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Anyone Planning To TTC From October

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VeryKeenForABean · 23/08/2008 20:49

Hi, I had an ectopic in May and am coming up to the end of my 3 month wait following methotrexate treatment. Need to wait for blood results in September but hope to start TTC from October. Feel really positive about the future and want to start looking forward. Anyone want to pass the time with me?

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SuziBhoy · 09/11/2008 12:05

its funny because ive never been able to tell when im ovulating without a test, but i think something must have changed after ectopic, as ive just had my first cycle since the pg, and the ov pains were really strong.

heres to testing for that bfp.

how early can the first response detect pregnancy?

olivo · 09/11/2008 12:41

4 days before af is due i think, suzi.
VM - kind of reassuring to hear others have had pain too (am i warped saying that?). I think you've done sooo well to be so patient but your body will thank you for it.

i will test again later today, the pains seem to have calmed a bit now, havent actually bd'd yet this month because of bleeding etc so not looking hopeful for us but may a 'token go' tonight!! Can't believe our sex life has come to this!!

SuziBhoy · 09/11/2008 12:43

olivo - let us know how you get on x

bubblebell1 · 09/11/2008 13:22

hi everyone.

im trying to concieve #3. would love to hear from others in the same boat.

xxx

bubble

SuziBhoy · 09/11/2008 13:45

hi bubblebell

well im ttc #1, not quite the same boat but still ttc

so how are you getting on? been trying for long?

x

bluesatinsash · 09/11/2008 14:14

re: OPK's - I use Clearblue digital as you don't have to fret about the two lines you either get a smiley face (ovulating) or a circle (not). Only downside is they are £20 for 7!!!

I think first response can detect as early as 6 days before.

My AF is due on DH's birthday next week - aaargh!

Fertile thoughts to all x

spats · 09/11/2008 15:03

welcome bubble. i am ttc#3 . we have been trying for 4 months, waiting for AF which is due anytime this week. Had late ovulation this month so not sure exactly when. Conceived 2 DS 1st month so this ttc is all new to me (and really annoying and frustrating).

VillageMum · 09/11/2008 16:03

olivo, hang in there - my ov pains reached a crescendo at about 4pm the day after I tested +ve on the OPK, so I assumed that was the moment of ov! Then they began to tail off and by that evening there was nary a twinge.

bluesatinsash, I use ebay cheapy OPK sticks, then when I get a +ve, I go and wee on the Clearblue, just for the reassurance of seeing that smiley face - how pathetic and needy is that?! Olivo, don't count yourself obsessed until you've sunk to such levels (and I haven't even been ttc yet!!) Oh I hang my head in shame.

Amd hello bubble, suzibhoy, spats ((waves))

SuziBhoy · 09/11/2008 16:15

hey villagemum

ha i buy chepo pg tests and when i get a faint line i dive for the clear blue lol, dunno why, i must be obsessed too.

how u gettin on anyway?

dawn37 · 09/11/2008 17:00

Hi have any of you waited 10 weeks after your metho & still not had AF? Have been using protection but now have got really tingly (.)(.) last week or so & have been using fertility monitor for last 28 days to try & get an idea of when I ovulate as was on clomid before. Now I'm worried in case we've had an accident with the protection (unlikely), have done a test anyway but was negative, but could be too early. Is it possible that I could conceive after the ectopic without having a period after...so many questions in my head, what ifs etc..maybe this is normal? My heads going a bit crazy the more I'm thinking about it!..I feel so ignorant & think at my age I should know more (blush)

bubblebell1 · 09/11/2008 17:52

hi suzy, spats and villagemum.

this is my first month trying to concieve. with ds1 and 2 i fell pregnant the first month off the pill i am hoping its the same this time around but you never know.

ive been looking at temp charts and mucus watching and ovulation predictors. this is all so new to me.

did you all use these things? whats the best? if i dont fall this month then i think i may try some of them.

im not too sure of the abreviations? whats a metho?

how long have you all been ttc?

xxx

olivo · 09/11/2008 18:03

Hi bubble, my first month ttc too and obsessed already! i also fell pg more or less straight away after the pil with dc1 so am hoping for the same this time but trying to be realistic! I've been using opks and temping already but no idea what is happening with my cycle after the pill so will see what happens this month.
good luck to you!

bubblebell1 · 09/11/2008 18:11

hi olivio, ive been having what i called before mid cycle pains. after reading the threads on here im assuming they are ov pains.

where can i get opks?? is there a website that sells cheaper 1s?

xxx

SuziBhoy · 09/11/2008 19:13

dawn i went on the pill after my metho, so never had a natural cycle, but came off the pill recently as my 3 months waiting were up. i think falling pregnant is very possible 10 weeks after metho. they only tell you not to so that the metho is out your system.

do you know how long it took for your hcg to return to normal?? if it took a whil then this could be the reason for your af taking its time.

