TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

[MocktailMe]

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Hi everyone!

I can't quite believe it but after a while year we only went and filled the last thread.

I'll tag you all below so that you can find me!

If anyone silently reading along wants to keep following - here's the place. If anyone wants to read the fertility journey for the last year have a look through the last thread.

Thanks so much for sharing that @lavafield it’s really good to hear from someone who has been through it! I’ll certainly see if the consultant will give me his opinion even though I know they’re not allowed away us either way. I feel like there are such pros and cons for both. I also know that inductions can often end in sections and I’ve heard that recovery from an emergency section can be even worse than recovery from a planned section so it’s really hard to know what to do but I’ll try get a good steer today. I have heard that too about babies often not being as large as they estimated!

Not sure it will ever be something I need to worry about, but if I'm ever lucky enough to make it to term I already know I want an ELCS.

Emergency surgery was the scariest thing I've been through, I'd much rather have a planned section and not worry about needing an emergency one. Not that there's a right choice, but if you choose one you shouldn't feel bad.

As my update, I'm due to have another transfer next cycle. I'm only CD12 currently and will begin drugs on my next CD1 - so just a couple of weeks time. Transfer is likely to be towards the end of May.

We are adding blood thinners this time, which might help avoid early miscarriage, if this transfer also takes. They didn't want me to do a double transfer so we will be sticking with a single again.

@MocktailMe Good to get your updates! I am in awe how resilient and strong you are, keep going! Adding blood thinners might be the thing you needed!? I know someone who failed to get pregnant for many years until she started taking blood thinners early. Wishing you all the best for your next transfer! ❤️

@WaitingformiracleYes, that was also a factor for my decision, inductions can escalate to emergency sections. And recovery from an emergency section is much more difficult as the body has already gone through the stresses of the induction

Hi ladies, I just wanted to let you know that our miracle baby girl arrived safely this day two weeks ago 🩷 I had an induction turned c section and the recovery has been more difficult than I expected but we are just so happy she is here and safe. I hope you are all keeping well! @MocktailMe I am thinking of you and hope that preparations for your next transfer are going well!

Oh that's lovely news @Waitingformiracle (you'll have to change your name now!). I was actually thinking about you just this morning you know. I'm so pleased your baby is safely here. You deserve it so so much and I hope you enjoy every moment.

I'm currently on my estrogen at the moment, and hopefully will be having my transfer on the 21st May. I'm doing regular 5k runs at the moment and I am physically in much better shape than I was a month ago after the most recent loss. Praying this will be our lucky miracle, but trying not to expect anything.

Congratulations @Waitingformiracle ! I was thinking about you, so glad to hear she's arrived safely and I hope you're getting on ok in these early days, especially with a more difficult recovery. Listen to your body, it'll tell you if you've over done it 😅

@MocktailMe I'll be thinking of you on the 21st and have my fingers crossed! You're doing amazingly keeping such good care of yourself through everything, your mind and body will thank you for it xx

@Waitingformiracle huge congratulations ❤️ what beautiful news. Hope recovery improves be kind to yourself ❤️

@MocktailMe good luck for the next transfer and glad you’re feeling in good shape! Hope the exercise is helping you mentally too ❤️

@Waitingformiracle Huge congratulations on a safe arrival of your miracle baby girl!! Excellent news! I have also been thinking about you! wishing you a smooth recovery, take it easy - it does get better every single day!

@MocktailMe
How was your transfer?! How are you feeling? I am glad to hear you were in a top form for the transfer! Yay!

Thanks for checking in @lavafield

The transfer all went smoothly and I'm currently 6DP5DT (11dpo) testing positive 🥹🥹🥹 I'm praying like anything this baby is coming home with me.

I hope everyone is well!!!

Oh @MocktailMe this is just the best news to read!! My postpartum self is genuinely in tears having seen this. I couldn’t be happier for you. Keeping everything crossed that this is your rainbow 🌈 💛 please keep us posted!!

@lavafield @CharLdn @Tater05 thank you so much for your well wishes. I hope all is well with you all?

@Waitingformiracle thanks for rooting for me!! I really hope all is well with you and your baby 💗

This is 7dp5dt 🫣 it's all so very nerve wracking at this early stage!

@MocktailMe I know it must be so nerve wracking and hard to keep the faith when you’ve been burned so many times. What is your “test date” for your clinic (as if you could wait until then 🤣 I certainly did not).

All is well with her thank you 🩷 exhausted but so happy xx

I'm 33 TTC 3 month also, aunt flow due Sat 🥲 feeling the same

You might be better off finding a new thread at this stage, all the OG ladies on here are pregnant/have children, and I'm currently newly pregnant again following IVF. Have a read through as there's loads of discussion and advice and experience from my journey of 2.5 years and the other ladies too. Very best of luck x

I'm so pleased to hear!

