Ok, am back! Been looking for cricri and piper on facebook, no joy! There are over 500 results for the search "piper"! and I can't find anyone listed for trampolining with the right initials for cricri ... More clues please ladies!
Sparkly if your friend is 25 weeks she will almost certainly have some ashes if she has her LO cremated, unless the baby is very small for dates. Some friends of ours lost their little boy at 23 weeks and they got a little. It's such an emotinal decision, and one which there's no rush for them to make. I totally agree about the name thing, we did the same. Thomas would have been a Toby had things been different. If he had been a girl as things turned out he would have been Lucy which means "bringer of light". The right name will just come to her. It was quite spooky actually, DH and I both came up with Lucy on the same day at more or less the same time totally independently. I said to him over dinner that I had finally thought of a girl's name. "Yes," he said, "Lucy" ! Weird huh? I will be thinking of you and your friend over the next few days, please don't hesitate to say if there's ANYTHING we can do. {{{hugs}}}
piper good to 'see' you! How you doing? Does your instinct say that FF was right to give you the lines when it did, or right to take them away? Day 13 is pretty early, but you never know, iirc the cycle Emmsy conceived this time, she OV'd on day 9! In fact that's why I remember, becuase I was so that she'd caught it - I think you did a super early OPK for some reason didn't you Emmsy?
Ok. The wedding. Well it was ok, there were 5 pg women there - one due today, 3 due within a week of each other in November and one 4 months pg who also had a 16month old. Now that's just showing off !
The wife of our friends, who I hadn't spoken to about things the other night came and spoke to me quite late on. I was convinced she was ignoring me for the first part of the day but who knows. I decided to follow the suggestion of whichever of you it was who said I should get very drunk, and got very drunk
She was a lot more defensive about the way they've behaved than her DH was, said we hadn't responded to messages she'd left us (untrue) and that we should have made it clearer how we were feeling. I said maybe we should, maybe we shouldn't, but at the end of the day we had a hell of a lot to cope with, and didn't expect people we viewed as friends to make things harder rather than easier. It was ok I guess. Really hard when people would come up to her and congratulate her and ask about the bump. She said that's really difficult for her when I'm there. I said not half as difficult as it is for me . The hardest thing was that a couple of times her husband came up behind her and put his arms around her and over her bump . I don't know how much I have a right to expect of people, whether that's insensitive or just normal behaviour, and he was quite pissed. It's not like it was just the 3 of us there talking when he did that, I was in a group that included her, but it happened more than once.
We were sat next to a couple who have had 2 mc's since christmas, one very early, she only found out she was pg when she started mc-ing and one at 10weeks after they'd had a scan and seen a hb. She'd then mc'd at home and saw the sack etc... She was pretty traumatised by that, totally understandably, and of course because she's "only had two" she hasn't been offered ANY medial help. Makes me so . It's as though what she went through was somehow less valid than what we went through because it happened 7 weeks earlier We got a coffin, a funeral, etc etc, they got precisely NOTHING. Poor lady. That just can't be right can it? I told her about mn so hopefully she'll appear at some point, but I'd be surprised...
So all in all, a traumatic week, as predicted, but not without highlights - although a VERY hungover lunch with the ILs and some distant relations of my MIL today was definitely NOT one of them
Am hopig for a better week this week, with less tears. It's my birthday on thursday so fungers crossed... I know it's going to be quite weird though, I'd pictured a very sober, very fat birthday, but it definitely won't be sober now
Bedtime now, am done in