***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

[mummy2olivia]

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

Go Swimmers Go!!!!!!!! Am wishing them a speedy journey and I hope that they find what they're looking for! Yay!

I'm off to bed too........ 2009 is a tiring year so far Night night x

Just had another chess match... twice in a row is pretty good going for us!

I have my fingers crossed for you Becky! Am impressed with the twice in a row thing! Bet your dh is too

lol

lucky u becky..
am not in the mood to be touched, let alone play chess
mojooo....come back... lol

Oh Nandos I remember that. I didn't have sex for three months with each of my DSs. Yuck city! I remember just feeling sick at the thought of it. It'll come back...around week 14 for me!

I remember that too Becky - poor dh only got it twice in the whole time I was expecting ds

How's the sickness Nandos? Hope you're doing okay. When's your next scan?

I've got a question for you all - my AF is due on Monday(ish) and I've been having bits of period pain for the last couple of days, which I never normally get. Today it's like someone's pinching the inside of my tummy. Anyone else had this? Am defo NOT pg so it's not anything like that. Am just a bit worried as to what it could be...

M2O I tried to get on word challenge this morning to find out what it is, and nothing came up - I'll try again later! How are you?

Poppy How are you doing? Hope all is okay!

Oh god, I've just been torturing myself by reading the 'due Dec 08' thread. They have had their babies and are talking about what life is like with their new babies and I recognise so many of the names from the few weeks I was on that thread. How strange. Reading it made me feel so strange.

oh becky pls don't.. it will make u even sadder reading all those stuffs..well im not heartless or anything, am happy for them but if i go there, i'll get very upset and have a breakdown or something
MBM, am feeling sick sick sick..u dont even need to ask me sometimes i wonder why i got into all this..
re your pinching pain, is it on the centre or side of your tummy? might be the ovaries if its on the sides. i always have pain on one side cos' one of the ovaries always have a cyst after ov and that ovary always double in size! that may have caused the pain cos' i saw it in the scan when i had ovary/uterus scan last yr..
i got to go now cos' got a dinner party ..will be back later hopefully

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I've been back there too Becky- very sad. Have had to stop myself going on there and looking to see who has had their babies because its just torturing myself really. very strange- bit like picking a scab- you do it then think 'oh thats made it worse...'

Have filled in a questionnaire today for new acupuncturist- she also wants me AND DH (he isnt having any acu) to keep a food diary each for a week- it is all VERY in depth. In fact just filling in the questionnaire, I can see LOADS that we are doing wrong- shit food, not enough water (DH) and I am waaaaay too anxious. The first session is on the 17th and we both have to go for a fertility awareness session before I have my treatment. CAN'T WAIT!!! She did say when she phoned me that she doesnt just stick pins in people- she looks at the whole picture of their lifestyle and offers advice on relaxation, nutrition and health. Its all very Zita West based (my idol) and we are going to try and follow it as best we can.

Looked up some stuff on Bach flower essence too and have invested in some white chestnut- it stops you from thinking things over too much (especially if it is one thing going through your mind all the time- such as babies!) and is especially good for women who are trying to conceive and feel anxious, jealous and dare I say it....bitter Have had 2 drops of it today and cant wait to see if it does the trick and makes me feel calmer. I'm just an old hippy at heart I think!

Hope you are all ok and are having a good start to the new year!

xxx

I know I shouldn't have done it but temptation got in the way....and now to make me feel worse I've just lost a pair of boots I really wanted on ebay! Gutted! DH bid for me and did the sniper thing too but still lost. He doesn't understand how sad I am! I mean, it's only a pair of boots!!!!

Nandos am thinking of you. It will get better. You will feel better soon.

We played chess again tonight. Three games in a row! There is no way I can play again tomorrow. My chess pieces ache.

m2o just seen your status on facebook. How long is he going away for? I hate it when my DH has to go away. It doesn't happen very often anymore (he used to be an IT trainer and regularly had weeks away).

LOL re aching chess pieces!

M2O Not seen status but has he left already? Hope you're not too lonely if he has! Your acu lady sounds fab - hope it works! Let us know whether the white chestnut works Am obsessed already and we haven't even started ttc again yet!

Think am going loopy today - wrote a post earlier re the antenatal threads and then when I came on before it wasn't there Am thinking it's ds' fault He keeps on coming into the kitchen, grabbing my hand and leading me awaaay from the computer Think maybe I was just about to post but didn't...or something. Was convinced I had though!