My OTD is Wednesday so still a few nerve wracking days left! I do think if it goes smoothly to there I might feel better? Then if it goes smoothly to 6 weeks, then the 7 week scan, then the 8 weeks maybe I will calm down?

It's just so so hard 🫣 this is the third time I've been pregnant this year. BUT it is the only time I've been on the blood thinners which really should be giving me a better chance this time.

@MocktailMe my best advice is just to take it one day at a time and do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel a bit more reassured and get through the first trimester. For me that meant taking a LOT of pregnancy tests, honestly I took them for weeks. I also did a number of private betas just to ease my worries. And I also booked in a lot of private scans once I got to 6/7 weeks onwards. My husband thought I was being a bit obsessive but honestly I just needed to do that and it did help somewhat. Once I got that first private scan and saw there was a baby in there with a heartbeat it helped a lot. I didn’t stop worrying a single day of my pregnancy being totally honest, but it became more manageable every day and once I started feeling movement etc it was so reassuring. For me I also found limiting time on social media and forums was helpful because I saw a lot of triggering comments about loss which totally sent me spiralling. Pregnancy after loss is SO hard and all of the innocence and joy does get stolen from us, but it can still be wonderful and I did really try to let myself be happy and bond with baby at the same time while guarding my heart

Thank you so much.

I think the very first thing I want to do is do a 6 week blood test to find out the sex of the baby. That might sound totally crazy but I think it will help me bond with the baby.

I can already see myself spending a fortune on early scans!!! But I do want to have the first one be at either the clinic or EPU for sure and I know that won't be until 7 weeks usually.

I know I will find it near impossible to stop testing. I know I will test daily at least until probably 20 days post transfer!! Then I expect still every few days to check!

@MocktailMe this is so great to see 🤞 everything crossed!!!!!

I was an obsessive tester and then had a 6 week/8 week and 12 week scan.

It took me really until the 20 week scan got my anxiety to calm down.

I’m good now 32 weeks and feeling very round and slow but if I think back to this time last year I just feel so incredibly greatful! We started ante natal classes so it’s all feeling very real.

We’re also on 4 week scans so that’s actually quite reassuring.

Keep us posted @MocktailMe ❤️

Hello ladies hope everyone is well!

Congratulations on the the arrival of your baby girl @Waitingformiracle

@MocktailMe this is such good news !!!! Please keep us posted!

@CharLdn good luck in the last few weeks!

What a wonderful update @MocktailMe!! It must be an anxious time but hope you are as relaxed and calm as it can possibly be! Will be thinking about you and that little developing human! ❤️

The title of this thread is 'Looking for Others in the Same Boat... WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES.' I am 33, have been trying for over half a year—with the last 3 months being heavily tracked with tests and apps—and I am navigating a diagnosed fertility condition (adenomyosis), so I am in this boat.
It's interesting you say I'd be better off finding a new thread because 'all the OG ladies are pregnant.' Back when you were still in the trenches, you welcomed a member trying for 6 months by telling them, 'Absolutely you can join us... We've got pregnancies, IVF, natural trying... all sorts.'
It seems the moment you got your own positive test, your empathy vanished and you decided to start gatekeeping. Flexing your pregnancy on someone who just expressed sadness about their period being due is incredibly unkind. I’ll happily find a space with a bit more basic empathy.

Hi @GorgeousWizard , I'm sorry you've taken MocktailMe's reply negatively. It's not that you're not welcome to join, you absolutely are, it's more that you probably won't gain as much from this thread anymore. I found it really helpful keeping in touch with others who are still going through TTC but this thread is more likely to be updates on how pregnancies and the newborn stages are going.
I do wish you all the best and I hope you're not in the TTC trenches too much longer, I haven't forgotten how tough it is. And I hope reading through these posts gives you some hope! X

The reply you have quoted is a year old. Back then most of the group were actively trying.

It's not to do with how long you've been trying, simply that I did feel you might prefer a group where more ladies are actively trying.

I did wish you the very best of luck and encouraged you to read the thread which is full of great advice.

It's a shame you haven't done so, as if you had you might have seen that this is my third pregnancy this year - 6th since starting the original thread. No living children. I would never flex a fresh pregnancy on anyone, I'm hardly even INTO the woods myself, never mind out of them. Such a shame to bring such negativity onto what has been such a supportive thread.

I do wish you the very best, we all know the hell (which is why I did suggest a new thread, if these ladies hadn't been talking to me so long I know i would have found all the pregnancy stuff difficult to read).

Brilliant news! So happy to see this. I don't think it's crazy at all to find out the gender as early as possible, it didn't even slightly feel real to me until we had our gender scan. And honestly do whatever you need to do to feel reassured, whether it's testing or booking scans, it's an anxious time. Please continue to keep us updated!