The Grapefruit drinking knicker checking ttc brigade

[yellowflowers]

Hello,

As Nelix has a bfp (yay!) and she started the last one I thought I'd start this one as a continuation of this thread

Here's hoping we all get BFPs this month but if not then let's continue the thread until we all graduate

Pleased you are feeling a bit better jools - I think only certain amount of happiness to go round on this thread and when some up the others down etc rather than all up at once, because today I am miserable and feeling like it will never happen for us and all my friends have baby or are pregnant and I am jealous and mainly just upset it will never ever happen for us. Also havign to stop reflexology after next 2 paid for sessions as can't afford it and also because been doing it for 6 months so clearly not working!
Felt so positive last month and then period came. Now feel depressed and shitty.

Thanks to all of you for the welcome - is very friendly on here

I have changed my name now - no real reason, i just like the sound of iggypiggy

I have bought some grapefruit juice now after reading this thread...

Although do you need to drink it all the time? or just around ovulation?

Hope you all feeling ok today? I have some kind of cough which is making me cross...

Googmorning. It's actually Deeja here but I have changed my nickname because I was bored with what I had. I've changed my list name but I think we are a bit out of date.

I'm on the two week wait. I managed to bd on days 5, 8, 12, 14, 18. Not quite as much as I had hooped for but I never caught my LH surge and never got any of the other signs of ovulation. So I'm running on the theory that it's not going to happen.

Good luck Smiley!

Sorry AF arrived Queenie. Jools I'm glad you are feeling better.

Yellowflowers hug. I have read so many times on here about things taking a long time but then happening. Don't give up.

And a wave to everybody else. It's ahrd to keep up with all the developments.

Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
Sans04 AF due 28th Nov
Cindy AF due 1 December DP
spats due 7th-? nov
Smileycat AF due 1st Dec DP
Bigbaubleeyes AF due 2nd Dec
Queenie1 - AF due 2nd(ish) Dec
Pinkie08 due 5th dec
Sn0wflake AF due 9th Dec DP
Wasabi AF 16th dec
Wanabemum AF due 18th/19th Dec DP
VillageMum AF due 23 December DP
Funtimewincies AF due 23rd December
Lovelymonster Af due 23rd December
Elliegant AF due 24th Dec DP
Pezzina AF due 25th December DP
Yellowflowers AF 25th December DP

Heebychick BFP
Becky McG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP

hope its ok to add myself on here?

Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
Sans04 AF due 28th Nov
Cindy AF due 1 December DP
spats due 7th-? nov
Smileycat AF due 1st Dec DP
Bigbaubleeyes AF due 2nd Dec
Queenie1 - AF due 2nd(ish) Dec
Pinkie08 due 5th dec
iggypiggy - AF due 5th Dec
Sn0wflake AF due 9th Dec DP
Wasabi AF 16th dec
Wanabemum AF due 18th/19th Dec DP
VillageMum AF due 23 December DP
Funtimewincies AF due 23rd December
Lovelymonster Af due 23rd December
Elliegant AF due 24th Dec DP
Pezzina AF due 25th December DP
Yellowflowers AF 25th December DP

Heebychick BFP
Becky McG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP

yellow big hug (((hug))) sometimes we need a shitty day to get it all out of our systems, I bet you will feel better about it tomorrow. My office is right next to a Nursery & I see babies comming & going all day long & my 19 year old niece is now 8 weeks pg with No2 so I know exactly how you feel, don't let the bas*ds get you down, keep smiling, our time will come

Hi everyone,
Back from our weekend away. Thanks again for all your lovely messages, makes me feel all warm and fuzzy!

Did another cheapie test yesterday. It came up faster and stronger than the first one, thought still not as strong as the control line. I had a first response one left over from a while ago, so I did that too and the line came up before the control line had even appeared, so that made me feel more reasurred. We were staying with my brother, and one of his friends was staying whose wife is 12 weeks pregnant. She's lovely and it was so hard not to say anything, but I'm keeping quiet for now. Have booked a private early scan for the 29th december, which we can't really afford, but I just want the peace of mind over new years. I should be 8 weeks by then and if everything is ok, I think I'll tell my mum and dad as we're going up later that day for new years eve.

It still feels like a dream - but a very nice one. Had a few waves of nausea, but nothing too bad - to be honest had more symptoms last month when i wasn't pregnant.

yellowflowers sorry to hear that you're feeling down. It's funny how you can feel so positive one day and then completely sad the next. Really hoping for a nice BFP for xmas for you.

