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The addictable wagoners have abandoned the waterlogged field back to the safety of the Wagon (with Spa facilities). Thread for those waiting to TTC, those TTC now and other graduates alike!!

992 replies

GYo · 28/08/2008 11:08

New thread over here!!

OP posts:
GruffaloSoldier · 04/09/2008 09:46

Hey Diege

Maybe your body didnt ovulate before and is trying to do it again?

Diege · 04/09/2008 09:58

Hi Gruff! I'd like to think so, but think it's just a post-mc messed up cycle to be honest. I'm just pleased to be back in the saddle tbh, and am happy to keep up with the gof-fing!
DAL, I've got a gap of 16 months between dd1 and dd2, and it really was the best decision we made to have them so close. They are so close - always hold hands when out without giving it a second thought, and chat like a pair of little old women in their bunk beds. They are also very protective of each other which is sweet to watch. I really wish I had started ttc no. 4 earlier so that we could have had the same gap between dd3 and no.4!

Dalrymps · 04/09/2008 10:57

Diege - I don't know that, was it really hard in the early days when they were both young? I think thats what i'm most worried about... The way you describe them both holding hands etc is sooo sweet

Dalrymps · 04/09/2008 11:04

That was meant to say 'I dodn't know that'

Dalrymps · 04/09/2008 11:05

Oh for god's sake!!! 'I didn't know that' argh!!!!

Diege · 04/09/2008 11:07

Hi Dal, to be honest I found the transition from one to two pretty easy, depite dd1 being only 15 months (and just walking) when dd2 came along. I think because I was still into the baby stage, it really didn't feel like I was doing much extra, and dd2 fitted in really well. Having said that she was a 'good' baby though (nightmare toddler!), and as I also went back to work when dd1 was 4 months and dd2 6 months, dd1 was in nursery 4 days a week when dd2 was born. One other change I made was that I bottle fed dd2 from day one (had bf dd1)just really to make the day to day a little easier (dd1 was a 'snacker') I really wouldn't change a thing as the gap really suited out family dynamics .
Go on Dal...you know you want to!

Dalrymps · 04/09/2008 11:30

Sounds good, only thing is I would be totally SAH as in, no nursery so I might go maaaaaad! will have a think about it

Diege · 04/09/2008 11:32
Grin
Diege · 04/09/2008 14:30

Come on you guys, I'm trying to avoid doing any work here

Dalrymps · 04/09/2008 14:44

I know, where is everyone?

tinkhasanactivebean · 04/09/2008 14:46

i'm here tink flys in

bought on ebay a baby album to put 3-d scan pics in and a disney snowwhite one for dds pics, just about to order pics off of photobox

Dalrymps · 04/09/2008 15:03

Cool, I love photobox, got some pics from there of ds a while ago

Diege - still thinking about it

Still no AF , where has it got to? FF says i'm on CD 30. My cycle is usually 26-28 days. Suppose that only makes me 1 day late really?

calsworld · 04/09/2008 16:10

Dal - I didn't get a BFP for either pg with CBD until 2 days late....

I've spent most of the day on the sofa, DH is next to me working from home which is nice. I've spent the day alternating between reading the 'comedy moments in childbirth' thread, and catching up on all the recorded episodes of last choir standing on telly. Best bit about recording it is that I could just fast forward all the guffy emotional bits and play the singing.

Diege, GS suggestion of ovulation all being a bit wonky sounds plausible (sp?) to me, definitley keep GOF'ing I say!

tinkhasanactivebean · 04/09/2008 16:53

bought albums and then realised that money that i thought had gone in my account hadnt so have had to cancel whoops, will purchase when money goes in.
guy came to take old buggy that is all sorted
bring on the quinny

Diege · 04/09/2008 17:00

LOL Cal, I'm keeping going as best I can . Will gof tonight and then please god let my CM dry up so my fanjo can get some rest . Your afternoon sounds good - telly is great to give the mind a rest I think!
Bummer about having to cancel your albums TINKS. I must get listing again on e-bay as I've overspent and needs funds for hairdressers next week!
Dal - your choice but it sounds like you're gearing up to ttc NOW to me Go on...it gets everyone sooner or later on this wagon
Right, attemting non-packet cheese sauce - wish me luck!

glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 04/09/2008 17:02

dal- just wanted to add my piece on small age gaps...

my 2 have only 15.5mths between them, and i will admit it hit me hard having 2 so close together, however, i do think that was becasue DS had been such a 'good baby' we expected another the same and DD was very clingy and demanding. DS was easily entertained watching me clean etc from a small age, and i wanted DD to be the same so i could still do housework and spend time with DS alone too as he was still so young (with DD watching from playmat etc). But she was very clingy, didn't like being put down etc, so it hit me hard.

when dd was 9wks old i was diagnosed with PND and given AD's. I took them for around 2 weeks and didn't feel any better, one day i forgot to take them all together and the next day too and realised i felt normal, better on my own...

I think the hard time was just adjusting to having 2 babies almost... but within 3mths i was in a good routine with both DC's, and was fine. And now its well worth the hard work!!

glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 04/09/2008 17:10

hi everyone else... i'm too tired and sleepy to read everything i've missed!!

