Anyone TTC number 2 in your mid-30s and fancy company?

[CasualOverthinker]

Anyone else TTC number 2 in their mid-30s and fancy some company? 😊

I’m 35, have a DD who is just about to turn 4, and we’ve just started our first cycle trying for number 2.

I feel like we’d just reached the glorious stage of proper sleep, no nappies, actual conversations and being able to leave the house without half of the house crammed into a changing bag… so naturally I decided what our lives really need is a newborn 😂

I went very Type A when TTC my DD and turned the whole thing into a project - LH strips, BBT, supplements, special lube, the works 🙈 This time I’m trying very hard to be more relaxed and go with the flow. Trying being the operative word 😂

Would love some company from anyone in a similar boat: TTC number 2, mid-30s, slightly excited, slightly questioning their own sanity and trying not to symptom spot at 2DPO 😂

PS. Currently on cycle 1 and my fertile window is just about closing, so now entering the very calm and rational part where I definitely won’t analyse every bodily sensation for the next two weeks 😂🙈

Hey! I’m 34 and my little one just turned 2 in June. Just around ovulation time in cycle 2, and very much like you thought I’d be very chill about it this time. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks with my first pregnancy so was desperate to be pregnant again after that. I thought already having a child would make me more relaxed but I’m already Lh testing and now i‘m obsessing over age gaps 🙈 can’t help our personality traits I guess!

I'm 33, and we are looking at TTC number 2 - delaying it slightly until the end of the year - only because I want to fit it around the academic school year (secondary teacher). I have 1 DD7 (8 in October) and we've only just felt ready both financially and physically/mentally for number 2

@Agathapoirot Oh I’m so sorry about your miscarriage ❤️ I can completely understand why TTC again after that felt so all-consuming.
But honestly 😂 I really thought already having one would make me so chilled this time too! Like, we know we can have children, we already have this lovely little person, whatever happens happens… meanwhile I’m on cycle ONE and have already mentally calculated potential due dates 🙈😂

@ByKindOpalPoet Oh wow, I completely get this! I think there’s so much pressure around the “ideal” age gap, but being financially and mentally ready feels infinitely more important.🩷 Also, planning TTC around the academic year is exactly the kind of logistical thinking I can get behind 😂 Although knowing my luck, the human body would take one look at my carefully planned timeline and immediately choose chaos …

Hi! A slightly different boat but also very similar and driving myself mad..

I'm 32, with a 4 (almost 5 year old) and TTC a sibling. I had a frozen embryo transfer three years ago and sadly had a missed miscarriage, then another attempt was a fail to implant. So on transfer number 3 now and technically 7DPO (2DP5DT). I'll be an early testing nightmare.

Really feel for the longer TWW for you guys.. at least I get 5 days shaved off mine!

Wishing everyone all the luck.

@Orchid887 Oh we are definitely in very similar boats age-gap wise! Mine is just about to turn 4 😊
I’m so sorry about your missed miscarriage and failed transfer ❤️ Really hoping transfer number 3 is the one for you 🤞
Also “I’ll be an early testing nightmare” 😂 welcome, you are absolutely among friends here. I got a faint positive at around 8DPO with my DD, which has unfortunately given me completely unrealistic expectations of myself and every future pregnancy 🙈😂
Please keep us updated! I’ll be crossing everything for you 🤞❤️

I’ll join the team!!
im 36 with a 5 year old. Lots of relationship drama and now I’m on my first cycle ttc with my new partner of 3 and a half years.

im trying to be really relaxed about it this time and I really want to enjoy the experience but im currently 6DPO waiting for my testing strips to arrive hehe

@dreamywalker Hahaha I love that “trying to be really relaxed” was immediately followed by “6DPO waiting for my testing strips to arrive” 😂😂 You are absolutely in the right place!
First cycle here too, although I’m only just coming out of my fertile window so I haven’t even earned the right to be unhinged yet 🙈😂 Really hope this is a lovely new chapter for you after all the relationship drama ❤️ Keep us updated when those strips arrive! 🤞

im half expecting that to happen. wouldn't surprise me if my body decided my birthday in September or my husbands birthday in December (3 days before Christmas) was the best time for a baby to arrive

Hi! I am 36 with a 3.5 year old trying for number 2 - technically for 4 months but we didn't really hit the dates for the first two months so not sure it counts. Got pregnant immediately without really trying with my first so this has all been new to me. Just entering the 2ww so bracing myself for constant symptom analysis and insanity

@wfcats Oh you are definitely among friends here 😂 Mine was conceived pretty quickly too, so I think part of my brain has very unhelpfully decided that must be how it works every time 🙈
I’m just entering the 2WW too, so very happy to join you in calmly and rationally analysing whether a random twinge at 3DPO means anything 😂 When are you planning to test? 👀

@CasualOverthinker same! I was honestly shocked it didn't happen first time. My period is due the 24th...after testing obsessively last month I said this month I would wait until the day before but realistically...probably from the 19th. How about you?

