At least we avoided Christmas babies!

[SureLook]

Hi all. Moving over from the Christmas due date thread to continue the chats and support x

@SureLook she does sound like a great GP. I think they are worth their weight in gold. I hope that whatever the scan shows that it is conclusive - there's nothing worse than hanging on waiting.

@GrizzlyTheBear that's it. I just want 100% confirmation and then we can decide on what treatment and get on with things!

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99 how's the spotting today?x

So i passed a few bigger clots last night - now massive but maybe 2 inches but thin? There was nothing "baby" like - but then im thinking back to my clear blue being slow to progress - and did my baby stop growing at like 4 weeks and its taken another 3 to pass it? In which case i wouldnt see anything i guess? Ive been out today and been to the toilet 3 times and my pad had blood on but nothing like yesterday xx

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99 it's just so hard to know isn't it? Any cramping or anything?x

No no pain to be honest what so ever ! The only way i know a clot has come out is hearing it in the toilet or when i wipe and its on the tissue xx

The waiting is so rubbish @VanessaShanessaJenkins99 When I've had suspected losses I've just wished it would hurry up and happen rather than torturing me for a fortnight first. But at the same time you hope there's a benign explanation for it don't you. It's really tough.

@HopefulCove is everything still okay with you?

@Clara202 how's your chart looking now? Temps still high?

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99 it's a good sign that there's no pain. The waiting is so crap but hopefully it'll be a positive outcome 🤞🏻

I’m ok… I have moment of the worst nausea and lots of dry heaving but thankfully not been sick yet 🤞🏻 had my booking appointment and blood test today!

I have my scan on Monday and I’m absolutely bricking it. I should be 7+1 so let’s see. I know I should be thinking positive but I can’t help but be expecting the worst.

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99I think it’s a good sign you have no pain! What are your next steps?

@SureLookhow are you feeling?

@GrizzlyTheBearhow many weeks are you now? How are your symptoms? I can’t remember if you booked an early scan or not?

@HopefulCove that sounds rough, but hopefully the nausea is a good sign. If you see a heartbeat at your scan do you think you'll be able to relax a bit?
I'm 8+3 today. Still nauseous a lot of the time and pretty tired, but not as strong symptoms as I've had before, so I don't know if it's going to be good news or not. No early scan for me though as the nearest place is a six hour round trip, so I will just have to wait until 12/13 weeks!

@HopefulCove I'm not too bad, thanks. I'm pretty busy this weekend. DP tested positive for Covid yesterday and had already decided to start potty training DD so I've my hands full between the two of them 😂 I still have the sore boobs and hard stomach. I had a spare digital so I used it this morning to see if my levels are going down and it still said 3+. So I'd say I'll need some sort of intervention.
Hopefully the nausea doesn't get any worse. Best of luck for your scan. I'm sure all will be perfect ❤️

@GrizzlyTheBear 6 hour round trip! I wouldn't be bothered either 😂 I'm sure your symptoms are just fluctuating and everything is fine!

@GrizzlyTheBear probably not lol! My two previous MMC the baby stopped developing at between 8-9 weeks… I think if I got past the 9 week mark I might feel less anxious. I think if all goes well on Monday then I’ll ask for 1x more scan (at the EPAU) around 9.5 weeks. I get what you mean about the fluctuating symptoms - I definitely have good and bad moments though out the day!

@SureLooki was absolutely DREADING potty training DS. We started beginning of May and he still struggles (we have wee’s pretty much nailed it with only a couple of accidents here and there) but number 2 he just is not getting 🙃 how old is your little girl?

@GrizzlyTheBear well it went down yesterday but back up today…it was pretty humid here today though. I assume the weather would affect your temp? I was sweating in bed this morning.

@HopefulCove I can't wait for her to be out of nappies but it's so much effort 😂 she will be 3 in November. Her first day actually went really well. She had loads of accidents but by the end of the day she seemed to recognise the feeling of needing to go. She also did two MASSIVE poos which I was delighted about cause she can be funny with her poos.
Your DS will get there eventually! How old is he?

@Clara202 yeah I think it can. It definitely looks like you've ovulated. 4dpo was maybe just a blip!

Today’s chart instalment! At what point would I get a dip before AF? The day before? I’ve never kept such an eye on this before so I’m finding it quite interesting!

@Clara202 I am happy you are becoming a chart geek 🤣
I think it varies between people and cycles. Sometimes my temp goes down a couple of days before AF and sometimes a couple of days after. But I think the day before is pretty standard.

@GrizzlyTheBear I really should have learnt all this at the beginning when we first started ttc 😅

Hi All :) xx the bleeding has calmed down but im still having to wear a pad - ive taken a pregnancy test today and the line is really faint - so i think that pretty much confirms that i have lost the baby?

Aww @VanessaShanessaJenkins99 I'm sorry but it doesn't sound great. Do you have a weeks digital to hand? You could take one in the morning and see what it says? Are you still planning on going to EPU on Tuesday?x

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99 I'm really sorry but it does seem likely that's what's happened. Surelook's idea of the digital is a good one. Or just do an IC every few days until it's negative.
How are you feeling? Is your husband back now?

I dont have any weeks digitals in the house but that sounds like a good idea - to be honest i feel ok- but im not sure if thats because ive had to hold it all together- hes back tomorrow evening so to be honest i think it will hit me then when i have to actually say the words out loud and tell him. I will ring the epu tomorrow and see what they say xx

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99 good idea ringing the EPU again. You're probably holding it together cause you're on your own with your toddler. You're doing really well!x

Such an emotional roller coaster! I think its hard as only him and i know ! Did you tell anyone else? I know you said you were going to get your dad a card for today from the bump - what will you say now? Will you tell your closest ? Xx

@VanessaShanessaJenkins99 such an emotional rollercoaster!
I had told my closest friends that I was expecting again, not as many as the MMC baby. So I've told them what's going on now.
I haven't told my family anything yet. We couldn't meet for Father's Day today cause DP has Covid. My Dad is undergoing chemo so we couldn't take the risk!
I'd say I will tell them though. We'll need the support and we may need help with DD.
Tell whoever you feel comfortable telling and who will support you x