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SparklyPseudonym · 25/09/2008 21:07

Here we go again . Let the good news flow....

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FruitynNutty · 10/12/2008 14:22

But they'll do a 12 week Nuchal at your hospital, surely. I know some parts of the country don't offer it but pretty sure SW London does. Which hospital will you be with? St.George's?

HeyThereSantasGirl · 10/12/2008 20:50

Will hopefully be with Kingston. Too many bad memories of St George's as went there with both miscarriages. Ugh. Shiver.

Yep do know that Kingston will do nuchal. But I haven't gone to GP yet to tell her about pg as was waiting til had this scan at Parkside to make sure that is was viable. Got appt tomorrow to see her.

So just concerned that they won't be able to fit me in in time if paperwork takes forever to get processed (possibility in NHS). Just covering bases as don't want to miss out on this scan.

HeyThereSantasGirl · 10/12/2008 21:00

Fruity Can advice from MN childminers re: mindee. I know it's not neglect, but it can't be doing the poor sod a lot of good sitting in stinky nappy with fility clothes on. Are you allowed to give him a bath? Could you just say that he got really dirty at lunch time?

Mollie Really glad that you've got the ball rolling with the consultant. Least you're working towards something rather than floundering around in the dark. Fingers crossed that you get some good answers. If it helps, the best way that I've found to lose weight is to restrict carbs. No white bread, rice, pasta, potatos. But brown rice, cous cous, quinoa, or brown pasta good in smaller quantities and not after 6pm. And soup (not creamy ones) is a really really good way to fill up with few calories. Ha, just call me Gillian McKeith .

Sparkly Nothing wrong with feeling a bit . We've all been there hon. Hugs. Might take Mollie and Libby to Madagascar on 23rd. Might even be able to catch a quick nap in the cinema!!!

HeyThereSantasGirl · 10/12/2008 21:03

Bloody hell, I can't type tonight. Fruity meant to say, 'have you managed to get any advice.....' Doh.

hohoholaydee · 11/12/2008 08:36

Not time to check in last night. My Stepmum has a horrible cold so I got her ticket at the last minute to see my nieces nativity. It was so sweet, Dad and I giggled for alot of it as the kids were so funny. Katie was a narrator and Alice was an angel. Although she was the only one without wings! I think my SIL was too lazy or mean to get her any so told her they were invisible ones! I think that's mean.

Fruity Step AWAY from the birth stories, stop torturing yourself. I would find the mindee situation really upsetting and how arkward for you. I think I would have to bath him and Georgies reason sounds good to me.

Sparkly Totally normal to feel , it's a weird mix of being happy for them and sad for yourself I found. DP and I are both at home this weekend for the first time in weeks so promise to do the photos. No more excuses!

Georgie So so pleased that you have had some more reassurance. I know it probably seems like it to you but I can't believe you are nearly 10 weeks already. You'll be though that magical 12 weeks in no time

Mollie Sounds like you had a really comprehensive appointment - am so pleased you weren't let down, even though you did have to wait. I'd see how you feel about the TTC, once you've got Christmas out of the way and have got started on you new year diet 10 weeks will nearly be up. We waited for our chromosone tests as I figured we'd waited so long already for a baby a few more weeks wasn't going to matter.

Scully Hope everything alright with you. Have you just hibernated to your bed?

Kate Make sure you tell us how Saturday turns out. Totally missed the bit about your DH's bender. MEN - I am currently panicking about money (cos I've stopped panicking about baby so something has to replace it) and every time DP comes home with yet another bottle of wine and bag of kettle chips my teeth go on edge!

Cricri & Mibbes Hope you and your bundles are doing OK. Hello to the rest of the lovely ladies. Best get up as going to our christmas tree today. Big Bro is coming with me to load it in the car.

MollieandtheIvy · 11/12/2008 10:20

Fruity Have you made any decisions about your mindee yet? I hope you found some useful advice on the other threads too, it makes me that people can treat their LO's like this, is it the first time? Perhaps she's not feeling well and things have got on top of her? I'm trying to justify it but if there isn't a good reason I'm coming to kidnap!!!!

