TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

[MocktailMe]

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Hi everyone!

I can't quite believe it but after a while year we only went and filled the last thread.

I'll tag you all below so that you can find me!

If anyone silently reading along wants to keep following - here's the place. If anyone wants to read the fertility journey for the last year have a look through the last thread.

@lavafield thank you!! I’m really hoping all is looking ok in there tomorrow and it will be so nice to see the baby now at this size! And to find out the gender! Hard to believe you are just a few weeks away! Glad you are getting good care and they are going to bring you on early to avoid any risks. We will all be so excited to hear your news when baby arrives! 🤍

Thank you @PearOpal!!

Well here I am in the TWW getting my hopes up likely for no reason again. 7DPO and when I tell you I’ve even exhausted all week despite going to be early every single night. Plus my BBT is just on a steep incline of temp rises. I’m expecting it to drop in the next day or two but in the meantime I’m trying to keep reminding myself that we basically blew past my ovulation window so there’s like 0 chance.

@Waitingformiracle Best of luck with the scan today! It's such a lovely feeling to see an actual baby shape in there after seeing a little blob! I hope it goes really well.

@PearOpal 7dpo onwards is the worst part of the whole cycle 😩 sometimes I went into it with my hopes fully up, sometimes I tried to convince myself it's so unlikely as it hadn't happened before so tried to ignore everything (so hard to do!). Are you going to test early or do you usually wait for AF to arrive?

@Tater05 i would be telling a massive fib if I said I was going to wait until I missed AF 😂. Realistically I’ll probably do cheapie tests from tomorrow through 12 DPO unless my temps start dropping. I’ve never even seen a shadow of a positive test so at this point I always have a mix of “there’s no way” and “maybe this time is different” - that’s just how it goes I guess

@lavafield you're on the home stretch now. I hope you can get some rest for the last stage of your pregnancy and wishing you all the best!!!

@PearOpal best of luck for the rest of the 2WW. It's the time I most wish I could press a fast forward button for sure!!

I'm on CD2 now. I had a stressful barely there probably evap line yesterday morning (before my period started) at 15dpo which had me so worried in case I was going back to another ectopic. I don't think the fear will ever really go away. I tested today (as the bleeding doesn't mean the danger is gone!) and I still think there might be a really really really faint line...but I think dipping in urine with blood mixed in can increase a evap line likelihood. By this point with my last pregnancy the line was properly visible by the time the bleeding started, so I do think it's likely just a negative and this is my period. Or maybe a very early chemical (which is fine, anything but ectopic).

I'm happy for this to just be a new cycle. Quite possibly my last cycle before the IVF begins which feels crazy but exciting. Only a few days now til our consultation.

Thanks so much @Tater05 just home and everything looked great!! Bit of a wait now for the results and hopefully all is ok, but everything on the scan looked good 😊

@Waitingformiracle so so sorry I missed your message about your scan today!

I'm so glad it went well on the scan and fingers crossed the results come back looking just as good!

Are you starting to get a little bump yet? A woman at work has just this week hit 8 weeks and she's already starting to get a small bit defined bump - although it is her third.

@Waitingformiracle So glad the scan looked good! I hope the test results would be as good! Ours came faster than expected, and seeing an email pop up rather than receiving a call - which would have meant the results are not great :-/ - was a relief.

@MocktailMe Good luck this cycle, and good to know you are now so close to IVF if needed!

And thanks everyone for well wishes! Good luck this month everyone in TWW!

Thank you a much @MocktailMe feeling so relieved!! I definitely have a bloaty bump but it’s hard to know if it’s actually a bump or not!

I’m so sorry you’ve had all that stress with your evap lines, I can only imagine how worrying it is when you’ve been through everything you have with your ectopics. It could certainly have been a chemical too. Hopefully this cycle brings you some new hope with your ivf appointments progressing too, when is your next appointment?

@PearOpal I hope this TWW flies for you! It’s truly such a painful wait!

@lavafield thank you!! Yes praying I’ll see an email pop into my inbox sooner rather than later!!

@PearOpal that is always how it goes! I hope the last days of your TWW fly by

@MocktailMe I'm so sorry you've had more stress. Evap lines or a chemical, it must be so stressful to see after the ectopics. Exciting to have your consultation coming up soon though, good to have that to focus on.

@Waitingformiracle really glad to hear it went well! I'm in the same position, had my scan yesterday and everything looked really good but just waiting on those results now. Fingers crossed for an email for both of us!

So glad everything looked well for you too @Tater05 and fingers crossed for good results!! Are you finding out the gender? How many weeks are you now?

@Waitingformiracle thank you! I think we'll book a private scan to find out the gender, hopefully in a few weeks. I thought I was 12+5 but the scan dated me at 13+1, so in the second trimester already! It's going crazy quickly. Are we both due in April? I'm April 1st now

Congrats on entering the second trimester @Tater05 that’s great! And yes both due in April I am due April 25th ☺️

Brilliant news @Tater05 and a jump to the second trimester already!!

