First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 2

[bluestarlavender]

Hi guys, new thread for us to carry on!

BSL x

god yes this recession is so being dressed up as a credit crunch, i am so for all the girls on this thread going through it, my sister works for Northern Rock (you may remember me saying earlier on), and we were so worried for her, thankfully she has been ok, but it was worrying for her.

we are lucky in that my DH works for the NHS and my job is crap but secure at the moment, however we arent losing sight of it all and have made major cutbacks, we used to eat out a lot but just dont do it now and cook from fresh rather than buying expensive pre prepared stuff, also cutting back on holidays and instead are going camping next year etc etc. basically living like students, which can be rather fun actually!!

BSL i hope you had better weather than us, was the surfing good then? and how about the pub food, i loved the steak and kidney pie.....mmmmmm!

Summerbird - We had glorious weather!! I have decided that the autumn is way better than the summer. None of us were prepared for the sun either, we had to make a quick trip to Tesco for sunblock! We had a BBQ in the dunes on Saturday night and then it was the Kings Head for sunday lunch - I had lamb balti with half and half!! (And of course Eddies for breakfast both days!!)

BSL x

mmm eddies poached eggs on toast for me, mega breakfast for DH! So jealous you had sunshine! x

Hi All,

Linwin, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I don't know whether it will help, but I'm a bit of a dab hand at CVs (even if I do say so myself - ha ha) and if you want me to have a look at yours, I will do. I'm sure you've got it sorted but just thought I'd offer. I do all the CVs for family and friends and so far they've always got at least an interview using them. Having been looking at CVs for the last 12 years in my job, might have something to do with it... . Really hoping that things sort themselves out for you.

So, after the shock of my boss and colleague being laid off last week, came in this morning to find that the guy that had laid them off, was laid off himself on Friday!! What an awful week!!

However, have been told this morning that in our team, they've made all the cuts that they're planning on making. Phew!!

So, put in an offer on our first house on Saturday! Already had to up it by £5k so just waiting to hear whether it's been accepted. Only thing is that the house that they Vendors are buying, is a repossession so they might want to move in 28 days!!! OMG!!

Fingers crossed it all happens now...

xxx

PS: Started BDing last night although part of me wonders whether we should put it on hold until we're settled, but like Wildfig, I'm 34 too and feel that I can't just wait!!

Hi Dawn,

How's things with the house buying today?? Any exciting news?

I'm happy to have a look at your FF chart, but you will have to set up a home page and then post that link here.

I noticed you were asking some question on another board...temp rises the day after OV. I've noticed I get a massive temp dip on the day I OV.

Here's my chart if it helps...? I was a bit rubbish with all the data this month, and haven't filled in the CM bit.
www.fertilityfriend.com/home/21c0a7

BSL x

Oh girls i'm so sorry to being you down but I think today I've cried so much that I feel numb right now.

So youve all seen the news and know what company I used to work for, and yes it was a bank. I just feel sorry for all the grads and people with families who are left with nothing.

Thanks so much to all of you for your support. It means a lot

Oh Linwin - being from the Pharma sector, I didn't really twig til now! I'm so sorry. My sis was around this afternoon and her DH works in banking too and she was saying his workload has massively increased due to everything that's happening. What is your situation?? I don't really know how this will affect you all...

I don't know what you do or where you're based, but I'm happy to pass CVs on to my BIL (Bank of America) and also friends at Goldman Sachs, if that will help....

BSL x

BSL thanks so much, you girls are such a support.

Weve been told to come in tomorrow but basically we probably wont even get paid this month so its all really surreal. I just worry that getting a job for another bank right now is the right thing to do!

My poor graduate trainees are having to go back to their home countries.

Anyway, enough depressing sh*t - who is symptom spotting so far this cycle? The only thing to cheer us up is some BFP's!!

p.s. thanks dawn i had emailed my cv home but they blocked all email communication

xxxxx to everyone else, i hope i havent depressed you too much

Linwin - we're all here for eachother! I feel a little bit touched that you want to talk to us, actually!

I think Bank of America is pretty safe...they are quite risk adverse and it sounds like they didn't get involved in the mortgage situation. Anyhow the offer is there if you want it...I know you're reeling right now.