BellaHarry · 11/12/2008 13:58

Couldn't bear to post yesterday felt like poo! really sick and grumpy! Had a stinky parents evening too! Hate woring late at the mo just want to sleep come 3pm! 6 weeks pg today!!! made it this far, fingers crossed it's for keeps!!

Fruity I am so shocked by the state of the child you just described! That is neglect - to state the obvious. At school if we see a child like that we have to report it to the child protection worker A.S.A.P to cover our backs! It must be tricky when you're your own boss though. I think you have to say something if it continues though, maybe get some advice from child protection website first?

Sparkly My GP said I would hear from the hospital before I'm 12 weeks about a dating scan..can't wait! As for the pregnancy I locked my self in the bathroom and cried for an hour when I found out my younger sis was pregnant 3 years ago!!!!

SantasGirl Thanks,carbs are good!

CriCri I hope my feelings towards my cats don't change when baby's born. My friend had to think about giving her cats away at one point because they thought her littlen was allergic!

HerNameWasLola · 11/12/2008 16:33

Hello ladies!

Tis me! Am in disguise!

Am going to go and make it a festive disguise in a minute, then will be back with some gossip for you all

HerNameWasSanta · 11/12/2008 16:35

Whaddya reckon?

HerNameWasSanta · 11/12/2008 17:08

Right. Down to business.

Bella glad to hear you're feeling rubbish iykwim Whoever would have thought feeling sick could be reassuring before we all entered this mad crazy world?! You know, I'd almost put money on you being further along than you think you are when you go for your scan. Fingers crossed you don't have too long to wait

Georgie sounds like a good plan re nuchal, we did exactly the same thing as for one reason and another I didn't register with my mw (useless cow) til I was about 10 weeks, so my nhs nuchal appt came through for 16 weeks which is too late to actually do a nuchal anyway... Are you going to have it before christmas? Am loving the Gillian McKeith tips btw

Mollie really glad to hear your consultant was so thorough. Whether to wait for the results before trying again is such a personal decision. For us, even now, after the results took so long and I'm still not pg I don't regret waiting. I needed the time to recover emotionally and I would never have forgiven myself if I'd put us both through another mc when it could have been avoided had I waited. I'm sure you'll know what feels right for you, just follow your instincts

Fruity & for your little mindee. The others are right, it puts you in a very difficult situation. If the mother's not coping, which it sounds like she isn't, you don't want to scare her away, but I don't see how you can say/do nothing Please let us know what you decide, I really hope the other threads are helpful.

Teehee glad you enjoyed the nativity! Won't be too long til you're watching your own LO performing! One of my good friends has just bought her 2yo DD a donkey outfit for chirstmas. Apparently she was it on the other night and was walking round the house going "eeeoor eeeoor" Awwwww! How did it go with the tree? I want to put ours up on sat but I'm not sure when we'll have time to buy it... My mum has a big thing about cutting the bottom off and leaving it stood in a bucket of water in the garden for a few days before bringing it inside... Any thoughts ladies??

Ok. Gossip time. Apologies in advance for over using the emoticon!
So you know we have these friends coming over on saturday. I phoned the ones with no baby on Tuesday just to let them know there would be a baby there in case they would rather stay at his parents than stay here as his parents only live about 3 miles away. He called back last night and spoke to DH and said that if there were other people coming too then they didn't want to come. He said they didn't want to be talking about babies all night and they were looking forward to catching up properly with us and if they couldn't do that they weren't coming... Which left DH and I in an incredibly awkward position. DH and the man, let's just call him D, used to be quite good friends. They lived together for a couple of years, but since D's been with his now wife he's changed enormously. For example, he used to be pretty laid back... DH has been thinking for a while that this is really make or break time so far as their friendship is concerned, which is quite something to say when you're 37 years old, as opposed to 7 years old. So we didn't feel we could cancel them as that would have effectively been curtains on the whole relationship (no bad thing in my view but DH wants to give it a go). So I had to make an incredibly embarrassing phonecall to the other couple to explain. Then DH phoned D back to tell him we'd cancelled the other couple and D said thanks very much, we really appreciate it!!! I just think it's so far beyond rude I'm absolutely gobsmacked!!! What do you ladies reckon?
So it will be a bundle of laughs on saturday... I need to work out what to say if they say "thanks very much, hope you didn't mind" Errr.. Yes, I did actually. Probably best not say that though

Phew. Rant over. It does sound like we have some really crap friends doesn't it? In fairness, we have 2 lots of crap friends and the rest are lovely. Thank goodness!

