The Grapefruit drinking knicker checking ttc brigade

[yellowflowers]

Hello,

As Nelix has a bfp (yay!) and she started the last one I thought I'd start this one as a continuation of this thread

Here's hoping we all get BFPs this month but if not then let's continue the thread until we all graduate

Fantastic news Ilove my fingers & crossed that everything will work out for you this time

Goodmorning Jools1, it's understandable to feel blue about the situation but you are now heading towards a new start. I know all the platitudes sound trite but everyday will heal you a little bit. As I said before I'm really hopeful about Chirstmas, the new year and new starts in general.

I think that I am not in the same mental place as a lot of ladies on this thread as I have really just started out and at 34 have a bit of time to play with. Sometimes I wonder if I can give the same sort of support as some of the more experienced lovely ladies round here?.but hey I will do my best.

I do laugh at myself?.last month I had this stupid idea that I would just get pregnant at the drop of a hat. Basically because my mum always concieved so easily. Now I see that it really doesn't always work out that way and yet I really don't think the medical establishment puts out enough information to women in there 20's about it. Oh I know everybody talks about the biological clock ticking, but I really don't think I had ever heard that it can be quite tricky to get sperm to meet egg.

Anyway why am I ranting?

C1ndy and Smileycat I have my fingers crossed for you.

About Preseed: I ordered some and have just been using it for lubrication. I would find bding quite painful without help - and I had read that normal lubes kill sperm. I have only been using a small amount and not really internally but it comes with little plungers to insert inside. Knowing it's consistensy I wouldn't use a whole plungers worth. Anyway it could be really helpful if you don't produce much EWCM. I don't seem to at the moment. But then again perhaps more foreplay would do the same thing (but sometimes I'm so tired I just want to have a quickie).

Ilovebeingamummy - that's brilliant - great news. woooohoooooooo!

sn0wflake - I don't agree re age. I am 30 and I know that means in theory I have a lot of time but actually if you've been ttc and nothing happening then you can feel despair and other feelings whatever age. I have found huge support in this thread despite being at different stage to some of the members.

ILoveBeingAMummy Yes great news! Every BFP we get makes me feel really happy and joyful.

YellowFlowers Yes you are right. At any age it can get very hard if there is a long delay and your just not sure if you will make it. I suppose my point was that it's my first month of trying to conceive and so I don't have a lot of experience. But you are right it's very nice to come to those that do if I have a question.

Ilovebeingamummy huge congratulation to you. You will be fine, just take each day as it comes and look after your little bean.

Well, I have done a test and a BFN, so know that AF is on the way.

Here is the updated list:

Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
Sans04 AF due 28th Nov
Cindy AF due 1 December DP - taken test BFN! will update once AF shows.
spats due 7th-? nov
Smileycat AF due 1st Dec DP
Bigbaubleeyes AF due 2nd Dec
Queenie1 - AF due 2nd(ish) Dec
Pinkie08 due 5th dec
iggypiggy - AF due 5th Dec
Sn0wflake AF due 9th Dec DP
Wasabi AF 16th dec
Wanabemum AF due 18th/19th Dec DP
VillageMum AF due 23 December DP
Funtimewincies AF due 23rd December
Lovelymonster Af due 23rd December
Elliegant AF due 24th Dec DP
Pezzina AF due 25th December DP
Yellowflowers AF 25th December DP

Ilovebeingamum BFP
Heebychick BFP
Becky McG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP

WOW ILove - congratulations Can't believed I missed that when I read the thread earlier

C1ndy sorry you got a BFN I felt how you do now yesterday when mine said 'not pregnant' I don't know whats worst not seeing a +ive sign on the test or it telling you that you are 'NOT PREGNANT' in large letters. I hate this time of the month I must have been to the loo 20 times this morning one cause I'm peeing more (everything swollen for either pg or AF) & because I'm knicker checking everytime I feel slightly 'wet' or get a larger than average pain, if AF is going to come I wish she would bloody well hurry up so that I can stop all this fussing & get on with the next cycle...sorry rant over, its just really really fustrating

Wow ilove huge congratulations to you!! well done! if it helps i feel exactly the same as you, i had a mc in May and have been 'waiting' for it to happen again this month, still haven't heard when my scan will be so am hoping it's soon so i can have some reassurance. How do you feel physically?

smiley sorry you are feeling down honey, i know how you feel and we have all been there, hopefully you will have your good news soon.

Lots of love to everyone xxx

Congratulations ILove!!

Sorry to hear you got a BFN C1ndy but you never know until AF has shown up.

Still keeping my fingers crossed for you smiley

On age and being obsessed with ttc, I agree yellowflowers. I'm 31 so have all the time in the world, or so people keep telling me. I admit that that can take some of the stress away but really, when you want a baby and feel ready but it's just not happening (and loads of your friends are having no such difficulty), it is still really hard.

iggypiggy - it's very hard not to get obsessive about all this. If you discover any strategies, do let me know.

Am off back to work now before I get fired!!!

horray ilovebeingamummy - congrats x

Hi queenie (and sorry if this upsets anyone older ttc 1) but I want more than one child (dh is only childand hates it) so if we want 2 or 3 then being 30 means we have to have first one soon so can fit others in too.

yellowflowers - yes I know!! I want four!! And I have stamped my feet and said that in response to comments like you have 'all time in the world'!!

I guess though, being 30 / 31, some of the pressure is taken off in that we still have quite a few years of fertility left in us. And I do know loads of people who have had problems ttc in their thirties and have still gone on to have two or more kids. I am modifying my dreams a bit and while I want four would be so grateful for two (or even one!!).

