited, but also very very nervous. Not sure if it's better to quit the worrying and be optimistic, or try to put it out of my mind so that I'm not disappointed if this one goes the way the last one did. Either way, I'm sure to go out of my mind

I'm so sorry you're feeling down, but I definitely think it's a step in the right direction to be able to recognize it in yourself and to ask for help. Hoping you're feeling better soon!!! {{hugs}}

Phew! Thought I'd singe-handedly killed this thread stone dead! Glad to see that's not the case!

Firstly, LBOT, Congrats! Am really delighted for you! I can understand why you're aprehensive, but fingers crossed that you can relax into your pregnancy soon. I have everything crossed for you! (Have to ask - did you use the egg whites in the end??!)

LaTour, Sorry to hear you're feeling down, but I think you're amazing and it takes great strength to recognise when it's getting too much and get some help. Hopefully after the op, things will look up for you. What's the lastest with work?

cantwait Your in-laws sound awful. I'm sure you'll convince your dp he's nothing like his folks - do you have anyone nearby with kids that he could practise with??!

I'm awaiting AF's arrival tonight. Got a BFN yesterday. Wasn't too disappointed as knew it was going to be! Just wish she'd get a move on so we can try again!

Thanks everyone :-) I'm so pleased for LBOT, it was about time we had some BFP's! We just seem to be running out of candidates these days!

KK, I'm getting there, I actually had a good day today after feeling a bit 'spaced' over the weekend, and think its because I feel relieved about asking for help.

Fingers crossed AF doesn't turn up, but I guess you probably know your body pretty well by now. Its been quite a while so I guess about time to ask doc how to start checking if there's any problems perhaps?

Work is both weird and difficult, did I even post to say that I've still got my job? It was the older guy in our dept. that got the bad news and its been awful since, he's very down and trying to put on a brave face, but the reality is that many companies aren't recruiting at the moment and there's a lot of guilt flying about - all very sad.

CWFX, I'm sure your DH will be fine, you wouldn't want to have kids with him if you didn't think he'd be a good dad would he? And you can't be wrong (we're never wrong, are we! )

La Tour,

Must be awful having that situation at work. Poor guy too. Can't imagine working with that kind of threat hanging over your head.

You're right about my cycle - MN has really taught me how to monitor it. I'm drinking my grapefruit juice religiously (actually quite like it now and at least I know no-one else in the house is going to drink it!), and monitoring CM. Haven't used the OPKs for a while as just too much faff in the mornings and certainly couldn't do it at work!). Currently slogging my way through this somewhat large book! Will start charting soon. Haven't done it so far as seems like a last resort somehow. Silly I know. Will be going to docs in Jan is nothing ahppens before then.

Thank you KK and CWFX
KK LOL about the eggwhites! No, we didn't use them, but we did use Preseed. We've used it before even, with no luck, but this time I bought the kind with the refillable applicators instead of the pre-packaged tubes. If anyone is goind down the preseed route, I would definitely recommed this one. It comes with one tube that the applicator screws on to. You fill it up as much or as little as you like, like a syringe and because it's so long and skinny I found it much easier to get it up to where it was supposed to go (and it was much neater too!)

La Tour So glad you're feeling better And so happy to hear your job is safe. But poor man. It's horrible isn't it. You want to be thankful for yourself, but it's really hard to watch someone else have to lose their job.

CWFX what an awful thing for your DH to go through. I have a friend who's parents always treated her and her sister like they were in the way and she's decided not to have children. She would never say it's because of her parents, but when someone puts the thought in your mind that children are a hardship, I guess it sticks I'm sure you'll be able to convince your DH And I agree that the "I wouldn't ever be with a man if I thought he wouldn't make a great dad" is a good tack. He'll come around

Thanks LaTour and LBOT . As you suggested I've pointed out to DP I wouldn't want to have kids with him if I wasn't sure he would be a great dad. Also, the fact he wants kids but is already worrying about being a good dad means he'll be great. I don't think being a good parent means knowing what you are doing its just about wanting to be there for your kids and do the best you can. Its funny, some of our friends have children between 1-4 years and they all adore DP and climb all over him/copy him/run around after him. He'll be down on the floor playing with them and they are all having a great time then it'll suddenly hit him what he's doing and he gets this 'oh god I don't know how to talk to/play with/look after children' panicked look on his face then one of the LOs will demand help with something and he gets distracted and just gets on with it. It's crazy but quite sweet.

Sorry - total me me me ramble

LaTour - Hope you are feeling better today.

KK-sorry for BFN , hope AF arrives soon so you can start looking ahead to next month.

LBOT - is it sinking in yet?

Haven't posted for a while as I've been too busy sulking basically. AF however has finally appeared. 13 weeks since I came off the pill but it's here. Feel like crap but am relieved as I was really worried something was wrong. Hope you're all ok. I'm off to eat my bodyweight in chocolate.

Hi Claire236, sorry you are feeling rubbish but yeh for AF finally arriving .

I really fancy some chocolate now too but as I have been stressing (on another thread) about ttc while a bit overweight will try to resist and go and make a lovely stirfry instead.