Good luck to smiley and cindy xx

just managed to log in on work computer. laptop still broken. Am on 2ww tried to do DP but didn't work too well as DH got bit stressed out by the responsibility on his shoulders and couldn't (shall we say) perform!! so did CD8, 10, 12, 14, 15, and 18 which uis a pretty good go!. Did get pos opk on CD14 so hopefully in with a chance. By the way TMI i know but if you stand up too soon do all the "little swimmers" come out? As i went to toilet once and bits came out. I did lie foir about 5 mins first though. Congrats to those with BFP, hugs for those with BFN and heres waiting for the BFP for those on the 2WW. x

thanks everyone - am sure sense of doom and gloom will pass. great line coming up stronger and quicker boosieboo

Hi all

Yellowflowers - sorry to hear you feel so down and can I join you? I have been so over emotional since yesterday morning when AF arrived. Cried myself to sleep last night (DH was lovely) and just feel like it'll never, ever, ever happen for us. Every month I get my AF I am reminded of the MCs I have had and all the pain comes flooding back. I HATE ttc. I keep asking myself too why it is so hard trying to become a mum, and why me etc.

DH thinks we should have a month off and go out to loads of parties and drink our blues away. I on the other hand can bear the thought of potentially missing my month...

Sorry. Very self indulgent rant. I'm just feeling so, so low.

Queenie sending you a great big bottle of vodka & a huge bar of cadburys dairy milk. It works for me everytime Nature is gruel sometimes but when it does finally happen it will be all the more special because you have waited & wanted it for so long & all this waiting will seem a million miles away, big hug
An idea for you why don't you take the next 10 days or so off, party, drink (but not toooo much) & enjoy life without trying then just before OV start again with all the Bding, temping, CM & all the extra stuff we go through at that time of the month..its what I am planning for this month, hopfully my body will feel more relaxed & ttc will be fun as well as fingers crossed sucessful

ops meant cruel

hi queenie - big hug coming your way xxxxxx
month off not a bad idea, especially if you keep having unprotected sex so it may happen anyway...

Spats - don't worry about it coming out. Millions of the little fellas are released and most will come out. Some of us on here like to get their bum in the air afterwards to given as many as possible the best chance of reaching the cervix, but only a few will make it through and the rest will drip out. Get pedalling girl !

Jools - pleased you're feeling a bit better today. I know with my mmc, I got really down about 'wasting' 3 months, iyswim. I felt that I could handle an early miscarriage (and have since done ) because I hadn't got my hopes up too far. But to get so far along and to have dealt with the worst of the sickness and to think that I was 'safe' and then to miscarry was just horrible. Once I accepted that there was a good reason why I felt to crap, it began to be OK. Eventually you'll stop getting all the 'it was meant to be' codswallop and that will help. Hugs and choccy.

Hugs also to those of you feeling really down with the whole fiasco. I remember that after the hope and optimism of the first couple of months, I had a real dip for the next couple as the whole 'no more sex just for fun' kicked in. After month 5, however, sheer bloody-mindedness took over .

Sorry, what a ramble today, making up for not being able to post often .

Morning all

Deeja / Snowflake - like the Christmassy name I agree - it is hard to keep up and not miss people out by accident when replying sometimes

Welcome IggyPiggy Welcome back Boosieboo - hope you had a lovely weekend and I know what you mean about spotting more symptoms when not PG - I was laughing at myself the other day - feeling nauseous on the way to work and having to remind myself there was no way on earth I was PG !!

Spats - I reckon you've done enough Smileycat - still hoping ?. Hope you have a better day today Yellowflowers Funtime - you've said it exactly - I feel like I've wasted 12 weeks on a pregnancy that didn't work, plus 3 weeks recovering - time is running out

I did another HPT today - if I was looking for a BFP, I'd have squinted, held it up to a bright light, then pulled the test apart to find a faint line but I think, for my purposes anyway, this is a BFN, so I can finally close the door on this experience and move on. I thought I'd be happy, and I am, but also quite at the finality of it all.

Okay guys, AF did not show yesterday but I think it is because I ovulated later... so it should show up today. I did a boots pg test this morning which was BFN... so AF should be on its way. I have lost half a stone, so am happy that my dieting is going well so another month of trying will not be so bad as I can lose some

SmileyCat its not over until AF shows so you never know. The temp thing sounds really positive.