BSL x

linwin i am so sorry you are down, i agree with BSL that we are all here for you, this isnt just a TTC thread, we have all supported eachother in times of crisis! so i am sending some warm summerbird virtual hugs over your way. sleep on it tonight but i would recommend taking dawn and BSL up on their offer of helping with your CV, as if you are very experienced then other banks would be sure to snap you up.

just a geeky IT idea but why dont you log onto your hotmail/google or whatever at work and attach your CV to an email and literally send it back to yourself, it will be saved to your sent items and incoming, sorry if i sound a bit basic but sometimes in panic we dont know what to do for the best!

dawn good luck with the house, have you heard anything on the offer yet? i was looking at it again today and it is lovely, i can just see little dawns running round in that garden! and as for the girls bedroom, that must have made you even more gooey! i want to be a little girl again!

Hey Linwin,

Bless you, what an awful time for you!! . Just a thought, but if you go in tomorrow, try and put your CV onto a disc or Memory Stick and take it home with you.

I'm a qualified Grad Assessor and know how scared the Grads are when something like this happens, so I can understand how you would be worried for them aswell. What on earth is going on in the world at the moment, it seems such a bad time all around!!

We are waiting to find out how much impact the big takeover is going to have. The Analysts from both companies were meeting today and we're expecting announcements tomorrow about the number of job cuts they're making. It's such a scary time, especially for those people that are not billable to clients and are in overhead roles like Finance, HR, Quality etc because the Company that's bought us will have all those sorts of roles themselves. It's really hard...

So, probably seems odd talking about my house now. But the initial offer was rejected because they are buying a repo and their offer was rejected. So we've both increased by £5k which makes our offer £189k. The Estate Agents think they'll accept that so fingers crossed. But they want to move in 28 days!! We need to give 2 months notice and in 3 pay-days I can save another £3k so it would benefit us to wait until about 21st November. I don't think that's unreasonable because there's a lot to do!!

Anyway, back to babies, trying to persuade DH into BDing tonight as had loads of EWCM today. Quite bizarre as only on CD13 and normally on 35 day cycles. But it feels like the MC may have kicked in the 28 day cycles I used to have pre-pill. That would be great!!

Linwin, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow sweetheart. Keep your chin up. You know where we are the minute you need us.... ....

xxxx

Yes! Let's distract ourselves with some Mystic Meg symptom spotting!

I am CD20, DPO5 and so far my "symptoms" are

• funny taste in mouth (prob. folic acid, as per last cycle)
• sore boobs (prob. caused by endless prodding)
• runny nose/sneezing (prob. caused by, er, London germ cocktail?)
• internal twinges
• coffee tasting funny (quite serious, as coffee is my friend and comforter, even the wimpy decaff version I've been forced to embrace these days)
• crying over dog rescue website (normal, to be honest)
• deciding this is a Very Bad Time to get pregnant, thanks to work deadlines, arrival of new dog, row with landlord, etc (most certain to result in a BFP)

summerbird and vix aren't we on similar cycles? Any twinges?

Hugs Linwin So sorry for what your going through

Fingers crossed for some BFP for you ladies

Feeling quite down after my shitty ass Dr. appt today. So I went for a follow up. This is my first time on Clomid, and AF isn't even due till this weekend. So I have no idea if I'm preggers, ovulating, having a litter of kittens nothing LOL. And she starts saying. Wellllll if you don't get your period and you aren't preggers were gonna have to start thinking fertility specialist. Which would be fine cause I'd rather see someone who has a sweet clue what they're doing. But then she informed me they are scare my small city, only 3 practicing right now and the wait list is well over a year because "and I quote....infertility is not exactly their top priority, they focus on the women that are actually pregnant" I was gutted. And this coming from a woman. So she basically said my other option is go to a city about 1 1/2 hours away to see a specialist there. So I just really hope my period comes. But I don't even have a plan for another round, she only gave me one month of clomid. Yikes........sothats my day in a nutshell. This is going to be a jouney I think.
Hope you ladies had a better day then me
Babydust to all.
xoxox

Morning everyone,

Wildfig - symptom spotting is so hard!! I'm on 4DPO now so only a couple behind you. Are you taking Sanatogen tablets?? I found that when I took them, they gave me that sucking-on-tin-foil taste and made me salivate loads!! The Pregnacare ones don't do that.

Dawn - fingers crossed for the house!! Sounds really promising.

Wishin - how awful for you! No disrespect to the fertility specialists in your area, but surely their priority should be helping people with fertility problems (Hence their job title), not focusing on antenatal care...that what antenatal units in the hospital are for and MWs! Grrrr!! I would do a bit of research for yourself and find out what your options are. It doesn't sound like your GP is very helpful or clued up on this.

Anyhow, came on this morning and saw the sad note from Wishin and it made me think that I'm so glad we are all here for each other. There are so many of us having problems at the moment...TTC or otherwise. It's so lovely to have a support network in our little thread! I love you guys !!