Hello to everyone I haven't mentioned. Better go and see if the puppy's wee-d all over the kitchen...

HerNameWasSanta · 12/12/2008 14:45

Oh my god I've killed the thread...

HeyThereSantasGirl · 12/12/2008 18:26

I'm here. Just got a raging ear infection now so feeling v sorry for self.

Love the name change Kate. But you will always be Kate to me!

Your friends sound rather immature. I think you should let them know in a polite way that they have put you in an awakward situation. No use sparing their blushes when they've put you in such a difficlut situation with your other friends. Can you tell theat I've got a short fuse today?!

Anyway, whatever happens, have a lovely weekend and hope it all goes smoothly.

Hi to everyone else. Hugs and kisses. xxxxx

WhenFRUITYgotstuckupthechimney · 12/12/2008 19:11

Evening girls

What do you think of my new name, I thought it was rather fitting atm

Mindee's mum was in such a hurry she forgot to put in clean clothes for the day he came in soaked Still shouldn't be sleeping in his clothes day in day out though.
Anyway I think she really struggles with the baby and 7 yr old ADHD/Aspergers son as her husband has two jobs so they hardly see him.
Baby seems perfectly happy in my company and in hers. I can honestly say I can't see him being neglected. Not intentionally anyway. Whatever she's doing doesn't seem to be having any affect on him anyway. He's such a happy little thing.

Kate Yes it does sound as though you have some crap friends. Why are you friends with these people? I think you could do with losing them tbh.

Hey Bella Hope your not feeling too rough and that the sickness/tiredness doesn't go on for too long. It's all worth it though!

I've got my 4D scan tomorrow morning, I can't wait! I will be getting them to measure Button for me. I really hope he's not to high on the centile chart!
DS was about 95th or something when he was born.
I started a thread about what kind of birth I should go for in childbirth section. I've been told to ask for regular growth scans so I'll ask the midwife when I see her next on the 5th Jan.

Big waves to everyone! I hope you're all ok. Haven't heard from some of you for a few days.

SparklyPseudonym · 12/12/2008 19:16

Evening all,
Sorry I haven't posted over the last few days. Have been busy at school. DP was out last night and is out with work tonight but I don't mind because I'm having a spa day tomorrow and then going out with my sister, DP, her DH and friends for a lovely meal to celebrate her birthday...
Saw my pg best friend last night. Gave her my pg books and left over vitamins. When she left I sobbed for ages. Not really even sure why.
I STILL DON'T HAVE A CHRISTMAS NAME BUT WILL GET DP'S BRAIN WORKING.
Oh and I took my temp yday and it was def post-ov. Suspect I ovulated on Weds but we hadn't bd'd since Saturday so don't think I'm in with much of a chance. Ah well.
HTGG You'll always be Georgie Girl to me. . Sorry to hear you've got an ear infection. They are so painful . Hope you're feeling brighter tomorrow.
BellaHarry Are you thinking of having a private scan before the routine one? Happy 6 weeks.
Teehee I'll be checking in for those pics this weekend. A promise is a promise
Fruity Has the situation with ur mindee improved? Did you get any useful info from the CM section?
Mibbes Are you lurking? Hope you're ok. xxx

Hello to everyone else. Have updated the top half of the list.

Kate2179 CD20 Cycle 2 TTC#1
Molliemooma CD20 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (mm/c Jan08, mm/c Aug08 & CP Oct 08)
Sparkly CD21 TTC#2 Cycle 1 after m/c
HappyAndEiKnowIt CD23 TTC#2 cycle 12 (CP/MC april & june08)
Piper

Infanticipating
FruitynNutty 24 weeks pg, EDD 22nd March
TeeHeeLady 22 weeks pg, EDD 11th April
HeyThereGeorgieGirl 8 weeks pg (BFP 3rd Nov)
Scully 8 weeks pg (BFP 8th Nov) EDD 13 July
BellaHarry 5 weeks pg BFP 25th Nov

Graduates
Emmsy GIRL! Amy Louise born 7th October 5lbs 12oz
CriCri GIRL! Elise Vivienne at 0630am 4th November, 7lbs 15oz
Mibbes BOY Evan, born 3rd December, 6lbs 5oz

OP posts:
SparklyPseudonym · 12/12/2008 19:17

oh xposts Fruity. Lovely new name. Lots of luck for tomorrow.

