The Wagon rambles on - and my goodness so do we...yet another thread for TTC'ers and those waiting to TTC

[calsworld]

Sorry, decided not to wait for a vote....hope its OK!

tee-hee - it was obviously pg brain kicking in!

No you aren't a troll.

Its funny how as soon as someone posts something like that everyone shouts "TROLL"

Hi again. Have had lovely long lie in this morning, can't remember the last one, am still lazing in bed but must get up as Tesco man could be here in half an hour and I really don't want delivery in my pyjamas. Knowing my luck he won't turn up till about 1 but hey ho!

Its definitely AF, absolutely no question - Teuch you're our stat queen, any clues on what my bodies up to? Just an earlier OV perhaps?

Kooky, yay for having a cycle buddy, I need all the help I can get.

On the downside, I did some reading about endometriosis again this morning (was dx years ago so haven't read about it for ages and not in relation to pg as had no problems 1st time round) and horrified at fact that there are loads of reasons that endo could be stopping me from getting pg. Feeling a bit of an ignoramus for not having read up on it before really.

Anyhoo, am wondering, does anyone else have it or any knowledge of it? If a 'normal' person has to be TTC for a year before being able to get help from docs, can I get it sooner do you think? Have been trying for six months / five cycles now.

Pop, never start an AIBU again!!

That bloody Cappuccino, is doing my head in.

Cal - it does sound like you either ovulated early or perhaps an annovulatory cycle? I know nothing but the basics of endo, but I would go to your GP and ask for a referral on that basis.

You could always start a thread - Attila is the resident MN expert on these kinds of things but there are lots of people with endo?

Mine too. I've had one last say and now I've stopped posting on that thread. If i ever feel the need to post on AIBU again then i will run it past you lot first . I imagine Cappunccino to be the sort of woman who rolls out of a pub and starts a brawl in the street. Hope she isn't reading this too - she will only hijack this thread and start up with her torrent of abuse.

Cal - my cousin and a friend both have it. They went on to have the op and it was successful. I think one had been trying for 6 months and one for a year. Why don't you make an appointment and see what they say.

OOO Pop, never start a thread like that in AIBU!!! Sorry you got slated its never nice to happen and I would never slate an OP no matter what they do. You don't deserve abuse, u are not a bad person just maybe a little naive about how strongly this sort of thing is viewed by the disabled community. However, sorry to say I would be siding against you. Having spent 2 years with a blue badge myself, struggling to find spaces, putting up with the "I'll only be 10 mins" crap when there are no other disabled spaces and other peoples "she doesn't look disabled" comments parking in disabled spaces really angers me. I think when you are disabled you spend your whole day fighting, everything is an effort, and when you finally secure a blue badge (I had to fight for one for a year) and you can't park in a space you need it is yet another frustration that could be avoided. Over the 2 years I had my badge I had so much abuse hurled at me by people parking in disabled bays without a badge it starting to feel like a constant fight. I suppose its all part of the "its not my condition but the steps to the building that disables me" problem, you know, so I might be capable of walking 200m with sticks so I can go the the bank without a wheelchair as long as I can park in the disabled bay outside, if you can't because someone without a badge is there you are unable to go about your "normal" life because of able-bodied ignorance/selfishness. This is why people get so angry and emotive over this subject. Its probably hard to understand if you have never experienced it but even though its been 3 years since I used my badge it is still something that I am passionate about. Not trying to have a go by the way just trying to gently explain the angry view points.

Cal - sorry its def AF. You could book an apt and see what happens or maybe give it one more cycle so its been 6 cycles rather than 6 months. I've always taken the 6 months thing to mean 6 cycles. I could be wrong but as most people seem to go by the 28 day cycle then I just assumed the 6 months thing was based on 6 cycles.

Lol POP! I never post in them but I ahd to post in yours.

I hate that whole topic as I have said.

Btw my comments are not aimed at you, but in OP'ers in general because they all end up the same ime.....just to be clear.

The name-calling was uncalled for.

Morning (Again!) all! Had a lazy one so far and feeling quite calm all things considered!

Don't think I've told you but DH is actually away in Spain with work for a few days. I knew that when I booked the scan but we both just wanted to know what's going on sooner rather than later. Have a good friend going with me instead and she's takin gme to lunch first! She's picking me up about midday and then scan at 2.40.

Sorry - I know my posts have been quite "Ses focussed" but am finding this thread great company on the ttc journey.

Playing, I thought that as I was typing it actually!

I guess I'm not disappointed this month coz last month I kind of realised that I am in it for the long haul and the only reason I wanted it to be quick was so that the age gap between DS and DC2 wasn't too big - and yes, I know there's no such thing as too big in most peoples minds, its just not what I wanted.

