Trying for a second baby and feeling disheartened

[ForestWren]

Just wanted to vent and see if anyone is in the same boat atm.

We’ve been TTC number 2 for about 6 cycles now and I got another BFN this morning, at around 11/12dpo. I got my hopes up this month as we really put work into it (! - not easy with a toddler) and I have been having cramps for a few days, which was a symptom with my previous pregnancies (dd1 plus an mc).

We conceived dd1 fairly easily, in about 3 months (although this came right after the miscarriage at 7 weeks, which also took about 3 cycles to conceive). So I naively hoped this one would be quick too.

DD1 is 20 months now and I'm starting to worry about the age gap and whether she'll have a sibling (I know I'm getting ahead of myself). I regret every time I asked parents if they were planning another!!! It's such a tough question to answer when you're trying.

I’m finding myself worrying that something has changed and reduced our fertility. In particular, my dh is now on antidepressants which could potentially affect motility. It would be a big effort for him to stop taking these as they've helped him so much. Another factor could be the fact I had a c section, but I don’t know much about about this. We're also now a few years older (35 and 36). Also, I'm still breastfeeding a bit. But my cycles are pretty regular so I don't think this is affecting things too much - any thoughts on this?

I know that really 6 months isn't very much in the great scheme of things, but it stung this month to see the BFN!

Hi all, I am also struggling with TTC number 2. LO is 15 months old and we’ve been trying since the spring. We really wanted an 18 month gap and it was happening but then I had a chemical. I am also still breastfeeding. Didn’t have a c section but had forceps. This is our last chance to have 2 under 2 and it’s making me so sad. It happened month 1 with DC1 but I was 25 and now I’m coming up 28

So sorry about your chemical - so tough to go through. It's very difficult when you start thinking in age gaps isn't it. There are so many people who warn against two under two though, so there may be a silver lining to this. That's how I'm trying to think! I totally understand how you feel but 28 is still so young. Wishing you loads of luck.

We're about to go into the fertile period again. Hoping we can give it a good go. And (not to bang on about it) I have accupuncture booked for before and after ovulation.

Then the blood test's towards end of Sept (assuming this time doesn't work!) ]

I'm just throwing some energy and money at the problem this month to see if it helps.

Oh and I've bought an Oura ring dupe to see if I can track some kind of BBT while still being up in the night with my toddler. Don't think it can work! But I have my data from previous months so I can at least compare.

I went for the scan. Good news is I don’t have the niche things. Ovaries all looking healthy and with follicles as expected.

She did find some adenomyosis. I think that can make it harder to conceive but was given the impression there’s not really a treatment for it beyond treating symptoms and she said it’s def not a red line against getting pregnant.

That sounds pretty positive! How are you feeling about it? Had you had any symptoms of adenomyosis before?

Sounds positive at least that it wasn't the issue you were concerned about and they were positive.

2dpo here so another tww but not feeling optimistic after DHs test results last week

Not really. Main symptoms are very heavy and painful periods. I would say mine are pretty heavy for a day or two but not insanely so. And not especially painful. Treatment seems to only be for the symptoms as far I can tell.

Overall relatively positive outcome. I was terrified it was the niche thing and that therefore it was caused by my decision to have a x section (in the midst of a failed induction).

How are things going for you?

I had some bloods and they’re abnormal so we may be facing IVF or similar. Going to give it a few months and lose some weight and then look into it properly in the new year. Devastating though as I should’ve been having a baby in January

Oh I’m so sorry - can I ask what the abnormalities were if you feel comfortable sharing? I need to look into cutting down on sugar and losing weight too. Just putting it off. I’m the same weight I was when I got pregnant with my LG but I guess I’m nearly three years older.

im having bloods done at the end of the month (unless I get preg I guess) so im interested in what abnormal looks like.

have had my two rounds of accupuncture, now 5dpo so will wait and see. Managed to hit the right dates and had a good ovulation surge on the sticks so I feel sort of hopeful. But also feel like I have some work to do to get to peak health.

Got that dupe Oura ring to try and track bbt but pretty sure it doesn’t work for that. Skin temp isn’t the same. Interesting to see how my sleep is affected by my toddler though.

wishing luck to everyone! Anyone in two week wait too?

9dpo here and bfn. Pretty sure it's not my month and finding it all very negative

Sorry to hear about the blood tests - it sounds like you are in a similar place to use as our miscarriage baby would have been born in January. We are keeping everything open until we've been trying at least a year and then will consider IVF