First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 3

[summerbird]

A new thread for us to carry on.

Bring on the BFPs!!!

x

Hello Ladies

Sorry i havent posted for a while!! I have been so busy lately havent even had chance to look at the posts. Just catching up now!!
Hope everyone is well and all the little babas are coming along nicely!!

Maf woo hoo about your swimmers arriving you must be so excited now!!

Wildfig how you getting along with the 2ww?? What CD are you on?? Good Luck for this month hun xx

I am on CD 6 now and me and DP have booked a holiday for next Monday so will have a nice week in the sun around OV time so you never know!!

However I am not too hopeful at the moment. My referral appointment for the assisted conception unit came through really quickly and we went there last week. The doctor was looking through my notes and mentioned that my left fallopian tube was swollen and that could be the reason it was taking longer to fall PG plus I have a much higher risk of an ectopic pregnancy.
However she did say it wasnt impossible to fall PG, I just need my right ovary to release the egg so it goes down the right hand side tube for it to be more safe if I do fall PG .... if you know what I mean??!!

I don't know why no one has mentioned this to me before, but never mind.
On a more positive note, they have put me on the IVF list and it is only 6 - 9 months to wait. They are also going to try IUI a couple of times whilst I am waiting for IVF. Even though there is a risk of an ectopic, I cant not try.

Anyway sorry to prattle on about myself!!

Speak soon

xx

Ladies...so sorry to have abandoned you all for so long! The building work on our house is taking my every waking moment these days...really no time to be online, but feeling guilty not to have dropped by to see how you all are! So...big wave to you Old Timers, freindly hello to Newcomers and masses of baby dust all round!

I'm doing well and baby is definitely growing! I cannot believe that I'm due in 9 weeks now...where has the time gone! I made the mistake of watching a few birth videos online yesterday evening and for the first time had a wave of total panic...the girls were clearly in agony and the graphic detail was interesting (I like to know what's what!) but so scary at the same time. I have afairly high pain tolerance level, but I have to admit, I'm now really quite concerned about how I'll cope. Trying not to think about it just yet...but it's getting harder... May make a birth plan this week, or at least start thinking about one. Got to be easier than picking a name which has now shifted from an enjoyable task to an impossibly difficult one. I simply can't find a name a like enough to call a child...it's much harder than I thought as I keep changing my mind. Anyway, enough rambling on about me...

will try and find time this wek to read your latest posts and reply more personally...meanwhile...thinking of you!

Flirty x

Hey Flirty,

We've missed you girl!! My goodness, 9 weeks!!! How exciting - you're going to be our first baby!!! Yay!!

Well little Jelly is now 25 weeks (well, tomorrow) and is kicking around like a little monkey - especially this morning when she was kicking so hard that she actually woke me up at 6am!! When I rolled onto my back, one side of my stomach was rock hard and much higher than the other side, so not sure if it was her head or not but it looked everso funny!!

I have to admit that the approach that I'm having to giving birth is that I will take whatever pain relief I need at the time. I'm not going to be heroic (I don't think i've got it in me - ) so if I need an epidural - I'm going to have one!!! Maybe I'll be lucky - but I doubt it!!

My best friend used nothing but the Tens machine with both her labours, but did admit afterwards that she'd wished that she'd asked for pain relief with the second one as it was awful. I don't want to have any regrets so I'm going to go with what my body tells me at the time...

Glad that things are going well though hun - keep in touch as best you can over the next 9 weeks. Have you found out the gender or is it going to be a surprise? We'll start placing out bets on pink or blue soon if you don't alreay know!!

Vix, Glad that the IVF wait isn't too long for you, but understand that you're a bit peeved that no-one's mentioned your fallopian tube before!! I hope that you get sorted quickly!!

Well, some bad news this end, my sister who is two weeks ahead of me in her PG was rushed into hospital last night as her waters broke at 27 weeks. She hasn't lost all the fluid but she's still leaking it so they're keeping her in and giving her steroids to strengthen her little boy's lungs. I'm keeping everything crossed for her...

xxx

Hey Ladies

Vix Hope you have a fab holiday. If you dont mind me asking are you getting any funding for your IVF/IUI's?