I have a picture next to my bed that's partially hidden - I've had it since childhood, its a scrawny little kitten with its front paws over the top of a handle on an old fashioned basket, the caption says "faith isn't faith until its all you're holding on to", which is a bit religous for me, but change "faith" to "hope" and its all the same thing...

Ses - with what you're going through, its perfectly OK to be ses focussused! I just don't know what to say coz it could be quite a difficult day for you. Fingers crossed its all good though.

Oh - and have you read my posts recently?

Its all me, me, me, me, me!

Playing - thanks for kindly telling me that I was in the wrong. You have made your point in a mature, kind way and that makes me see the error of my ways far more clearly than being called names.

Changing the subject - where's the sun gone? Looks like it's going to rain (that will make a change - not). I didn't pack a cardy in DD's bag and she is wearing a thin summer top today. Poor child.

The air con in the office is on super freeze. I reckon they do it to try and keep us all awake. Well, it's working although I can hardly type as my fingers feel like they have rigour mortis.

Just my 2p worth but if your cyces were irregular, for instance anything over 35 days, then waiting for six cycles would mean more time lost.

I think anything over 35 is not considered 'normal' isn't it? The manufacturers of fertility monitors recommend not using them if you are over 35 cycles.

I would personally go for an appt. now because the wheels turn very slowly in the NHS.

Tis ok Pop, didn't mean that to sound nasty, hope it cam across ok. There is never any excuse for name calling, it doesn't serve to explain but I am not surprised. We all "know" you as the lovely person you are and know you did not do it out of spite! Oh an re the sun we've still got some blus sky here but its def clouding up.

You could be right about Cal sorky. I was thinking that she had one huge cycle and the rest were less than 35 days. Could be wrong though.

I have long cycles (between 31-38 days) and went to the doctor about them but he wasn't concerned. They are mainly 35 days and less but the odd one is a little longer. Mind you, some of that is my health issues, when I was really ill my periods stopped completely for nearly a year and have been irregular since. It is only now that they are pretty much "normal" even if they are slightly on the long side. Still I am aware it may effect my ability to conceive but would rather give it a go now for a while without the pressure then if it doesn't work, insist on more tests. I plan to enjoy my unprotected sex for fun for as long as I can because I know for a fact when I am stressed it delays/stops my ovulation.

Right - I'm off to get ready to go out for lunch and my big afternoon! Thanks for all your support guys. I'll let you know how I get on....

hey you lot - I think this lady needs some of our pushyness to test here

NJ and Kay - you two are a dab hand at this - get over there

Oh and Cal, I love your "faith isn't faith until its all you're holding on to", I agree it works just as well if you substitute it with hope.

where are LL and Moos?

No idea, its actually quite quiet on here today...

Hi guys, I'm not really here either - I am a figment. Just popping on briefly at work. Sorely tempted to kind of slip off the wagon in so much as we just let nature take its course......I'm like 78 per cent sure we should say 'to hell with it' - that's not enough though is it?......I'm doing that 'if we just sorted our finances a bit more, if I was in my new job a bit longer, if if if....'

PUSH...

Afternoon everyone:

Ses - good luck, have got my fingers crossed for you this afternoon, hope all goes well and you have a lovely lunch with your pal.

FF has changed my ov date again - it is now back to Saturday 31st. I'm not entirely convinced by this temping malarky - I don't think it is very accurate (the way I do it) as I keep waking up/being woken up in the night, and temps are all over the place... hence ov date keeps changing... grrr... well, will be testing next week, but not got hopes anywhere near up at the moment, don't feel pg at all.

Right - dd is asleep, have got baking to do this afternoon, so will try to pop on and off as and when.

Hope everyone is ok?!!

I think you will always have some doubts Cosmo.

What convinced me was DH. He has always said to me whenever I want kids I can have them, we agreed that last year but the sums did not add up, so we agreed to wait. I was adament I didn't want him to do it to just to please me, I wanted him to feel happy with the decision as well. So on the Monday after talking to you guys, Dh and I had a little chat via MSN at work, told him I was thinking of starting ttcing and why and wanted him to think about it so we could chat tonight. When he arrived home he said he had been thinking about it all afternoon and as long as I could make the sums add up (I control the finances in our house) he would be absoluted delighted to start. Having reviewed the budget I said we could but if it happened quickly we would have to dip into our savings for a couple of months, again he was happy with that, particularly when I reminded him it was unlikely to happen straight away. Knowing that he was excited and happy made me know it was the right decision.

Oh and as for work, mine will be a bit at me for being pg and I've been here 2 years. I think some workplaces are always secrectly anti and no matter how long you've been there you will get the same reaction. Can't see how a few months would make any differnce to the reaction. Plus, you can't live your life trying to please work.