Been cooking all day today as we have friends coming round for lunch tomorrow. Last thing I had to make was a lemon cheesecake, but after today my fingers are v sore and have little cracks in them - ow!!! Should have made it first

Have a lovely rest of weekend all of you. Nandos So sorry that you're still feeling sick - are you about 10 weeks now? Hopefully it should start to ease a little soon x

He went at 8 this morning and comes back at 7 in the morning on the 17th I cried my eyes out when he went this morning which is horrible for him- he stood there looking really sad and awkward while the taxi was pipping his horn I HATE him going away. And he is away for 'magic week' which we are both very gutted about.

On a positive note- while he is away I am going to detox! lemon and hot water in the morning, 2 litres of water a day and 10 portions of fruit and veg. I cant do it when he is here because he is a gannit! It will probably make me much more miserable but am gonna give it a go- I've put on so much weight this past year and used my sadness as an excuse to comfort eat, I need to do something about it. No more chocolate feel shit about it already!

Detox sounds good! I should do that too (she says chomping on a quality street).

We'll keep you company while you're home alone, as best we can on here!

We're watching Padding Bear at the moment here. Makes me feel old. These episodes were made in 1975 when I was three! DS1 couldn't quite get that when I tried to explain.

Thanks Becky- am mooching around at the mo while DD watches the golden compass. I have got some sausages out to make a casserole but now feel like just eating toast or something- cooking for 1 and a half is shit!!

word challenge is good company too

where are you all? xxx

Oooohh hello!!!! I'm here....just! M2O poor you, hope you're not missing him too much... At least with today being Monday he'll be coming home NEXT week Doesn't seem that long if you think of it that way! Is the golden compass any good? Is that the one on Sky Movies quite a lot at the mo? Hope DD enjoyed it.
Think it's a brill idea re detox, sounds a pretty tough plan though! Rather you than me I bet it will make you feel great after 10 days of doing it. With that plus your acupuncture let's hope that things start to work in your favour v soon.

Becky Yum re Quality Street! Which are your favourites? I'm a bit of a strawberry cream girl... We had two tins over Christmas, and there are still loads left in both so am going to make myself very popular and take them into school when I go back on Thursday - some of my colleagues will be very excited to try english chocolate

We've had a shit day today - we ran out of heating oil last night (is very weird over here) after I'd told dh loads over the last few weeks to order some more... So last night we were FREEZING as there was absolutely no heating and no hot water This morning we woke (shivering) to 6 inches of snow. Brrrrrrrrrrrr. The oil guy managed to get here this afternoon to fill the tank, but I spent most of the morning sitting with ds (dh buggered off to gym ) trying but failing to keep the fire going with damp pieces of wood. I was furious. The poor dogs were soooo cold too. DS' lips even started turning blue! Anyway, had a row with DH when I told him to grow up and face his responsibilities and he stormed out like a petulant child to stand with his arms crossed, under a tree, with NO coat on, giving death stares my way. What a great day. All is warmer now though, and dh has said sorry. Apparently it's going to be -11 here tonight, and -14 tomorrow night I hate the cold!!!!!

Oh, forgot the best bit - the oil lorry skidded on the way out of the drive, and took with it our brick wall and letter box. What a truly shit day!

Anyway, can't be on too long as it's still pretty chilly in the kitchen so will go and plonk myself down in front of the tv and snuggle up under a blanket

Hope you're all okay and have had a better day than us over here!

I'm sorry MBM, but the image of your DH standing under a tree giving you evils has really made me giggle It does sound like you have had a shit day- poor you. hope you are ok now

Spoke to DH tonight on MSN cos he is at work and he says he is really lonely we are a right sad pair- we do everything together, hardly ever argue and we pine for eachother when he goes away. what a pair of saddo's- but then we are still newly weds really.Give it a couple of years and we will probably chill on the affection I think he is actually my soul mate- do you think they exsist? I do- Simon is mine. [vomit]

I have LOADS of chocolates here and am resisting them because of the detox- any takers???

I'm going to make a note of my food diary on here cos my diary pages are too small and I need to remember them for the acu lady, hope you don't mind. Feel free to comment on my forced starvation

bowl of special k plus soya milk
2 hot cross buns with lurpak (slipped up)
lamb chop plus steamed broccoli and carrots and roast potatoes
steamed jam sponge and custard (shit- slipped up again)
apple
1 detox tea
1 litre of water

That doesnt look as good now ive written it down

She isnt going to be very impressed with that is she?! Have got all my food ready for tomorrow which amounts to erm...sweet FA so should be better tomorrow.

love to all xxxx

Is jam a portion of fruit?

I like orange and strawberry creams best. I used to love the coffee ones but they don't make those anymore .