Wildfig When's testing day? Fingers crossd for you

Flirty 9 weeks WOW. We need to have that virtual baby shower soon

Dawn thats fab Jelly's kicking about so much

Summer Hows you and the summerbean?

Yoghurt potting is out the window now as unfortuantley in the UK you cant get a home delivery on swimmers and they have to go to a HEFA registered clinic. So like Vix we'll be doing IUI's, hopefully starting in April. We now actually dont want to concieve until after 6th April as thats when the law changes that DP's name will go on the birth cert as second parent so we wont have to bother with a second parent adoption

Hows everyone doing?

xxx

oh and BIG WAVES to everyone

vix i was told in July that my left fallopean tube was blocked which could maybe hinder getting PG, then i was told in September that actually BOTH of my tubes were blocked and they needed to do an xray to see what steps to take next. the next week i got my BFP. I know this isnt probably helping you at all but all i will say is keep an open mind about what you are being told, if the consultant has said that this isnt a bar to getting PG then you are on the right track. I am sending you bucket loads of baby dust and crossed fingers!! dawn* i hope your sister is ok, it must be really worrying for you all, big hugs (oh and congrats on the jelly moving around!!)

MAF good to see you are thinking positive on the euro swimmers, i can see that it is much better for you and DP to wait until April to TTC as that would be perfect to have you both on the birth certificate - good luck!

flirty well helloooooooooo lady we missed you! i cant believe you are due in 9 weeks, that is crazyness! I might ignore your advice and watch the birth vids online myself!! I am a bit curious about these things but will clearly scare the out of myself!! Keep us updated with your news, I am due in 14 weeks which seems scarily close too!

hever lets go on the virtual lash when we have both had our bambino's!!

masses of baby dust and waves to my girls *

Just under 10 weeeks to go here!!

Dawn I know this must be a scary time for your sister but a little word of encouragement- due to my permanant state of worry I have been a bit obsessive with knowing survival rates - By the time you reach 28 weeks the rates vary between an 85% and 95% survival rate for a preemie. The odds are MASSIVELY in your sisters favour!!! Oh I have a second thing to say on the subject - One of the ladies at work had a leak, was told to expect the baby very early - she went overdue!!!

Hello all,

Well firstly, an update on my sister. She decided it was too hot to stay in the hospital last night so went home . I have to admit that I was quite cross and told Mum that she should be following docs orders. But anyway... So they gave her another shot of steroids before she left and told her to be back in this morning at 9am and get back into the same bed that she'd been in yesterday. So I would imagine she's on her way now. They also told her to wear pads overnight and to bring them in with her today so that they could evaluate whether she'd lost anymore fluid... When I hear anymore I'll let you know.

Summer, happy 26 week birthday to Summerbean!! Gosh only 14 weeks to go?! That means I've only got 15 weeks to go - that really does sound scary!! Can I join you and Hever on the virtual lash - I sooooo need that!!

Hever, less than 10 weeks, time has really flown on this thread hasn't it!! Thank you so much for the info that you gave for my sister. Her little one was already very big for his "age" so I would imagine that helps aswell. He was 2lb 2 at 25 weeks!!

MAF, I second the comments already made - sounds a great idea to wait until after 6th April - how fab to be able to have both your names on the birth certificate - and why not indeed!!!

Vix, already very jealous of your holiday - we want details please, just so that we can dream!! This time last year I was looking forward to getting married to DH (12th April) and having our two week honeymoon in the Riviera Maya in Mexico - 5* All Inclusive, Adults only Honeymoon resort... Ahhhh we still miss it now. It was our first (and probably last - certainly for a while) foreign holiday as a couple!!

I'm really bored at the moment... Work has really dried up but I need to be by my PC incase emails or calls come in. But it's mind-numbing when there's nothing to do - I don't want to be lured into the "Internet Shopping" trap!! Eek...