Yellowflowers I know how you are feeling but keep positive our time will come. (hugs)

Queenie Have the month off if you want to have a break from the routine, it may just help. You could still keep one eye on when you ovualate - just like smileycat has noted down, it really sounds good to me. I may try something like that this month.

IggyPiggy I have a glass of grapefruit juice every morning with my folic acid tablet but then during the day I ensure I drink at least 2 litres of water a day. I have cut all caffine out of my diet and drink Redbush tea which is natural and caffine free.

Question on Preseed. I may want to try this, this month. Can someone tell me if they have found this useful. I do not have any shortness of CM at all, so do you think I need this? does it prelong how long the sperm can live upto if I do not have fertile CM?

Thanks so much for chocolate, vodka, hugs and general kind words. It's so great to be able to air your frustration and fury to people who understand.

I feel a lot better today and have done two (contradictory) things to lift my spirits.

The first is ordering pre-seed, a thermometer and ovulation sticks on line. Haven't got a clue how to use it all but thought I would do anything to improve my chances...

but then the second is to allow myself space this month and relax a bit over this cycle. I may do what you suggest yellowflowers or smiley. I guess I'll just see how I feel over the next few weeks.

how is everyone today?

xxx

Hi Pezzina, Cindy, and all you other lovely ladies...
Cd13 now and we are following the DP. So far so good!
Cindy, glad you're feeling better this week. I had the exact same question about Preseed, BTW! Does anyone know the answer?
Queenie, a month with no pressure sounds like a fantastic idea! Good luck!

I am off to get a first response pg test at lunchtime... as AF symptons have not showed yet. I have nothing better to do at lunchtime! Really sad I know.... :0)

C1ndy I'm in the same boat as you still no AF yet, but did have a small temp drop this morning so no holding out any hope & recon she will be along later to spoil the fun. Just worked out that if AF arrives today I should be due next AF around the 27th so told DH to buy in a couple of pg tests & w'll do one on Xmas day, it will either make it an extra special day or we can drown our sorrows with loads of Xmas booze & some sloppy cheese & buscuits hummm

C1ndy - thanks for advice much appreciated

Queenie - time off sounds like a good plan.

I know I am really very new to this - but am really worried that am starting to focus so much on it - and worry - and whilst I know others have been ttc much longer - we had 2 months last Dec/ Jan - then stopped ttc until Sept this year - so oddly I feel like it has been a long time - even though really it hasn't...

sorry - am rambling - but am worried I will become totally obsessed - am def heading that way...

Hi ladies,

sorry to hear that the AF witches are about this month again, nasty baggage! I'm sorry that i can't say anything more positive than it will be fine, you will all get there and you might even be grateful for the time off beforehand and the chances to practice and drink!

iggy not rambling at all, totally right for you to be getting a little more focused than normal, i don't think it matters when you actually start ttc or how long it takes, once you have decided to do it you want it to happen right away. I became obsessed and started making myself ill with it, i really had to take stock of what was important and try to be realistic and practical. I am sure it helped to try and relax, try to give yourself certain moments in the day to obsess then moments when you are banned - this helped me.

smiley will you do a test today? how was your temp? was it as low as last month?

cindy when are you due? good luck with test!!

village good luck this month, do try the no caffiene/alcohol thing as well - nothing to lose - it's only 2 weeks!

Heeby - that's what am worried about - I do tend towards the slightly obessive anyway - so I need to give myself a few rules. Thanks for advice.

Hi all

Just to say I have been occasionally lurking to keep up with the developments but not posting in a desperate attempt to keep sane through this cycle (3rd of ttc, 2nd post mc)

Congrats to all those with their BFPs this month....and can you please add me to the list Due around Aug 6th....

Am trying not to get excited due to my early mc in sept but nevertheless am

lots of love luck and babydust to all who remember me and all those new names too x

Heeby No I think I'll hold off doing another test & see if she arrives today. I do have sort of AF pains but they do feel a little different to what they normally do (but its probably wishful thinking)
My temp last month when AF arrived was 36.59 & this morning it was 36.69, during the 2WW it tends to go up & down between 36.9 & 36.4 ish. I looked on FF & the day before AF last month it was 36.69 so it could just mean that I'm having a longer LP this month & she'll come tomorrow
If for some reason she doesn't appear today & my temp is higher tomorrow I'll def test then, but I'm not in a pg frame of mind & have already moved onto next month