bubblebell - metho is mehotrexate, its used to treat ectoic pregnancy. i was ttc for 2 years ad when i did it was ectopic, so now 3 months after treament im ttc#1.
hope all goes well for you

dawn37 · 09/11/2008 19:32

Hi suzibhoy, after the metho my levels came down really quickly as at the highest my hcg levels were only around 900, this was my 3rd pregnancy but 1st with my 2nd husband. I have 2 daughters, aged 12 & 10, my 1st took 5 years to conceive with the aid of clomid & my 2nd was natural. I went back on the pill after my 2nd & came off it when I remarried in Oct '05, but my periods were very irregular, I wanted to have a last chance as I'm 37, after 3 months back on clomid I fell pregnant & we were ecstatic. I feel a bit selfish as I am lucky to have 2 daughters already but we, like all of you are so very very desperate to have another. I decided not to go on the pill for 3 month wait in case it took ages to get back out of my system. I did read somewhere online that the metho doesnt take very long to get out of your system but if you conceive in the 1st 6 weeks after, your chances of ectopic are higher than if you wait the 12. Isn't it horrid that the world seems full of pregnant mums at the moment & all the shops seem to bring out all these cute things for babies! In my head I'm thinking oh, I'd love that & awww the baby would look so cute in this & that etc etc In my head I've designed the nursery, decided on the pram etc etc God how desperate & sad do I sound, if anyone else apart from you guys on here could see what I'm thinking when I'm shopping, they'd think I've really lost it!

VillageMum · 09/11/2008 20:35

bubblebell, I have one ds aged 7. Dh and I weren't planning on having any more but I went off the pill this summer (we figured, wrongly as it turned out, that at 38 I was no longer a goddess of fertility). We took one tiny risk the following month, and hey presto I was pg - which then sadly ended in a mc. We've sat out my first post-mc cycle and we're about to ttc again in a week or so. I use OPKs and temping.

SuziBhoy, glad someone else is as nutty as I am!

Dawn, I'm sorry, I don't know the answers to your questions about metho but maybe someone else will? Would your GP be able to say? Good luck with ttc!

SuziBhoy · 09/11/2008 20:54

well dawn, i think test again in a weeks time if af hasnt arrived yet. if it still says bfn, then ask your gp for some advice. as you will know everyone reacts different to metho, and maybe your body is just taking its time to repair itself. try not to worry too much as this also holds your af back. easier said than done though.

let me know how your getting on though.

bluesatinsash · 09/11/2008 21:33

That's a great ides using cheapy ones until your get a line then confirming with should-be-bloody-gold-plated-the-price-you-pay-for-them clearblue digital.

I must admit I've taken digital photos of my (two to date) smiley faces so I can keep track of when I ov but also to cheer me up in times of doubt in that clock ticking way.

Dawn - your not sad at all! Baby things pass you buy until you want one and then bang they're everywhere almost taunting you. I'm 37 too and everyone keeps telling me there's still time so fret not!

bubblebell1 · 10/11/2008 08:51

oh how sad.

im sorry for all of you who have experienced a mc or ectopic.

i have no experience of an ectopic so i cant offer you any advice dawn. sorry. but i will say that you shouldnt feel selfish. you are entittled to have as many children as you want.
i am noticing baby things too. especially pink things. i would really love a baby girl after my 2 ds but i think thats selfish. especially as gender doesnt matter as long as the baby is healthy.

SuziBhoy · 10/11/2008 10:18

well a friend has just given birth to her baby girl........... not been up to see her yet. my dp has though, and says they are worried bout me seeing the baby as i might get too upset! not sure how to take that.... as i am completely happy for them and know my turn will come.

should this be on the aibu thread lol

dawn37 · 10/11/2008 10:52

Know what you mean Suzibhoy, I run a parent & toddler group & school coffee morning & even now I can see the new mums wondering if they should be showing me the new babies or wondering whether I should be asked if I want a hold of them...I think we are treated like aliens sometimes! Thanks for your kind words bluesatinsash, people say I'm not too old at 37, but I see all these really young (&too young) mums around & wonder whether they will be judging me if I'm lucky to have a turn again, think I'm probably being paranoid! I don't know about you guys but I think I have some weird fetish for pregnancy tests, I just wish I could do 1 everyday (I live in hope that it will just be a positive!) If only they were a lot cheaper, I loved the gold plated comment, how right you are, how can they justify those prices...think I'd better get on ebay & bulk buy those cheapy 1's

SuziBhoy · 10/11/2008 10:59

ha i remember when i fell pg with the ectopic.. i had bought about 5 tests, used the first one and up came the bfp, but i still went on to use the other 4 just to make sure, secretly i think im the same as you dawn, must have a fetish or something

dawn37 · 10/11/2008 11:31

Right, been on ebay & have brought not 1, not even 10 but 40 early pregnancy tests! I can test & test & test...Oh god, what a nutter! My boobs are still sore & feeling shattered now, could it be? or could it be that I'm just stressing & imagining now...Oooh hurry up tests!!! Yes Suzibhoy, I did 4 more tests before just to make sure the pregnancy hadn't gone away, I wonder if the men actually know the amount of stress we honestly put ourselves through?!

spats · 10/11/2008 18:36

hey everyone. THink i may be out htis month as had brown streak when went to toilet so think AF may be here tommorrow. AAARRRGGGHHHH is all i can say! hope everyone else is going strong. x

SuziBhoy · 10/11/2008 18:52

sorry to hear spats but heres to next month and all the fun ttc