Hope all are having a good day.

xxx

Hi all- wow! lot's has been going on! Dawn i hope you nephew will be okay and although I am currently phoneless (long story!) I will log on to the laptop as often as possible!

My weekend away was wonderful but it's back to reality now- works chaotic, my pony is poorly, the plasterer let us down so half of my house is down to bare brick and i managed to break my phone! I think the insurance will cover it though... However, I looked back through the thread to see if i'd posted when my AF started last time and if I am right then I am on day 27or 28. My breasts have been a little tender but not as bad as sometimes but I haven't had any cramping as usual so i'm hopeful. Then again I said this last month and came on the next morning so that would really not surprise me if that happens!

All in all I am quite cheerful at the moment though and really don't know why! With some of the rubbish that is going on i should be blooming depressed not walking round smiling! WE did have a lovely weekend though so i'm going to put it down to that!

oh and Dawnbe wary of the internet shopping- i have found a new website that i spent thousands on in seconds... in my head! I have marked the page ready for payday though lol xx

Hello to all

summer thanks for your advice on tubes, i am feeling quite positive still as i know things could be worse. And look at you now, one day that will be me!!

dawn hope all is ok with your nephew, fingers crossed he will be fine. I'm jealous of your un even tummy and kicking in the night ha ha!!

maf course i dont mind .... i am really lucky i am getting 3 iui's and upto 3 goes of IVF on the nhs. Plus my DP might be going to work away soon ( thats why we r going on hols ) so they are going to freeze his swimmers aswell for me so i can try iui whilst he is away!! I am very grateful and do appreciate that not everyone is lucky enough to get nhs funding.

Flirty Hever not long to go now you must be sooo excited and i think it is probably normal to get a bit scared about the birth. You will be absolutely fine.

Well I'm on holiday countdown only 4 days to go and i will be on my hols!! We are going to egypt, sharm el sheikh, stayin in the hilton sharm waterfalls 5* all inclusive so i cant wait!! Because my DP is going to work away we wanted to treat ourselves and also we had saved a bit of money incase we needed to pay privately for ivf!!
Have never been to egypt before, am a bit nervous since the bomb has just gone off in cairo but im sure we will be fine!!

Just watching Nature's Great Events on BBC1 and it's making me cry!! xx

Hello ladies,

Glad to hear that all our expectant mums to be are doing well

Dawn i hope your sister is okay.

Vix your holiday sounds amazing. What I wouldn't give for some nice weather and 5 star luxury right now.

MAF it must be great to know you are on track for April and the swimmers are in the land of their birth. Must be so exciting!

Well I am on the 2 week wait - about a week to go before AF due. As for symptoms, I did have some stomach and back pain a few days ago but that could very well have been late OV pain so trying not get my hopes up. Anyone else on the 2WW with me?

Get this! I have been having lots of migraines lately and went to see the doctor about them this evening. He could have knocked me over with a feather when he showed me the screen which said when I went for pregnancy test last November (when my AF had gone awol) the results were positive!
The results came back to the surgery the day I went on my 3 week holiday to Oz. Since AF came whilst I was away, I didn't even think to call back to the surgery for the results. I don't really know how to feel about it at the moment. I had done about 3 HPT's and they were all negative but I must have been at least 8 weeks!

Hi to everyone else I've missed - hope you're all doing well.

L x

Hello all,

Just popping on quickly to say Hello and to say that I've finally got around to adding some pics of the bump and also of our nursery!!

It's been very quiet on here. Any TTCers on the 2ww?! Hope everyone's Ok.

xxx

AF got me so i'm sulking again but i am still here! God i'm such a child! lol i'm sure when the times right and all that stuff but it's still disappointing every month isnt it? I worked out that if we had conceived the first month i came off the DP i would be having our babies now i know how unlikely that would have been but still... I hope everyone else is well anyway? I've got a lot on with my horse at the moment. She will very likely be having a major operation so im having to do loads of work with her to get her as physically fit as possible and (fingers crossed) if she survives i'm going to be having my work cut out again! i suppose that would be difficult if i was pregnant. Always a bright side eh girls?! xx