How long have you been trying now?
xx

Hey ladies,
I've got back from a great girls weekend in New York......I was proud I kept up with all the others and didn't have to slope off to bed early despite the fact I wasn't drinking. I also spent far too much and am feeling mildly guilty!
Welcome iggy and other new ladies.
BIG CONGRATS to ILove and Boosie.

• Boosie you have mentioned booking an 8 week scan. I've booked my private 8 week scan for next Monday, 8th Dec, and just can't wait. I've got everything crossed that it's all ok. It's expensive at £80 but I think reassurance would be a great Xmas present.

I can't remember who mentioned the TTC obsession - it's so easy to do - that's what I was like but I only seemed to be successful when I relaxed. We were debating taking a break so I could drink in New York and then over the Xmas parties. In the end we decided to carry on but I felt less obsessed than other months and then I saw my BFP. It's a tough one.....

Queenie - I think maybe taking a break for a month might be good if your DH has suggested it. It might be good for your relationship to spend a month drinking, eating and having fun together and then start again in the new year?.....although I certainly understand what you mean about wasting a month.

The thing is beckymcg is that I can pretend to myself I am relaxing, but body doesn't believe me!

Hi queenie - no contraception for nearly 18 months though not living together then so not really getting right times of month. properly trying for nearly 6 months. I want 3 children really. Right now one would be amazing though.
You?
xx

Yellowflowers - been trying 18 months too (and properly trying), during which we have conceived three times and sadly had three MCs (at 8 weeks, 5 and then 6 - so thankfully all fairly early). Last MC was May and we've been trying since but no joy. It's not taken me this long to conceive before and so I'm convinced it's stress that's preventing it from happening.

So yes, I know it's a good idea to try and 'forget' this month, have a laugh and get back to it in the new year...but it is really hard.

xxx

Congratulations Ilovebeingamummy (and its a good job you do) - a BFP is good for all of our spirits! I hope you and your bean are getting on famously.

For all those feeling a little blue I can sympathise. I'be just had an email from a friend based overseas letting us know that their 2nd is due next Spring. The mail had been sat in my inbos for a few days and my dh had already relied to it and copied me in but not actually mentioned it. Presumably he thinks I'll be upset. I suppose he could just have been a typical bloke and completly forgotten. Not beyond the realms of possibiity is it?

C1ndy I'm really sorry to hear that this month hasn't been the one for you.

Yellow and Queenie I hope you're feeling a little less blue now. I am seriously considering saying to dh - sod it lets take a month off. I'm fed up with the wild ups and downs every month and having my hopes dashed after loads of mid month bding.

So far we have managed CD10 & 12 and now we are on 14 - no surge being detected by OPK yet and DS on his way home from an all day drinking session with some old friends.

Brilliant. Good to see we're both on the same page.

Snowflake thanks for the info on the preseed... where do you buy yours from?

Smiley I know how you feel. AF still has not arrived but I did another test this morning (because I am sad!) and yes still bfn ... so just wish it turns up, so I can get on with updating my schedule for the month... Been thinking maybe I will never have another AF again.

I am taking the boots fertility test when AF does turn up... it test to see if you still have a good collection of eggs - even though I have only been trying for two months (MC in Sept) thought I would test in case I had a problem. If all is okay then I am going to test my partner too as you can get a sperm fertility test. Am I being stupid?? Its just that I will be 40 next year and so if there is a problem I just want to know, so I can get help. I am lucky as I have one DD aged 2... so if I was only meant to have one then so be it!!

Think AF is on its way... which would be super news!!

Speak to you all soon
Have a lovely day

Cindy
x

congratulations ilovebeingamummy

Just had two messages in a row about friends' babies just being born - I think its my age - 32 - lots of people having babies..

Anyway - am actually - oddly looking forward to AF on Fri, so that can get properly going with next cycle.

Someone please tell me to step away from my old antenatal threads I keep lurking because I've made friends and want to see how they are doing, but it is some kind of exquisite torture to see former due date buddies getting great scans / hearing heartbeats etc - why do I do it to myself

Morning all Getting really impatient now - want to TTC again NOW but have no fertile signs .... Have a good day everyone

Sorry I haven't been on ladies - but work has been manic.

Had to drop in and see how you were all doing though and just quickly wanted to give big hugs to Jools I really do feel for you sweetie and know that I would be doing exactly the same in your situation. Its human nature. You will move on and you will feel better, that I do know - but when it will happen I cannot say. But we are all here for you and will support you every step of the way. xx

Right - I've got to get back to work but will log on again later for a proper catch up with everyone. Lots of love to all xx

Hi Jools its only natural for you to be interested in how the others are doing - its because you're a nice person. I think you should treat yourself to a nice glass of wine and some trashy TV tonight and a cuddle with your dp.

I'm off sick today as have had really vile stomach cramps and period type pains and feel wiped out. I usually get a touch of ov pain but nothing on this scale. It must just be a bug or something. I got a positive OPK this morning so shite timing as ever!!

Every month there always seems to be something that stops us bding as much as we need to around the target days. Seeing as dh came back pissed last night I told him not to bother

Hi
Didn't test this morn as my temp dropped to what it did last month when AF arrived, but as yet no AF & it usually arrives sometime before lunch. I'm feeling very confussed, temp tells me AF should be here, AF is now at least 1 day late maybe 2 & I've felt a little sicky this morning????
I'm scared to test again as it will make me feel shitty all afternoon if its another-ive & will feel stupid that I've wasted another test as temp says I should wait for AF to arrive today...what should I do??? plus I've had a ton of coffee this morning as have been in meetings so any wee I produce for the next couple of hours wouldn't be any good anyway
Think I'll give AF another couple of hours, drink lots of water to filter out the caffine & test later is she doesn't show up....I'll keep you posted