MBM what a day! That really is a bad hair day. Am sending you warm vibes. We had about 2 milimetres of snow last night...big wow!

m2o excuse me while I vomit copiously over here... just joking. I think what you said about your DH is lovely.

Here's my food diary for the day:
Two quality street and cup of coffee.
Two pieces of brown toast with butter.
One Thorntons Celebration with cup of coffee.
Two cheese, tom, cucumber sandwiches on brown bread with tomato relish and mayonnaise.
Packet of Mango baked Walkers crisps.
Bottle of Coke Zero.
One quality street.
A few tit bits from DS's tea (chicken gratin made yesterday).
A packet of parma violets.
Lamb chop, cabbage, coleslaw and mash potato.
Glass of grapefruit juice.
One Terry's choco orange piece.
One Thornton's Celebration.
Cup of tea.

Detox or not??? Not!!! That looks terrible written down!

You've both made me giggle Thank you!

Tbh M2O seeing dh stood under the tree made me laugh too (but don't tell him that )
Before I say anything else can I please put my hand up to say YES I will have your chocolate, thanks!!! Think I deserve it after all the palava today! Also think I would be doing you a favour in helping your detox go to plan. I loved the slip-ups! LOL Apart from the obvious, that looks like a very good day.
As for soul mates, yes I believe they do exist (vomity moment coming up here too...) From a few hours after I met dh I believed he was my soul mate, and he thought I was too (that was independently verified so I believe him ). I think we are perfect for each other, despite his little strops occasionally! Without them I would be bored You seem so happy with Simon, and it seems like you have a wonderful relationship. You are obviously lucky to have each other. It's so sweet that you pine for each other, you must be desperate for him to come home! I hope the time doesn't drag too much for you...

Becky You know what struck me when I looked at your food diary - you have willpower! Only 1 or 2 of each naughty thing. Am v impressed! What are Mango baked crisps?? Yay, we are both fruit cream girls . That must say something about us... I loved the coffee creams too, is terrible that they stopped putting them in!

Right, I shall join in with this and write my food diary down too. Might inspire me to stop with the sweeties

Half a piece of toast and a cup of tea.
Two Quality Street.
Vegetable and Lentil soup (homemade!) [proud emoticon]
Quiche Lorraine (I made it yay!), couscous and a green salad.
Lots of mayonnaise.
Small slice of lemon cheesecake.
Four iced gems.
Toast with lemon curd and tea (shared with ds ).
Four chocolate tree decorations (shared with ds)
Fishfinger sandwiches with peas and lentil stew.
Copious amounts of ketchup and mayonnaise
Three Quality Street and a cup of tea.

On assessing the above all I can think is oops . Not exactly brilliant is it...

Off to bed now, night night xxx

PS M2O Good luck for tomorrow!!! Bet you will have a fab detoxing day

I bought myself a pedometer yesterday and I've burnt 135 calories walking DS1 to school. So can I have a few Quality Street now do you think?

Today is the first day back at school here and I miss DS1 already.

mbm I love fish finger sandwiches - esp with melted cheese and ketchup. Oh yum. I think your food diary is about the same as mine: some good stuff, a few bits of bad stuff but not excessive amounts. I think m2o's food diary looked good and inspires me to try to do better...

My experience of getting together with my DH is totally different to you m2o and mbm. When I first met him I didn't fancy him AT ALL and we were just friends (he was such a geek in those days - he was a member of the Dr Who Appreciation Society). Then he got a crush on me and I found him too intense. I just wanted to have fun! I was only 19 and so not ready for all that. When I snogged one of our mutual friends he was really upset (oh what a horrible person I am). Our friendship got better shortly after that when he got himself a girlfriend and we stayed good friends for 10 years. Then I moved back from Japan (had been there two years) back to the UK and moved in with him as friends so I could find a job and two months later I thought 'hang on, I actually quite fancy him now' and gave him a snog much to his utter surprise! Then we got married two years later. He was my soul mate as a friend before we got together. He was my best male friend. I think if we had gone out at 19 it would have ended in tears. I can't imagine not being with him now.

Hello Poppy and Nandos I hope you are ok.

PS Mango Crisps are a flavour they have in those Walkers Baked (ie supposed to be less rubbish for you) crisps. I've only ever seen them in Waitrose and Tescos as they are my favourite flavour. They are spicy and I love spicy crisps. I would be surprised if you can find them in Belgium! I lived in Holland when I was a student and I remember having to eat massive bags of crisps or tubs of pringles, not nice little ones we have over here.