Sorry. Didn't mean to make anyone else want chocolate. I've eaten so much rubbish lately using the excuse of being miserable because of not knowing what my body's playing at, I haven't been well, my job's stressful etc etc. All crap excuses for not even attempting to summon up some will power.

Hi all!
Can i join?
I am TTC my first child, this is the 4th month of trying although I stopped taking the pill in march.

No success yet tho!

Good luck to all of you

Hi Sazzlelou, welcome to the wagon . I am also going to be TTC my first child in the new year (although we are going to spain for a week in December and the timing should be good so if I can convince DP to ditch the condoms a month early you never know ). This thread seems to be very lucky - I only joined about a month ago and loads of the folk on here have now disappeared off to the antenatal thread with their lovely beans. I'm sure we will both be joining them soon!

Claire236 - I hope you feel better after some lovely chocolate. Don't give yourself a hard time about it. My job has been very stressful over the last couple of years so I totally understand it being difficult to eat well and it never helps to lecture yourself about what you should be doing/eating. Somehow it just makes that choc cake look even more delicious!

LaTour - are you lurking? How are you feeling?

Oops - thought I would try to 'bold' the names but obviously a bit confusing for me .

Hi, I'm a MN newbie TTC DC1 from Dec. Came off the pill at end of Oct so who knows how long it'll take!

Trying not to get too excited and stressed by it but it's quite difficult as I'm feeling pretty broody (new for me!). Lots of friends pregnant too. Fingers crossed.

Hi, I'm a MN newbie TTC DC1 from Dec. Came off the pill at end of Oct so who knows how long it'll take!

Trying not to get too excited and stressed by it but it's quite difficult as I'm feeling pretty broody (new for me!). Lots of friends pregnant too. Fingers crossed.

Hi, I'm a MN newbie TTC DC1 from Dec. Came off the pill at end of Oct so who knows how long it'll take!

Trying not to get too excited and stressed by it but it's quite difficult as I'm feeling pretty broody (new for me!). Lots of friends pregnant too. Fingers crossed.

oops didn't mean to post 3 times - stupid computer!

Hi purplecrazyhorse, sounds like you are in a similar situation to me. I also stopped taking the pill in October and am hoping to start ttc in December. Like you I am trying not to get too excited but I'm not managing it at all . Have been xmas shopping for friends little ones this week and can't stop myself imagining buying things for my own little one next xmas.

I'd like to join you if I may? I've been TTC since May 06 - me #3 DH #1 - and have basically lost all hope.

Have to admit being a bit put off by the huge long thread before so am jumping in now while it's still short!

Could do with some people to chat with about stuff and maybe offer a bit of advice myself as been there and done most of it

Hi cantwaitforxmas nice to hear from you. Great to know I'm not the only one not pregnant but looking at baby stuff (and Doulas!!).

However, I know not to take anything for granted and although we'd love an Oct/Nov baby, I'd feel blessed just to have a child at any time of year.

Sorry to hear you're losing hope TheOtherMaryPoppinsFleckles, that's really sad and my heart goes out to you. Hoping things happen for you soon. Thanks for sharing, it really helps remind me not to take this for granted.

Welcome PCH and TOMPF

Will bring over the list.... Please feel free to add yourselves.

TOMPF sorry to hear of your long wait. Hopefully thsi thread will be lucky for us all.

I am still waiting for AF to arrive....! Will test again tomorrow, but still very cautious as had a random 42day cycle back in August and have had NO symptoms either. Currently on CD34 and usually have cycles of 30/31 days.

TTC Now!
Bemylilbaby, 21, DC1, TTC NOW.
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Clairey80 - 27, TTC NOW DC1
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GeordieJogger, 30, DC1, October/November.

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MoosMa, 27, DC3, January
LaTourEiffel - 32, DC2 January!!!
Dalrymps, 27, DC2, March (ish)
Dibdabscribble, 26, DC2ish, January
Cantwaitforxmas - 29, DC1, January (ish)
Bratnav, 30, DC3, January (poss Christmas)
VickyJane, 31,DC1, January

LaTour am thinking of you and hoping you are doing OK.

Hi all, sorry for absence, its been a mad, mad week. Tues I actually went out to the cinema for the first time in since DS was born (second birthday in a few weeks!). Had a lovely evening - I left DS at home with DH and went with a friend. Then last night, DH was out with his work so I stayed in and watched another girly film with a glass of wine and a microwave meal .

Which about makes up for the crap week I've had at work - its been very busy (no change there then) and quite stressful. Its my first week on the AD's and I've been quite 'wired', waking early (about 6) so I've been getting up and taking DS to nursery. Its quite nice in some ways, as I feel I have my energy back, but I also don't feel like I've really 'turned' off...I know, some people are just never happy are they ,

Only a few weeks till my op now too, so that's good.

KK, I know you're not feeling very optimistic, but I have my fingers crossed for you.

Welcome to PCH and TOMPF, nice to have some newbies - I've even been awake worrying about everyone getting pg and leaving me behind on this thread .

Also, sorry its been such a long road for your TOMPF - what ttc techniques have you not tried?