No baby for us this month, either - so I'm sulking along with you, crunchy! My fertility friend subscription is running out, which only reminds me how long it's been. Had dinner with m-i-l and s-i-l this week (no DH) and conversation turned to all the women (very single) s-i-l knows who are TTC. We joked about it, as you do, even though you don't think it's very funny AT ALL, and I mentioned the temping and the planning, at which point m-i-l chipped in with, 'Yes, but are you remembering to HAVE SEX?! Hahaha!' I really had to bite my tongue. She had both her two before she was 24; I don't think any woman who's tried and not managed to get pregnant has any idea what it feels like. When AF arrived on Thursday, I felt hollowed out inside, and utterly despondent - and of course, immediately heard about yet another friend who's due in July.

Still vv happy for everyone else's bumps, though!

linwin that is bizarre! how are you feeling?? i cant believe the surgery didnt try to contact you (even by letter if you were on hols).

crunchy and wildfig about the AF arrivals. I too got sick of the ridiculous comments when TTC, and also getting even more ridiculous comments now (apparantly according to FIL - my life has now ended and i cant have a social life EVER again!!).

dawn i am loving your pics, your bump looks fab and the nursery is amazing!

Hope we are all having a 'Happy Monday'

Buckets of babydust for all

Hi all- I think AF has left again today- thank God!! at least those are becoming lighter and shorter! anyway, I agree completely with all the baby comments- I am regularly asked when we're going to 'get a move on' the few people who know we are trying have not said anything but i think i explained that it will take away due to DP to them but everybody else just seems to thing 'well you've been married nearly 2 years where are the kids??' it is frustrating and hard to just grin and chuckle.

however, an old school friend i keep in touch with on facebook (one of the MANY that have announced pregnancies since i've been trying!) has lost her baby she was 7months so it's been particularly painful for them. I know a girl who lost one at around 6 months last year and the funeral was soo dreadful but somehow it's upset me more this time. I guess you just imagine those things are so rare that it's hard to accept

Anyway, that's no fit conversation for a Monday! hope everybody else is good xx

Hi girls

Sorry not posted for a while, I've been keeping track of all your news but haven't had chance to write a long message.

MAF great news that your swimmers have arrived safely. You?ll be back on the TTC wagon in no time now! In fact, I think it?s now just a month to go for you.

Vix hope you had a wonderful holiday with your DP. Fingers crossed for you for the IUI.

Flirty OMG the time is flying towards our first baby on this thread!!! So glad you?re doing well. I hope you manage to find a name/names that both you and your DH love.

Hever big hello to you too and the countdown is on for you! How are you doing? Got your nursery and names sorted?

Dawn glad all is well with your jelly. I love your scan, bump and nursery photos!!! How exciting! I?m very impressed. How?s your sister?

Linwin I can?t believe the story about your test results; hope you?re feeling OK about it all.

Crunchy and Wildfig so sorry that your AF has arrived, the witch. Crunchy was very sorry to hear about your friend.

Summerbird how?s your summerbean doing?? Not long to go for you now either? !

Well I'm now on 7+1 and the symptoms are really kicking in! Feeling very nauseous and emotional this week. Went to the GP last week so am now waiting for my midwife to write to me about the booking in appointment. Hopefully I'll have that sometime next week.

I'm also thinking about paying privately for an early scan... maybe during week 9 to check that all's ok and that there's a heartbeat. Dawn I'm not sure whether you had an early scan this time? If so, any advice?

hugs and baby dust to you all

Hey ladies

Just wanted to check in quickly and say hi to all

Wild and Crucnchy i hink we have all managed to sync online as AF came yesterday (obviously not a surprise!!)

I hope all is well. Dawn i love the pics, your bump is perfect

Hi Ladies,

Crunchy and Wildfig, keep your chins up ladies. We'll all be on here supporting you until you get your BFPs!!