I'm so torn on whether I'd want to know the baby's sex or not. Practically speaking absolutely to plan the nursery and buy the clothes...but I do love a suprise! But I think the temptation when it's so accurate these days it's hard not to want to find out asap!

@Waitingformiracle give it 2-3 weeks and you will probably see a more definite bump.

When are you ladies telling everyone (outside close family) or have you both already?

My next appointment is at the start of next week, literally just a few days away now.

That is exciting @MocktailMe hopefully you will have a better idea of timelines after that appointment!!

I am not too sure when we will tell other people yet. I am a bit hesitant this time because of our late loss and I hated that so many people knew. But at the same time it was great to have the support. So many of my friends know now already so it would be more when to tell colleagues and friends outside my close circle, cousins etc. I also have a few friends struggling with infertility or baby loss and I am trying to figure out the most gentle way and when to tell them too.

Absolutely get that. I think I'd want to wait as long as I could at work, even if people suspected.

For your friends struggling with fertility I have always preferred to be told on a message rather than face to face - sometimes it's hard to give the appropriate response straight away and better to have a bit of time to digest the news and prepare. After everything you've been through, I think mostly you just have to handle things the way that is best for you first and foremost. Unfair and horrible as it is, I find it much easier to deal with news of others planned pregnancies, it's the accidental ones that send me spiralling (even though I know it's really none of my business at all!).

So glad all was well @Waitingformiracle !! Hopefully the NIPT results don’t take too long. I know it’ll be a few weeks off but my recommendation would still be to have the nuchal NHS screening done at the 12wk scan as private NIPT don’t check for low Papp-A but the NHS nuchal screening does. If you did have low Papp-A they would then monitor you, baby and placenta - it’s quite common and doesn’t mean anything would go wrong but personally I’d rather know and be monitored.

Don’t worry too much about bump size - I would say people only noticed I was pregnant from 22 weeks ish but it’s defo body/build dependent!!

@Tater05 congrats on getting to the second trimester!! I hope you are starting to feel abit better in yourself now, from 16wks I started to feel much better in terms of tiredness, sickness ect.

@MocktailMe sounds confusing about the lines and completely get the worry.. reckon drs would do a blood test for you as a precaution given your history? Exciting re: the appointment! Not long to go.

We've already told very close family and my friend who had a month by month commentary on our TTC, so I couldn't really hide it from her 😅 We're going to start widening the circle now, it still feels strange to do as even seeing the scan yesterday I still can't quite believe it. I'm not sure when it will sink in to be honest!

@Waitingformiracle I totally get why you feel hesitant about it. I only told people at the beginning who I wouldn’t mind sharing a loss with and would want their support.
For me personally, I was the happiest for my friend who got pregnant through IVF as it gave me hope, and she’d been through so much I was just genuinely overjoyed for her. But without knowing your friends’ circumstances I of course can’t comment if they might feel the same way or not. I definitely think telling them through a message would be easier for them, and though it might be difficult for some of them you have also been on a tough journey to get here now. Like @MocktailMe said, it is very different than hearing about people who slipped and fell pregnant, whether it should be or not the circumstances definitely make a difference.

Thanks @KT199! The queasiness has really worn off over the last week, I'm still super tired but not having to nap every day like before! How are you getting along? Are you in the third trimester now?

Thank you @MocktailMe@Tater05 I definitely agree a text is always better than face to face. It allows you to feel however you feel about it and you don’t have to pretend to be happy. But yes I know all my friends understand what I’ve been though and will be happy for me even if a little sad for themselves. I was expressing my concern to another friend who knows and she said “you’ve definitely done your time” and she’s right. It’s not like an accidental pregnancy which I totally agree with @MocktailMeis soo hard to hear when you’ve been trying for so long and have had losses.

@KT199that is great advice thank you and I’ll definitely keep that in mind and push for that extra scan and I have never heard of the low Papp-A!

Evening ladies ❤️

I hope everyone is well! Missed so much on here.

I am still in the thick of newborn trenches, it is hard! Grateful every day, but cry at least once a day from the sleep deprivation and hormones 😂

Hey @KTB34 - we should have another newborn joining you soon from @lavafield ! You can stay up all night together!!!

I've had a second appointment at the IVF clinic. The amazing news is my partner's sperm came back with brilliant results - way better than last year's his lifestyle changes have really paid off.

The slightly worse news is my AMH is 8. It's a lot lower than i would have hoped, but the doctor didn't seem despondent in the slightest. She said she wants me to do long IVF so it will be nearly a month's worth of injections, but I hope it will all be worth it. We are now waiting for our next appointments and more blood tests for HIV etc (finally one I'm not worried about!). If we can do this quickly enough I may be starting injections in two weeks. However that's a bit fast and might not be possible - in which case it will be on my next cycle that we begin (I'm currently CD6). So all in all really exciting and I am starting IVF either this cycle or next!!!

@MocktailMe I’m hoping to get longer than a 2 hour stretch at some point 😂

Great news about your appointment, it sounds so positive!! Things are finally moving forward for you