Hello ladies. 36 and ttc no 2 for quite some time now. Currently coming towards the end of my fertile window of cycle 3 since a MC a few months back.

Oh stop 😂 Mine is due the 24th too!! We are officially cycle twins 👀😂
I would love to sit here and tell you I’m going to calmly wait until my period is due, but I got a faint positive around 8DPO with my DD and unfortunately that information has lived rent free in my head ever since 🙈😂 So realistically… I’ll probably start far too early and then complain that I’ve started far too early.
Looks like we’re doing the insanity together 😂🤞

@Diamond89 I’m so sorry about your MC ❤️ Really hoping cycle 3 is the one for you 🤞
Sounds like we’re at a very similar point in our cycles too… I’m just coming towards the end of my fertile window, so I think the 2WW is about to begin 🙈 Have you been tracking ovulation or trying to be one of these mythical relaxed people I keep hearing about?

Me! I'm 33, have a daughter who is almost 5 and we've been trying for 10 months. DD was conceived first month of trying so I'm losing my mind a bit that its taking so long.

Every month I tell myself I will be less obsessive and more relaxed about the whole thing but chilled really isnt my wheelhouse so of course I've got all the apps and strips and temp tracking going 😁

Also this heat is driving me insane because my last fertile window I was too sweaty and fed up to have that much sex and its looking the same for this window 🤣

My DD is 5 too and conceived 2nd month so absolutely get the mind boggling waiting for it to happen again! I’m still trying to remain positive that when the time’s right it’ll work out but that might be seriously naive!

36 soon to be 37 & been trying casually since October 🙂 trying not to put much pressure on it as my cycles are different each month so struggling to track correct ovulation

edited to add first child is nearly 2 & a half 🙂

@Stilettosandbrokenb0ttles Oh I can completely understand why you’re losing your mind a bit after conceiving DD first month ❤️ I think our first experiences really set expectations in our heads, whether we mean them to or not 🙈 Really hoping this is your cycle 🤞

Also “chilled really isn’t my wheelhouse” 😂 same. I announced I was going with the flow this time and have somehow found myself discussing cervical mucus with strangers on the internet within cycle 1, so that’s going brilliantly 😂

And YES to the heat. We’ve just finished our fertile window and by the end it was less baby-making romance and more a team-building endurance exercise 🤣

@xTryingForBabyNo2 Welcome 😊 Trying casually since October and still managing not to put too much pressure on it sounds suspiciously healthy and well-adjusted compared to the rest of us 😂🙈

That must be really tricky with your cycles changing each month though! Are you using anything to track ovulation or mostly going by symptoms?
Mine is nearly 4, so I’m loving seeing all the different age gaps here too 😊

@CasualOverthinker(love the username!). Thank you, I have everything crossed for you too! Ahah, I got a BFP at 4DP5DT, so 9DPO with my daughter. 5DP5DT with my loss so I'll obviously start testing tomorrow because now 8dpo equivalent feels possible...!
Though the embryo hadn't hatched this time, but was getting there. So hopefully I'll know fairly soon with some obsessive testing!

Fingers crossed, this time in two days I'll be fretting about line darkness!

Gosh, it's going to be the longest couple days!

Oh I’ll join, mid 30s with a toddler, expecting to start cycle 3 any day now. I had a mc and then my dd, I got pregnant quickly both times though, and I’m very type A, so not getting it ‘right’ is frustrating me. I’m going to throw everything at it this next cycle, I’m doing bbt, and opks, and ill probably through some superstitions and old wives tales in there to cover my bases 😂

Hi! I'm 33 with a 2.5 yo. Started ttc #2 a couple months ago. Had a chemical pregnancy cycle 2, just finished bleeding so back to LH testing to try work out what my cycle does now!

No way, I am delighted to have company for the madness! I got my peak Wednesday night so I think i ovulated Thursday or Friday, how about you?

With my first I was so unbothered - I felt a bit funny so casually did a test at lunch in the work toilet about 5 days before my period was due. It was of negative so I genuinely forgot all about it and then realised on the Monday that my period was late and retested. I had it in my head that trying for a baby can take a year so that's what I was expecting, it was a simpler time.

Hahaha thank you! 😊
Oh no, you’ve got previous early positives too… I fear we’re both victims of our own success there 😂 It really doesn’t help when your brain has receipts from last time saying “well it happened before…” 🙈
I completely understand why you’ll start testing tomorrow. Everything crossed that this is the cycle and that in a couple of days you’re worrying about line progression instead 🤞❤️ Please keep us posted - I’ll be rooting for you!

Oh hello fellow Type A 😂🙋‍♀️ I completely get the frustration, especially when you’ve got previous quick conceptions sitting there as your brain’s completely unhelpful benchmark 🙈
I said I was going to be much more relaxed this time, but I’m one negative test away from putting crystals under the bed and facing east after sex, so please do share any old wives’ tales you uncover 😂
Really hope cycle 3 is the one for you 🤞❤️