Linwin, like Summer, I'm amazed that the surgery didn't contact you until after your holiday. If you think you were about 8 weeks, you must have been in quite a lot of pain during AF. I'm not sure whether I would have liked to have known what was happening at the time or not, it's quite a strange one isn't it. How are you feeling now?

Summer, how are you hun? I've been woken in the night a few times now by Jelly kicking around, which is lovely at the moment. But I'm sure in a few weeks time, I'll be trying to move around to stop her!!

Bubbap, honey, if you can afford to go for a private scan, I absolutely would. The relief of seeing the little jellybean on the screen with the heart pumping away was amazing. I cried and DH was quite emotional (believe me, he's not the emotional type). That's actually where Jelly got her name from, the sonographer said that she looked like a jellybean and it stuck!! So, my advice if you're worried would be, yes, if you can afford it, have an early scan. It sounds like your symptoms are doing wonderfully though (even though they might not be pleasant...), but don't put yourself through the stress of waiting for the 12 week scan if you don't have to... Hope this helps...

MAF, is it still the waiting game for you hun? Not long now - only a month to go isn't it?!! How exciting!!

DH and his Dad put up the mural in the nursery - it came in 12 pieces and gave them some grief I think - but we're really pleased with it.

You may all think I'm mad, but I've even started buying books for Jelly. I love reading and want her to love reading and stories aswell, so I bought some of my old favourites that were on BOGOF in Waterstones - Henry's Cat, Mog, Flat Stanley, The Tiger who came to Tea, Spot the Dog and various others. I know it's a bit premature as she won't be into bedtime stories until she's about 2, but I thought, there's nothing to stop me reading them to her now, she can hear me so why not?!

If you do think I'm mad - please just humour me... he he he

So, big waves to all TTCers, Beans and slightly bigger Beans!!

Lots of babydust all round!!

xxx

Linwin, apologies, I meant - didn't contact you after your holiday!!

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone doing well today.

Am feeling fine now thanks everyone, trying to be positive and live in the present. I'm just glad now that I didn't know about it at the time as you say Dawn. Also I don't know why I didn't think to check back for the results myself either, how stupid!

Crunchy and Wildfig sorry about the bad news. I am on CD 33 of a 35 day cycle at the moment and tested this morning (I know, I know, I shouldn't have) and it was BFN. Will see what happens over the next couple of days.

Dawn the nursery looks fab! I think the books are a wonderful idea too.

Big waves to Buppap, Summerbird, MAF and Vix

Is anyone else loving this new series of Mistresses? certainly brightens up my Tuesday evenings !

L xxxxxx

Oh Linwin, isn't Mistresses fab!! I have to admit, (not that I ever would), my sex-drive has rocketed so much since being PG that I was almost tempted to disappear to a local hotel myself in the middle of the night as I'm not great at giving subtle hints to DH. But finally he's got the hint now and he's loving the PG look (phew) so all is well!! I'm just hoping my drive stays this high after the baby, I can't imagine it though because it never has been before....

It is so fab though. That dirty rotten Mark (I think he's the one), he's obviously up to no good!!

I'm going to have to record it tonight though, along with Holby (thank goodness for our V+ box), because I'm going out with Mum and DH for a well-deserved Indian. Buffet night, I can never eat too much, but it's still really yummy!!

xxx

Yes Dawn I know the one you mean, Mark, he had another ladies' phone number written on his arm last week. Dirty article! He is quite cute though I must say.

Oh and the engagement ring fiasco made me laugh as well.

I am such a saddo - can't wait to see it tonight.

P.s. Lucky you and your DH!

Oh girls, AF arrived today - a day early. Poop. I think we are onto cycle 6 now.

LOL dawn we have a bookcase in the bedroom with a full shelf with our old books from childhood with some new ones thrown in! sooo glad i am not alone!!

linwin booo to the AF, am glad you are looking to the future, i agree it would have been harder to deal with at the time, still rubbish surgery though

hang in there bubba the symptoms will go soon, and i agree with dawn that if you can afford it and really want to then go for the early scan to put your mind at rest

so busy at work as am off next week - going to visit family as DH is going skiing still i am looking forward to my break