OP posts:
hohoholaydee · 12/12/2008 20:53

Not much time so just a quickie as DP and his Dad who has come for the annual xmas pressie swap are in the lounge and I have escaped!!

Fruity LOVE the new name - festive and pg related at the same time - ingenius.

Kate I love the new name too - I would actually have said to the couple without friends - "sorry you feel you can't come" and would have stuck with the others - but then I am stubborn. Don't think I could have bought myself to cave.

Georgie So is ear infection better that MS - it just is one thing after another hey.

got to go think I've been rumbled!! Hello to all - catch up properly tomorrow!

MerryCRICRIstmas · 12/12/2008 21:30

Fruity Love your new name - can't wait to see your scan pictures tomorrow It really is an amazing experience so enjoy.
Kate I can't believe your friends' behaviour I don't think I could ever behave like that - completely childish IMO. Hope you manage to enjoy the weekend nevertheless and that you get to see the couple with the baby very soon.
Georgie Sorry to hear about the ear infection They're horrible.
Sparkly Good to "see" you. You must be gearing up for the end of term at school now. Hopefully you felt a bit better after having a good cry - sounds like you needed that. Hope you haven't been bottling things up. Enjoy your lovely day tomorrow
Hello to everybody else
All ok here - Elise had her paediatrician appt at the hospital today for her kidneys which went ok. She has to keep taking antibiotics and the registrar is referring her to his consultant who will write to us about possible tests to check for urine reflux from bladder into kidneys if these prove to be necessary. Elise needs to have a blood test in a few weeks' time in any case just to check her out. Not looking forward to that On a brighter note she's been lovely today - still clingy and only sleeps in the sling during the day but she spent 20 minutes in her bouncy chair this morning and kept smiling at me whenever I went up to her and this evening she was on her playmat for almost half an hour whilst I hoovered after the guy who has been fitting doors in the extension had left. It's nearly finished except the place we got the shower enclosure from have cocked up yet again and still haven't given us the right parts much to our plumber's annoyance and ours
Have a lovely weekend everybody

Emmsy1 · 12/12/2008 22:23

Hello lovely,lovely ladies!

fruity Hi sweetie pregnant lady! My DS seems ok for the time being! His side pains seemed to go on Wednesday, I will get him straight to A&E if they come back stongly,thank you for asking XXXX It's really hard when your looking after someone else's child and they are you next door neighbour, I would definately give her the benefit of the doubt for the time being, however if this happened on a regular basis, then seriously, I would think of contacting the health visitor for your area, maybe they will be able to offer some help or advice for the mum. The child's welfare is far more important than a few £ or worries about falling out with your neighbour. (The health visitor doesn't have to give your name if you wish to be anonymous) hope the rest of your pregnancy goes really well, can't wait for you to have your little boy!X
sparkly Hello, hope your ok? Have you been to the doc's yet madam?? I really would love to meet you one day, you really are one special lady. XX
kate Oh hun, think I have asked you this before, where do you get your freinds from?? It must have been college Think you should have just let the situation happen, by giving them the choice, you gave them the opportunity to control, and unfortunately they took advantage of that. I know it's hard when your desperate for a child, but some situations should be expected, and as we are adults, we should except them with dignity and mourn at leisure, I know this sounds a little harsh, but life is cruel for all of us at times, as you well know. Lots of strength and love to you, it's not worth making this situation any worse by dwelling on this, just enjoyn their company, and remember not to give too many choices in the future! XXX
hello everyone else XXX

mibbes · 12/12/2008 23:20

Quick hello to let you all know that all is going well and that Evan took the boob last night , things are great, just trying to get used to the more frequent feeds as he seems to want to feed every 2 hours now that he is a boob-boy , more tiring but am so glad it seems to be starting to work out . Will catch up properly soon - promise !