Ok enough of the soppiness . DH is off this morning to do his sperm sample. He has 1 hour to get it to them at the hospital, which is about 30 mins away. There are no facilities at the hospital to do the sample there...I guess that makes it easier to do, although I am going to be panicking about the traffic on the way!! I am hoping that we get the results back this week, but it'll probably be next knowing our luck!

Anyhow, I hope everyone has a good day!

BSL x

wildfig vix and BSL we all seem to be on the same cycle, i am CD18 and 3DPO, no symptoms as yet, my coffee is really tasty! I eventually finished my application last night and am sending it today - hoorah!

wishin that is a rubbish way for a GP to speak to you, (summerbird on work mode alert!) but if you are unhappy you could raise your concerns with the Practise Manager or PCT, its not GMC territory but the PCT should at least be able to instigate some resolution.

linwin i thought of you this morn when reading the newspaper articles, i hope you are feeling a little more positive today.

dawn and saz i am keeping my fingers crossed for you this week.

virtual hugs for all our girls going through this shit at the moment. xxxxxx

Ladies...I'm so sorry so many of us are feling sad... Big hugs all round.

I've got more brown stringy discharge today and can't decide if I'm now imagining cramps too! My mind is playing cruel tricks on me!!! I have my booking in appointment this afternoon and am so worried that something will go wrong before I even get there...
I'm 8+4 and the all day feeling of nausea has tailed off a little, which is also worrying me. My DH thinks I'm mad to be upset at not vomiting every morning, and I can see his point...but I'm concerned.
I still haven't had red blood which gives me hope, but it seems like such a long time to wait another 4 weeks til the scan...

Flirty x

Hey Flirty,

Just to give you some supportive info, when I spoke to the doctor at the EPU, she said to me that Implantation can actually take a long time and as the baby buries deeper into the womb over the first 12 weeks, you can still get some sort of bleeding. It is very common so please don't worry.

There are so many changes and with the uterus stretching and changing aswell, it's likely to cause some spotting. The cramping is also very common. Apparently the uterus goes from the size of a fist to the size of a grapefruit and that's just by week 6, so that's a lot of growth, you're bound to feel something.

You'll remind me of all this of course when it gets to my turn again!!

xx

PS: Linwin, thinking of you today hun....

Flirty - I'm sure all is fine!! Fingers crossed for the booking in appointment.I would voice your concerns there! Hopefully you can get some re-assurance!

BSL x

Thanks Dawn and Bluestar - amusingly, I have just been immensely cheered up by vomiting up my lunch! (TMI! - Sorry!) . I didn't realise implantation was still going on so that's good news - could account for the sort of brown stringy discharge.

I'll be leaving home in and hour or so for appointment...I'm excited and nervous. I have a sort of phobia about giving blood - no idea why! I am not scared of hospitals or needles and have no issue at all with injections, but for some reason giving blood turns my stomach. Still - all in a good cause. Just hope the midwife is sympathetic... Don't really have any questions to ask them...will havea good think on way there...

Flirty x

good luck flirty all very exciting times!!

oh and CONGRATULATIONS on yacking up your lunch!

x

Hey Ladies.
Thanks for all the kind words. I feel much better today. I picked myself up off the ground LOL. I live in Canada, in a really small town in the Maritimes. So needless to say resources are limited. My Dr. is so dense. I almost want to print out a bunch of info on clomid and drop it off to her and tell her to read up on it and get a clue.
I now know that this is in my hands, and I can choose to get discouraged, or choose to be proactive, and get myself to the next town and get this journey started. I called my Dr, and left a message that I wanted to go ahead with the referral.
Babydust to all you lovely ladies....anyone have any GOOD news today???
xoxoxox

Hey everyone (name changed its B)

Just coming in quickly to say:

Saz Congratulations i'm so pleased for you!!

BSL I hope your results come back ok, I read on your other thread that it is going to take weeks. I have my fingers crossed that both your 2WW and your sperm wait go ok!!

Flirty Good luck at the booking in appointment, maybe at the minute it is too early to be having symptoms? Hope it goes well!

Dawn The house looks lovely I hope yuour offer gets accepted!!

MAF Sorry you got a BFN especially after a LFN.

Wildfig I hope your symptoms result in a BFP!!

ALso to everyone who is haveing trouble with the "credit crunch" I hope things look up for you soon!

Good luck to everyone this month, I hope for some more BFP's!!

Hey ladies

Come on lets get some more BFP's :0