Diege · 04/09/2008 17:15

Hi Glask! That's interesting about the dynamics between your 2. DD1 for us was a 'difficult' baby, v.colicky and bad headaches after a botched ventouse, so dd2 who was 'easy' didn't seem such a shock. Intersting too about PND - I also had that after dd2, and not the others. Hope we've not put Dal off! .
How are the anti-sickness tabs working btw?

glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 04/09/2008 17:21

its a medicine, and its working fine thanks!! I'm almost back to full health so to speak... i'm still weighing a few lbs less than i did before being pg, but feeling well enough to eat 3 meals a day... have only been sick once since being on it, and got my second bottle today to keep me going for the next week!!

glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 04/09/2008 17:23

and dal- dont be put off by my PND please!! i'm pretty sure the health visitor and GP were too quick to diagnose mild PND than thinking it could just be adjusting to 2 children... i feel adding a 3rd will be fine though, especially as both DC's are old enough to fully understand.... and help

SesHasapinkline · 04/09/2008 19:09

Don't know if anyone's around but I just need to offload....
Apologies in advance if anything I'm about to type is insensitive / irrational / plain stupid...
Don't know why but suddenly got really tearful this afternoon. I was sitting in a meeting this afternoon and suddenly got a pain in the left side of my back. It was only there for about 5 minutes and I managed to convince myself I had an ectopic. Then when the pain stopped I've spent the rest of the day thinking about the liklihood of something going wrong again. Spent the last half hour of my drive home with tears coming down my face and am tearful again now.
I know it's likely to be my hormones making me feel this but I'm suddenly more than scared about something going wrong as I just don't think I'd be able to cope at all.
I also know it's stupid to get upset and worried about something that's not happened yet but I can't help it.
DH has just phoned - he's driving home - but I oculdn't hear him properly on his hands free. He'll be home in about 45 mins and will probably just tell me I'm being silly.

I'm really sorry I just needed to get this off my chest and didn't know where else to let it out. I'm sorry to those ttc as I know I'd have given my right arm 2 weeks ago to be where I am now but I don't know how to snap myself out of this this evening.

Other than that, I've had a really good day at work and got some really good feedback about how I'm doing in my new job.

calsworld · 04/09/2008 19:17

Hi guys on a similar theme (i.e. only sort of relevant, but please humour me ) to put an 'anti' spin on the PN depression - since having DS I have been able to come off anti-depressants, which I've been on for years prior...and not just because they were habit, I really did need them. I had to take them all through pregnancy too...now, even after mc, I really feel so much better - I really wish I'd had DS years ago!

Glask, really glad your medicine is working, it must be such a relief to feel 'normal' again. On the plus side, at least you can afford to indulge in the 'naughtier' foods and not worry too much about your weight!

Diege - LOL at your sore fanjo , sorry!

Tink, bummer about your albums but good job you realised sooner rather than later.

DS has been getting very grumpy this last week or so and I was worried that it might be because of picking up 'vibes' from home, together with some disruptive nights (incl. midnight trips to doctors and a&e) but his primary carer at nursery took me aside tonight and said she thinks its because he's bored. She explained that he's now one of the oldest in his current group as the others have gone up to the next class. I didn't even realise! She thought I'd be hesitant about putting him up , which I thought was a little odd, but we've agreed that she will try and arrange a couple of 'trial' sessions for him. I'm quite excited for him .

calsworld · 04/09/2008 19:22

Oh ses, sorry, it took me so long to type that out I missed your post . Its really, really understandable that you feel like you do and I don't think its at all insensitive to post here.

I'm fairly sure you're right that now is a classical time for you to be experiencing all sorts of weird hormonally driven moods...when i had my booking in I burst into tears and MW said that was a good sign . However, having said that, if you're at the point where the only thing that will reassure you is a check-up then perhaps you could phone your GP's surgery tomorrow and ask for an early appt. with the MW. I think you should get seen sooner because of your history...failing that, can you get in touch with your EPU?

I'm sure everything is fine, try to take it easy and I'm sure someone far wiser than me will be along - but I'm still here....

SesHasapinkline · 04/09/2008 19:29

Thanks Cal. It's one of those times when I know I'm being stupid but that doesn't change my emotions.
I was going to phone and get an appointment with GP anyway tomorrow as she'll need to refer me to endocrine consultant as I have an underactive thyroid (last time they trebled my dose!) and also just want MW and scan as soon as poss. I know though that it's probably pointless going for a scan until about 7 weeks as I want to be able to hear a hb. That's a whole 3 weeks away!
The EPU said to phone them when I got pg again and they would scan me early.
Than I start thinking about going for a scan again and that just freaks me out. With all the complications during April - June I had 4 scans and have never seen a live baby with a hb yet. I think part of the problem is I'm not sure that will ever happen for me. The cure will be to get a successful one but that's not guaranteed and will not be for 3 weeks..

Sorry am rambling now and going round in circles...

calsworld · 04/09/2008 19:33

I've got some quotes for you...

"With all of the hormonal changes mood swings in early pregnancy are a common occurrence, laughing one minute crying the next, from happy go lucky to irritated and angry for no apparent reason these are normal mainly during the first trimester of pregnancy."

"One of the first signs of pregnancy include fatigue, often times extreme, headaches and mood swings. Your emotions might seem out of whack. If you feel like crying for no reason, it's ok. Go ahead and cry. Your partner will understand as long as he knows he's not responsible."

"Mood swings

Mood swings may be a sign of being pregnant. Your hormones are in an uproar remember? You may find yourself very emotional and crying alot. A TV show may make you cry that normally wouldn't.

These hormone changes can also cause the stereotypical food cravings (or aversions) - the thought of your favorite meal may make you sick to your stomach. You may have this urge to eat things you used to find totally gross."

Does that help at all??