Emmsy1 · 12/12/2008 23:38

mibbes fantastic that baba wants the boob now! wish I could have given the breast to all my children, but it wasn't to be! I had a breast reduction many years before babies came along,no one ever explained that it would effect breast feeding at the time (probably would have still had the surgery though, as was deeply distressed about people always passing nasty remarks!) please don't worry about posting, we will always be here for you. XXX

DingDongMerrilyOnEI · 12/12/2008 23:58

hi ladies
i hope you are all well tonight
iv not been on for a few days as life has gotten in the way
sparkly sorry you got upset about giving your baby/preg related stuff to your friend it will be sods law now that you will have to ask for them back for your own use chin up hun xx
fruity i hope you decide what to do about your mindee and his mum. would you feel comfortable discussing it with her? im sorry you have to deal with this poor little fella! good luck tomorrow
cricri sounds like you have settled it really well into motherhood can you remember what it was like pre-elise? i remember trying to think how i felt before i had sian and i just cant picture it!! you are doing so well
mibbes i hope you are ok and are getting on well with you little man
georgie hope you are well
mollie how are you lovely lady
kate love the new name how rude of your friends!! fwiw i would have said basically im sorry but its with them or no party at all bloody rude!!
teehee i hope you are ok
bella glad the ms is kicking in nicely iykwim
hello to all of our lurkers
so that was a long slog
i have symptoms...
i had some spotting today...that has only ever happened on 2 occasions...both of which i was preg...one resulted in an 8lb 12oz baby girl...
my (.)(.) feel really big and heavy and are very achey at the sides
i have lots of CM...
i am soooo tired it is unbelievable...
i have woken up with headaches and stuffy blocked nose feeling for the past 2-3 days and my headache refuses to go all day
and thats the ones that have been present without me making much of a fuss over them
soooo.... whaddya all think
xx ei xx

MollieandtheIvy · 13/12/2008 15:30

kate oh no sorry hernamewassanta I completely agree with what the others have said about your friends but I just want to add one question? What will they do when you have a baby next year?? Will they not want to see you in case you talk "babies" all night?

Im terribly hungover so will catch up with everyone else tomorrow, have a good Saturday all of you

FruitynNutty · 13/12/2008 17:23

Evening everyone

I've just finished decorating our Christmas tree - it's bloody huge. Always looks smaller when you 1st buy it
Ah well, we squeezed it in.

Ei Those symptoms are sounding very promising! When can you test?

Sparkly Do you feel any better after a good cry? I'm sure you'll be asking for them back in no time

cricri Elise sounds delicious! I might have to borrow her for a girl fix Glad the appointment went ok. Dont worry about the bloody test. It'll hurt you more than it will Elise. Babies and children are very strong when it comes to needles. Being so young she won't ever remember it and it'll be over in a couple of seconds

Well I had my 4d scan this morning Little bugger was hiding the 1st couple of times. He was facing completely the wrong way - towards my back. We had to keep going away. Went for a coffee then 3rd time we tried he performed! Although he kept putting his hands over his face.
Aw, it was soooooo amazing! We've got a DVD and a few pics. I've put the pics on my FruitynNutty profile
Sonographer reckons he's got DS's features. DS not pleased for Button to look like him though

Gotta babysit tonight, 7-12pm, gonna be a killer to keep my eyes open!

FruitynNutty · 13/12/2008 17:25

BTW sonographer said Button seems to be the right size at the moment so no panicking just yet!

DingDongMerrilyOnEI · 13/12/2008 18:42

hi ladies
fruity your little baby boy is gorgeous!! and he has got a look of C im sure he will be thrilled when he is born to be as gorgeous as his big brother
mollie i hope your hangover isnt too bad
hello to everyone else on this fine saturday evening
nothing more to report from here just the same tired, heartburn, short tempered, etc so who knows im not even due on til next week according to my usual cycles but i have oved late on them and think i may have oved earlier this cycle going by my ewcm who knows eh!! wel just wait and see shall we!!
xx ei xx

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